FabSwingers.com forum: How do you switch off?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.

I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.

I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take up a hobby that has a high likelihood of concussion. I find that helps

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

Do meditation and listen to soft slow music

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suffer from this. Most of the time it manifests in insomnia because I cannot shut my brain off.

I practice meditation and mindfulness to keep it under control as much as possible.

Or a large glass of single malt....

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By *owiththefloguyMan
over a year ago

Lancashire & York

I find excerise is go for this type of thing. Plus if you go to a gym or running club say, you will make new friends as well ?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

This sounds daft but I've recently discovered colouring books for grown-ups actually do help me relax and switch my brain off.

I've just ordered a dot-to-dot book for adults, (1000 dots per picture), to see if that has a similar effect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

The always-on nature of communications, smartphones, ipads etc. We are being constantly charged with demands for our attention, time etc. People demanding instant responses in texts and emails. It all factors into our inability to switch off.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

"As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.

I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.

I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax."

Not that I am 'trying to find out about your daily business'

But is it a problem switching off mentally, physically or both?

Maybe (if possible) a pleasant 20 to 30 minute walk earlier on. To walk off your day before your soak in the bath.

And if more mentally switch off?

Consider looking at mindfulness techniques.

They are good at controlling the 'active mind and chatter you get in your head' switching off you mind to help relax.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

There's an off switch?!?!?

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By *izusMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Just stop worrying about the world and what may be. If it's not happened yet why worry about it?

It's nothing to do with age. Don't be a worry wart you look amazing.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

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This 100 percent.

We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.

Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"There's an off switch?!?!?

After 3 or 4 days with no sleep I find mine operates automatically and with little warning. It shuts my whole body down, not just my brain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I turn the tv and lights off, close my eyes and listen to music.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As part of that meditation and mind-fullness, I also factor in exercise.

When I'm out on the cycle, its just me and the road and I feel like I've left everything else behind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This sounds daft but I've recently discovered colouring books for grown-ups actually do help me relax and switch my brain off.

I've just ordered a dot-to-dot book for adults, (1000 dots per picture), to see if that has a similar effect."

I might have to try this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.

In which case we should meditate for an hour.

Wise words.....

Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.

No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.

Just allow the mind to wind down.

The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".

We need to learn how to be "off".

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

Definitely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

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This 100 percent.

We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.

Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.

I was reading about mindfulness in a magazine on holiday the other day

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.

In which case we should meditate for an hour.

Wise words.....

Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.

No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.

Just allow the mind to wind down.

The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".

We need to learn how to be "off"."

Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I turn the tv and lights off, close my eyes and listen to music."

I hardly watch any TV.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

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This 100 percent.

We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.

Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.

I was reading about mindfulness in a magazine on holiday the other day

There are some great books and online resources about it.

It's worth giving it a try.

But it does take a little practice.

As you are training your brain to switch off and focus on the 'now'

Generally your mind will flick back and too when trying it for the first couple of times.

This is normal and stick with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I turn the tv and lights off, close my eyes and listen to music.

I hardly watch any TV."

I tend to mostly watch the Discovery channel if anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?"

There are many different types.

Vedic, Yogic, Zen, Mindfulness, Loving meditation to name a few; there is no right one, just the one that's right for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

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This 100 percent.

We are 'constantly' engaged and switched on.

Your mind needs to rest and his other comment about mindfulness is spot on.

I was reading about mindfulness in a magazine on holiday the other day

There are some great books and online resources about it.

It's worth giving it a try.

But it does take a little practice.

As you are training your brain to switch off and focus on the 'now'

Generally your mind will flick back and too when trying it for the first couple of times.

This is normal and stick with it.

Thankyou

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

There are some great books and online resources about it.

It's worth giving it a try.

But it does take a little practice.

As you are training your brain to switch off and focus on the 'now'

Generally your mind will flick back and too when trying it for the first couple of times.

This is normal and stick with it.

Thankyou

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You're more than welcome.

I really hope you manage to find something that works for you and allows you to switch off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.

In which case we should meditate for an hour.

Wise words.....

Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.

No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.

Just allow the mind to wind down.

The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".

We need to learn how to be "off".

Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?"

Meditation is about emptying the mind.

Is next to impossible to "think of nothing".

It's about relaxing the mind.

As a simple exercise to start, just picture yourself doing something you love.

Paint the scene vividly, full colour, the sounds, the whole picture. Immerse yourself in the thoughts.

Although your mind is active, it's not active about work, family, TV and other information overloads.

After time you should be able to wind down properly.

If you're struggling with sleep this is essential.

Sleep is how we naturally recharge our batteries.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.

In which case we should meditate for an hour.

Wise words.....

Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.

No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.

Just allow the mind to wind down.

The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".

We need to learn how to be "off".

Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?

Meditation is about emptying the mind.

Is next to impossible to "think of nothing".

It's about relaxing the mind.

As a simple exercise to start, just picture yourself doing something you love.

Paint the scene vividly, full colour, the sounds, the whole picture. Immerse yourself in the thoughts.

Although your mind is active, it's not active about work, family, TV and other information overloads.

After time you should be able to wind down properly.

If you're struggling with sleep this is essential.

Sleep is how we naturally recharge our batteries. "

I really need to try some of this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"His Holiness the Dali Lama says we should meditate for 10 minutes every day, unless we're busy.

In which case we should meditate for an hour.

Wise words.....

Half an hour before bed I turn off the TV /radio/stereo and lights, put away any work or book I might be reading. Close the curtains and sit in silence for 30 minutes.

No external influences or distractions, no noise no conversation.

Just allow the mind to wind down.

The Professor is right. We spend too much time "on".

We need to learn how to be "off".

Is meditation just sitting there in silence? Thought some sort of chanting was involved?

Meditation is about emptying the mind.

Is next to impossible to "think of nothing".

It's about relaxing the mind.

As a simple exercise to start, just picture yourself doing something you love.

Paint the scene vividly, full colour, the sounds, the whole picture. Immerse yourself in the thoughts.

Although your mind is active, it's not active about work, family, TV and other information overloads.

After time you should be able to wind down properly.

If you're struggling with sleep this is essential.

Sleep is how we naturally recharge our batteries. "

I'm ok with sleeping generally. I shall have a look in line about it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Music BCW; I let the female voice (and guitars) caress my mind!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walking the pooch in the hills and music , love my music

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

I just sit down or lie down close my eyes and imagine the warm sun on different parts of my body in turn.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use a great relaxation / mediation app on my iPad.

Lie in bed ready for sleep, use a decent pair of headphones and switch on.

The effect of the voice / music is along the lines of self hypnosis, totally chills me out and I usually end up nodding off before the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Interestingly I wonder how much of this is actually related to your perception of getting older and how much is actually the change we are experiencing in our lifestyles.

This.

I dont take my phone or ipad to bed

I usually have a yankee candle on take a book and a drink

30 mins reading i find helps me unwind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put some music on turn the lights down low and lie back and close my eyes...

works every time... amazing what happens when the tv goes off and the music goes on..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Martial arts. Physically it uses the whole body, which simply makes you feel better, but there is a massive mental side to it: learning moves, patterns/katas, and the co-ordination required means you have to switch off from everything.

If you then move on to sparring, then that's an even greater level of concentration, focus and detachment needed.

Work? What work?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read my Kindle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Exercise! !!!!

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

A nice Strum works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting it hard from behind I find it hard to think of anything else.......

So that works for me

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

i like a good hard session with a pretty women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.

I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.

I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax."

We find that a great night of fun does the job nicely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As I'm getting older I find it more and more difficult to switch off.

I love a nice long soak in the bath, but I don't relax in it like I used too.

I find, as I'm getting older, the harder it is to switch off and relax.

We find that a great night of fun does the job nicely

I sometimes find an orgasm, alone, helps me to drift off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cuddle and stroke...my 3 dogs, seriously every time you stroke a dog it released the 'feel good' chemicals to your brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Roofies.

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