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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I recently had a few pics at the top of the fab list (dont know why)

My messages went crazy,I couldn't reply to all. I scanned through and looked for ones with attached pics or nice profile pics.

A few I opened wanted a reply either saying yes or no.

Is not replying considered a no,as I got a few messages from people asking why I deleted their message.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

In my opinion no reply = no, but there are many who believe that is rude. I find replying just encourages them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just reply to me

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Copied from the site FAQ's:

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There are too many rude people on here who don't reply to my messages!

It's not rude not to reply.

Some ladies and couples get hundreds of messages a day so it simply isn't possible for them to reply to everyone. If you don't get a response, you should assume they aren't interested. If you're getting a lot of "no-replies" then you should consider your profile and the messages you send. Are they giving the right message? Are you standing out from the thousands of other guys on here?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We put a line in our profile that says if we don't answer it means a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it's nice if you do but understandable if you don't

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"In my opinion no reply = no, but there are many who believe that is rude. I find replying just encourages them "

I have replied saying no thanks and then I get messages asking why.

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By *ngel n tedCouple
over a year ago

maidstone


"In my opinion no reply = no, but there are many who believe that is rude. I find replying just encourages them

I have replied saying no thanks and then I get messages asking why."

why?

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Once I've said no thanks I ignore further messages

Life's far too short for constant explanation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not replying is generally considered a no, but telling someone to fuck off for asking if there is a particular reason is pretty pathetic, especially if their profile doesn't outline what they're looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion no reply = no, but there are many who believe that is rude. I find replying just encourages them

I have replied saying no thanks and then I get messages asking why."

That's when you block.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"We put a line in our profile that says if we don't answer it means a polite no thanks. "

I didn't bother reading it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not replying is generally considered a no, but telling someone to fuck off for asking if there is a particular reason is pretty pathetic, especially if their profile doesn't outline what they're looking for."

Report abusive mail.

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

As others have said... No reply means no thanks, I'm always amazed why some folk want messages saying no thanks.it always smacks of neediness to me..

Either way your profile your choice how you manage it.

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod
over a year ago

My Own Little World


"Once I've said no thanks I ignore further messages

Life's far too short for constant explanation"

If I reply, I don't normally answer the hi messages, and it is a no I don't answer them again, keep sending me messages and I just block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never expect!

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff

we try to reply, but if we don't we assume people will realise. It happens to all of us, just have to accept we aren't always the right match for other people. Response is nice, but not essential - this is not a dating site after all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a dating site a reply isn't expected either.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Sadly in any walk of life, there's always some folk who won't take no for an answer

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

An unrequited message has no rightful expectation of a reply. Even if some communication has happened, no further reply must be taken to mean that there is no current interest. And no one should persist in chasing others, trying to force an answer.

Blocked means you have closed all options for the other party.

Never succumb to the pressures that others may try to force upon you in Fab. You are free to use the site as you wish, even if you never open your inbox. As long as all are respected and site rules followed, you can relax and enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I blocked someone today for asking why i'd added him as a friend and kept deleting his messages (i hadn't noticed his messages tbh). He was out of my age range anyway so hadn't even read my profile.

Yeah some guys expect replies, others don't have time to dwell on it. Don't worry about it, you don't have to do anything other people want you to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion no reply = no, but there are many who believe that is rude. I find replying just encourages them

I have replied saying no thanks and then I get messages asking why."

A quick reply of because I don't fancy you is just the ticket in these situations then block.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot women like you get 100's of messages a day of men so all carbt expect a reply.

You've just gotta send and hope for the best ??

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Once I've said no thanks I ignore further messages

Life's far too short for constant explanation"

This but its rare. We have found most people accept a no thanks and usually just reply with a best wishes type message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a fair few like the OPs today, if they can't take the hint I just continue to ignore or block, its not rocket science after all!

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