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Why is it woman get away with so much here.?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different . "

Because society sucks and life is unfair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they are the one with the pussy LoL

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. "
but why"???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because men let them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because there hardly are no women here lol

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???"

Coz they wanna get a shag..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I'm as big as a bus and look like the back end of one too but I try not to run anyone down and I quite like some men with beer bellies but I agree men do get the raw deal from some on here

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different . "

Simples, its Because men havnt got vaginas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???"

To get a shag! We all know you can go from the sexiest woman on fab to a fat cow after a polite no thanks!!

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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago

so near and yet so far....


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???"

Sex comes to mind, re men saying anything and everything to get it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply n demand.....that n a lot of brown nosing!

That's my opinion on the matter anyhoo lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because there hardly are no women here lol "
there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???

Coz they wanna get a shag.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???

Sex comes to mind, re men saying anything and everything to get it?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The difference is women will get hundreds of messages a week the average man maybe 2-3 ( just a guess) so the women can be picky it's just how life is but more concentrated on a sex site lol x

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By *ony8054Man
over a year ago

Cork

"I hear your a sexist now Father"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys"

This is really rude

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Why can women get away with so much on here?

Simply because they have a vagina and some people don't want to ruin their chances of hopefully getting their leg over.

Can't see it changing anytime soon especially on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???

To get a shag! We all know you can go from the sexiest woman on fab to a fat cow after a polite no thanks!!"

True,very true

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men just love to placate the women on here in the hope they'll get even a wiff of a shag. Sometimes it's so obvious it's pathetic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The difference is women will get hundreds of messages a week the average man maybe 2-3 ( just a guess) so the women can be picky it's just how life is but more concentrated on a sex site lol x"
well I feel they are at times under valued on here this site would be nothing with out them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And we multitask so much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies .."
thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know it's very very sad and frustrating to see the threads and how some men are treated differently.

Some may deserve it? However I really don't like to see these kind of threads.

Some women on here really need to wipe their superiority off their sleeves.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sycophantic behaviour should result in a ban.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The difference is women will get hundreds of messages a week the average man maybe 2-3 ( just a guess) so the women can be picky it's just how life is but more concentrated on a sex site lol x well I feel they are at times under valued on here this site would be nothing with out them."

That is so true but there is so many men with lines like "fancy a fuck" etc that it becomes a task to find someone normal so being fussy is more of a must due to this rather than being uptight and arsey as you imply x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it."

Ive never seen a person say it's unfair for a man to cheat on a woman but it's ok the other way round. I think you'll find people who disagree with cheating disagree with it from both sides.,

What I do see a lot more on here is guys starting poor me threads and slating the unsuspecting wives wheras women tend to just get on with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because having a vagina gets you everywhere on here ??..

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Because they have a growler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they have a growler"

Rugby

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

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...I read the forums and have for years ..and big or small look like what ever woman still made to feel lovely and yes we have different tastes . I myself like younger men ..but I am not going to put older men down no ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they have a growler"

Took the words right out of my mouth

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

...I read the forums and have for years ..and big or small look like what ever woman still made to feel lovely and yes we have different tastes . I myself like younger men ..but I am not going to put older men down no ..."
yet you put big women down in your first post

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Because they are the one with the pussy LoL"

Very sadly I think this is the reason.

The number of men here means that women are gold and we're in goldrush country. Some men will work really hard and not strike gold. Others appear to just show up and strike lucky. Some find a bit of gold dust and it makes them desperate for more. Others realise that fool's gold isn't worth the effort.

It's not all one way. There are sexist men here too.

It's not just women treating men differently on certain threads. Those gold digger men are happy to do down another gold seeker if they think it will improve their chances.

OP, the thing I take objection to in your op is that women look like the back end of a bus comment. So what? Not everyone finds the same look attractive and there may well be people here who find that person attractive. There are alluring pictures of both men and women of people who, to me, look less than ordinary when I have met them but their pictures are fantastic. Then there are the pictures of people who fit a standard idea of 'hot' or 'beautiful' and everythibg they write makes me think they are unattractive.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Because having a vagina gets you everywhere on here ??.."

I've not got one and I get around

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it.

Ive never seen a person say it's unfair for a man to cheat on a woman but it's ok the other way round. I think you'll find people who disagree with cheating disagree with it from both sides.,

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SOME have the same opinion on cheating people, but the way the posts are typed a totally different way if it is a woman.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys are desperate for a shag and will stop at nothing in thier attempts to get one,plus the guys outnumber the women by about twenty to one.all this attention makes some of the female members a little full of themselves.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I feel sorry for some single blokes on here,i had one who was quite new messgage me yesterday really grateful that i was friendly and patient.We were all new /unverified once and people forget that sadly.I know its easy for people to get arsey ,you see it in forums all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pulls up a chair opens the morning coffee biscuits pours the coffee and dunks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it.

Ive never seen a person say it's unfair for a man to cheat on a woman but it's ok the other way round. I think you'll find people who disagree with cheating disagree with it from both sides.,

SOME have the same opinion on cheating people, but the way the posts are typed a totally different way if it is a woman."

From what I have seen the reaction is the same if it's a woman.

Maybe as its more men admitting to cheating,you come to that conclusion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember as a young lad in the RAF serving in Aden the local women they had working on the base were so ugly they would make your toes curle but after three months being with out female company they started to look attractive which was alarming , so there you have it absents makes even the most ugly women desirable

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Some men will it appears discard their pride and integrity in an attempt to get inside..

Ditto with some women though it certainly seems a far fewer number..

given that then its hardly a surprise that some will 'get away' with more than others..

and its probably always been the way..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well is it because me (in general) spend 9 months of their existence trying to exit a vagina and the rest of their post pubescent life trying to get back in one. The owner of that said holy grail seems to be od secondary importance?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it.

Ive never seen a person say it's unfair for a man to cheat on a woman but it's ok the other way round. I think you'll find people who disagree with cheating disagree with it from both sides.,

SOME have the same opinion on cheating people, but the way the posts are typed a totally different way if it is a woman.

From what I have seen the reaction is the same if it's a woman.

Maybe as its more men admitting to cheating,you come to that conclusion."

Then you are not looking at the same threads as me

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it."

It's certainly more acceptable when there is a weekly thread started by a man on how much he loves a cheating wife and wishes there were more of them. Then men post about the thrill they get from cuckolding some poor unknown husband.

I'm not sure I've seen such a thread from a woman. The most we get is women admitting they will meet married men within other threads with no need for the bragging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because they are the one with the pussy LoL

Very sadly I think this is the reason.

The number of men here means that women are gold and we're in goldrush country. Some men will work really hard and not strike gold. Others appear to just show up and strike lucky. Some find a bit of gold dust and it makes them desperate for more. Others realise that fool's gold isn't worth the effort.

It's not all one way. There are sexist men here too.

It's not just women treating men differently on certain threads. Those gold digger men are happy to do down another gold seeker if they think it will improve their chances.

OP, the thing I take objection to in your op is that women look like the back end of a bus comment. So what? Not everyone finds the same look attractive and there may well be people here who find that person attractive. There are alluring pictures of both men and women of people who, to me, look less than ordinary when I have met them but their pictures are fantastic. Then there are the pictures of people who fit a standard idea of 'hot' or 'beautiful' and everythibg they write makes me think they are unattractive.

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well back end of a bus is better then some words as I need people to see ....no matter how you look no matter how big how small if a woman it's fine here ... But why ...why so different for men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely"

Oh dear...

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Hypocrisy

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

...I read the forums and have for years ..and big or small look like what ever woman still made to feel lovely and yes we have different tastes . I myself like younger men ..but I am not going to put older men down no ..."

There are older men who will see your preference for younger men as putting them down. Just look at the threads.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it.

Ive never seen a person say it's unfair for a man to cheat on a woman but it's ok the other way round. I think you'll find people who disagree with cheating disagree with it from both sides.,

SOME have the same opinion on cheating people, but the way the posts are typed a totally different way if it is a woman.

From what I have seen the reaction is the same if it's a woman.

Maybe as its more men admitting to cheating,you come to that conclusion."

From a thread I was following earlier I'd say the reaction is vastly different.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Pulls up a chair opens the morning coffee biscuits pours the coffee and dunks!"

I love your name. I once had someone paradiddle my quim. The best drumming I've ever had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies ..thats right but still women can cheat, seems more acceptable than if a man does it.

Ive never seen a person say it's unfair for a man to cheat on a woman but it's ok the other way round. I think you'll find people who disagree with cheating disagree with it from both sides.,

SOME have the same opinion on cheating people, but the way the posts are typed a totally different way if it is a woman.

From what I have seen the reaction is the same if it's a woman.

Maybe as its more men admitting to cheating,you come to that conclusion.

Then you are not looking at the same threads as me "

Obviously

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By *icole33Woman
over a year ago

north norfolk. nearish to sherringham


"Yes I'm as big as a bus and look like the back end of one too but I try not to run anyone down and I quite like some men with beer bellies but I agree men do get the raw deal from some on here "

You are neither size nor appearance

of back end of bus. You are beautiful and perfect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they are the one with the pussy LoL

Very sadly I think this is the reason.

The number of men here means that women are gold and we're in goldrush country. Some men will work really hard and not strike gold. Others appear to just show up and strike lucky. Some find a bit of gold dust and it makes them desperate for more. Others realise that fool's gold isn't worth the effort.

It's not all one way. There are sexist men here too.

It's not just women treating men differently on certain threads. Those gold digger men are happy to do down another gold seeker if they think it will improve their chances.

OP, the thing I take objection to in your op is that women look like the back end of a bus comment. So what? Not everyone finds the same look attractive and there may well be people here who find that person attractive. There are alluring pictures of both men and women of people who, to me, look less than ordinary when I have met them but their pictures are fantastic. Then there are the pictures of people who fit a standard idea of 'hot' or 'beautiful' and everythibg they write makes me think they are unattractive.

well back end of a bus is better then some words as I need people to see ....no matter how you look no matter how big how small if a woman it's fine here ... But why ...why so different for men."

Not all fab members are forum users.

I've been rejected by plenty because I'm not their type.

They weren't on the forum.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I remember as a young lad in the RAF serving in Aden the local women they had working on the base were so ugly they would make your toes curle but after three months being with out female company they started to look attractive which was alarming , so there you have it absents makes even the most ugly women desirable "

Or, just maybe, you grew to like the women. We are more than looks.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

...I read the forums and have for years ..and big or small look like what ever woman still made to feel lovely and yes we have different tastes . I myself like younger men ..but I am not going to put older men down no ...

There are older men who will see your preference for younger men as putting them down. Just look at the threads."
I love older men I have one I am marred to why I like different ..older is like a good wine some get better with age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. "

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By *iBeRtInE70Man
over a year ago

around

If you have to ask that question then you need to go back to the drawing board..

There are 10000000000000 men on here and the women are in a position they can be selective and cautious .

Play it cool , be active in the forums and build uour network slowly and selectivley and the fun will happen ..

I'm getting the popcorn ....

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By *angerousEyesMan
over a year ago

weston

More men than women, so they have a lot of choice. Even if they look like a back end of a bus.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think the OP is a fair question, but please don't turn this into another man bashing thread.

To the OP...you are right, reaction to males posts are a lot of the time different to a woman posting. An example is on my green arrow, a man asking how to get his wife into this and a woman asking the same on another thread gets more polite and helpful answers than the man ( some have been removed on the male thread)

Now ok, you could say not everyone will read every thread, which is true, but for a while the two threads were in the top four threads in the swinging section so they couldn't really be missed.

A male posting a splitting up thread has received totally different posts than a female doing it.

I have come to the conclusion that if you have no growler, then you may as well liken yourself to something you scraped off the bottom of your shoe.

Us...we love single men....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If you have to ask that question then you need to go back to the drawing board..

There are 10000000000000 men on here and the women are in a position they can be selective and cautious .

Play it cool , be active in the forums and build uour network slowly and selectivley and the fun will happen ..

I'm getting the popcorn ...."
lol I love popcorn it's my thing .l

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men have the Mr Collins syndrome and think they have to flatter women to get on their better side. I hate flattery and compliments skim off me like water off an oily dog. I'd rather someone said hi,how are you and we had an interesting conversation about the weather than a paragraph of flattery. If I were cheating on someone though I wouldn't advertise the fact but would expect some derision for it.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. "

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Because they are the one with the pussy LoL

Very sadly I think this is the reason.

The number of men here means that women are gold and we're in goldrush country. Some men will work really hard and not strike gold. Others appear to just show up and strike lucky. Some find a bit of gold dust and it makes them desperate for more. Others realise that fool's gold isn't worth the effort.

It's not all one way. There are sexist men here too.

It's not just women treating men differently on certain threads. Those gold digger men are happy to do down another gold seeker if they think it will improve their chances.

OP, the thing I take objection to in your op is that women look like the back end of a bus comment. So what? Not everyone finds the same look attractive and there may well be people here who find that person attractive. There are alluring pictures of both men and women of people who, to me, look less than ordinary when I have met them but their pictures are fantastic. Then there are the pictures of people who fit a standard idea of 'hot' or 'beautiful' and everythibg they write makes me think they are unattractive.

well back end of a bus is better then some words as I need people to see ....no matter how you look no matter how big how small if a woman it's fine here ... But why ...why so different for men."

I have seen men I think of as unattractive do very well on here.

The forum is a tiny microcosm of Fab. The reason people post here is unknown.

Some women like to foment drama on here and play people off against each other.

Some men like to fawn over every woman, ragrdkess of what they type.

Some not all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are a few on here with inflated ego's but that's both men and women and not just singular to this site.

On the whole I have spoken with some lovely people and have had the odd bit of abuse but that's why fab's has a block button.

The ladies do get away with a little more but the wonders of the lady garden will forgive a lot of sins here

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's just this site would be nothing with out our lovely men ..we need to look after them here even if 1000000s .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men just love to placate the women on here in the hope they'll get even a wiff of a shag. Sometimes it's so obvious it's pathetic."

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Over time you see the same make bashing time and time again, then a "we love single men" thread and people will do a 180degree and declare their love before returning to any thread that allows them to continue bashing.

Male on male bashing is particularly unpleasant to read. Or when people fall silent when it is a prolific poster who is getting wired into someone yet will lead the charge into someone else less well known

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Sycophantic behaviour should result in a ban.

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I love all your posts

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Male*

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

...I read the forums and have for years ..and big or small look like what ever woman still made to feel lovely and yes we have different tastes . I myself like younger men ..but I am not going to put older men down no ...

There are older men who will see your preference for younger men as putting them down. Just look at the threads. I love older men I have one I am marred to why I like different ..older is like a good wine some get better with age."

I'm not saying you don't but with one post and a sense of being denied something someone could easily read your comment of preferring to meet younger as not liking older. People fill in the gaps with their own thoughts.

There is a post from a man on here telling women to look in the mirror. It's short and direct. How we fill in the gaps says what we feel on having such a statement.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? "

Have you seen the back end of the new London buses? Absolutely gorgeous, I kid you not!

Mr N aka Blakey.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One mans "back end of a bus" is another mans "beautiful". It's all about taste isn't it and thankfully we don't all have the same ones.

As for men getting a raw deal.....we do. But let's not pretend that women can't afford to be selective, and yes women are rude about men sometimes, but men are just as bad and a lot of the time, they're worse.

What is interesting is the reaction to men and women who are coming with the same issues. It really does confuse me.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I take compliments on here with a pinch of salt .

Under no delusions I'm no Megan Fox ect . Not here for a ego boost ...Thank god I'm not with some of the venom and bile I get after a polite decline . Both the good and bad I take no heed of as just comments of no substance as from total strangers . Only comments from those who actually know me well hold any value to me.

I treat anyone with respect , sadly some of the guys aren't the same .I make no apology for not accepting that and having self worth .

If a guy acts like a randy dog wanting to shag anything that's stands still long enough .they can't then complain when they aren't greeted by open arms (or legs ) as they hoped.

There are many genuinely lovely guys on here and I'm thankful for them, just sometimes feels that's not the case lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys"

I think saying most is an exaggeration. There are some of course but just block those ones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well when you got other women calling them back ends of a bus its a good job they have got the men to flatter them when did being big mean you are not attractive?

...I read the forums and have for years ..and big or small look like what ever woman still made to feel lovely and yes we have different tastes . I myself like younger men ..but I am not going to put older men down no ...

There are older men who will see your preference for younger men as putting them down. Just look at the threads."

People become defensive when someone says they aren't attracted to them.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..?

Have you seen the back end of the new London buses? Absolutely gorgeous, I kid you not!

Mr N aka Blakey."

Haha, yes, the back end of a Boris bus is a curvy, voluptuous thing of beauty, I love 'em!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys

I think saying most is an exaggeration. There are some of course but just block those ones."

And maybe,unlike you,they aren't judging you on your looks.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I think the OP is a fair question, but please don't turn this into another man bashing thread.

To the OP...you are right, reaction to males posts are a lot of the time different to a woman posting. An example is on my green arrow, a man asking how to get his wife into this and a woman asking the same on another thread gets more polite and helpful answers than the man ( some have been removed on the male thread)

Now ok, you could say not everyone will read every thread, which is true, but for a while the two threads were in the top four threads in the swinging section so they couldn't really be missed.

A male posting a splitting up thread has received totally different posts than a female doing it.

I have come to the conclusion that if you have no growler, then you may as well liken yourself to something you scraped off the bottom of your shoe.

Us...we love single men.... "

I wonder about whether the board a question is posted on affects the answers too. I rarely leave the lounge but male friends will point of threads on swinger's chat.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..?

Have you seen the back end of the new London buses? Absolutely gorgeous, I kid you not!

Mr N aka Blakey.

Haha, yes, the back end of a Boris bus is a curvy, voluptuous thing of beauty, I love 'em!!! "
well I will look next time ...see if sexy in some weird way .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a simple case of supply and demand!

Every woman on here can afford to be picky-even the less aesthetically pleasing ones

I once heard someone say that swinging was less attractive people's way of getting laid Harsh on some respects,but probably true in a few cases

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"

I wonder about whether the board a question is posted on affects the answers too. I rarely leave the lounge but male friends will point of threads on swinger's chat."

Yes . if that thread was posted in the lounge I have no doubt it would have been much much worse

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..?

Have you seen the back end of the new London buses? Absolutely gorgeous, I kid you not!

Mr N aka Blakey."

I guess the bus numbers by the shape of the bus. Some of us like buses, front and back, male and female.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Because there are a fair amount of people who have been hurt in someway and use this as a beating stick...,.,

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..?

Have you seen the back end of the new London buses? Absolutely gorgeous, I kid you not!

Mr N aka Blakey.

Haha, yes, the back end of a Boris bus is a curvy, voluptuous thing of beauty, I love 'em!!! well I will look next time ...see if sexy in some weird way . "

Google 'Boris bus rear' and it'll come up with lots of pics of the new bus in it's slinky little off-the-shoulder red number lol!

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different . "

Some men need to value themselves more, rather than jumping through every hoop thats put before them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..?

Have you seen the back end of the new London buses? Absolutely gorgeous, I kid you not!

Mr N aka Blakey.

I guess the bus numbers by the shape of the bus. Some of us like buses, front and back, male and female."

You sound like my grandson,he's obsessed with bus shapes,numbers and routes.

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By *iBeRtInE70Man
over a year ago

around

Do Bendy Busses count

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because people on here allow it.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Do Bendy Busses count"

You wait ages for a bus, then two stuck together come along at once...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because there are a fair amount of people who have been hurt in someway and use this as a beating stick...,.,"
yes I think your right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different .

Some men need to value themselves more, rather than jumping through every hoop thats put before them. "

I concur,I would rather someone who wasn't "trying his luck" to someone who plays the numbers game and messages everyone. I know it's difficult to differentiate between women on here except by the physical attributes. We have similar pics and similar profile text. Men are constantly being told to stand out from the crowd. Our crowd isn't as large so we don't need to do as much to stand out,which is good because I'm lazy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they are the one with the pussy LoL"

Can't imagine this being the case lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there are a fair amount of people who have been hurt in someway and use this as a beating stick...,., yes I think your right. "

I was badly hurt by my cheating,abusive husband. I don't take it out on anyone here. You can rise above if you want to.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Because there are a fair amount of people who have been hurt in someway and use this as a beating stick...,., yes I think your right.

I was badly hurt by my cheating,abusive husband. I don't take it out on anyone here. You can rise above if you want to. "

And that is a credit to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh, boo-hoo, an internet forum isn't a haven for equslity!"

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Supply and demand.

It doesnt always follow that compliments make you bigheaded. Though nice to hear I disregard them as they are used so liberally they are almost worthless.

Knestled in a nice conversation though they can make me smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys and Gals

This is a recreational sex site where single (or those purporting to be single)out number all those lovely ladies, couples, TS and Tvs by 100 to 1. So it figures those in the minority will be (rightly) elevated to god and goddess status in the quest for sexual pleasure.

Would that elevation happen in a non specialist environment take place who knows but its a fact that its a skewed environment which throws up some odd behaviour?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"Because there are a fair amount of people who have been hurt in someway and use this as a beating stick...,., yes I think your right.

I was badly hurt by my cheating,abusive husband. I don't take it out on anyone here. You can rise above if you want to. "

Not everyone wants to and some aren't ready yet.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys"

Hmmm, the same can be said of either sex though - most such comments seem to be made by the damaged egos of men who thought THEY were god's gift.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply and demand.

It doesnt always follow that compliments make you bigheaded. Though nice to hear I disregard them as they are used so liberally they are almost worthless.

Knestled in a nice conversation though they can make me smile "

I got rounded up on for using macro theory on the ratios at the Milf Monday event but it all boils down to supply and demand plus the freedom of entry into the market. No pun intended !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why can women get away with so much on here?

Simply because they have a vagina and some people don't want to ruin their chances of hopefully getting their leg over.

Can't see it changing anytime soon especially on the forums.

"

True and all us guy's know it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I take compliments on here with a pinch of salt .

Under no delusions I'm no Megan Fox ect . Not here for a ego boost ...Thank god I'm not with some of the venom and bile I get after a polite decline . Both the good and bad I take no heed of as just comments of no substance as from total strangers . Only comments from those who actually know me well hold any value to me.

I treat anyone with respect , sadly some of the guys aren't the same .I make no apology for not accepting that and having self worth .

If a guy acts like a randy dog wanting to shag anything that's stands still long enough .they can't then complain when they aren't greeted by open arms (or legs ) as they hoped.

There are many genuinely lovely guys on here and I'm thankful for them, just sometimes feels that's not the case lol!

"

Extremely well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply and demand.

It doesnt always follow that compliments make you bigheaded. Though nice to hear I disregard them as they are used so liberally they are almost worthless.

Knestled in a nice conversation though they can make me smile

I got rounded up on for using macro theory on the ratios at the Milf Monday event but it all boils down to supply and demand plus the freedom of entry into the market. No pun intended !"

I suspect that the microeconomic theory of supply and demand in relation to high earners would be a better model.

Regression models could be useful except that some of the data set have regressed to the stone age already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different . "

I am constantly amazed at all the whining and vitriolic threads that get posted on here.

Some women have sexual and physical preferences....so what? It's not a crime?

Some women are not pretty (my polite re write of your vitriol)...true...some men are ugly too...again that's the real world

Some people (men and women) are rude and entitled...so what, it's the same in the real world!

Some people (men and women) are braver and nastier behind the anonymity of on line....that's not unusual.

There are more single men than couples than there are TVs than there are women....it's the nature of a sex site.

I don't see why there needs to be so much constant nastiness and bitterness and misogyny on here.

I am on fab and I get on with it. I treat everyone as I find them. Live and let live.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off

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over a year ago


"I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off "

Women have been objectified for decades!!!! A slight redress lol and men can't handle it. Tough shit!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off

Women have been objectified for decades!!!! A slight redress lol and men can't handle it. Tough shit!!! "

I think it's quite funny tbh.I don't mind taking a bit back.Like you say,women have been objectified for a long time.

I used to argue with an ex over Take Me Out.There's no way on earth it would ever happen in reverse.The cries of misogyny from the women's libbers would drown out the world!

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport


"I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off

Women have been objectified for decades!!!! A slight redress lol and men can't handle it. Tough shit!!! "

Think you've slightly missed the point, I concede this is the instance where two wrongs do make a right

As for redressing the balance going back in time yes let's go with that, how far back would you like to go to bring balance for wrong doings of past generations? I believe Vikings pillaged Britain in the past you're right I'll be on the next boat to Stockholm to ensure the redress

I'm not saying the way thing WERE was right or should be left as such I'm saying that the way things ARE has almost gone the other way round which is equally wrong

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By *nfinity1Man
over a year ago

Near Bournemouth


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???

To get a shag! We all know you can go from the sexiest woman on fab to a fat cow after a polite no thanks!!"

My wife gets this a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different .

Because society sucks and life is unfair."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply and demand.

It doesnt always follow that compliments make you bigheaded. Though nice to hear I disregard them as they are used so liberally they are almost worthless.

Knestled in a nice conversation though they can make me smile

I got rounded up on for using macro theory on the ratios at the Milf Monday event but it all boils down to supply and demand plus the freedom of entry into the market. No pun intended !

I suspect that the microeconomic theory of supply and demand in relation to high earners would be a better model.

Regression models could be useful except that some of the data set have regressed to the stone age already"
Earnings have nothing to do with it. There are barriers to entry of this market save for age and I would dare say that by placing a tick in a box a legal duty is discharged on that point. Regression models are of some use but the variables on this site are..............variable!!

Please don't lump me into the misogynistic category in your last post as I am far from it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because, and it's been scientifically studied, the fact is most men will approach women they find attractive enough and think aren't really classed as attractive to anyone else.

Women, on the other hand, get to be choosy because of that even if you think they aren't good looking (and if you see the above you now know why).

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By *olarfoxMan
over a year ago

North Cambs


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different . "

For the right kind of woman, a man just can't help being treated like a dog....as the Kiora advert in the cinema use to say....'I be your dog..' Woof woof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off "

For what it's worth, plenty of us think that the answer to fixing objectification of women is not to objectify men.

However the objectifying of men is a minority problem that doesn't have the same basis in historical oppression as the objectification of women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the job same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off

Women have been objectified for decades!!!! A slight redress lol and men can't handle it. Tough shit!!!

Think you've slightly missed the point, I concede this is the instance where two wrongs do make a right

As for redressing the balance going back in time yes let's go with that, how far back would you like to go to bring balance for wrong doings of past generations? I believe Vikings pillaged Britain in the past you're right I'll be on the next boat to Stockholm to ensure the redress

I'm not saying the way thing WERE was right or should be left as such I'm saying that the way things ARE has almost gone the other way round which is equally wrong "

No I think it's you missing the point. Argue as far back as you like women have always been 2nd class citizens. Still are in some countries, objectified. A ad agency decides to humorously redress this and all you can do is whinge. Lol. As for treatment of males on here, the ones with manners get a reply the ones that don't, don't!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men quite frequently get it in the neck from each other on these forums, particularly in the married man/cheating type threads. It's not the preserve of women to criticise men unfairly on the site. Personally I'd prefer there was less of a double standard on that front, but I don't think the answer is to go to the lowest common denominator and start slating all the women too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is though Anna you have the decency to be upfront about it and let people decide if they want to meet up. A lot of blokes on here don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is though Anna you have the decency to be upfront about it and let people decide if they want to meet up. A lot of blokes on here don't. "

I do think that's wrong (and I'm sure there are also women concealing their relationship status) - but I don't think the current atmosphere where so many threads descend into being tirades against cheating men really encourages people to be more open. I'm absolutely not saying people have to agree, but I think if it were ignored more, then more men might be open about their status.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport


"I think it is a reflection of society as a whole, just look at things like social media if a lass posts a picture of Ryan Reynolds, Justin Timberlake etc with his shirt off saying that they would do x,y & z to him it's ok yet if a guy were to do the same with Scarlett Johansson or Jessica Biel he would be called every perve under the sun

Think about the diet ads and now imagine 3 guys stood at a window watching an attractive lady have an accident and having to take her top off

For what it's worth, plenty of us think that the answer to fixing objectification of women is not to objectify men.

However the objectifying of men is a minority problem that doesn't have the same basis in historical oppression as the objectification of women."

I believe in equality and equal rights for all I truly do but I find there is a misguided belief that it is ok to positively discriminate which only breeds resentment from the people being discriminated against granted my father and grandfather may well have benefited from promotions and/or better wages based on their gender but that doesn't mean I should miss out because a company has to fill a quota (and I don't mean me personally I'm generalising for my generation)

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

There are probably a relatively equal percentage of upfront/otherwise people from both genders on here, magnified by the higher amount of men on the site. There are plenty of posts throughout the forums relating to people feeling they can 'work people out' or 'spot fakes' etc...I guess it is all about intuition...that, and a little conversation to look at why people may be in the situation they are in.

As for the other element of the thread, I don't ever feel comfortable saying something just to further my 'chances' with anyone...Not here or in 'real' life.

Good thread though in general. Nice to be able to read this sort of stuff though...One of the good things about the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thing is though Anna you have the decency to be upfront about it and let people decide if they want to meet up. A lot of blokes on here don't.

I do think that's wrong (and I'm sure there are also women concealing their relationship status) - but I don't think the current atmosphere where so many threads descend into being tirades against cheating men really encourages people to be more open. I'm absolutely not saying people have to agree, but I think if it were ignored more, then more men might be open about their status. "

True. I do think some people go a bit too in their vilification of people. Probably a while ago I would have but after being on here a while I realise different people have different reasons for why they are here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont get away with much on here

if i step outta line i get my ass kicked

if i get mouthy in chat i get my ass kicked

if photos are suitable on her they get rejected

and im a woman, im no better than anyone male or female x

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I haven't bothered to read the whole thread as it will be filled with the same nonsense & sense which always crops up.

As always women are being blamed for the actions of men & asked to account for themselves in an atea they have no control over.

In light of the horrendous inequalities which occur in the real world against women & girls every minute of the day. Maybe if everyone felt as strongly about those true inequalities as opposed to not getting laid or someone having a bigger ego than you think they should have, the world might actually be a better place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

I've no problem with the diet ads and such I think they are funny, the problem I have is the hypocrisy of some people who will denigrate and deride a man for looking at a woman whilst at the same time doing exactly that to a man. I was trying to imply that the whole attitude of fab is something of an ism for this shift in society as a whole but I fear I've come across wrong and seemed like I am having a moan

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I've no problem with the diet ads and such I think they are funny, the problem I have is the hypocrisy of some people who will denigrate and deride a man for looking at a woman whilst at the same time doing exactly that to a man. I was trying to imply that the whole attitude of fab is something of an ism for this shift in society as a whole but I fear I've come across wrong and seemed like I am having a moan"

I think the issue with raising the objectification of men in society is that it is still, relatively, infrequent. The male perfume ads do it too but I suspect the audience share isn't just about appealing to women but to gay men as well.

I don't think objectifying men to sell products is any better than objectifying women - especially when it's in a totally meaningless way. However, I am yet to see an awards event (I go to many) where the models hired to bring the awards to the presenter are male. We still see women being used to be draped over cars, not as drivers but as a hood ornament.

The OP was about Fab, though. At least here you see men being objectified almost as much as the women with the blessed difference that they have put up their own pictures and chosen HOW they will be objectified.

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By *iBeRtInE70Man
over a year ago

around

More popcorn anyone , this is a long one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Supply and demand.

It doesnt always follow that compliments make you bigheaded. Though nice to hear I disregard them as they are used so liberally they are almost worthless.

Knestled in a nice conversation though they can make me smile

I got rounded up on for using macro theory on the ratios at the Milf Monday event but it all boils down to supply and demand plus the freedom of entry into the market. No pun intended !

I suspect that the microeconomic theory of supply and demand in relation to high earners would be a better model.

Regression models could be useful except that some of the data set have regressed to the stone age alreadyEarnings have nothing to do with it. There are barriers to entry of this market save for age and I would dare say that by placing a tick in a box a legal duty is discharged on that point. Regression models are of some use but the variables on this site are..............variable!!

Please don't lump me into the misogynistic category in your last post as I am far from it!"

FFS I thought I was teasing a fellow economist.

There is no evidence I was limping you in any category....apart from a humor I wish I had not tried to respond to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get it in the neck for most things . Woman can cheat and post and not get half the nasty post men do ...woman can look like back end of a bus men still say lovely ..? Woman could be size of a bus men still say lovely and sexy and a man with a beer tummy get it in the neck made to feel not as good as the rest .....why is it so hard to value men is it because they out number woman why we have this here .....? I find myself asking this again and again here why is it is different for men. We really are so lucky to have the lovely men here I for one am a fan of the men on fab. Your _iews on this please as it would be nice to know why is it so different . "

Its really not that different in vanilla world either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???

To get a shag! We all know you can go from the sexiest woman on fab to a fat cow after a polite no thanks!!"

Perfect example of Orwell's "doublethink". Except one _iew originates in the brain, the other in the balls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I judge and discriminate against people equally. If someone came on here saying they were cheating on their partner, male or female I'd say they were equally shit human beings as I don't believe there is ever a good enough reason to cheat on your partner.

As for the insincere compliments given in the hope of getting a shag, they don't impress me. A guy can say I'm beautiful with a good body and I just think yeah tell me something I don't know. A compliment to me would be someone telling me they think I'm a cunt but then after a while they say that I'm actually alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some men have the Mr Collins syndrome and think they have to flatter women to get on their better side. I hate flattery and compliments skim off me like water off an oily dog. I'd rather someone said hi,how are you and we had an interesting conversation about the weather than a paragraph of flattery. If I were cheating on someone though I wouldn't advertise the fact but would expect some derision for it. "

Your no oily dog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there hardly are no women here lol there are loads of woman here and woman will value the truth more then lies .."

Really? even when they ask the dreaded "does my bum look big in this" question

To answer your question it is purely down to the numbers, fab is like a game of pool 15 balls and only 6 holes to put them in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I judge and discriminate against people equally. If someone came on here saying they were cheating on their partner, male or female I'd say they were equally shit human beings as I don't believe there is ever a good enough reason to cheat on your partner.

As for the insincere compliments given in the hope of getting a shag, they don't impress me. A guy can say I'm beautiful with a good body and I just think yeah tell me something I don't know. A compliment to me would be someone telling me they think I'm a cunt but then after a while they say that I'm actually alright. "

Hahaha.

I like this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because a lot of woman on here think they the bees knees and a lot of men will tell them they are. but why"???

To get a shag! We all know you can go from the sexiest woman on fab to a fat cow after a polite no thanks!!"

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By *helsea 22Woman
over a year ago

barnsley


"I feel sorry for some single blokes on here,i had one who was quite new messgage me yesterday really grateful that i was friendly and patient.We were all new /unverified once and people forget that sadly.I know its easy for people to get arsey ,you see it in forums all the time."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But the bad ones make it so much harder for us good ones

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By *helsea 22Woman
over a year ago

barnsley


"But the bad ones make it so much harder for us good ones "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has anyone mentioned whales yet?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they have a growler"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because they are the one with the pussy LoL

Very sadly I think this is the reason.

The number of men here means that women are gold and we're in goldrush country. Some men will work really hard and not strike gold. Others appear to just show up and strike lucky. Some find a bit of gold dust and it makes them desperate for more. Others realise that fool's gold isn't worth the effort.

It's not all one way. There are sexist men here too.

It's not just women treating men differently on certain threads. Those gold digger men are happy to do down another gold seeker if they think it will improve their chances.

OP, the thing I take objection to in your op is that women look like the back end of a bus comment. So what? Not everyone finds the same look attractive and there may well be people here who find that person attractive. There are alluring pictures of both men and women of people who, to me, look less than ordinary when I have met them but their pictures are fantastic. Then there are the pictures of people who fit a standard idea of 'hot' or 'beautiful' and everythibg they write makes me think they are unattractive.

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy


"Men just love to placate the women on here in the hope they'll get even a wiff of a shag. Sometimes it's so obvious it's pathetic."

it's almost as though most men are just grateful for getting it? Not just on here either, it seems a societal thing... what's that all about??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

Men have to do more hoop jumping on Fabswingers than the dogs at Crufts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because there are a fair amount of people who have been hurt in someway and use this as a beating stick...,., yes I think your right.

I was badly hurt by my cheating,abusive husband. I don't take it out on anyone here. You can rise above if you want to.

Not everyone wants to and some aren't ready yet. "

Doesn't mean they have to take it out on users of a website. They don't have to rise above but can keep a lid on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted"

Was it my friend from last week? Damn I missed that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted"

I missed that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted

Was it my friend from last week? Damn I missed that."

What, Whale Boy? Yep!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Men have to do more hoop jumping on Fabswingers than the dogs at Crufts."
maybe if they stop jumping hoops things may change for the better .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men and women r as bad as each other! a man has told my other half that our profile was fake and he should leave the site coz he ugly and nobody would want him!

Well I want him clearly!

I think its to do with just getting a leg over and jelousy myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted"

I've read worse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men have to do more hoop jumping on Fabswingers than the dogs at Crufts. maybe if they stop jumping hoops things may change for the better ."

Or maybe they stopped acting like a dog with two dicks. Desperate is not a good look...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men just love to placate the women on here in the hope they'll get even a wiff of a shag. Sometimes it's so obvious it's pathetic.

it's almost as though most men are just grateful for getting it? Not just on here either, it seems a societal thing... what's that all about??

"

Some just want sex and can't understand why it's so difficult to get on a sex site. They try different ways to get it. Women and men have always had a different outlook where sex is concerned. If we thought the same way as men there would be lots more women on here to match the men.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Has anyone mentioned whales yet?"

Give it time

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Well i get on the NS sometimes so i guess im not perfect .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its the pussy,

1, If you have one and you talk to someone else who has one its mutural

2, If you have one and you talk to someone who hasn't, then the defenses are naturally raised

3, If you don't have one and your talking to someone who does then its the little head in charge, which in turn creates 2

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted

Was it my friend from last week? Damn I missed that.

What, Whale Boy? Yep!"

I thought my flippers had sensed something.

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By *huramMan
over a year ago

London

Woof woof.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned whales yet?

Give it time "

I read Moby Dick at high school for a book re_iew once. Now that was an evil vindictive whale that taught the nasty captain a lesson.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a night club environment there are enough d*unken women for the lads to prey on to save me from being harassed I don't do blow jobs in alleys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I judge and discriminate against people equally. If someone came on here saying they were cheating on their partner, male or female I'd say they were equally shit human beings as I don't believe there is ever a good enough reason to cheat on your partner.

As for the insincere compliments given in the hope of getting a shag, they don't impress me. A guy can say I'm beautiful with a good body and I just think yeah tell me something I don't know. A compliment to me would be someone telling me they think I'm a cunt but then after a while they say that I'm actually alright.

Hahaha.

I like this."

If I give a compliment it is directed and sincere. I live by two rules...be nice, dont be a dick.

Don't sweat the small stuff, its not worth it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned whales yet?

Give it time

I read Moby Dick at high school for a book re_iew once. Now that was an evil vindictive whale that taught the nasty captain a lesson. "
really I may read it now ..I love whales .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ladies i'll advise you to run cold water over that burn you got from that fella that got his posts deleted

Was it my friend from last week? Damn I missed that.

What, Whale Boy? Yep!

I thought my flippers had sensed something. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because some men will say and do anything to get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Oh, boo-hoo, an internet forum isn't a haven for equslity!" "

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys

This is really rude "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone mentioned whales yet?

Give it time

I read Moby Dick at high school for a book re_iew once. Now that was an evil vindictive whale that taught the nasty captain a lesson. really I may read it now ..I love whales ."

Me too! I think it's terrible the Japanese still get to harpoon them in the name of science. The harpooning of whales must end!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys

This is really rude

"

Rele rele?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys

This is really rude

Rele rele? "

The only thing worse than the post is the spelling lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most women on here think there gods gift . they need a reality check and look in the mirror see Wat they rele look like. Before they judge us guys

This is really rude

Rele rele?

The only thing worse than the post is the spelling lol x"

I'm not being pedantic.

Just like saying rele in a posh accent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Trying to get a woman into bed is like going for a job inter_iew,you are bit diplomatic when answering the question and stretching the truth hoping you succeed in your aim

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