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Why we stay in manipulative domanent relationships

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good : why people stay in these relationships : but eventually leave / was in one ware you down mentally / as they gain pleasure by wearing you down / answers please my sexy friends / tell us about ur expierences : p

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

Bloody fear!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are not aware they're being manipulated.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Well, for me it was a mixture of fear and him making me believe that nobody else would want me...

Certainly wasn't the sex, that was crap.

- Amy. x

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I don't and won't stay in one regardless if the sex is amazing there is more to a relationship than sex. I don't like any kind of unhealthy relationships but some stay in them as the other person has got in their head some how.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are not aware they're being manipulated. "

and some people are actually scared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are not aware they're being manipulated.

and some people are actually scared "

Plus they can make you think you can't live without them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good p"

I dont think the sex would make anyone want to stay in a bad relationship

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good p

I dont think the sex would make anyone want to stay in a bad relationship "

You would be surprised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are not aware they're being manipulated.

and some people are actually scared

Plus they can make you think you can't live without them. "

Or that nobody else would want them. Self-esteem is usually in their boots.

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

Very true miss cheeky chops they are brainwashed with fear and / manipulaters wil take away all ur self esteem and confidence as they are aggressive and also play a victim to play on ye emousions / as they are very unhappy and want you to feel as bad as them : they wil take control of you mentally financially and sexually / you wil be there slave and afraid to leave / and eventually they wil become bored of you and move on to mx victim as you try to rebuild urself / so back to ye as to why people do this / p

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Very true miss cheeky chops they are brainwashed with fear and / manipulaters wil take away all ur self esteem and confidence as they are aggressive and also play a victim to play on ye emousions / as they are very unhappy and want you to feel as bad as them : they wil take control of you mentally financially and sexually / you wil be there slave and afraid to leave / and eventually they wil become bored of you and move on to mx victim as you try to rebuild urself / so back to ye as to why people do this / p "

Why do they do it? Because they can some people are just that way whether as a result of a previous relationship etc. Love is blind I guess

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

The more you love these mini pulsator ether more more abuse and torment you wil get as they feel control over it weakness to them / they are playing phycotic games on you / and a lot cases you don't even know it is happening / very unhealthy for it mind / as you blame urself for there actions /

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They just don't care what you want. They see you as a supplier for whatever they want and use you as such. Simple as.

Some are very good at knowing what you want and pretending they'll give that to you, but mostly they stop even trying to please you because they know you'll give them what they want anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good p

I dont think the sex would make anyone want to stay in a bad relationship

You would be surprised "

fuck that

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

Very good answer affectionate bitch you know my story / and very thankful to you for all it advice / they tell you they love you want to marry you then abuse you and disappear for days to punish you and turn of phone / and when back tell lies to you as you take them bk / do you keep in contact affectionate / she now says she has another guy : just like that and wants to ring and stay friends / mane for financial safety I think : think better off to change my number / any more stories of mini pilasters out there ye sexy people / p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was lucky i wasn't in a bad relationship as such but he knew how to manipulate me

when i was ill i decided to walk and i dont regret it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP how did you meet her ?

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London

OP, why not look at battered wives charities?

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London

Nothing nice about those type of relationships. It's just bullying.

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

Met her in pub very nice a first / it was like a dream / sex was amazing she loved me wanted to marry / then to crying started about her past relationships she said she abused physally and she have a lot depression as she looked for 200 every week to buy stuff / then after 6 monts she only come to me mane once a week say she busy all the time always look for money after sex : and tell me she loves me needs me / then she say she unhappy and needs to take a break as I still pay her now says she has new boyfriend a lot of other abuse as we'll / she say you not clean you not strong man / don't make enough money : covert emoutanal minupalater. That's what she was / not funny at all / as she teases you with sex and fear and control /

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agh. The / is back.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

So you mean more someone misleading you and using sex and emotions to get what they want?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Very good answer affectionate bitch you know my story / and very thankful to you for all it advice / they tell you they love you want to marry you then abuse you and disappear for days to punish you and turn of phone / and when back tell lies to you as you take them bk / do you keep in contact affectionate / she now says she has another guy : just like that and wants to ring and stay friends / mane for financial safety I think : think better off to change my number / any more stories of mini pilasters out there ye sexy people / p "

I personally cut anyone like that out of my life, and it will get to a point where you will want to too because you'll make sense of everything that's going on and realise what's really happening is not what you're being told, this will become obvious every time they speak to you.

I think you're still in the messed up head stage of knowing what's true but not quite believing it yet.

You can still have that person around in your life, but you have to cut yourself dead from them emotionally and you have to act like anything they say is irrelevant to your life as well - because it is irrelevant seeing as they are living in some kind of alternative reality to yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met her in pub very nice a first / it was like a dream / sex was amazing she loved me wanted to marry / then to crying started about her past relationships she said she abused physally and she have a lot depression as she looked for 200 every week to buy stuff / then after 6 monts she only come to me mane once a week say she busy all the time always look for money after sex : and tell me she loves me needs me / then she say she unhappy and needs to take a break as I still pay her now says she has new boyfriend a lot of other abuse as we'll / she say you not clean you not strong man / don't make enough money : covert emoutanal minupalater. That's what she was / not funny at all / as she teases you with sex and fear and control / "

shes using you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing as you have no kids with her or ties to her then you could cut her out completely. No reason why she would have to stay in your life really.

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

Hi brad and any look up covert emotional manipulation on net first page wil explain the way it works it's sexual extortion for money a they tell you they love you but abuse you a lot more to make you heir financial slave / form of bran washing they do it for control and money / they are unhappy pysopaths with no feelings / and get pleasure from abusing and robing there victim until they get borne fans start new victim /

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fear

Disappointed

Worry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So you mean more someone misleading you and using sex and emotions to get what they want?"

yep

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

So if you know what she's doing, do you think you're more on the path to telling her to take a hike then?

As most people I've known like that don't just have ONE person on the go...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if you know what she's doing, do you think you're more on the path to telling her to take a hike then?

As most people I've known like that don't just have ONE person on the go..."

he likes the attention and to feel "wanted"

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"Hi brad and any look up covert emotional manipulation on net first page wil explain the way it works it's sexual extortion for money a they tell you they love you but abuse you a lot more to make you heir financial slave / form of bran washing they do it for control and money / they are unhappy pysopaths with no feelings / and get pleasure from abusing and robing there victim until they get borne fans start new victim / "

Oh trust me, we both know the type.

One girl has tried it with Bradley in the past (she didn't get very far) and we have both seen friends and people we know fall foul to this.

But, of course, they bury their heads in the sand when you try and talk to them about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Met her in pub very nice a first / it was like a dream / sex was amazing she loved me wanted to marry / then to crying started about her past relationships she said she abused physally and she have a lot depression as she looked for 200 every week to buy stuff / then after 6 monts she only come to me mane once a week say she busy all the time always look for money after sex : and tell me she loves me needs me / then she say she unhappy and needs to take a break as I still pay her now says she has new boyfriend a lot of other abuse as we'll / she say you not clean you not strong man / don't make enough money : covert emoutanal minupalater. That's what she was / not funny at all / as she teases you with sex and fear and control /

shes using you "

I have to agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So if you know what she's doing, do you think you're more on the path to telling her to take a hike then?

As most people I've known like that don't just have ONE person on the go...

he likes the attention and to feel "wanted" "

Plus she's given him all kinds of stories (that might actually be true) in the hope of making him feel sorry for her and wanting to look after her.

She knows what she's doing and how to get to people. It's all about her though and never about him, he'll get that eventually, and i think he's getting it now.

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By *ratty_DamselWoman
over a year ago

London

Never allow yourself to put up with crap like that!

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I think if most people are honest with themselves they'll realise that they have, at one time or another, been involved in a manipulative relationship and, if they're even more honest with themselves, some may even realise that they were the manipulator.

It's often said that everything in life is about sex except sex; sex is about control & power.

Without passing judgment one way or another, it would be interesting to hear the other side (in this case her side) of this story.

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By *LLURS OP   Man
over a year ago

waterforx

This story is only one sided anyway unleaded cracker this woman is sicotic I can see that now / she ring today say this other guy not for her even though she with him I suspect 3 monts she misses me and mane she llk mx man also she very depressed absalutly nuts and can I give her a loan 100 pound that you wil never get bk as usual / it's a sexual cash game playing other guy as we'll and probably fuckn sm one else / it's fun to her as she thinks we all want her / helps starve off her depression I think as she is mentally ill / I know now ok affectionate bitch thanks to you , it's covert emotional manitou pulsation for fun and to destroy her victims mentally / for money / as she acts like victim or if you disagree she wil verbally abuse you as she domanAtes for power and control / so there you have it folks / it's a money buissness and a sick game to her as she destroys guys emosinaly

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Just block numbers, stop all contact. She obviously knows how to press your buttons.

My ex was lovely when we first met then gradually got worse by which time I was (i thought) too in love with him to leave. Then I fell pregnant.

Took me a long time to realise that I was worth more than being abused and treated like a cunt.

Best thing I ever did walking away. I'm much stronger now and looking back the warning signs were there. I'll never be in that situation again.,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the kids.

Did more damage to them staying then would have leaving a long time before it ended

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's a complex mix of emotions at play, as well as someone's beliefs.

Fear, anxiety - very linked of course. We can be frightened of change, and generally people do what they can to keep things stable, often even if it means they suffer.

Self-beliefs - such as a person will have it worse afterwards, maybe they've been threatened too. Lack of self belief - they haven't got what it takes to be alone or accomplish the split.

Guilt/shame - they would be bad to leave someone, in their own minds.

It's a complex web of interlinked stuff, some of dating from their earlier lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I genuinely can't follow what's going on here anyone care to do a translation?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I genuinely can't follow what's going on here anyone care to do a translation?"

I must admit I struggle to figure out what exactly the OP is saying but I'll try what I think is a translation. Watch this space.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"This story is only one sided anyway Unleashed Cracken.

The woman is psychotic, I can see that now. She rang me today to say this other guy is not for her even though she's been with him for 3 monts I suspect. She says she misses me and 'mane she llk mx man' (it's Greek to me) and that she's very depressed. Absolutely nuts! She also asked if I could lend her £100 (I'd never get it back, as usual). It's a sexual cash game that she's playing with other guy to, probably fucking someone one else at the same time to. It's just a game to her. She thinks we all want her, I think it helps to stave off her depression, she is mentally ill. I now know, thanks to you, it's just covert emotional manipulation for fun and money. She wants to destroy her victims mentally, affectionate bitch. She acts like the victim and if you disagree with her she will verbally abuse you; she dominates for power and control.

So there you have it folks, it's a money business, a sick game for her as she destroys guys emotionally. "

Hope this helps and is a reasonable translation of what the OP was trying to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right that makes more sense I'm guessing maybe his phone/pc etc maybe uses another language or something and all the grammatical things like commas and brackets arw being defaulted to / or something.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Right that makes more sense I'm guessing maybe his phone/pc etc maybe uses another language or something and all the grammatical things like commas and brackets arw being defaulted to / or something. "

Well that's one explanation I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes its the norm for them from previous relationships

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good : why people stay in these relationships : but eventually leave / was in one ware you down mentally / as they gain pleasure by wearing you down / answers please my sexy friends / tell us about ur expierences : p "

Not all of us stay.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

These messed up tricks etc just reveal someone who manipulates to avoid real intimacy in relationships. Get involved at your peril.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well, for me it was a mixture of fear and him making me believe that nobody else would want me...

Certainly wasn't the sex, that was crap.

- Amy. x"

It usually is....if the sex was good you would stay because you wanted to. Not because some sick, inadequate bully manipulates you into thinking you have to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes, you didn't realise you were in one, until after you'd left it. Often that kind of relationship, evolves over time and the dynamics change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So is it fear excitement unpredictability or the sex is good : why people stay in these relationships : but eventually leave / was in one ware you down mentally / as they gain pleasure by wearing you down / answers please my sexy friends / tell us about ur experiences : p "

if these people have an outlet, i find it ridiculous that they can fish for compassion etc..

the people in real peril...most of the time dont have much

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