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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So, how often do women actually email first??

Or if fab for lady's all about replying to the hundreds of emails they recieve??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never message anyone new ....its a confidence thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't message first,I may have twice at the most in the time I've been here. I'm lazy and scrolling through profiles makes my eyes hurt and makes me nauseous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mail. It's no worse getting rejected if I mail first or if they mail me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I message first....i don't get inundated with messages so if I want something I have to go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Daisy does occasionally. Don't think we've had a message from a female first though. Could clearly be no attraction there though.

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So, how often do women actually email first??

Or if fab for lady's all about replying to the hundreds of emails they recieve?? "

I do

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I mail guys if I'm working in their area and want to have company. Works well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I very rarely message first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never send first message. Quite a few ladies message me though. And shed loads of guys do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't message first,I may have twice at the most in the time I've been here. I'm lazy and scrolling through profiles makes my eyes hurt and makes me nauseous. "

No one can message you due to your age restrictions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes wink or fab pics if I see someone that really catches my eye, but most of the time is spent deleting all the "hi" messages! its a real joy to see a well written message targeted just at me and not a generic/blanket message. I will always reply to those, even if its a polite "no thank you".

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Crumpet Castle


"Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do."

Why lazy ?

Each woman will have her own method for meeting. It's not always laziness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do.

Why lazy ?

Each woman will have her own method for meeting. It's not always laziness.

"

Going by what some women have said themselves it is down to laziness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have mailed first sometimes because of a status update or something and no men don't always reply etc either.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Wisbech


"So, how often do women actually email first??

Or if fab for lady's all about replying to the hundreds of emails they recieve?? "
. Sometimes yes . I had two on Saturday which is unusual. It may depend on your profile and location . If your profile is interesting and with good pictures it might just be enough to attract attention.

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By *irceWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester


"Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do.

Why lazy ?

Each woman will have her own method for meeting. It's not always laziness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do."

They have every right to be lazy....but they can't then complain that they can't find what they want

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't message first,I may have twice at the most in the time I've been here. I'm lazy and scrolling through profiles makes my eyes hurt and makes me nauseous.

No one can message you due to your age restrictions "

Age restrictions??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't message first,I may have twice at the most in the time I've been here. I'm lazy and scrolling through profiles makes my eyes hurt and makes me nauseous.

No one can message you due to your age restrictions

Age restrictions?? "

Hes referring to her age restrictions which are 98-99

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do.

Why lazy ?

Each woman will have her own method for meeting. It's not always laziness.

Going by what some women have said themselves it is down to laziness"

I'm not lazy. It takes me enough time sifting through my inbox as it is without providing more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Provoking! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I find it easier to look and message myself

Don't have to deal with tons of messages from people that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been known to message 1st,it's usually off the back of a forum post as I'm not actively looking to meet new people.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

We/she messages, works for us as well as receiving. Been rejected a few times, that's the way it goes around here at times, doesn't stop our fun though.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I mail who I am interested in meeting on my single account. I know what and who I am looking for better than anyone, so why shouldn't I?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont email men as go to partys and meet in the flesh x I just answer all my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generally speaking, the ladies whom have messaged me first have all come from conversations in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mail first, that way I can ensure I get what I want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done. I've no problem with that.

If I see something I like then there's no point waiting for it coming to me

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So my next question is...

What do you expect from a first message... Some people have hot pics yet there profile leaves you very little to spark a convo without sounding generic..

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I sometimes wink or fab pics if I see someone that really catches my eye, but most of the time is spent deleting all the "hi" messages! its a real joy to see a well written message targeted just at me and not a generic/blanket message. I will always reply to those, even if its a polite "no thank you". "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So my next question is...

What do you expect from a first message... Some people have hot pics yet there profile leaves you very little to spark a convo without sounding generic..

X"

Then concentrate on the more interesting profiles. Anyone can put up hot pics. It means nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tried messaging first but it didn't work for me so now I rarely bother. I look at the profile before I read the message. If it's a good profile I'll happily answer, if its not then I don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seems lazy if ladies just expect everyone to come to them. There again with the amount of men to women on this website, it could be said to be the smart thing to do.

They have every right to be lazy....but they can't then complain that they can't find what they want"

Not complain?

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