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Epiphany on life and love

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I had an epiphany today, I was thinking about my relationships with women, exes, my mother, my aunts and my sister, and I realised that I have been left slightly damaged by all of them, all of them, but the epiphany comes from the realisation that it has not damaged my view on women, I still love the company of women, as friends and lovers, but my question is.

Do you think it is because there is a genetic need to still want to have relationships with women even though I end up getting hurt, or is it that I'm lucky enough to be strong enough of character to not let it change me into some kind of woman hater?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an epiphany today, I was thinking about my relationships with women, exes, my mother, my aunts and my sister, and I realised that I have been left slightly damaged by all of them, all of them, but the epiphany comes from the realisation that it has not damaged my view on women, I still love the company of women, as friends and lovers, but my question is.

Do you think it is because there is a genetic need to still want to have relationships with women even though I end up getting hurt, or is it that I'm lucky enough to be strong enough of character to not let it change me into some kind of woman hater?"

Would the real epiphany be understanding why you always end up being hurt?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had an epiphany today, I was thinking about my relationships with women, exes, my mother, my aunts and my sister, and I realised that I have been left slightly damaged by all of them, all of them, but the epiphany comes from the realisation that it has not damaged my view on women, I still love the company of women, as friends and lovers, but my question is.

Do you think it is because there is a genetic need to still want to have relationships with women even though I end up getting hurt, or is it that I'm lucky enough to be strong enough of character to not let it change me into some kind of woman hater?

Would the real epiphany be understanding why you always end up being hurt?"

Lol no that would be a fecking miracle

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

There is only one common denominator OP.

Or in your mind is every woman in existence out to leave you damaged?

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There is only one common denominator OP.

Or in your mind is every woman in existence out to leave you damaged?

A"

No, that's my point, I dont, if I met someone today I would still treat her like she wasn't going to hurt me in any way, because otherwise what's the point?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had an epiphany today, I was thinking about my relationships with women, exes, my mother, my aunts and my sister, and I realised that I have been left slightly damaged by all of them, all of them, but the epiphany comes from the realisation that it has not damaged my view on women, I still love the company of women, as friends and lovers, but my question is.

Do you think it is because there is a genetic need to still want to have relationships with women even though I end up getting hurt, or is it that I'm lucky enough to be strong enough of character to not let it change me into some kind of woman hater?

Would the real epiphany be understanding why you always end up being hurt?

Lol no that would be a fecking miracle "

I am not judging as I do not know your history. The initial impression of your reactions, however, is ... ostrich.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I had an epiphany today, I was thinking about my relationships with women, exes, my mother, my aunts and my sister, and I realised that I have been left slightly damaged by all of them, all of them, but the epiphany comes from the realisation that it has not damaged my view on women, I still love the company of women, as friends and lovers, but my question is.

Do you think it is because there is a genetic need to still want to have relationships with women even though I end up getting hurt, or is it that I'm lucky enough to be strong enough of character to not let it change me into some kind of woman hater?

Would the real epiphany be understanding why you always end up being hurt?

Lol no that would be a fecking miracle

I am not judging as I do not know your history. The initial impression of your reactions, however, is ... ostrich."

That's a funny way to spell optimist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Epithany or not, it works as a look-at-me.

There are no guarantees in life, treasure each and every relationship you manage to have for as long as it lasts.

Knowing my luck, when i finally get to heaven i'll be etenally matched with a freak like Wacko Jacko.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


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Epithany or not, it works as a look-at-me.

There are no guarantees in life, treasure each and every relationship you manage to have for as long as it lasts.

Knowing my luck, when i finally get to heaven i'll be etenally matched with a freak like Wacko Jacko. "

Look at me? I don't see it but if you say so

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By *ust MonicaWoman
over a year ago

CAMBRIDGESHIRE

I love ur positive, optimistic attitude

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Good post op and I understand where you are coming grom completely. Just because youvare the common factor doesnt mean you are the problem as one post insinuated. Xx

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By *drogansMan
over a year ago

Bedford

Yeah I'm with you KinkyButler, but for me there have been trade offs, if nothing else I've learned something from each relationship.

Regardless of each situation, I approach the next with open, hopeful, trusting, anticipation regardless of the consequences of my past and I do so willingly with eyes open aware of the potential for hurt.

Jase

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Disconcerting that practically all your female relatives have damaged you. Not liking your perception and only you can change that.

It comes across as though you have chosen to be a victim.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd see it as a good thing, not allowing your past experiences to influence all of your experiences going forward. Or not punishing / judging all women on the basis of what a small number of women have done. Sounds like the route to a happier future than the alternative approach.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Disconcerting that practically all your female relatives have damaged you. Not liking your perception and only you can change that.

It comes across as though you have chosen to be a victim."

Sorry OP, but this is my opinion too.

To be damaged by one female relative may be regarded as a misfortune.....

It sounds like, when things go wrong, you always find the other person at fault, especially if they're a woman.

I'd agree your epiphany is yet to occur.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not knowing your character OP it's hard to say.

It's good to have a realisation and then try and build on it moving forward.

The past doesn't necessarily define your future.

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton


"I had an epiphany today, I was thinking about my relationships with women, exes, my mother, my aunts and my sister, and I realised that I have been left slightly damaged by all of them, all of them, but the epiphany comes from the realisation that it has not damaged my view on women, I still love the company of women, as friends and lovers, but my question is.

Do you think it is because there is a genetic need to still want to have relationships with women even though I end up getting hurt, or is it that I'm lucky enough to be strong enough of character to not let it change me into some kind of woman hater?"

You are letting the past influence your present/future look on things. You can't blame the past women in your life but the decision and choices you've made

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is only one common denominator OP.

Or in your mind is every woman in existence out to leave you damaged?

A

No, that's my point, I dont, if I met someone today I would still treat her like she wasn't going to hurt me in any way, because otherwise what's the point?"

People dont go out to hurt people.

Sometimes just happens.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

I think any of us could look at our past relationships with mother, father, brothers (I have two), sisters (I have none) and various childhood and early life experiences to see how they have influenced us to get to where we are, but my epiphany was to realise that its my life and I am in control of it. It is hard sometimes, no, all the time - at one point I had to look at myself and ask what having three children from three different men in the space of four years say about me - so, I opted out of relationships with men and focused on myself and my children and found the strength to be myself. The answers to why I was where I was were in my past, but I can't blame anyone for them or even see them as negative. Now, fast forward to the present day (my children are now in their late teens) and I am fiercely independent and protective of me and who I am, but can let people in. I would not have changed the journey of my life and how I ended up here for anything .... and that is because I own it and the choices I have made are mine and mine alone, always done for the right reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A family connection.is very different to an intimate relationship one.

As an adult, you choose to behave the way you do...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A family connection.is very different to an intimate relationship one.

As an adult, you choose to behave the way you do..."

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