FabSwingers.com forum: Saying "I'm sorry"

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do you find it hard to say?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never do anything wrong so never have to say it

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By *ex_OnTheBeachCouple
over a year ago

kent ( by the seaside )

If I'm wrong and I know that I'm wrong then no, I don't find it hard to say sorry.

But it's not that often that I have to say it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

If I'm genuinely sorry and I know I'm wrong I can say it easily, if I'm not in the wrong I'm buggered if I'm saying sorry.

If someone apologises to me and means it I generally accept it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

takes a man to say sorry!

words dont mean anything...actions do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hated saying sorry when I was younger and was very stubborn but if I'm in the wrong now I may say it ( it might still take a couple of days, but I'll say it )

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"takes a man to say sorry!

words dont mean anything...actions do!"

good man!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hated saying sorry when I was younger and was very stubborn but if I'm in the wrong now I may say it ( it might still take a couple of days, but I'll say it )

Hahaha isn't it funny why some find it hard?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say it often and mean it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will "

Why don't you like to say it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you are wrong and prepared to admit it and apologise it shows strength of character.

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By *igertigerCouple (MM)
over a year ago

nr Letterkenny

"takes a man to say sorry!

words dont mean anything...actions do!

good man!

If in the wrong own up say sorry won't happen and mean it...otherwise karma will come and bite you on the bum

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I always admit I'm wrong when I've been caught out

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Not at all. I say it and mean it. I won't say it if I have nothing to apologise for, whatever the other party may think. I will apologise for the fact of any lack of reasonable compromise on my part and would expect the same back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hated saying sorry when I was younger and was very stubborn but if I'm in the wrong now I may say it ( it might still take a couple of days, but I'll say it )

Hahaha isn't it funny why some find it hard?

I don't find it hard as such, just takes me some time to think through the situation and then realise an apology is owed. If I'm in the wrong though, generally I'll apologise and explain myself

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

Why don't you like to say it?

No one likes admitting they're wrong, do they?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying it is easy meaning it is another thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm sorry I we'll say so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if I know I have made a genuine mistake, or been out of order.

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

Nope. If I'm wrong, I'm wrong.

For me, people are intelligent enough to know when they messed up. Not saying sorry doesn't just mean arrogance but that you're likely to repeat the mistake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying it is easy meaning it is another thing "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I'm genuinely sorry and I know I'm wrong I can say it easily, if I'm not in the wrong I'm buggered if I'm saying sorry.

If someone apologises to me and means it I generally accept it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

Why don't you like to say it?

No one likes admitting they're wrong, do they? "

I don't know. I will always apologise if my actions have caused hurt, distress, upset whatever. And I mean it. Sometimes an apology is all that is needed. But it has to be through voice, texts and emails just don't do it.

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By *andy6677Man
over a year ago

crewe

I do if im in the wrong xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

Why don't you like to say it?

No one likes admitting they're wrong, do they? "

People say that a lot. Why not? I'm happy to admit being wrong. No-one is perfect. Learn from mistakes. I'm always fucking up. Such is life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why you asking?

Who's apologised and what have they done?

And, why don't you believe it was hard for them to say sorry?....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

Why don't you like to say it?

No one likes admitting they're wrong, do they?

People say that a lot. Why not? I'm happy to admit being wrong. No-one is perfect. Learn from mistakes. I'm always fucking up. Such is life. "

I think it's a really good quality to put your hands up and admit to fucking up and genuinely apologise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why you asking?

Who's apologised and what have they done?

And, why don't you believe it was hard for them to say sorry?....

Hahaha would you like a spade for your digging?

I often find those that sit on their horse, which is ever so high, are the ones least likely to apologise

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

As Homer said "i never apologise. I'm sorry that's just the way I am".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why you asking?

Who's apologised and what have they done?

And, why don't you believe it was hard for them to say sorry?....

Hahaha would you like a spade for your digging?

I often find those that sit on their horse, which is ever so high, are the ones least likely to apologise

(oops)

..............

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not if I'm actually wrong.

If I still think I'm right, then I'm stubborn as hell and I'm not backing down.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I find it really hard to say if I have to say it and don't feel it. Like I want to be really childish about it and stomp my feet over it (I don't, but I sure think it). If I mean it I have no problem saying it though.

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By *an_WoodMan
over a year ago

Stafford

I regret any misunderstanding that may have occurred historical while retaining my legal right to avoid any future liabilities

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

Why don't you like to say it?

No one likes admitting they're wrong, do they?

Agreed. I had a text from my man yesterday and I knew something was off. I called him and he said that the text I'd previously sent him had sounded like I was planning to do something without him. I wasn't, as I include him in everything and had assumed that went without saying, but it had obviously bothered him so I immediately apologised

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can say it no problem if I know I'm in the wrong

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

I say 'sorry' a lot when trying to avoid tripping people with my crutches.. But actually apologising to people for things is kinda hard

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

" I think it's a really good quality to put your hands up and admit to fucking up and genuinely apologise.

It is, and I do. I'd just prefer not to be wrong, lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like saying it, but if I'm in the wrong i will

Why don't you like to say it?

No one likes admitting they're wrong, do they?

Exactly!! Some people immediately get defensive when they are wrong, which then turns into a bigger issue than if they had just said sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I regret any misunderstanding that may have occurred historical while retaining my legal right to avoid any future liabilities

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I say 'sorry' a lot when trying to avoid tripping people with my crutches.. But actually apologising to people for things is kinda hard "

When do you get off the crutches? Seems like ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i say sorry when its not my fault -

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Nope

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Apologizing doesn't always mean you are wrong...Sometimes it just means you value your relationships more than your ego."

It doesn't actually matter - if someone has been hurt, regretting that and putting it right is the most important thing, so I never mind saying sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

""Apologizing doesn't always mean you are wrong...Sometimes it just means you value your relationships more than your ego."

It doesn't actually matter - if someone has been hurt, regretting that and putting it right is the most important thing, so I never mind saying sorry.

Perfectly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not always about ego. I won't apologise if I'm not in the wrong, and I don't want people I have relationships with to do so either because I think it creates the wrong balance. If everyone is apologising to everyone else all the time then it means nothing when you say it and actually mean it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying sorry isn't easy, sometimes through embarrassment, sometimes through pig headedness.

But I do, and am sincere about it.

And I agree with Mav in that txt or mail is crap. It has to be personal and heartfelt, so the minimum of a call if you're able to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Saying sorry isn't easy, sometimes through embarrassment, sometimes through pig headedness.

But I do, and am sincere about it.

And I agree with Mav in that txt or mail is crap. It has to be personal and heartfelt, so the minimum of a call if you're able to

Iv received a sorry via a phone call and it didn't mean jack shit

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It's not always about ego. I won't apologise if I'm not in the wrong, and I don't want people I have relationships with to do so either because I think it creates the wrong balance. If everyone is apologising to everyone else all the time then it means nothing when you say it and actually mean it."

Oh I agree, my ex was a master at the meaningless platitude, and some people will apologise for breathing almost.

But that's not what I mean. If I have made an error I have no problem apologising for that, but even if I have not, I can still express regret at a situation and a desire to restore harmony, and that always helps I believe.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

I watched a video by a male rape survivor/comedian about how male rape and sexual abuse is lampooned by society, and it was so awful and true I made a public apology online for ever laughing about it - got a lot of likes from gay male friends, which made me really sad.

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By *r.slapntickleMan
over a year ago

south shields

Saying sorry is one thing but sayin it and meanin it or two different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if I'm wrong and/ or have caused an upset then I will always say sorry, it's not hard for me to say at all.

I won't say it for the sake of it as it becomes a throw away word without any meaning.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv no problem sayn sorry as I'm always wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I have always taken the approach, as per my grandparents. I never go to bed on an argument. Life is too short for arguing and sorry is such a small word.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

The ones that annoy me are the "I'm sorry you're upset" or "I'm sorry that you feel that way". Total non apology.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always say sorry .when i.am wrong. Best way

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"I say 'sorry' a lot when trying to avoid tripping people with my crutches.. But actually apologising to people for things is kinda hard

When do you get off the crutches? Seems like ages.

It's been 7 and a half months.. Lots of complications.. I'm looking at another 6-12 months recovery..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I hate the ones that say "we have both been wrong".... What?!! I'm responsible for apologizing for MY behavior. YOU are responsible for YOURS!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't say sorry for what i've done

I won't say sorry for having fun

I won't take the blame

No i ain't gonna be ashamed

Won't say sorry for what i've done

I don't say sorry to anyone

Shout it out

I don't give a damn cos im proud of what i am

Shout it out

I don't give a damn 'cos i'm proud of what i am

I won't say sorry to you

If you think i will you know what you can do

I won't apologise

and i won't put up with any of you lies

I won't say sorry to you

You can stuff that up your asshole too

I won't say sorry for what i act

I won't say sorry for the manners i lack

I won't say sorry at all

I won't say sorry 'cos it makes me feel small

I won't say sorry for the way i act

I won't say sorry and thats a fact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, I have always taken the approach, as per my grandparents. I never go to bed on an argument. Life is too short for arguing and sorry is such a small word.

Wise words.....I never to go to bed on an arguement & I always look to solve the issue before any of my kids leave the house for the day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Saying sorry isn't easy, sometimes through embarrassment, sometimes through pig headedness.

But I do, and am sincere about it.

And I agree with Mav in that txt or mail is crap. It has to be personal and heartfelt, so the minimum of a call if you're able to

Iv received a sorry via a phone call and it didn't mean jack shit "

I think that's partly down to the person also... I had the same, and told him straight it wasn't accepted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you find it hard to say?

Yes I do. In fact, any emotion is hard for me to say verbally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you find it hard to say?

Yes I do. In fact, any emotion is hard for me to say verbally.

After plenty of thought yes I say sorry if I'm in the wrong but I'll be damned if I'd say it just to keep the peace

Rach

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By *r reliable cardiffMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I watched a video by a male rape survivor/comedian about how male rape and sexual abuse is lampooned by society, and it was so awful and true I made a public apology online for ever laughing about it - got a lot of likes from gay male friends, which made me really sad."
Respect

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"No, I have always taken the approach, as per my grandparents. I never go to bed on an argument. Life is too short for arguing and sorry is such a small word.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its hard to say if im truly sorry but I then make sure I say it cos that person means somethING important to me and although I may of already lost them i need them to no im remorseful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sorry for anything i do...my intentions are always good

Oh...sorry about the sarcasm

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I think if you are wrong and prepared to admit it and apologise it shows strength of character."

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Why you asking?

Who's apologised and what have they done?

And, why don't you believe it was hard for them to say sorry?....

Hahaha would you like a spade for your digging?

I often find those that sit on their horse, which is ever so high, are the ones least likely to apologise

Horses (high or otherwise): Dangerous at both ends and uncomfortable in the middle...

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

"If I'm genuinely sorry and I know I'm wrong I can say it easily, if I'm not in the wrong I'm buggered if I'm saying sorry.

If someone apologises to me and means it I generally accept it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why you asking?

Who's apologised and what have they done?

And, why don't you believe it was hard for them to say sorry?....

Hahaha would you like a spade for your digging?

I often find those that sit on their horse, which is ever so high, are the ones least likely to apologise

Horses (high or otherwise): Dangerous at both ends and uncomfortable in the middle..."

Well indeed.. Some are more like miniature ponies... But.. Each to their own

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By *uietlyBohemianCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

How to say sorry - genuinely.

Say "I'm Sorry."

Acknowledge what you did/said that was stupid/insensitive/inconsiderate/wrong.

Acknowledge the consequences of it.

Apologise for the additional suffering caused.

Say what you are going to do to fix the problem (if possible) and change the behaviour to avoid it in the future.

Ask if that's enough to resolve and put it behind you both.

Apologising isn't about putting up a defence or diverting blame, or continuing an argument. It's about making things right in a situation where you care about the person you wronged more than you care about your own bloody silly pride.

(This is from Mr., having learned the above over many years practise of being an idiot.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry is not hard to say...any adult should be able to say it when they are wrong.....!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"How to say sorry - genuinely.

Say "I'm Sorry."

Acknowledge what you did/said that was stupid/insensitive/inconsiderate/wrong.

Acknowledge the consequences of it.

Apologise for the additional suffering caused.

Say what you are going to do to fix the problem (if possible) and change the behaviour to avoid it in the future.

Ask if that's enough to resolve and put it behind you both.

(This is from Mr., having learned the above over many years practise of being an idiot.)

Can I find a man like you please sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Saying sorry can be admitting your wrong and nobody likes doing that..... Especially me lol

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Not a problem. If I know I've done something wrong I'll happily apologise. Doesn't happen very often though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you find it hard to say?

If im wrong then im wrong and will admit it no probs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry seems to be the hardest word...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say it a lot

I have no trouble saying I'm sorry fortunately

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"How to say sorry - genuinely.

Say "I'm Sorry."

Acknowledge what you did/said that was stupid/insensitive/inconsiderate/wrong.

Acknowledge the consequences of it.

Apologise for the additional suffering caused.

Say what you are going to do to fix the problem (if possible) and change the behaviour to avoid it in the future.

Ask if that's enough to resolve and put it behind you both.

(This is from Mr., having learned the above over many years practise of being an idiot.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me. "

definitely x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me. "
I do. It's such a simple thing to say.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a mad woman behave very badly towards me in the school grounds yesterday....... Soooooo aggressive but I can't make amends with shouty 'I'm right and youre wrong type people'

So I shall avoid eye contact..... I don't want to anger it again.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Played sport all my life where mistakes are common. Do I have always apologised easily.

If I say sorry, I genuinely mean it. And I show it too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me. I do. It's such a simple thing to say.

Yes but often not meant.

Just say it to keep the peace.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Do you find it hard to say?

No.

Its the same as 'love' though, I only say it if I mean it rather than say it to keep the other person happy.

Why do you ask Mav?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's lovely to say sorry. It can clear the air so quickly. I know some who can't or won't but I will readily apologize and mean it.

It is the behavior that counts but stating your position of error is the first step.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me. I do. It's such a simple thing to say.

Yes but often not meant.

Just say it to keep the peace."

Yes but it's also a way of acknowledging that you have hurt the other person in some way. Rather than just pretending it didn't happen.

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By *izzy RascallMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

As above: Why do you ask? (I havent read the thread)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As above: Why do you ask? (I havent read the thread)"

^ lol

I strongly suspect she's not going to blow it out here.

I mean I might be wrong. ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me. I do. It's such a simple thing to say.

Yes but often not meant.

Just say it to keep the peace.

Yes but it's also a way of acknowledging that you have hurt the other person in some way. Rather than just pretending it didn't happen. "

Not if they are just saying it to shut you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't find it difficult but I also don't need people to say they are sorry to me. I do. It's such a simple thing to say.

Yes but often not meant.

Just say it to keep the peace.

Yes but it's also a way of acknowledging that you have hurt the other person in some way. Rather than just pretending it didn't happen.

Not if they are just saying it to shut you up. "

(Not you personally)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you find it hard to say?

If I fuck up I'm man enough to admit it an apologise.

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