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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So have been on the site on and off for a while as a couple, but now I'm a single....just a bit worried bout safety when meeting, always do a social meet first but a bit apprehensive about meeting at a guys place..

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester

Seeing as you've been on here as couple I trust that you know how to vet people on here, coupled with the hope that you know when something doesn't feel right I think you'll be fine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By *aughtyinguMan
over a year ago

swindon

Meet somewhere public first?

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By *otsoSnowWhiteWoman
over a year ago

My Ice Castle! South Wales

Have a safe buddy. Someone who knows where you are and if hadn't heard from you by a certain time will ring to check on you. Any meet should be understanding of this as men should be just as careful as women they are taking a risk too

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

If I was meeting as a single it wouldn't be in the persons house. What about a hotel instead?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Have a safe buddy. Someone who knows where you are and if hadn't heard from you by a certain time will ring to check on you. Any meet should be understanding of this as men should be just as careful as women they are taking a risk too"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers all, some good advice xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"So have been on the site on and off for a while as a couple, but now I'm a single....just a bit worried bout safety when meeting, always do a social meet first but a bit apprehensive about meeting at a guys place.."

If I was meeting as a single I think I'd opt for clubs rather than private houses or hotels. A social meet doesn't tell you any more than if you find the person physically attractive and they are the one in the picture.

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton


"So have been on the site on and off for a while as a couple, but now I'm a single....just a bit worried bout safety when meeting, always do a social meet first but a bit apprehensive about meeting at a guys place..

If I was meeting as a single I think I'd opt for clubs rather than private houses or hotels. A social meet doesn't tell you any more than if you find the person physically attractive and they are the one in the picture."

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This for me.

Great advice.

Club visits preferably for me all the time.

Also gives you the option of if it doesn't quite click..

Much easier to excuse yourself from the situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Social first where possible.

build up a rapport via whatssap / kik

hotel / club meet

The above has served me well ~ ive trusted my instinct throughout & have since met once at someone's house.

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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago

in the suffolk countryside

i offer a strictly social meet first, somewhere neutral or in a club with no expectations to play...

i never give out my phone number...

i always let my friend know (who knows what i am doing) where i am going and when ill be back...

i dont do hotels and i always have an exit strategy..i take my own car and i dont drink or i have enough money for taxis..etc...

i do alright, guys who want to meet you or couples seem to accept this 'set up'

good luck sweet, and use your intuition. if your gut says no, then you say no xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Public meeting is the best start

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"Social first where possible.

build up a rapport via whatssap / kik

hotel / club meet

The above has served me well ~ ive trusted my instinct throughout & have since met once at someone's house.

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where's Berkshire again?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yes as I say I always do social meets first s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had a social and normally meet in a hotel but have met at someone's house. I don't think a social is necessary, neither is a club meet..just spend longer getting to know them and getting a feel for them. I've never been wrong yet and don't feel I'm less safe than those that insist in a social first.....all that proves is that the guy is able to function in a social setting. it doesn't tell me whether he's any good at sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Social first where possible.

build up a rapport via whatssap / kik

hotel / club meet

The above has served me well ~ ive trusted my instinct throughout & have since met once at someone's house.

where's Berkshire again?"

Darn sarf dahling

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By *ourbonKissMan
over a year ago

a land up north..... of leicester


"Social first where possible.

build up a rapport via whatssap / kik

hotel / club meet

The above has served me well ~ ive trusted my instinct throughout & have since met once at someone's house.

where's Berkshire again?

Darn sarf dahling "

ah that's it, where the women are oh so welcoming

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"So have been on the site on and off for a while as a couple, but now I'm a single....just a bit worried bout safety when meeting, always do a social meet first but a bit apprehensive about meeting at a guys place..

If I was meeting as a single I think I'd opt for clubs rather than private houses or hotels. A social meet doesn't tell you any more than if you find the person physically attractive and they are the one in the picture."

Ah I wish I could do this, realistically. My nearest club is something daft like 90 miles away.

I can't often afford to offer to go halves on a hotel either.

I'm not comfortable inviting strangers to my home, and I don't feel safe going to theirs either, (I worry about hidden cameras as well as safety and other aspects), even after a social.

It frequently puts me off meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I am meeting I normally do a coffee social first but have on a few occasions gone straight to theirs. I have used my gut instincts but have also told a friend. I have been really lucky as the guys I have met like that have all been great. Well exept one who I found out after was a lier but that was years ago now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Have a safe buddy. Someone who knows where you are and if hadn't heard from you by a certain time will ring to check on you. Any meet should be understanding of this as men should be just as careful as women they are taking a risk too"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In same boat here X

Was on for 4 years as part of a couple but now a single. All sound advice above. Been chatting to a few ladies on here and my idea is to let the lady organise the social meet

As a couple we always took I to consideration that we met singles so we tried to make them as comfy as possible regarding times and places etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always meet publicly first. Get a feel for them before deciding or try a club.

Yes this is a sex site but you have every right to ensure you feel safe and secure.

And I always suggest taking self defence classes (not just for this but in general, it's.. Great skill to have)

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

You could always meet a couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what my wife does and meet in places with thin walls such as Travelodge. Go by veris and chat lots and lots first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a pure safety aspect and nothing else, a social meet first is pointless. A person who wants to do you harm could be all charming and a gentleman on the meet and then show his true colours later. You are better off sussung them out over a period of time by texting or phone chats first. And on the day of playtime let your best mate know where you are and what your up to within reason. Maybe agree a pre arranged chat time to make sure all is well. I appreciate that can be a passion killer but your safety is paramount.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So have been on the site on and off for a while as a couple, but now I'm a single....just a bit worried bout safety when meeting, always do a social meet first but a bit apprehensive about meeting at a guys place.."

Have you met anyone on your own before?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Safety buddy and hotel meets work well for me. I feel safer in a city centre hotel where I know how I can get home quickly and easily rather than at a club on unfamiliar turf and I wouldn't go to someone's house or get in their car until I was at a point I felt I knew them quite well, which is after a good few meets for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's crap without someone to share it with.

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


"I've never had a social and normally meet in a hotel but have met at someone's house. I don't think a social is necessary, neither is a club meet..just spend longer getting to know them and getting a feel for them. I've never been wrong yet and don't feel I'm less safe than those that insist in a social first.....all that proves is that the guy is able to function in a social setting. it doesn't tell me whether he's any good at sex "

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"So have been on the site on and off for a while as a couple, but now I'm a single....just a bit worried bout safety when meeting, always do a social meet first but a bit apprehensive about meeting at a guys place..

If I was meeting as a single I think I'd opt for clubs rather than private houses or hotels. A social meet doesn't tell you any more than if you find the person physically attractive and they are the one in the picture."

Disagree!

Dodged many a bullet by having a social meet first. In seven years of meeting as a single in my home and theirs not once have I felt uncomfortable.

I've read on here of women arranging to meet in a hotel to turn up to find a group of men who had paid expecting a gang bang etc.

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples


"From a pure safety aspect and nothing else, a social meet first is pointless. A person who wants to do you harm could be all charming and a gentleman on the meet and then show his true colours later. You are better off sussung them out over a period of time by texting or phone chats first. And on the day of playtime let your best mate know where you are and what your up to within reason. Maybe agree a pre arranged chat time to make sure all is well. I appreciate that can be a passion killer but your safety is paramount."

Sorry, completely disagree with this

A person can pretend to be any one they want via messages and phone calls but in person is a very different thing

I always have a social meet with new people because I am very good at Reading people, their body language is something that many don't control

Yes, use messaging and chat as a tool to get to know someone new prior to a social but meeting in person is the best way for your instincts to get a feel for someone

Keeping yourself safe is your main priority and meeting for fun at their place or a hotel doesn't guarantee you'll be safe from Harm

Ensuring you have good instincts and listening to them is key, as is having at least one friend that can know where your headed and with who

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"From a pure safety aspect and nothing else, a social meet first is pointless. A person who wants to do you harm could be all charming and a gentleman on the meet and then show his true colours later. You are better off sussung them out over a period of time by texting or phone chats first. And on the day of playtime let your best mate know where you are and what your up to within reason. Maybe agree a pre arranged chat time to make sure all is well. I appreciate that can be a passion killer but your safety is paramount."

Social works for me. One man was absolutely charming in messages and on the phone. When we met he walked in front of me into the pub without holding the door for me. He went and ordered his drink and when I asked if he was going to get me one he replied "this ain't a date love!"

I didn't stay and he phoned to ask what he'd done wrong!

Then there was the charmer who regaled me with tales of the threesomes experiences he and his business partner enjoyed with African whores which meant I wouldn't touch him with someone else's bargepole let alone mine.

I could go on, but you get my drift. As I've said, in seven years not had a problem, until my last social meet in November 2013...he's snoring beside me!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"From a pure safety aspect and nothing else, a social meet first is pointless. A person who wants to do you harm could be all charming and a gentleman on the meet and then show his true colours later. You are better off sussung them out over a period of time by texting or phone chats first. And on the day of playtime let your best mate know where you are and what your up to within reason. Maybe agree a pre arranged chat time to make sure all is well. I appreciate that can be a passion killer but your safety is paramount.

Sorry, completely disagree with this

A person can pretend to be any one they want via messages and phone calls but in person is a very different thing

I always have a social meet with new people because I am very good at Reading people, their body language is something that many don't control

Yes, use messaging and chat as a tool to get to know someone new prior to a social but meeting in person is the best way for your instincts to get a feel for someone

Keeping yourself safe is your main priority and meeting for fun at their place or a hotel doesn't guarantee you'll be safe from Harm

Ensuring you have good instincts and listening to them is key, as is having at least one friend that can know where your headed and with who "

Indeed!

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