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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did she know you were on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe she found/was shown your profile.

been here 6 months trying to cheat.

you are not depressed, you are sulking.

good luck to her.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

this isn't the best place to be, don't you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bet yi could murder that bloke who said "its better to have love and lost than have not have loved st all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Taking face pics down after being dumped, bit like closing the stable after the horse has bolted dont you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Taking face pics down after being dumped, bit like closing the stable after the horse has bolted dont you think? "
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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww. I have a friend going through this. I wish I knew how to help. Keep yourself busy and know that in time you will be over this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww to late to go into hiding now You've put your self out thr,, Good luck

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By *andS66Couple
over a year ago

Derby

We presume that she didn't know, nor give her permission, for you to be on here as a single male.

You were cheating on her.

At least now you can hold your head up high and say you're a genuine single male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression."

You don't have depression. You're just sad you won't be getting your cock wet regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

You don't have depression. You're just sad you won't be getting your cock wet regularly."

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

*browses for new female profiles in Pontefract area

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

i usually like to go and buy some new heels or a nice dress ..always works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remind me not to come on here for sympathy

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"Remind me not to come on here for sympathy "

Bit harsh wasn't it?

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By *riendly_Mancs_CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worksop (visiting)

My missus left me because, because, because, because, becauuuuuuse, she said I'm obsessed with The Wizard of Oz.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My missus left me because, because, because, because, becauuuuuuse, she said I'm obsessed with The Wizard of Oz. "
yeah my children. Scarecrow 9 . Timman 16 . And my oldest lion 21 said the same to me

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression."

Maybe given the judgemental attitude of most people on this site you might be better to hide your profile and do your recovering away from here. I have never broken up with anyone but I do know that whem you are sad then it does get better but it takes time. Try to distract yourself and not dwell too much on how down you are feeling as this just feeds the sadness. Good luck and hope you feel happy again soon xx

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford


"maybe she found/was shown your profile.

been here 6 months trying to cheat.

you are not depressed, you are sulking.

good luck to her. "

do u know something we dont ?

maybe it was nothing to do with that .

maybe she was cheating

you sound a a bit condescending..he only wanted a bit of sympathy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe she found/was shown your profile.

been here 6 months trying to cheat.

you are not depressed, you are sulking.

good luck to her. "

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"maybe she found/was shown your profile.

been here 6 months trying to cheat.

you are not depressed, you are sulking.

good luck to her.

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Plenty of people on here have single profiles even though they are in a relationship. Are you 100% sure they weren't both on here with single profiles having an open relationship?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's her number?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I love how people jump feet first and presume they know every single detail....OP maybe not the best place to ask is an open forum ..get ready for the crash and burn.

I mean if your single and have a gf and on here well Sweet jesus your going to be cheating It's a good job your not married then you would be in for a grilling!!!!

Whatever your circumstances are / was home it sorts itself out.

OK off my righteous soap box and off to make a brew .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get off of here and go win her back if you are missing her

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

See what you can learn from the relationship experience. As others say, hurt will take some time. Get together with people you know, have fun as well as share things with them.

Treat yourself well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression."

Well you couldn't have been that happy with her, being as you were on here looking for other women.

You really aren't going to get much sympathy here, except from maybe other dirty cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"maybe she found/was shown your profile.

been here 6 months trying to cheat.

you are not depressed, you are sulking.

good luck to her.

Plenty of people on here have single profiles even though they are in a relationship. Are you 100% sure they weren't both on here with single profiles having an open relationship? "

Little green arrow suggests he previously referred to "girlfriend" as "housemate".

No judgement, but no sympathy from me OP.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"maybe she found/was shown your profile.

been here 6 months trying to cheat.

you are not depressed, you are sulking.

good luck to her.

Plenty of people on here have single profiles even though they are in a relationship. Are you 100% sure they weren't both on here with single profiles having an open relationship?

Little green arrow suggests he previously referred to "girlfriend" as "housemate".

No judgement, but no sympathy from me OP. "

Or maybe his housemate is a housemate and the girlfriend is a seperate person? could be they didn't live together 'left me' does not necessarily mean physically could be emotionally......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remind me not to come on here for sympathy "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

Maybe given the judgemental attitude of most people on this site you might be better to hide your profile and do your recovering away from here. I have never broken up with anyone but I do know that whem you are sad then it does get better but it takes time. Try to distract yourself and not dwell too much on how down you are feeling as this just feeds the sadness. Good luck and hope you feel happy again soon xx"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Time and reflection will do the trick. You dont recover from a relationship break up over night.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

what a difference to the good few threads from people over the last few days looking for kind words, some advice and a virtual hug.

it never surprises me the difference that a male who appears to be cheating is treated in comparison to a woman.. people come out and lambast when it is a male discussion and then sit mostly quiet when a female is discussing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what a difference to the good few threads from people over the last few days looking for kind words, some advice and a virtual hug.

it never surprises me the difference that a male who appears to be cheating is treated in comparison to a woman.. people come out and lambast when it is a male discussion and then sit mostly quiet when a female is discussing it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A remedy for depression is exercise, good nutrition and sleep. A remedy for grieving the loss of something - you have to go through it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He's never even been verified, so technically he probably hasn't cheated. What you want and what you get or are willing to go ahead with are very different imho

Good luck OP hope you feel better soon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what a difference to the good few threads from people over the last few days looking for kind words, some advice and a virtual hug.

it never surprises me the difference that a male who appears to be cheating is treated in comparison to a woman.. people come out and lambast when it is a male discussion and then sit mostly quiet when a female is discussing it."

Yes the difference in responses speak volumes about some people.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression."

I'm loathe say this but I do find throwing the word depression around annoying especially if you have not experienced it.

Otherwise, I hope you sort it out with your girlfriend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope you feel better soon OP. I imagine you will both feel sad for a while. Like others have said, the difference between comments to men compared to women in the same situation, always amaze me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website."

Perfectly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Fab Forum Environment (FFE) is not a place for the faint hearted. It is populated by trolls who have no empathy or common decency and look for weakness in every turn. They think its perfectly correct to react to posts with righteous indignation most often engaging their keyboards without booting the hard drive. There is also a negative side to the FFE too!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"what a difference to the good few threads from people over the last few days looking for kind words, some advice and a virtual hug.

it never surprises me the difference that a male who appears to be cheating is treated in comparison to a woman.. people come out and lambast when it is a male discussion and then sit mostly quiet when a female is discussing it."

Doesn't surprise me anymore. The difference really is staggering.

As for the op...I doubt you're depressed. Your sad you've lost the bird in your hand chasing the two in the bush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website."

Some good and helpful comments too though.

Keep busy OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably found your fab profile.....?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If the OP had explained the situation in a bit more detail, then I'm sure some of the replies would have been totally different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Typical off here tho Kik a guy when he's down OK maybe he was caught.. But how many women are doing the same so girls get down off yeer moral high stools

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website."

Well said.

Unfortunately so often being mean comes more easily. However, if it does, at least saying nothing should be a better option.

OP: Time and distance will be your friend, most of us have been to the place where you currently are now, and still remember how it feels. Keeping busy and listening to music used to get me through it.

Good luck

Mr ddc

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By *untimegeekMan
over a year ago

Havant


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably should have spent more quality time with her instead of chasing fantasies.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

And I forgot to say:

No matter how badly you feel now, you need to realise that it will get better.

Trust me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remind me not to come on here for sympathy

Bit harsh wasn't it? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website."

Ditto.

He must be in a lot of emotional pain to open up on here in such a way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

Well you couldn't have been that happy with her, being as you were on here looking for other women.

You really aren't going to get much sympathy here, except from maybe other dirty cheats."

This seems a silly statement on a swinging site? you are on here looking for sex with other people, does that mean you are both unhappy with each other? I'm not getting involved in the cheating on cheating discussion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i cant help but comment that youve here for six months and youve got veris.

not being a dick here buddy but maybe if you werent cheating for the last six months things may have been different, its all well and good missing her now shes gone, but she may not had gone in the first place if you werent fucking about on here, instead of taking care of your woman.

im not belittling the hurt your feeling and i hope you feel better in time but your a tale as old as time .. you dont know what youve got until you lose it.

good luck live and learn buddy

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"i cant help but comment that youve here for six months and youve got veris.

not being a dick here buddy but maybe if you werent cheating for the last six months things may have been different, its all well and good missing her now shes gone, but she may not had gone in the first place if you werent fucking about on here, instead of taking care of your woman.

im not belittling the hurt your feeling and i hope you feel better in time but your a tale as old as time .. you dont know what youve got until you lose it.

good luck live and learn buddy "

No veris....the green flag says he has shown his face to admin - that's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a difference between suffering from depression and feeling depressed as a result of a specific event like the breakdown of a relationship. That's not to say it's just to be dismissed, but there's no 'cure' except time.

And yes, so much vitriol on this thread. I don't think the answer to the male/female double standard is to be an equal opportunities arsehole to every one, so OP I hope you feel better soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

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not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love... "

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Remind me not to come on here for sympathy "

Get a sex change before you do

A woman posted about her break up yesterday and the responses she got were the complete opposite.

OP. I know it's cheesy but time does heal, be kind to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

"

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol. "

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

Well you couldn't have been that happy with her, being as you were on here looking for other women.

You really aren't going to get much sympathy here, except from maybe other dirty cheats."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one knows why she left. No one knows if she knew he was on here. No one knows if he was on here before he met her. No one knows if she left for another man after "cheating" on him. No one knows what other problems they had.

All they know is he is down because she left him. All that is known for certain is there are some on here who, upon seeing someone feeling down, like to put the boot in.

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over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down. "

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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All they know is he is down because she left him. All that is known for certain is there are some on here who, upon seeing someone feeling down, like to put the boot in. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put a meet up, that'll cure your depression, oh, you have

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"what a difference to the good few threads from people over the last few days looking for kind words, some advice and a virtual hug.

it never surprises me the difference that a male who appears to be cheating is treated in comparison to a woman.. people come out and lambast when it is a male discussion and then sit mostly quiet when a female is discussing it."
true Lets hope things change as should be same here for all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op asked for remedies for depression. Translate that to give me sympathy. So coming into the thread and saying nerr nerr serves you right etc says more about you than anyone else. This thread should have been treated like a profile. If you don't have anything to contribute to the original question bypass it like you would a none compatible profile. Yes I do appreciate the irony that I'm not contributing to the original question myself. Just my twopence worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judge.

Swingers seem to do it best.

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over a year ago


"Op asked for remedies for depression. Translate that to give me sympathy. So coming into the thread and saying nerr nerr serves you right etc says more about you than anyone else. This thread should have been treated like a profile. If you don't have anything to contribute to the original question bypass it like you would a none compatible profile. Yes I do appreciate the irony that I'm not contributing to the original question myself. Just my twopence worth.

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you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants.

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over a year ago


"Op asked for remedies for depression. Translate that to give me sympathy. So coming into the thread and saying nerr nerr serves you right etc says more about you than anyone else. This thread should have been treated like a profile. If you don't have anything to contribute to the original question bypass it like you would a none compatible profile. Yes I do appreciate the irony that I'm not contributing to the original question myself. Just my twopence worth.

you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants. "

apologies for grammer ... messaged from phone sausage fingers lol

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants. "

Were you also the sort who would knock school-books out of geeks hands and laugh at them?

Just because you could.

#justaskin

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over a year ago


"Op asked for remedies for depression. Translate that to give me sympathy. So coming into the thread and saying nerr nerr serves you right etc says more about you than anyone else. This thread should have been treated like a profile. If you don't have anything to contribute to the original question bypass it like you would a none compatible profile. Yes I do appreciate the irony that I'm not contributing to the original question myself. Just my twopence worth.

you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants. "

If the cap fits wear it. Thanks for proving my point.

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over a year ago

Maybe it's a wake up call to you ...op to look at your life and say what am I looking for ....a shag or making love to a person where you care and love and wish to be with. Here people are like ships in the night just pass by and there's nothing fast lane sex cold sex that's a cheep trill at the time .

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over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

You don't have depression. You're just sad you won't be getting your cock wet regularly."

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over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression.

I'm loathe say this but I do find throwing the word depression around annoying especially if you have not experienced it.

Otherwise, I hope you sort it out with your girlfriend.

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So you're saying he's not depressed or he's lying or what. What are you saying. Be honest

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants. "

It is a public forum and of course you are entitled to your opinion. I am one who prefers to gather all the facts before I make my decision about a person actions. Obviously a lot of people prefer to jump in feet first with nothing more than suspicion to go on but that's fine too.

I know the kind of person I prefer to be and it's opening my eyes to just how judgemental and narrow minded people who have chosen an alternative lifestyle can be.

Each to their own I guess but on this site the same kind of person I am in the real world and if people ask for help I do not judge because I know I am not perfect my own self

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get off of here and go win her back if you are missing her"

Best advice on this thread OP xx

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I did have a wee laugh rereading the Married and Bored thread of last week....

what a difference a week makes when articulating the difference between generalisations and a specific individual situation.

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over a year ago


"you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants.

It is a public forum and of course you are entitled to your opinion. I am one who prefers to gather all the facts before I make my decision about a person actions. Obviously a lot of people prefer to jump in feet first with nothing more than suspicion to go on but that's fine too.

I know the kind of person I prefer to be and it's opening my eyes to just how judgemental and narrow minded people who have chosen an alternative lifestyle can be.

Each to their own I guess but on this site the same kind of person I am in the real world and if people ask for help I do not judge because I know I am not perfect my own self "

You know you always talk sense. I always find myself agreeing with you.

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over a year ago


"Op asked for remedies for depression. Translate that to give me sympathy. So coming into the thread and saying nerr nerr serves you right etc says more about you than anyone else. This thread should have been treated like a profile. If you don't have anything to contribute to the original question bypass it like you would a none compatible profile. Yes I do appreciate the irony that I'm not contributing to the original question myself. Just my twopence worth.

you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants.

If the cap fits wear it. Thanks for proving my point.

since we are passing our two pence worth... here is mine to you concentrate on getting meets as you have only had one actual meet veri in over a year of being here "

What's that have to do with anything?

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over a year ago


"Op asked for remedies for depression. Translate that to give me sympathy. So coming into the thread and saying nerr nerr serves you right etc says more about you than anyone else. This thread should have been treated like a profile. If you don't have anything to contribute to the original question bypass it like you would a none compatible profile. Yes I do appreciate the irony that I'm not contributing to the original question myself. Just my twopence worth.

you are floored in all the above based on the simple definition of a public forum. i will say what i want and i will defend it when people ad you say throw in their teo pence worth smarty pants.

If the cap fits wear it. Thanks for proving my point.

since we are passing our two pence worth... here is mine to you concentrate on getting meets as you have only had one actual meet veri in over a year of being here "

Ladies and gentleman. The defence rests it's case lmfao.

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over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not "

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down.

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over a year ago


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life."

I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself.

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over a year ago


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life.

I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself."

I'm sure you'll be incredibly surprised to hear that there's a lot of jumping going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell ya what.

90 comments.

He's had lots of exposure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this the end of the queue to give the OP a good kicking while he's down?

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over a year ago


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life."

How do you know he was not on the site before he met her?

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over a year ago


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life.

I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself.

I'm sure you'll be incredibly surprised to hear that there's a lot of jumping going on."

Normal day on the forum then!!

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over a year ago

If his girlfriend come on here with the same forum post, it would be "come here pretty baby" it doesnt make sense.

Her

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


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I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself."

So much jumping

So much judging

So much kicking

Just so sad

We only know for sure a fellow human being is suffering.

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over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down."

and basic intelligence would be make sure one doesnt fall into the stigma you have set above, now theres a funny itony... my suggestion would be to read my original post before what was it leaping in ... bla bla bla.... oh dear giod shot though ... next !

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over a year ago


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I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself."

Please don't ask reasonable, sensible and logical questions whilst others are swinging their Dr Martens at him!!

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over a year ago


"If his girlfriend come on here with the same forum post, it would be "come here pretty baby" it doesnt make sense.

Her"

I wouldn't say that personally.

Anyone who says they're depressed because they split up with their partner doesn't understand the meaning of the word.

Anyone who's first thought is to try and find sympathy by posting to a load of strangers on a swingers site needs to have a good think about where their priorities are.

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over a year ago


"If his girlfriend come on here with the same forum post, it would be "come here pretty baby" it doesnt make sense.

Her

I wouldn't say that personally.

Anyone who says they're depressed because they split up with their partner doesn't understand the meaning of the word.

Anyone who's first thought is to try and find sympathy by posting to a load of strangers on a swingers site needs to have a good think about where their priorities are."

actually is insulting to people who suffer with depression.

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over a year ago

After coming out of a LTR I got sick of everyone telling me "time is a healer" and all the usual bull. Well it turns out, after some self reflection, Time is not a healer in itself! It's more "how you spend that time" is a healer! Think about it

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over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down.

and basic intelligence would be make sure one doesnt fall into the stigma you have set above, now theres a funny itony... my suggestion would be to read my original post before what was it leaping in ... bla bla bla.... oh dear giod shot though ... next ! "

What? All I got from that was basic intelligence and a word that I think was meant to be "irony"....hmmm

I've read the thread's opening post and your opening post and I stand by everything I said.

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over a year ago


"If his girlfriend come on here with the same forum post, it would be "come here pretty baby" it doesnt make sense.

Her

I wouldn't say that personally.

Anyone who says they're depressed because they split up with their partner doesn't understand the meaning of the word.

Anyone who's first thought is to try and find sympathy by posting to a load of strangers on a swingers site needs to have a good think about where their priorities are."
I agree..i was just thinking to myself how differently men and woman are treated in the same situation.

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over a year ago


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life.

I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself.

I'm sure you'll be incredibly surprised to hear that there's a lot of jumping going on.

Normal day on the forum then!!"

Yep, pretty much!

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over a year ago


"If his girlfriend come on here with the same forum post, it would be "come here pretty baby" it doesnt make sense.

Her

I wouldn't say that personally.

Anyone who says they're depressed because they split up with their partner doesn't understand the meaning of the word.

Anyone who's first thought is to try and find sympathy by posting to a load of strangers on a swingers site needs to have a good think about where their priorities are.I agree..i was just thinking to myself how differently men and woman are treated in the same situation."

personally i think if your a dirty rotten cheat and have no sympathy male of female.

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By *orthLincsIronCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

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over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down.

and basic intelligence would be make sure one doesnt fall into the stigma you have set above, now theres a funny itony... my suggestion would be to read my original post before what was it leaping in ... bla bla bla.... oh dear giod shot though ... next !

What? All I got from that was basic intelligence and a word that I think was meant to be "irony"....hmmm

I've read the thread's opening post and your opening post and I stand by everything I said. "

awww ... come back. good for you

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over a year ago


"i usually like to go and buy some new heels or a nice dress ..always works for me "

Ooooo. This always works for me too. I can be a right moody cow, then I spot a great pair of shoes and "PING" I'm on top of the world

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over a year ago


"If his girlfriend come on here with the same forum post, it would be "come here pretty baby" it doesnt make sense.

Her

I wouldn't say that personally.

Anyone who says they're depressed because they split up with their partner doesn't understand the meaning of the word.

Anyone who's first thought is to try and find sympathy by posting to a load of strangers on a swingers site needs to have a good think about where their priorities are.I agree..i was just thinking to myself how differently men and woman are treated in the same situation.

personally i think if your a dirty rotten cheat and have no sympathy male of female. "

Oh you.

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"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening "

Lol I noticed that too. Oh well he's got lots of sympathy and advice though why he needed it off a bunch of opinionated forum posters is beyond me...

Sympathy fuck perhaps

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over a year ago


"When a person in the real world asks for comfort and help the last thing on my mind is pointing the finger and saying I told you so especially if I don't know all the facts......it is so much easier to be a kind person than a mean one surely? I know everyone has opinions but until you know the facts you can't make judgements....if someone is in pain I would rather be the kind of person who would help if I can than heaping a whole load more pain on them as punishment for daring to bare their soul on a website."

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"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening "

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

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"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down.

and basic intelligence would be make sure one doesnt fall into the stigma you have set above, now theres a funny itony... my suggestion would be to read my original post before what was it leaping in ... bla bla bla.... oh dear giod shot though ... next !

What? All I got from that was basic intelligence and a word that I think was meant to be "irony"....hmmm

I've read the thread's opening post and your opening post and I stand by everything I said.

awww ... come back. good for you "

Why are you so angry about what some man you don't know on the Internet may or may not have done?

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over a year ago


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well. "

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that escalated quickly

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression."

Firstly op sorry she's left .Dont care about the whys or wherefores ,that's for you two to sort if you can.

Ask yourself were there really no warnings ? ? Normally ppl don't up and leave on a whim or with out reason .

Don't fucus on what you class as depression, but on what you gonna do to get her back .That's if you want her back .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fill your profile with cock pics, remind her what she's missing, winner!!!

No??????........

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By *orthLincsIronCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned."

So if this was your thread you wouldn't want to defend yourself against the accusations thrown at you if they were false?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the mussing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probaubly have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned."

He did try and say something but deleted it, quite early on in the thread.

This tells me he's got quite a lot to deal with and doesn't even have the energy to argue his side. He's not been bolshy or defensive in any way, so really doesn't deserve the vitriol he's getting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down.

and basic intelligence would be make sure one doesnt fall into the stigma you have set above, now theres a funny itony... my suggestion would be to read my original post before what was it leaping in ... bla bla bla.... oh dear giod shot though ... next !

What? All I got from that was basic intelligence and a word that I think was meant to be "irony"....hmmm

I've read the thread's opening post and your opening post and I stand by everything I said.

awww ... come back. good for you

Why are you so angry about what some man you don't know on the Internet may or may not have done?"

theres another leap straight in statement... your funny, the sarcastic response is an undertone of the fact you feel you cant articulate a difference of opinion with me.. im the most chilled out guy you could meet, anger doesnt enter my world on any level its consuming everyone knows that silly ... now frustration at being intellectually owned on a public forum is a good catalyst for anger ... i presume, well actually lets not presume, il ask you directly ... how does it feel ?

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

Throw a party .We will all come .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Girlfriend left me this weekend no warning just said she was leaving. Any remedy for depression."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned.

So if this was your thread you wouldn't want to defend yourself against the accusations thrown at you if they were false? "

If this was my thread it probably wouldn't have gone the way this one has as a few other posters have said and even if it had, why would I need to defend myself to a bunch of random strangers who know nothing about me but are very quick to judge. Whether he is cheating or not, some of the comments on here are totally uncalled for.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life.

How do you know he was not on the site before he met her?"

Do people generally become so bereft over losing a girlfriend they've known for less than six months? Possible, but not likely.

Even if he joined before meeting her, he's kept the profile behind her back. I don't know any couples where deception is an accepted boundary.

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By *orthLincsIronCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned.

So if this was your thread you wouldn't want to defend yourself against the accusations thrown at you if they were false?

If this was my thread it probably wouldn't have gone the way this one has as a few other posters have said and even if it had, why would I need to defend myself to a bunch of random strangers who know nothing about me but are very quick to judge. Whether he is cheating or not, some of the comments on here are totally uncalled for."

So you wouldn't have put them straight? I certainly would've done, even if I was in the wrong, if it were my thread

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned.

So if this was your thread you wouldn't want to defend yourself against the accusations thrown at you if they were false?

If this was my thread it probably wouldn't have gone the way this one has as a few other posters have said and even if it had, why would I need to defend myself to a bunch of random strangers who know nothing about me but are very quick to judge. Whether he is cheating or not, some of the comments on here are totally uncalled for.

So you wouldn't have put them straight? I certainly would've done, even if I was in the wrong, if it were my thread "

I wouldn't care what others think to be honest but as another poster said earlier, he tried to post something but then removed it, probably scared he'd get more abuse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You were obviously not happy with her or else you wouldn't have joined this site. Happy, contented, loving partners do not join swingers sites behind their OHs back. Something must have been amiss, so console yourself with the fact that you are now free to seek whatever it is you really need in life.

How do you know he was not on the site before he met her?

Do people generally become so bereft over losing a girlfriend they've known for less than six months? Possible, but not likely.

Even if he joined before meeting her, he's kept the profile behind her back. I don't know any couples where deception is an accepted boundary."

But you don't know that, This is the point. You don't know that she didn't know about it all along.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A lot of people polishing their halos & looking down at us mere mortals from their pedestals

not at all buddy its all about context is it not?

this is a forum on a swinging site, hes been here six months cheating on his woman so its to be expected that there isnt going to be a whole lot of empathy.

how would you feel if someone had

been cheating on you for six months.

its not a pedestal im _iewing this thread from its from a fundamental principle of respect that if your in a vanilla relationship outside of swinging you shouldnt cheat.... keep it context dude ... no high ground basic respect for someone your suppose love...

It is a pedestal because you're assuming that you know what is going on in his life/relationship when you don't.

If he'd come on all "yeah been cheatin on ma bitch now she caught me and left" then ok. But there's a range of possibilities.

the hypocrisy is incrediable the fundelmental fact is hes been for six months attempting to cheat on the very person that left him a week ago.

how in any way is that a presumption, its factual. i total lack of respect for someone he was suppose to love. its irelevant how he articulates the facts, the fact is he was or did try to cheat fir six months..., how can this be defended ?

and if yoy think my morsl standing is from a pedestal what does that say about your moral standing.

i know we are swingers but ffs is anyone going to back me on this is lol.

I'm sure some people will back you but they'd be wrong too. He could have joined the site before getting together with his girlfriend. He's got no veris. They could have both had single profiles. She could have known he was on here. She could have been cheating on him. He could have signed up in a moment of weakness and never attempted to meet. He could be a student at Sydney university, where I've heard joining the site is mandatory to graduate.

Or, of course, it could be as you've described. But the point is you think that you know your version of events to be correct when you really don't.

Oh and I'm in the gutter but at least I admit it. The only way from the gutter is up, the only way from the pedestal is down.

not unless you maintain the concept of basic mirals its not

Basic morals are not concrete. For example, my set of basic morals involves not leaping in without the facts and not kicking people when they're down.

and basic intelligence would be make sure one doesnt fall into the stigma you have set above, now theres a funny itony... my suggestion would be to read my original post before what was it leaping in ... bla bla bla.... oh dear giod shot though ... next !

What? All I got from that was basic intelligence and a word that I think was meant to be "irony"....hmmm

I've read the thread's opening post and your opening post and I stand by everything I said.

awww ... come back. good for you

Why are you so angry about what some man you don't know on the Internet may or may not have done?

theres another leap straight in statement... your funny, the sarcastic response is an undertone of the fact you feel you cant articulate a difference of opinion with me.. im the most chilled out guy you could meet, anger doesnt enter my world on any level its consuming everyone knows that silly ... now frustration at being intellectually owned on a public forum is a good catalyst for anger ... i presume, well actually lets not presume, il ask you directly ... how does it feel ? "

Chilled is good, you just sounded a bit angry in your posts.

I'll come back and let you know how it feels to be "intellectually owned" when it's happened to me.

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By *orthLincsIronCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"So he was online 20 minutes ago, no doubt read the for and against comments on his own thread and hasn't even tried to fill in the missing information to defend hinself or correct anyone whom he thinks is wrong. His silence is deafening

If I read those comments I'd probably have just fucked off elsewhere as well.

Why does he need to defend himself, what has he done to need to defend himself? No one knows for sure if he was cheating or not and to be honest, with some of the less than polite comments on here I'm not surprised he's not returned.

So if this was your thread you wouldn't want to defend yourself against the accusations thrown at you if they were false?

If this was my thread it probably wouldn't have gone the way this one has as a few other posters have said and even if it had, why would I need to defend myself to a bunch of random strangers who know nothing about me but are very quick to judge. Whether he is cheating or not, some of the comments on here are totally uncalled for.

So you wouldn't have put them straight? I certainly would've done, even if I was in the wrong, if it were my thread

I wouldn't care what others think to be honest but as another poster said earlier, he tried to post something but then removed it, probably scared he'd get more abuse. "

Maybe he would've been better posting a response, at least then people would've been able to offer more informed advice/criticism. As he chose to say nothing it's still open season on the comments front.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney


"Remind me not to come on here for sympathy "

Or good advice!!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


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I haven't read the whole thread but was he actually on here without her knowledge or are people jumping to conclusions? She may have been fully aware he was on here or even been here herself.

So much jumping

So much judging

So much kicking

Just so sad

We only know for sure a fellow human being is suffering."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression. "

He can feel depressed. When your mood is low and you can't lift it you are in a depression. There are different kinds of depression resulting from different causes. I was reading a story about how a man threw himself under a train because his girlfriend left him. Depression can lead to despair and irrational thinking whatever the cause.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

He can feel depressed. When your mood is low and you can't lift it you are in a depression. There are different kinds of depression resulting from different causes. I was reading a story about how a man threw himself under a train because his girlfriend left him. Depression can lead to despair and irrational thinking whatever the cause. "

Great.

Now I'm worried for his safety.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

He can feel depressed. When your mood is low and you can't lift it you are in a depression. There are different kinds of depression resulting from different causes. I was reading a story about how a man threw himself under a train because his girlfriend left him. Depression can lead to despair and irrational thinking whatever the cause. "

yes very true

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By *oe bloggs69Man
over a year ago

fife

Silly boy

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Depression or not, many many people ask for a cuddle at times. I personally don't get it but hey, he is no different to many people who go from lost mojo's, feeling down, broken up with a boyfriend, broken a nail, my leg is falling off, the bad men/women are being horrid to me because I am a bit overweight...

don't want to give him a cuddle, easy: Don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"bet yi could murder that bloke who said "its better to have love and lost than have not have loved st all "

Oi! I posted that 12 weeks ago!!

OP...We're all here for our own reasons. Time will heal...or repair. I hope it settles down for you quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

He can feel depressed. When your mood is low and you can't lift it you are in a depression. There are different kinds of depression resulting from different causes. I was reading a story about how a man threw himself under a train because his girlfriend left him. Depression can lead to despair and irrational thinking whatever the cause.

Great.

Now I'm worried for his safety. "

Don't say that!! The Trolls above will kick him again to see if they can push him over the edge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression. "

What if you planned your life with them? And your whole future becomes shattered? I know full well I have been depressed after a partner left me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

He can feel depressed. When your mood is low and you can't lift it you are in a depression. There are different kinds of depression resulting from different causes. I was reading a story about how a man threw himself under a train because his girlfriend left him. Depression can lead to despair and irrational thinking whatever the cause.

Great.

Now I'm worried for his safety.

Don't say that!! The Trolls above will kick him again to see if they can push him over the edge. "

I think they already have.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"If the OP had explained the situation in a bit more detail, then I'm sure some of the replies would have been totally different. "

I doubt that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

What if you planned your life with them? And your whole future becomes shattered? I know full well I have been depressed after a partner left me."

Depression is an illness. A very, very dark one. It's ongoing and usually has to be treated professionally.

To say you are 'depressed' the day after your girlfriend left you is just... showing a massive amount of ignorance to what depression really is.

When people find themselves single they're often sad, melancholy, listless, miserable... but rarely depressed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

What if you planned your life with them? And your whole future becomes shattered? I know full well I have been depressed after a partner left me.

Depression is an illness. A very, very dark one. It's ongoing and usually has to be treated professionally.

To say you are 'depressed' the day after your girlfriend left you is just... showing a massive amount of ignorance to what depression really is.

When people find themselves single they're often sad, melancholy, listless, miserable... but rarely depressed."

I can understand some people getting depressed over the break down of a marriage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Depression is an illness, not something you feel because your girlfriend left you, you feel sadness, hurt, gutted etc, but you arent suffering from depression.

What if you planned your life with them? And your whole future becomes shattered? I know full well I have been depressed after a partner left me.

Depression is an illness. A very, very dark one. It's ongoing and usually has to be treated professionally.

To say you are 'depressed' the day after your girlfriend left you is just... showing a massive amount of ignorance to what depression really is.

When people find themselves single they're often sad, melancholy, listless, miserable... but rarely depressed.

I can understand some people getting depressed over the break down of a marriage. "

I can understand people becoming depressed over the break down of any relationship - but it's not something that comes on instantly, it builds up most of the time. And it's not something you should be saying without a medical diagnosis.

You wouldn't turn round to someone and tell them you have kidney stones without a medical diagnosis - so why are mental health issues treated differently?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

As usual, answers are totally different because he is male. I am surprised when people wonder why men feel so under valued on here.

A couple of points...discussing a persons profile is against forum rules unless the person asked for it.

Disrupting threads by changing the subject to "married men cheating" everytime a male attached person posts may also earn a ban.

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