FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

I want this bloke i have a crush on...

We arrange to meet he cancels & makes an excuse...

Ive told him if he wants me to leave him alone i will but he says he still wants me. He says he wants fun but never has time to meet. How can i seduce him lol

This has been going on for 5months, i have met him 3 times but we have only kissed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block ignore move on

Hes playing u

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By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

I am starting to think that

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

He doesn't want to meet you. Move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he really wanted you he would of made more of a effort.

Sorry but I smell a rat maybe he likes the idea of you but the reality is different.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I know that feeling minus the crush bit.

Actions speak louder than words so after a couple of let downs & empty promises I walk away.

Keep it simple & clean.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Block ignore move on

Sounds like he has guilt issues...

Mr ddc

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By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hes not from here, i met him out. But all i seem to be is a shoulder to cry on x

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Hes not from here, i met him out. But all i seem to be is a shoulder to cry on x"
And how does that make you feel?

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By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

I do feel like hes using me, but is it bad that i just wanna sleep with him

I think i like the chase more x

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

He doesn't want you.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I do feel like hes using me, but is it bad that i just wanna sleep with him

I think i like the chase more x"

I think you're right, and no, it is not bad that you want to sleep with him. It just might not be the best thing for you in the long run.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do feel like hes using me, but is it bad that i just wanna sleep with him

I think i like the chase more x"

No its not bad you desire him but why settle for it,

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"He doesn't want you."

I'm not so sure.

It sounds more like a married man who does want to sleep with her, but can't handle the guilt of cheating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you just want to sleep with him, then do so if the opportunity arises. Meet with him if you want to, and if it's convenient for you - fuck him if you want to if and when it happens. Just don't waste your life waiting.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"He doesn't want you.

I'm not so sure.

It sounds more like a married man who does want to sleep with her, but can't handle the guilt of cheating."

There seems to be a growing trend lately that if a man doesn't want to do something he must be married.

He may just not want her and is not man enough to say so as he knows she has a crush.

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By *bbandflowCouple
over a year ago

South Devon

"If you just want to sleep with him, then do so if the opportunity arises. Meet with him if you want to, and if it's convenient for you - fuck him if you want to if and when it happens. Just don't waste your life waiting."

Good advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He doesn't want you.

I'm not so sure.

It sounds more like a married man who does want to sleep with her, but can't handle the guilt of cheating.

There seems to be a growing trend lately that if a man doesn't want to do something he must be married.

I thought this too

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

There seems to be a growing trend lately that if a man doesn't want to do something he must be married.

He may just not want her and is not man enough to say so as he knows she has a crush."

Possibly, just putting forward my ha'pennysworth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take the hint.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Same as

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By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

Hes not married, but spilt from a long term relationship. He keeps telling me its been 10months since he's been with someone. Its like he's scared but I do think he is fobbing me off. Every time I walk away he still messages me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put all your energy into someone who's worth it. Some people are better imagined anyway.

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By *eliciouslyNastyMan
over a year ago

London

"He doesn't want you.

I'm not so sure.

It sounds more like a married man who does want to sleep with her, but can't handle the guilt of cheating.

There seems to be a growing trend lately that if a man doesn't want to do something he must be married.

He may just not want her and is not man enough to say so as he knows she has a crush."

Kind of the swingers equivalent of "she's a lesbo"

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

You deserve better x

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Hes not married, but spilt from a long term relationship. He keeps telling me its been 10months since he's been with someone. Its like he's scared but I do think he is fobbing me off. Every time I walk away he still messages me. "

Either way I would say he is not being totally honest with you, so you must look out for yourself. You owe yourself that.

Sorry I can't be of more help, but I know when to back out gracefully...

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By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thank u everyone x

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"I want this bloke i have a crush on...

We arrange to meet he cancels & makes an excuse...

Ive told him if he wants me to leave him alone i will but he says he still wants me. He says he wants fun but never has time to meet. How can i seduce him lol

This has been going on for 5months, i have met him 3 times but we have only kissed x"

5 months? I wouldn't give him 5 minutes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pause. Take a deep breath.

Don't let yourself get caught up in his games, unless you want to be.

It's either a knowing game, playing you coz he knows you have a crush on him. It could be a subconscious reliance on you for the same reason or because you are a good listener. Or else he knows you are in the bag and doesn't have to make an effort!

Whatever it is it's a game!

Play along if you are happy to but do it with your eyes open.

Otherwise start to step back from him. Take longer times to answer his messages. Don't always be available when he wants to meet.

If you want to, tell him that you are fed of messing around.

Be prepared to lose him but at least you'll know where you'll stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing the game and married, bin him off

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am starting to think that

He is playing you keeping his options open , in case one Friday or Saturday night he can't find anyone better

I know as I do the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One time offer, Special deal because i like you...I can sell you London Bridge at a knock down price

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Block ignore move on

Hes playing u"

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

He doesn't know how to tell you he's not interested - or is too cowardly.

Take a hint, leave it be and find someone who is interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he just wants to take things slow because he really likes you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I want this bloke i have a crush on...

We arrange to meet he cancels & makes an excuse...

Ive told him if he wants me to leave him alone i will but he says he still wants me. He says he wants fun but never has time to meet. How can i seduce him lol

This has been going on for

5months, i have met him 3 times but we have only kissed x"

Weird but maybe he's shy or not sure how much u like him?

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By *osafewordneededMan
over a year ago

City

This is pretty normal for a "Normal" non swing relationship. I take things slow and steady with people.

I don't expect them to wait, but when they shack up with someone 4 months later I always think I did the right thing going slow.

I go slow when I am swinging too, seen too many people shack up with someone they didnt know and regret it. I have no regrets.

Anyway if you move fast and just want sex then hes not a match.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

If 5 months has gone and he still hasn't fucked you then he simply doesn't fancy you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to being on the hook or "back up".

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Welcome to being on the hook or "back up"."

Have to agree.

Him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is he married?

I wouldn't chase him if he wasn't interested and meeting 3 times in 5 months is insane.

Sounds like he is married and/or maybe just wants to be your friend only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo move on .plenty more fish in the sea and all that .he's wasting your time and its not fair

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By *exybum_30 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thank u everyone, ive deleted his number & gonna move on xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey beautiful you ok he's mental to mess you around your a gem of a girl

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

If he is a messer,why even bother... He has plenty of time,loads chances...Your more into him then he is into you so,free yourself ,your time,etc and crack on with meeting guys who CAN deliver..

He has just wasted your time thus far

Good luck

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