FabSwingers.com forum: Davina's marriage advice

By *wned Em OP Couple
over a year ago

nuneaton

"You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

well believing a lot of the threads on here...... yes they do

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

note, they not he....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"well believing a lot of the threads on here...... yes they do"

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

I agree .. they will look elsewhere ... keep em knackered lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just that though. I think open communication is truly key to any long term relationship; understanding each others' needs is extremely important, and being able to meet them where possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

I think some people will always cheat, regardless of circumstances. Like the guys who message me saying they just want a different body to look at. Lack of sex is rarely the issue.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

usual excuse is my wife don't understand me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"usual excuse is my wife don't understand me"

Or her sex drive is lower than mine

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Although it's not the obvious thing to say on a swingers site, but "sex isn't everything". There is certainly much more in our marriage than just sex and I personally couldn't imagine the need to cheat for more. Having said that though, we do generally have a fairly regular sex life....

So I think that Davina needs a slap.

Cal

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?"

Is this Davina McCall? Why on earth would I be taking relationship advice from a television personality?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?"

She's so fucking annoying though, I dont think the best of her sex would stop me looking elsewhere. Her reasoning is, I am fucking knackered so I will give you a knackered shag and use me as a bucket is not what men in general want I'd say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not just men who cheat. Lots of women in apparently happy marriages or relationships do it too.

Many reasons both genders do it.

I think it's sad Davinas comments were blown out of proportion to the point she had to explain them to strangers. Is this really all thats going on in the world?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and an ex had great sex, then we had kids (2 in a year, it was the great sex fault) and i was knackered, he was good about it, and he used to joke i could just lie there and he'd do all the work or joke about he was ok having a wank and this took pressure off me to perform actually and was a big relief despite me missing the sex i was really tired and wanted to prioritise sleeping.

If anyone had made me feel pressured to have sex when i didn't want it would've cut them dead emotionally and felt they had a problem. Although it wasn't long term we went without for months at that point.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's way more to a successful marriage than keeping your husband happy in the bedroom fgs ~ but hey if thats what she feels she needs to do to keep hers on track then so be it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

A midwife actually actually advised us to lay back and think of England if we didn't feel like having sex after our babies were born.

I'm pleased to say that the men in the room were all against the idea. This was nearly 24 years ago but it seems things don't change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm knackered and can't be arsed, then he might as well have a wank because it's not going to be a mind blowing fuck.

That said, sex and intimacy IS an important part of a relationship (although definitely not the be-all and end-all) and I think both parties should put the effort in to find a balance which works for both.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"usual excuse is my wife don't understand me"

What's the wife's excuse then as it's not just men that cheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Statements like this also perpetuate the _iew that men must have higher sex drives than women, that it's men who want sex more and it's their evil wives/girlfriends withholding it from them. Jokes about sex on special occasions, trying to convince 'er indoors to give me a blowjob etc. abound in popular culture, mainstream comedy and the like.

So if you're a woman whose partner doesn't want to have sex with you, what does that make you?

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"usual excuse is my wife don't understand me

What's the wife's excuse then as it's not just men that cheat. "

Women are just better at hiding the cheating..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

id give my right nut to be married to davina. shes one of the hottest women out there

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"Statements like this also perpetuate the _iew that men must have higher sex drives than women, that it's men who want sex more and it's their evil wives/girlfriends withholding it from them. Jokes about sex on special occasions, trying to convince 'er indoors to give me a blowjob etc. abound in popular culture, mainstream comedy and the like.

So if you're a woman whose partner doesn't want to have sex with you, what does that make you? "

A rarity..

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"usual excuse is my wife don't understand me

What's the wife's excuse then as it's not just men that cheat.

Women are just better at hiding the cheating.."

Or better at not shouting about it. There are hundreds of women on here cheating yet the majority of threads started about it are from frustrated men.

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"usual excuse is my wife don't understand me

What's the wife's excuse then as it's not just men that cheat.

Women are just better at hiding the cheating..

Or better at not shouting about it. There are hundreds of women on here cheating yet the majority of threads started about it are from frustrated men. "

Yeah that's my point. The wives don't give excuses, they just don't say that they are doing it in the first place.

Unless there are a lot of middle aged women who still live with their parents..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Although it's not the obvious thing to say on a swingers site, but "sex isn't everything". There is certainly much more in our marriage than just sex and I personally couldn't imagine the need to cheat for more. Having said that though, we do generally have a fairly regular sex life....

So I think that Davina needs a slap.

Cal"

Sex isn't everything in a marriage, I agree. Why do one or the other feel the need to get it else where though?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

An amazing sex life does not always equate to an amazing relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I think that Davina needs a slap.

Cal

Sex isn't everything in a marriage, I agree. Why do one or the other feel the need to get it else where though? "

And there would be no one answer fits all to that question, everyone's circumstances are different ~ you would need to ask the individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An amazing sex life does not always equate to an amazing relationship "

...and an amazing relationship doesn't always need an amazing sex life.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

are we meant to be with one person as lots of men want variety

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"An amazing sex life does not always equate to an amazing relationship "

This.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

Yes deffo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?"

Where is the quote from? Has she done an inter_iew?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

There's been times in my relationship when I've not wanted sex (due to I'll health) its never been a problem and he was free to go else where and didn't.

I love sex, but our relationship is based on a lot more.

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?

Is this Davina McCall? Why on earth would I be taking relationship advice from a television personality?

She was misquoted, and in a big way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mostly its lack of communication- if the man/woman wants more sex then they should be able to talk openly about it to the other. Somewhere along the line that stops and thats when there is a need unfulfilled.

Then they look elsewhere- the allure of new and therefore exciting can be irrisistable.

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

If a marriage is based purely on sex it will fail,it is not as simple as that

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Stan Collymores long lost love. Enough said.

Her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?

Is this Davina McCall? Why on earth would I be taking relationship advice from a television personality?

She was misquoted, and in a big way."

Found the article.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?

Is this Davina McCall? Why on earth would I be taking relationship advice from a television personality?

...Especially as it's advice as ridiculous as this...

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

If I am tired my husband isn't getting anything from me......he gets to sit and rub my feet until I am sleepy and then cuddle me while I sleep - believe me I make up for it when I am not sleepy though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep your husband in chasity that will stop the bugger cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

they will

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think some people will always cheat, whether they're getting it at home or not. "

Agreed!! I think if someone wants it elsewhere then they will get it regardless of what they have at home

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"usual excuse is my wife don't understand me

What's the wife's excuse then as it's not just men that cheat. "

Usually that she isn't getting enough attention I would think, all those golf/cricket/rugby widows. But cheating never even entered my head, and I hope to God I never fall for the cheating kind either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?"
well all I can say is she must feel he is going too ..to say this.

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By *andm288Couple
over a year ago

oxford

So from a males perspective who did cheat and look elsewhere ......

Things weren't right in the marriage bedroom dept for some time

So yes I did look elsewhere and found a new partner and after

Much heartache & discussion left the ex wife & kids

Now before I get slated every relationship is different

5 yrs on and things are starting to calm down

So my point is this

If either party are not happy then move on as we only have one shot at life

But I wouldn't do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I refuse to pretend to be someone I am not just to prevent my partner from lying to me.

If they're not happy, they can fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will ALWAYS cheat. Even if they have plenty of sex at home, even if they can sleep with anyone else with their partner's permission, they will still want who and want they can't have.

Cynical but I've been mixed up in that situation and it's not nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?"

Sounds to me that Davina doesn't have a great deal of confidence in her relationship...

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?

Sounds to me that Davina doesn't have a great deal of confidence in her relationship..."

She was misquoted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

""You must keep your husband satisfied in the bedroom department, even if you’re absolutely exhausted. Otherwise he will go somewhere else.”

Do you agree or does she need a slap with the feminist handbook?"

I always want to know, if the same happens in reverse?

Anyway, I disagree. I know a fair few(real, not Fab world), will go somewhere else, if they have that need, whether they gets loads at home or not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Blimey - all these posts and not one person has said whether they want to fuck Davina or not!

Well I would

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"People will ALWAYS cheat. Even if they have plenty of sex at home, even if they can sleep with anyone else with their partner's permission, they will still want who and want they can't have.

Cynical but I've been mixed up in that situation and it's not nice."

Don't let one experience taint your _iew of the world. It's only yourself that suffers.

I've been there as well, not nice. Most people aren't like that though. Think positive!

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