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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Ok

Maybe I'm stirring up a hornets nest here

I don't mean to honest

BUT

I've seen on various profiles and seen mention on the forums that

"I'm not here to shag everyone else on Fab and won't meet people who do"

Especially when all you really know about most people's sex life is their verifications

So I'm just wondering

How many is too many?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

It varies with veris.....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

If I think their life is consumed by swinging/sex, that puts me off more than a number...

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over heating

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over heating "

Vaginal Prolapse!!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

When you can't feel your feet.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Once I fist and I can floss their top set at the same time.....

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over heating

Vaginal Prolapse!!! "

I don't have either

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"If I think their life is consumed by swinging/sex, that puts me off more than a number..."

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"If I think their life is consumed by swinging/sex, that puts me off more than a number..."

I'm not like that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

427 is too many, 426 is not .

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Is the question about you OP or is it general?

I asking because you are replying to the responses as if they're about you personally

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

42 is the perfect number. Any more and you know it's wrong.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I tend to get all of my monthly meets over and done with in one night at a club. Saves so much time!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."

What if they are from socials?

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

When your cock shrivels up and drops off!

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By *rp861Man
over a year ago

notts

All of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I think I'm right in saying that it's not the first time you've started a thread like this. Assuming that it is linked to you what does it matter what others think? Do what is right for you, but if the opinion of strangers bothers you that much then maybe reconsider what you do

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

What if they are from socials?

"

We all know socials are totally different things! You know better than that!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over heating

Vaginal Prolapse!!!

I don't have either "

I'm pleased

Sheldon says the perfect number is 73.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."

Is not being fussy such a bad thing?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

Is not being fussy such a bad thing?"

If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!

Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

What if they are from socials?

We all know socials are totally different things! You know better than that! "

So many people don't read the verifications, just judge on the number received !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As its the women who gets the most meets here. I would say over 500 in a year would be to much lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

End of the day

Its who you want to meet and its your call on how many.

Your dammed if you do and dammed if you dont

If you are happy good if not change it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Too many' will be totally subjective...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a personal level too many meets would be if or when I get bored. There is no magic number. For others I couldn't say. I don't ask others how many meets they've had. I really don't give a fuck what anyone else does.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as you play safe who cares

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself."

But the OP has invited judgement.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've hidden my veris so no one can use them as a judgement. In fact, I've had a totally profile decimation too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.

But the OP has invited judgement. "

Judgment or attention ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.

But the OP has invited judgement. "

Yes she has. I meant in general.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

What if they are from socials?

We all know socials are totally different things! You know better than that! "

It's not always clear as some are written to sound saucy. Someone going to a social every week and getting maybe just two verifications would soon have a summary saying "12 meets, 10 women, 2 couples, newest 1 day ago".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Too many' will be totally subjective..."

This. This us our third couples profile... And we were both on here as successful singles before.

We have only a few verifications on this profile as decided not to chase previous meets for verification ...

So on here we look a pretty reasonable amount of meets.... But in reality its a damned site more... And add people that don't leave them.. or people we meet in clubs that are not on fab...

We don't get why people get so hung up .. if it's not for you then next profile

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself."

Why? If your being asked for your own opinion? If your happy with how you do things or how others do theirs, then fare doo's. Asking for others opinions and not liking someone else's point of _iew, then don't ask the question in the first place. We don't have to agree with everyone to make sure we are everyone's most favourite non biased forum poster.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.

Why? If your being asked for your own opinion? If your happy with how you do things or how others do theirs, then fare doo's. Asking for others opinions and not liking someone else's point of _iew, then don't ask the question in the first place. We don't have to agree with everyone to make sure we are everyone's most favourite non biased forum poster."

I didn't mean your judgements, I should have said "it's best to keep ones judgements".

I had in mind the men who say they would never enter into a relationship with someone from here, or someone who had had sex with their mates etc. Which I assumed had sparked the op.

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think you will never please everyone so do what makes you happy.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

We are indeed but sometimes it's best to keep your judgements to yourself.

Why? If your being asked for your own opinion? If your happy with how you do things or how others do theirs, then fare doo's. Asking for others opinions and not liking someone else's point of _iew, then don't ask the question in the first place. We don't have to agree with everyone to make sure we are everyone's most favourite non biased forum poster.

I didn't mean your judgements, I should have said "it's best to keep ones judgements".

I had in mind the men who say they would never enter into a relationship with someone from here, or someone who had had sex with their mates etc. Which I assumed had sparked the op."

I get that as I have had it myself in the past about having too many verifications (I've been to a fair few socials in the last 6 years I have been here) So yes the wording can bring about judgments, but if you do things that suit you, don't ask for validation and then disagree with others opinions!

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"I tend to get all of my monthly meets over and done with in one night at a club. Saves so much time! "

I like you

I need to get my car back on the road because that was me once upon a time

And because when you're in a club, nobody's keeping count

Because essentially it's no one's business

And obviously I do under understand that some people prefer people who are less voracious shall we say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

73

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet."

Oh but I AM fussy who I meet

Even I can't fuck all of those who ask

Although maybe I do try to a

little harder than most lol

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"73"

Oh no lol

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

I was thinking about the stats just the other day.

My stats say that I have had over 150 meets with over 100 people. Most of those verifications are from organised socials. The stats don't cover how many people I met before this profile (I had a couples profile and then two singles before this one). It doesn't cover the number of people I have met at clubs or the number of people I have met who don't verify.

I can show just a handful of verifications, spaced out by date to make it look like I meet infrequently. I could also pick those that I think look the hottest or most intelligent or any other thing.

It's a funny old Fab world.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"73"
JINX!!!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

Oh but I AM fussy who I meet

Even I can't fuck all of those who ask

Although maybe I do try to a

little harder than most lol "

Like I said earlier, everyone has their own standards, mine aren't yours and yours aren't mine, how people meet is their own business, but everyone will have their own opinion, don't take uppence if someone doesn't meet yours in an open forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over eating "

geez a munch

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over eating

geez a munch"

Are you welsh?

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"I was thinking about the stats just the other day.

My stats say that I have had over 150 meets with over 100 people. Most of those verifications are from organised socials. The stats don't cover how many people I met before this profile (I had a couples profile and then two singles before this one). It doesn't cover the number of people I have met at clubs or the number of people I have met who don't verify.

I can show just a handful of verifications, spaced out by date to make it look like I meet infrequently. I could also pick those that I think look the hottest or most intelligent or any other thing.

It's a funny old Fab world.

"

You are so right

I've been on sites like this since 2002

So on the various other dating sites

Plus swingers clubs I used to visit regularly

If you add them all up

Well it makes people's hair curl

Why?

I've got no idea

After all, isn't it exactly the point of sites like this

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

Oh but I AM fussy who I meet

Even I can't fuck all of those who ask

Although maybe I do try to a

little harder than most lol

Like I said earlier, everyone has their own standards, mine aren't yours and yours aren't mine, how people meet is their own business, but everyone will have their own opinion, don't take uppence if someone doesn't meet yours in an open forum. "

Oh no

I'm far from offended

Absolutely not

Just find it odd that over a certain amount is regarded as far too many

That's all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

Is not being fussy such a bad thing?

If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!

Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!"

Ok why would it put you off?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One I got to 10,453 veri's I started a new profile

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"One I got to 10,453 veri's I started a new profile"

Haha good on ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over heating "

Lmao

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By *ere-for-my-convenience OP   Woman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"When your fanny falls out or catches fire due to over heating

Lmao "

That was my 40th birthday party

Preston

Private house party

Mmmmm

What a weekend lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"One I got to 10,453 veri's I started a new profile"

Noob

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with. "

I'm an addict for crack...the legal kind

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

Is not being fussy such a bad thing?

If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!

Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!

Ok why would it put you off?"

Because I want someone to want to meet me for my brains, my intelligence, Not just because I might have a wet hole (I wouldn't have a wet hole, because my brain is the main stimuli after attractiveness) but that is how I meet, but because that is how I meet, doesn't mean how others do, but does it affect me? Not one iota!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One I got to 10,453 veri's I started a new profile

Noob "

Noob? ??

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with.

I'm an addict for crack...the legal kind"

Arse crack??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If someone had nothing else going on in their life apart from meeting people for sex: that would feel like too many for me to want to meet them, because they probably wouldn't be a very interesting person. And if someone seemed like a real addict, then that's not something I'd want to get involved with.

I'm an addict for crack...the legal kind

Arse crack?? "

fanny crack ya wazzock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We are all judgmental whether we are brave enough to say it or not.

But when a profile looks (to me) To have low standards, meets any Tom, Dick or Harry, or Sally, Jill or Jane, or even more than twice in one week I tend to think they are not really that fussy who they meet.

Is not being fussy such a bad thing?

If that's what you like then go for it, would it put me off someone? Yes it would!

Is that a good or bad thing? We all have our own standards and I wont lower mine but others are free to do what ever suits them, it's what makes the world go round!

Ok why would it put you off?

Because I want someone to want to meet me for my brains, my intelligence, Not just because I might have a wet hole (I wouldn't have a wet hole, because my brain is the main stimuli after attractiveness) but that is how I meet, but because that is how I meet, doesn't mean how others do, but does it affect me? Not one iota! "

That's fair enough. I personally look for a connection with the person. I am less fussy about looks etc. I hope that explains why I was asking you directly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One I got to 10,453 veri's I started a new profile

Noob "

I hid my summary ... for now... but I do love that I have 20,485 veri's from 250,417 meets. It works as a fantastic filter.

People that think verifications on this site are a true representation of the number of people a person has had sex with. And the types that won't meet any women "with no morals"- i.e. more than 2 veri's.

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