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"To want your evil man of a father to drop dead who has destroyed lives of most of the family and continues to do so." It's a tough one. Presumably he is a narcissist, from the little you have said it appears that way. In which case, he has a serious mental disorder, and should really be helped and showered with love. The problem with narcissists though, is that 99% of them believe there is nothing wrong with them, and so carry on to use and manipulate those who show them love or forgiveness. They can only solve the problem if they can admit they have one, most can't. It must be a horrible thing to have one as a close relative. Ive come across a few in my time, even dated one (god that was a mess) rather than wish him dead though, instead you should probably just pity him, because he will ultimately die sad and lonely. | |||
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"To want your evil man of a father to drop dead who has destroyed lives of most of the family and continues to do so." I hated my dad when I was young I wished him dead on a daily basis when he did die I only went to see him to make sure he was dead you can't choose your family | |||
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"I'm not bitter I have seen professional help.i can deal with what he did to me I'm past all that. " So past it all that you choose to post about it on here? If you are truly past it OP, then you would have no need to drag it up again - it is like picking a scab - it won't heal if you continually worry at it. I hope you find some peace. | |||
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"I'm not bitter I have seen professional help.i can deal with what he did to me I'm past all that. " sure doesn't sound that way, and why quote it all here online, don't take offence but I think you need to continue with your professional help wishing you well | |||
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"To want your evil man of a father to drop dead who has destroyed lives of most of the family and continues to do so." Nope, not in the least. I walked away from my birth family 45 years ago and have never been back. Abused between 8 and 12 by family, "friends" of family and teachers. No, it isn't evil to want him dead. Far better to do something about it though. I can't reply privately as you don't allow messages from guys, sorry for posting this in the forum. Gary | |||
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"No, it isn't evil to want him dead. Far better to do something about it though. " That sounds like you are advocating something very sinister indeed.. | |||
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"To want your evil man of a father to drop dead who has destroyed lives of most of the family and continues to do so. I hated my dad when I was young I wished him dead on a daily basis when he did die I only went to see him to make sure he was dead you can't choose your family " That's the only reason I'll ever agree to be in proximity with my "father" again, I want to be sure he's definitely en route to hell. | |||
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"No, it isn't evil to want him dead. Far better to do something about it though. That sounds like you are advocating something very sinister indeed.." No, nothing sinister. Some people are so evil that they dont even know they are evil. For me, i walked away 45 years ago and not been back since. They have never seen their grandchildren or great grandchildren. At some point i assume that they will realise that their actions had consequences. | |||
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" No, nothing sinister. Some people are so evil that they dont even know they are evil. For me, i walked away 45 years ago and not been back since. They have never seen their grandchildren or great grandchildren. At some point i assume that they will realise that their actions had consequences." Phew! Yep totally agree then, best way to deal with those people is to cut them off entirely. Most likely they won't realise or care about the consequences, people like that lack the capacity. You can be happy in the knowledge that those without the capacity for love are very very miserable people on the inside though! Sorry to hear about your troubles. | |||
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"You cannot control someone else's behaviour, but you can control the way you react it to. Personally, I find that amount of bitterness really off-putting. And believe me, if I were of a mind, I have loads of people I could add to that kind of list, but to carry that much emotion gives them credence and space in my life they do not deserve." ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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