FabSwingers.com forum: What is it with rejection ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi folks, can anyone explain when chatting and the face pics are sent and we politely say sorry but their is no attraction there for us, why do we get the usual aye well we don't like you's either and block us ? S&J

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teddy, pram, thrown out......simple really.

Cocky bastards who think they are Gods gift.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Egos are a fragile thing.

Glad I don't have one, I'm just awesome.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not nice to be told you aren't physically attractive, even if it's not directly said.

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By *ob6474Man
over a year ago

telford

"Teddy, pram, thrown out......simple really.

Cocky bastards who think they are Gods gift....."

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sounds like a formative developmental stage hasnt occurred evectively for them. Deficient people.

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"It's not nice to be told you aren't physically attractive, even if it's not directly said."

True but we are all supposed to be adults and just accept it is a fact of life that we aren't attractive to all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I must say that we've never had a response like that. If the people who we say "no thanks" too respond, it has always been pleasant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not nice to be told you aren't physically attractive, even if it's not directly said.

True but we are all supposed to be adults and just accept it is a fact of life that we aren't attractive to all "

Yeah but if you're attractive to someone then rejection isn't that bad. I'd be well pissed off if nobody at all found me attractive. On other sites i only got unattractive guys messaging me coz that's all there is on them (i look for guys as well) and i don't like it and leave the site though rather than rant about it.

I also think some people on here are desperate for sex so don't handle not being able to get any and need to change their mindset too.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Maybe it's something that happens more with single blokes?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not nice to be told you aren't physically attractive, even if it's not directly said.

True but we are all supposed to be adults and just accept it is a fact of life that we aren't attractive to all "

interestingly enough I have found it to be the younger guys (in their 20's) that have thrown their teddies...so perhaps there is something lacking in the education or raising of that generation

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It happens.

My "rejection" today was softened with cake. That's a man with style.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I take it op, you sent a pic so they had a chance to see you before you rejecting them? lol.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

We have that a lot. Like people have said it is upsetting to get told no thanks even if it's polite and keyboards give them the option to mouth off about it.

I find begging the worst... when will people learn that desperation is not a good look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alas, the ego is a fragile beast.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So I take it op, you sent a pic so they had a chance to see you before you rejecting them? lol."

Always, if someone sends a pic we send one back and would expect the same if we sent one too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acting like kids, if your in this you have to prepared for rejection like anywhere else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have that a lot. Like people have said it is upsetting to get told no thanks even if it's polite and keyboards give them the option to mouth off about it.

I find begging the worst... when will people learn that desperation is not a good look

One guy said he would pay after I said no lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We have that a lot. Like people have said it is upsetting to get told no thanks even if it's polite and keyboards give them the option to mouth off about it.

I find begging the worst... when will people learn that desperation is not a good look

One guy said he would pay after I said no lol"

That is terrible, how much did he say ? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have that a lot. Like people have said it is upsetting to get told no thanks even if it's polite and keyboards give them the option to mouth off about it.

I find begging the worst... when will people learn that desperation is not a good look

One guy said he would pay after I said no lol

That is terrible, how much did he say ? lol"

That is irrelevant...this is a swingers site not a prostitution site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had my filters off for FPF. I have been informed first thing this morning that he could do better than me as I'm fat anyway. It made me feel crap. Not like I don't say what size I am !

Guess he got some satisfaction from saying it. Shame some people feel the need to act like that.

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By *tmmCouple
over a year ago

harlow

Been offered money here too. But like it's been said this is not the place for it.

"I have had my filters off for FPF. I have been informed first thing this morning that he could do better than me as I'm fat anyway. It made me feel crap. Not like I don't say what size I am !

Guess he got some satisfaction from saying it. Shame some people feel the need to act like that. "

This is what I mean about keyboard warriors. Would love to see him have the balls to say it to your face.

Ignore him though - you're gorgeous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women do this too, ffs, we can't all fancy everyone, and I ain't gonna fuck someone I don't fancy, get real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So I take it op, you sent a pic so they had a chance to see you before you rejecting them? lol.

Always, if someone sends a pic we send one back and would expect the same if we sent one too."
That's good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh I have had my first stroppy post rejection message.

Politely declined as not my type and received a message asking why I was hiding my face, was I ugly?

I resisted the urge to reply and used the good old block button instead

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By *-ManMan
over a year ago

Kark

"Sur' you're a swinger, you'd ride anybody, so why not me?" Is the thinking

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

I just say no thanks now as I find if you give a reason it can lead to trying to twist your arm or a sarcastic come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi folks, can anyone explain when chatting and the face pics are sent and we politely say sorry but their is no attraction there for us, why do we get the usual aye well we don't like you's either and block us ? S&J"

Suppose it depends how you word it. We tend to say they're 'not what we're looking for' rather than 'jeez yer an ugly git'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it depends how you word it. We tend to say they're 'not what we're looking for' rather than 'jeez yer an ugly git'."

This is what I would say yes. Nothing personal, just a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never had anyone take it badly. However I've had a couple that's said OK but your my type, want to meet? haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suppose it depends how you word it. We tend to say they're 'not what we're looking for' rather than 'jeez yer an ugly git'."

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By *ildt123Man
over a year ago

Huddersfield

Immaturity, lack of self confidence / low self esteem are the most likely causes. Rejection isn't pleasant, if your asked for a face pic they will be thinking it's happening but as soon as they send it you say no it's obvious it's their face, in the real world rejection isn't that specific as you don't get involved if you don't fancy them. When hurt some people lash out, it's human behaviour and quite common I suspect. They will get over it but like others have said best be gentle.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I don't get any shit from guys, all this negativity women get on here is alien to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get any shit from guys, all this negativity women get on here is alien to me"

I get abuse very, very rarely on here so it does make me wonder what the women who say they get 6 or 7 messages of abuse a day are doing or saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not nice to be told you aren't physically attractive, even if it's not directly said.

True but we are all supposed to be adults and just accept it is a fact of life that we aren't attractive to all "
uf there's 1 thing ive learned of fab its that adults can be very childish. Fab is a playground for adults

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a pride thing I think (not that it makes it right)

I hate being rejected, doesn't feel good at all.

However folding your arms in a strip, sticking your bottom lip out and sulking like a 4 year old who's been told they can't have a cookie isn't the way to deal with it.

Some people should perhaps get over them selves.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

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So if these lampshades aren't up to standard, do you still sell them or do you reject them?-see it's never ending this rejection thing.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

So if these lampshades aren't up to standard, do you still sell them or do you reject them?-see it's never ending this rejection thing."

So far I've been lucky and had top notch skin quality as I make my victims moisturise regularly before I murder them. But yes, if their skin is not up to par I would not hesitate to send a strongly worded complaint to the corpse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we never worry - its them with the insecurities not us- wanting the last word etc - makes us smile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

So if these lampshades aren't up to standard, do you still sell them or do you reject them?-see it's never ending this rejection thing.

How much do you sell these lampshades for?

I could do with a couple, but they must be made from the skin of virgins

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

So if these lampshades aren't up to standard, do you still sell them or do you reject them?-see it's never ending this rejection thing.

How much do you sell these lampshades for?

I could do with a couple, but they must be made from the skin of virgins

Oh I keep all my 'girls' in a special room. I could never part with one. I can make you one if you select someone yourself though? Mates rates?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

So if these lampshades aren't up to standard, do you still sell them or do you reject them?-see it's never ending this rejection thing.

How much do you sell these lampshades for?

I could do with a couple, but they must be made from the skin of virgins

Oh I keep all my 'girls' in a special room. I could never part with one. I can make you one if you select someone yourself though? Mates rates?"

I'll put a meet up for any virgins, bash them over the head with my rabbit & you can proceed to make me a lampshade.

Jobs a good 'un

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Women do this too, ffs, we can't all fancy everyone, and I ain't gonna fuck someone I don't fancy, get real "

well done you!

OP; Don't take it to heart, you're being nice saying no thanks, the majority will appreciate you've taken time to do that! If others can't handle it that's their problem..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

duly noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a tricky one for me because I'm the one who messages the guy 1st to ask for a face picture. When they send one back and I don't find them attractive I feel like a bit of a dick then because I initiated it. Always say yeah you're handsome but I like dark hair or I like guys with bushier eyebrows or I'll say a feature that they haven't got rather than say not my type. Rejection stings and I don't like people to feel it!

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"I just see rejection as a new opportunity to advance my hobby.

No nasty messages here I just make a human skin lampshade out of everyone who rejects me.

duly noted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a tricky one for me because I'm the one who messages the guy 1st to ask for a face picture. When they send one back and I don't find them attractive I feel like a bit of a dick then because I initiated it. Always say yeah you're handsome but I like dark hair or I like guys with bushier eyebrows or I'll say a feature that they haven't got rather than say not my type. Rejection stings and I don't like people to feel it!"

The vast majority of people don't have a problem with it. I think people overthink their importance to the person they're rejecting. If you don't like the look of either of us we literally won't give it a second thought, seriously we'll live!

Very very very few people take it badly, and we tell people straight that they aren't what we're looking for and to date we haven't had a single one take it badly. All we've had is two why nots and that's it.

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

I don't like my own face pics much. Should I block myself and flounce off in a huff?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which is a fair one but we all have to face rejection at times.

How you deliver the message is all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like my own face pics much. Should I block myself and flounce off in a huff?"

We hate our own pics too haha, never seem to come out right, but stuff it, they're the only faces we've got

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rejection is not easy to take and it takes real gentlemen to undrerstand . There is a general assumption on here that since it's a swingers site , everyone should just shag everyone , which I find funny really .

Whenever I have been rejected , I have gladly moved on without asking , and the truth be told , this is the easiest site where you can get free sex by just behaving nicely and being patient.

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