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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok so us women often get slated by single males for miss labeling ourselves as "curvy" when we are actually "ample" I for one am prob guilty of this but here is my question n please play nicely cos bitching on each other is so ugly

Why do we label ourselves as we do

This question is for men as well as plenty of men label themselves as "athletic" when they are "average"

My reason is that I don't like the word ample not sure what word fits that is nice though

Remember play nicely xxxxxxx

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By *uttyMan
over a year ago

Local to you maybe

Don't see why we should be labelled at all.

Different people see others differently and should decide themselves if they're attracted to the individual

Where some see curvy, some see ample and vice versa.

If it matters, label yourself how YOU see yourself not what others think

I probably made no sense at all

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I agree completely I don't like the lable thing and I use pics as a judge as I hope others do with me x's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think we need to label us here, its just nsa sex, doesn't matter what shape anyone are in

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I'm not keen on labels either but we humans seem to like having things in categories.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think we need to label us here, its just nsa sex, doesn't matter what shape anyone are in

Do you not have a preference shag n a reason why? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not keen on labels either but we humans seem to like having things in categories. "

Very true n if it don't fit into a category we create one

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Since you can't search by body size etc. it has always struck me as odd that you have to arbitrarily choose a category to belong to. I picked the one I could live with since there wasn't one for 'podgier than I like to be but working on it'. I have photos anyway for people to make their own mind up.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

"Ok so us women often get slated by single males for miss labeling ourselves as "curvy" when we are actually "ample" I for one am prob guilty of this but here is my question n please play nicely cos bitching on each other is so ugly

Why do we label ourselves as we do

This question is for men as well as plenty of men label themselves as "athletic" when they are "average"

My reason is that I don't like the word ample not sure what word fits that is nice though

Remember play nicely xxxxxxx"

Sadly, with so few choices to pick between it can be quite difficult to select the perfect category (unless you very obviously fit into one of them)

The other, and a little more subjective...

Everyone rightly or wrongly will see themselves fitting into a category they think is correct for them.

So you pick this.

BUT

Many other people have their own standards and definitions of these categories.

So I might think I am average, where some might go you are more ample.

And I imagine even more difficult for women, as so may stereotypes as to what a size and shape falls under.

Just because they are not super skinny or athletic, they might think of them self as large (in comparison to the smaller size) when in reality, they are very normal and very healthy in size and shape.

I don't think it is something that we can ever 'win' at.

As everyone has an opinion and it might not agree to the category you have set.

But if people are superficially judging and are going to start sending messages pointing this out (I appreciate it can be cruel) but these most probably aren't people we want to meet.

Define yourself how you want and sod the rest of us.

I for one don't make decisions or judgement based on size an shape.

That's why I like going to clubs, as I am meeting a person not just a description and size.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crazy, absolutely crazy.

It what happens between the ears is the important bit, the rest follows naturally.

Why does Dawn French regularly get to be up there amongst the world's sexiest women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One man's trash is another man's treasure

In all honesty, I look at a person's photos and base my opinion on what I think rather than what they think of themselves.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I'm not keen on labels either but we humans seem to like having things in categories.

Very true n if it don't fit into a category we create one

Hence I have created my own category of "won't frighten the horses"

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I agree that the descriptions are not that great, especially for men. It just a case of choosing what you think matches your shape best.

As long as there are decent full length photos on the profile then others know what your shape is anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Since you can't search by body size etc. it has always struck me as odd that you have to arbitrarily choose a category to belong to. I picked the one I could live with since there wasn't one for 'podgier than I like to be but working on it'. I have photos anyway for people to make their own mind up."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to put myself a fabulous, coz who wouldn't? But as i'm nowhere near BBW i thought i'd best not.

I'm none of the categories really (apart from fabulous haha) so picked ample. I'm not curvy coz when i was growing up curvy meant shapely and without a pot belly.

I'm the same as most others here, i just have pics up to show what i look like and try to post recent ones when i'm up for meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Why do we label ourselves as we do

This question is for men as well as plenty of men label themselves as "athletic" when they are "average"

My reason is that I don't like the word ample not sure what word fits that is nice though

Remember play nicely xxxxxxx

Sadly, with so few choices to pick between it can be quite difficult to select the perfect category (unless you very obviously fit into one of them)

The other, and a little more subjective...

Everyone rightly or wrongly will see themselves fitting into a category they think is correct for them.

So you pick this.

BUT

Many other people have their own standards and definitions of these categories.

So I might think I am average, where some might go you are more ample.

And I imagine even more difficult for women, as so may stereotypes as to what a size and shape falls under.

I don't think it is something that we can ever 'win' at.

As everyone has an opinion and it might not agree to the category you have set.

But if people are superficially judging and are going to start sending messages pointing this out (I appreciate it can be cruel) but these most probably aren't people we want to meet.

Define yourself how you want and sod the rest of us.

I for one don't make decisions or judgement based on size an shape.

That's why I like going to clubs, as I am meeting a person not just a description and size.

Fantastic post xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Crazy, absolutely crazy.

It what happens between the ears is the important bit, the rest follows naturally.

Why does Dawn French regularly get to be up there amongst the world's sexiest women?"

Very true she is amazing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get messaged on a weekly basis telling me I've picked the wrong category. I went what what suits me best out of the limited options. I really don't believe anyone bypasses all the photos and bases their decision on the body type selected anyway, as already said above, you can't search by it so it seems a bit pointless.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not keen on labels either but we humans seem to like having things in categories.

Very true n if it don't fit into a category we create one

Hence I have created my own category of "won't frighten the horses""

Brilliant x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think we need to label us here, its just nsa sex, doesn't matter what shape anyone are in

Do you not have a preference shag n a reason why? Xxx"
That's right lil miss and no I don't got any types, the reason is cos I like to enjoy all women you know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not curvey yet im not ample

Many men will say anything to get you into bed as flattery does work to a degree

I hate bbw yet people class me as one yet looking at bbws in usa where the term came from im nowhere near

I look at a profile if im drawn to them and them to be. Jobs done.

Labels who needs it x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So girls and boys given that we all feEl quite content in our categories are we all happy with our pics and more important are we happy in ourselves xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think we need to label us here, its just nsa sex, doesn't matter what shape anyone are in

Do you not have a preference shag n a reason why? XxxThat's right lil miss and no I don't got any types, the reason is cos I like to enjoy all women you know

Your a perfect gent xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This made me look at my profile to see what I had put, I was amazed when I noticed I am within 10 miles of myself.

As for the size thing, I don't think it matters really, if some folk don't like a particular body shape, no matter how you describe yourself, the pic's will tell them what they want to know anyway, the description is a bit obsolete when you have photos. I think we all have our "ideal", but we lean a long way to both sides of it in reality.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

I for one don't make decisions or judgement based on size an shape.

That's why I like going to clubs, as I am meeting a person not just a description and size.

Fantastic post xx "

Thank you.

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By *uttyMan
over a year ago

Local to you maybe

"So girls and boys given that we all feEl quite content in our categories are we all happy with our pics and more important are we happy in ourselves xxx"

Quite happy with my pics and yes, very happy in myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say I'm ample because there's plenty of me to go around. What I don't want is someone turning up and doing this

because they didn't realise I'm a lardy arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think we need to label us here, its just nsa sex, doesn't matter what shape anyone are in

Do you not have a preference shag n a reason why? XxxThat's right lil miss and no I don't got any types, the reason is cos I like to enjoy all women you know

Your a perfect gent xxx"
Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im not curvey yet im not ample

Many men will say anything to get you into bed as flattery does work to a degree

I hate bbw yet people class me as one yet looking at bbws in usa where the term came from im nowhere near

I look at a profile if im drawn to them and them to be. Jobs done.

Labels who needs it x

You should put Sexy bod lol

Op as others have said it's all subjective really. I've put mine as average if I recall correctly. I've got a little middle aged spread but the rest of me is about average I'd say. Some peeps have Called me skinny before now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would say I'm ample because there's plenty of me to go around. What I don't want is someone turning up and doing this

because they didn't realise I'm a lardy arse

That's my biggest worry hence my gobbyduguck in my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Im not curvey yet im not ample

Many men will say anything to get you into bed as flattery does work to a degree

I hate bbw yet people class me as one yet looking at bbws in usa where the term came from im nowhere near

I look at a profile if im drawn to them and them to be. Jobs done.

Labels who needs it x

You should put Sexy bod lol

Sexy bod love that!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Don't forget, all it takes is the words 'no thanks' to get downgraded from curvy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never know what to class myself as, there's no option for 'Mr Staypuft'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When there's a fat b'stard box. I'll tick it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've ticked large but added.fat in profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Don't forget, all it takes is the words 'no thanks' to get downgraded from curvy

Ohhhhh shut up titz lol xxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've ticked large but added.fat in profile "

Really?!? If I can get aaway with curvy then so can u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've ticked large but added.fat in profile

Really?!? If I can get aaway with curvy then so can u"
my belly etc is bigger than yours ...my boobs are smaller grr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let you pictures do the talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Labels are subjective and open to interpretation. Certainly shouldn't be taken as gospel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said loads already I'm sure but not sure labelling helps really. If 2 people plan a meet then that is when photos can be swooped if not already on profile.

Then before the meet each know what to expect.

Average Victor

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I've ticked large because I'm err large

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

described myself as athletic as i do quite a bit of cycling but i have quite a few pics of my body for people to see so they can judge themselves.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

"I've ticked large because I'm err large

Please excuse me for saying..

But I would have to disagree (in my opinion)

Having just had a look through your lovely photos, I would not class you as large in size.

(I don't like ample for a description)

So for me.. Curvy not large.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I've ticked large because I'm err large

Please excuse me for saying..

But I would have to disagree (in my opinion)

Having just had a look through your lovely photos, I would not class you as large in size.

(I don't like ample for a description)

So for me.. Curvy not large.

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well thank you, but I have an idea of curvy in my head and its not me

maybe when I've lost a bit more weight

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

So for me.. Curvy not large.

well thank you, but I have an idea of curvy in my head and its not me

maybe when I've lost a bit more weight

You're more than welcome.

And it is just as I mentioned in my post above, everyone has different ideas as to what 'category' they think people fall under.

so keep sticking to the category you feel more comfortable with.

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like labels for the way we look. It's all subjective. A photo would be fine for me. I know they can be shopped but I think they give a better idea than a word.

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