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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God knows how yer gonna react if ever the other woman does something out of order.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Somebody having a snog at the end of a night out

What's the world coming to

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Somebody having a snog at the end of a night out

What's the world coming to

Cheating is cheating.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Somebody having a snog at the end of a night out

What's the world coming to

I know: shocking, isn't it!

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I'd be more worried about her snogging ex-pupils.. I do hope she's not a primary school teacher

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I'd be more worried about her snogging ex-pupils.. I do hope she's not a primary school teacher

No she's not but I have a feeling this might blow up in her face. Where we live is a very small town also I doubt he'll keep his mouth shut. Thats major bragging rights there.

Every boys fantasy come true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I'd be more worried about her snogging ex-pupils.. I do hope she's not a primary school teacher

There may, i say may, be a clue in the "6 years ago".

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say nothing, and its her life, who knows what goes on behind closed doors

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sod it I'll just blank her but in a friendly way tho.

I.e aww I'm sorry I can't chat now I have to go to the dentist to have all my teeth removed.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I'd be more worried about her snogging ex-pupils.. I do hope she's not a primary school teacher

There may, i say may, be a clue in the "6 years ago".

Hence my statement, 11+6 not very old

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I'd be more worried about her snogging ex-pupils.. I do hope she's not a primary school teacher

There may, i say may, be a clue in the "6 years ago".

Hence my statement, 11+6 not very old"

Still legal tho.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

Exactly my point. I caught my ex husband kissing someone from his work and it was like a kick in the teeth.

So Cinnamon i believe its you that need to grow up or maybe you need to give a shit about other people other then yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you stopped to consider that this person may have the type of marriage where this sort of behaviour is mutually acceptable?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you stopped to consider that this person may have the type of marriage where this sort of behaviour is mutually acceptable?"

I doubt it. Usually those couples apply discretion.

No one wants shit on there door step especially if they are a teacher.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its up to her what she does. Maybe she told her husband.

She only kissed someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ignore her, and ignore the situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its up to her what she does. Maybe she told her husband.

She only kissed someone

That wasn't want I was talking about. I couldn't care less what she does. I just didn't appreciate being witness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If unbeknown to me, my other half was snogging, whilst on a night out.. I'd be pretty upset, that's putting it mildly.. He'd be exactly the same, if the boot was on the other foot.

But as I said above I'd ignore, what you saw, you said yourself you hardly know her..or her situation.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If unbeknown to me, my other half was snogging, whilst on a night out.. I'd be pretty upset, that's putting it mildly.. He'd be exactly the same, if the boot was on the other foot.

But as I said above I'd ignore, what you saw, you said yourself you hardly know her..or her situation.

Trust me I don't want anything to do with her or her bloody secret but I have to socialise with her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If unbeknown to me, my other half was snogging, whilst on a night out.. I'd be pretty upset, that's putting it mildly.. He'd be exactly the same, if the boot was on the other foot.

But as I said above I'd ignore, what you saw, you said yourself you hardly know her..or her situation.

Trust me I don't want anything to do with her or her bloody secret but I have to socialise with her.

Just smile n nod. She'll soon take the hint. Or.. Pull her to one side, explain how you feel.. And just say we'll leave it there...

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have you stopped to consider that this person may have the type of marriage where this sort of behaviour is mutually acceptable?

I doubt it. Usually those couples apply discretion.

No one wants shit on there door step especially if they are a teacher. "

You said you were open minded about sex but you have actually made your mind up about this woman without knowing anything about her marriage

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If unbeknown to me, my other half was snogging, whilst on a night out.. I'd be pretty upset, that's putting it mildly.. He'd be exactly the same, if the boot was on the other foot.

But as I said above I'd ignore, what you saw, you said yourself you hardly know her..or her situation.

Trust me I don't want anything to do with her or her bloody secret but I have to socialise with her.

Just smile n nod. She'll soon take the hint. Or.. Pull her to one side, explain how you feel.. And just say we'll leave it there..."

I will. I actually hope she'll avoid me to. I would think she would be embarrassed at the very least.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

But I agree that she behaved pretty stupidly

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you stopped to consider that this person may have the type of marriage where this sort of behaviour is mutually acceptable?

I doubt it. Usually those couples apply discretion.

No one wants shit on there door step especially if they are a teacher.

You said you were open minded about sex but you have actually made your mind up about this woman without knowing anything about her marriage

About sex yes but not about cheating. I have very strong feelings concerning it. Yes I could be wrong and she has an open relationship but she hasn't told me and has left me in this awkward position. Either way that in its self has make me determined to avoid her. I dont not want to get into her business.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

You said that you don't know her very well, so you're not a friend of her or her family. So exactly what position has she left you in?

If it bothers you that much, then yes politely distance yourself. If you only have to socialise with her in the company of others, it shouldn't be hard to keep your contact minimal.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Leave it.

Not your monkey, not your circus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say as a swinger you are used to treating your love life with honesty and respect for others as most do. It can be a bit of a shock when people don't live up to that, but let her carry on.

It takes a stronger person to sympathise when she messes up her marriage and help her pick up the pieces than to be the person that said told you so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont sweat the small stuff, youve probably enough going on without worrying bout our ppls shizzle....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Somebody having a snog at the end of a night out

What's the world coming to

Cheating is cheating.

How do you know she hasn't got an 'arrangement' with her other half and that's it all ok

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have you stopped to consider that this person may have the type of marriage where this sort of behaviour is mutually acceptable?

I doubt it. Usually those couples apply discretion.

No one wants shit on there door step especially if they are a teacher.

You said you were open minded about sex but you have actually made your mind up about this woman without knowing anything about her marriage

She has left you in an awkward position I agree but you have no idea if she was cheating, all you know is that she snogged an ex pupil so you can't realistically infer any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Secondly: to call out Cinnamon for having another _iewpoint different to your own the way you did is in my opinion wrong, you deliberately overlooked the comments from some of the more feisty members of the forum. You have voiced your opinion and they have voiced theirs. We all have different _iewpoints. If we didn't the debates would be a very boring love fest

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Sod it I'll just blank her but in a friendly way tho.

I.e aww I'm sorry I can't chat now I have to go to the dentist to have all my teeth removed.

Kama at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I'd be more worried about her snogging ex-pupils.. I do hope she's not a primary school teacher

No she's not but I have a feeling this might blow up in her face. Where we live is a very small town also I doubt he'll keep his mouth shut. Thats major bragging rights there.

Every boys fantasy come true."

so do nothing....as he will be the one to drop her in it....not you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If unbeknown to me, my other half was snogging, whilst on a night out.. I'd be pretty upset, that's putting it mildly.. He'd be exactly the same, if the boot was on the other foot.

But as I said above I'd ignore, what you saw, you said yourself you hardly know her..or her situation.

Trust me I don't want anything to do with her or her bloody secret but I have to socialise with her.

you don't HAVE to socialise with anyone....

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

Its a kiss so what. How would u feel if she kissed u?

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

"If unbeknown to me, my other half was snogging, whilst on a night out.. I'd be pretty upset, that's putting it mildly.. He'd be exactly the same, if the boot was on the other foot.

But as I said above I'd ignore, what you saw, you said yourself you hardly know her..or her situation.

Trust me I don't want anything to do with her or her bloody secret but I have to socialise with her.

you don't HAVE to socialise with anyone...."

I agree

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are human.

Mistakes are made.

I don't understand the need to broadcast this on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its a kiss so what. How would u feel if she kissed u?"

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

To be honest this is a pointless debate all together. So wat if she had a kiss with a guy.

If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you not know that she doesnt have her husbands permission??

Jumping to conclusions about someone you asmit yiy don't really know is the inky dangerous game going on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

To be honest this is a pointless debate all together. So wat if she had a kiss with a guy.

If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved."

Maybe i should.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

I'm not the one taking umbrage and I am never growing up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

I'm not the one taking umbrage and I am never growing up"

I'll take it as I see fit and grow up or don't grow up? Really not my problem.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

Sounds like you can't wait to tell everyone about her behaviour and have started by telling the users of this forum.

We are sorry but we suggest you look at your own behaviour before criticising the behaviour of others.

You hardly know the people involved; you admit you do not know their situation, for all you know they could already be in a relationship with her husband’s consent.

What has happened to being discrete?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems it is your problem as you are the one posting and looking for some kind of vindication.

We are not the ones with angst about what we should do about this.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

Sounds like you can't wait to tell everyone about her behaviour and have started by telling the users of this forum.

We are sorry but we suggest you look at your own behaviour before criticising the behaviour of others.

You hardly know the people involved; you admit you do not know their situation, for all you know they could already be in a relationship with her husband’s consent.

What has happened to being discrete?

Maybe im on here because i have no intention of tell anyone in the real world. Maybe i just needed to vent. I've also explained my thinking not going to do it again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe you want the last word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

Maybe i should. "

You've already said it's a small place and the lad will be blabbing because of bragging rights. So leave it.

You don't want to get involved where you haven't a clue:

1-what the situation is

2-how the hubby, wife, young man, or family of any of them will react (especially if you can't hide from them in the future)

Oh, and the fact that it's nine of your business. Unless you are your town's moral police.

Finally, if you live in a small place, how would your town, colleagues, family and friends react if someone local found out you were in the swinging scene and started telling people in similarly judgemental way?

You'd probably react quite badly to their lack of discretion and their judgemental attitude.

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

"If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

Maybe i should.

You've already said it's a small place and the lad will be blabbing because of bragging rights. So leave it.

You don't want to get involved where you haven't a clue:

1-what the situation is

2-how the hubby, wife, young man, or family of any of them will react (especially if you can't hide from them in the future)

Oh, and the fact that it's nine of your business. Unless you are your town's moral police.

You'd probably react quite badly to their lack of discretion and their judgemental attitude. "

Hang on this is the "my friend" scenario, my this woman kissing this lad is the OP?? Maybe??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminds me of my home town.

It's why I left.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems it is your problem as you are the one posting and looking for some kind of vindication.

We are not the ones with angst about what we should do about this. "

Vindication for what? Im just tell my situation. Some might not agree how i handled it or about my _iew point. Thats fair enough but im still allowed mine. Cheating might be nothing to most people which is clear on here but it means a lot to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

To be honest this is a pointless debate all together. So wat if she had a kiss with a guy.

If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

Maybe i should. "

That makes you no better than her then. Would it really make you feel good to walk away from telling her husband and potentially ruining a marriage just so you have a 'clear conscience'? I'm sure it was a case of wrong place wrong time for you and it would've happened in front of someone else if you had left early. If you really do feel so strongly about all of this then pull her aside and have a quiet word in her ear but to threaten to tell her husband is just vindictive

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

Maybe i should.

You've already said it's a small place and the lad will be blabbing because of bragging rights. So leave it.

You don't want to get involved where you haven't a clue:

1-what the situation is

2-how the hubby, wife, young man, or family of any of them will react (especially if you can't hide from them in the future)

Oh, and the fact that it's nine of your business. Unless you are your town's moral police.

You'd probably react quite badly to their lack of discretion and their judgemental attitude.

Hang on this is the "my friend" scenario, my this woman kissing this lad is the OP?? Maybe??"

I'm single tho so i doubt anyone would care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know you saw her?

Doe she know that's the reason you left?

In your opinion, it was wrong of her to 'cheat' but they may have an arrangement you are unaware of.

You have two choices, play nice and let it slide...

wait till you are alone and joke it out 'ooh get you snogging that lad' and gauge her reaction but you could be opening a huge can of worms.

Personally, I'd let it go... how would she have reacted if it was you?

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

"If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

Maybe i should.

You've already said it's a small place and the lad will be blabbing because of bragging rights. So leave it.

You don't want to get involved where you haven't a clue:

1-what the situation is

2-how the hubby, wife, young man, or family of any of them will react (especially if you can't hide from them in the future)

Oh, and the fact that it's nine of your business. Unless you are your town's moral police.

You'd probably react quite badly to their lack of discretion and their judgemental attitude.

Hang on this is the "my friend" scenario, my this woman kissing this lad is the OP?? Maybe??

I'm single tho so i doubt anyone would care."

Is that by choice or circumstances?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

To be honest this is a pointless debate all together. So wat if she had a kiss with a guy.

If you feel so strongly about it speak to her and tell her how u feel or tell her hubby problem solved.

Maybe i should.

Im not telling her husband anything. Ive make that clear.

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

"Does she know you saw her?

Doe she know that's the reason you left?

In your opinion, it was wrong of her to 'cheat' but they may have an arrangement you are unaware of.

You have two choices, play nice and let it slide...

wait till you are alone and joke it out 'ooh get you snogging that lad' and gauge her reaction but you could be opening a huge can of worms.

Personally, I'd let it go... how would she have reacted if it was you? "
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How would she react to knowing the op is on a swingers site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But you understand it's absolutely none of your business don't you?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Does she know you saw her?

Doe she know that's the reason you left?

In your opinion, it was wrong of her to 'cheat' but they may have an arrangement you are unaware of.

You have two choices, play nice and let it slide...

wait till you are alone and joke it out 'ooh get you snogging that lad' and gauge her reaction but you could be opening a huge can of worms.

Personally, I'd let it go... how would she have reacted if it was you? .

How would she react to knowing the op is on a swingers site? "

I wonder why you're being so argumentative. Would it happen to be that I deleted your message 15 minutes ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems it is your problem as you are the one posting and looking for some kind of vindication.

We are not the ones with angst about what we should do about this.

How do you know she was cheating???

Your holier than thou personna your trying to portray is laughable.

You claim you don't know the married woman.

Yet you judge her. But when people on here judge you, you get all defensive.

Her hubby might be a cuck. There thing might be her pulling younger men. She may have full permission. She might be a cheating slut.

But as you said, you don't know her.

You have no right to feel so disgusted over a situation you know nothing about.

In your little village full if judgemental people, if you being on a swingers site got out, whether your single or not, you would be seen as the slut who fucks guys offline, cause people who don't know you would judge.

Think on!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does she know you saw her?

Doe she know that's the reason you left?

In your opinion, it was wrong of her to 'cheat' but they may have an arrangement you are unaware of.

You have two choices, play nice and let it slide...

wait till you are alone and joke it out 'ooh get you snogging that lad' and gauge her reaction but you could be opening a huge can of worms.

Personally, I'd let it go... how would she have reacted if it was you? .

How would she react to knowing the op is on a swingers site?

I wonder why you're being so argumentative. Would it happen to be that I deleted your message 15 minutes ago.

Really!!! Really, your running with this cause he doesn't agree with you lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems it is your problem as you are the one posting and looking for some kind of vindication.

We are not the ones with angst about what we should do about this.

How do you know she was cheating???

Your holier than thou personna your trying to portray is laughable.

You claim you don't know the married woman.

Yet you judge her. But when people on here judge you, you get all defensive.

Her hubby might be a cuck. There thing might be her pulling younger men. She may have full permission. She might be a cheating slut.

But as you said, you don't know her.

You have no right to feel so disgusted over a situation you know nothing about.

Think on!!!"

She's only asked a question - she hasn't blabbed or anything, so why are people becoming so defensive and turning on her? Some on here seem to be taking it very personally

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She has called the woman a cheat when she has said she doesn't even know her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She attacked _innamon! There is no greater crime on fab

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

well said you get my vote , WTF has it got to do with any one else what she did , live and let live,

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By *imply_SensualMan
over a year ago

warrington

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

I wouldn't worry too much about this. If you left without saying anything, it's possible this made her take a huge dose of reality at what she was doing and she have followed you out of the door a couple of minutes later with her tail between her legs feeling very guilty on her husband and that she offended you. She could also have stayed and gone a lot further with the guy - nobody but her and the guy know the full outcome, unless one of them blurts it out.

Yes it's not nice that you were placed in the situation you found yourself in, but.other than just seeing her reaction towards you when you next socialise, I wouldn't let it worry you. If there is an awkward silence between th two of you, then perhaps make a comment in private to her about how you felt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

Completely agree with this, in fact I go as far as to say we would split up if either of us did it, it may only be a kiss but its still a betrayal of trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

Completely agree with this, in fact I go as far as to say we would split up if either of us did it, it may only be a kiss but its still a betrayal of trust"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you didnt like it so you walked away - your conscience is clear - dont feel guilty on her behalf -

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

The bottom line is that you don't know this woman and what she does has nothing to do with you.

If this was a friend, and you knew her relationship with her husband, I would understand why you'd feel awkward and uncomfortable.

But you don't, so let it drop and carry on. If you have to socialise with her and don't want to talk to her, then don't, just maintain a polite front.

But one kiss doesn't make her a heartless cheating bitch who deserves to be ostracised. None of us are squeaky clean, we've all made mistakes and done things that we regret. This may be hers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

Completely agree with this, in fact I go as far as to say we would split up if either of us did it, it may only be a kiss but its still a betrayal of trust"

How do you know she didn't have permission???

To quick to judge

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

WTF , what other people do is up to them it has nothing to do with any one else, its not as if they where shaging on the pavement and the police where called there life there choice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

but your OP is very childish anyway so I think it is a fair comment....you don't know this person what well, so what is the issue here?

another attention seeking forum post I guess....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't get involved in other people's shit.... I would acknowledged in the way the situation asks for, if professional: professionally. If not, smile and move on

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

acknowledge*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they use tongues when they kissed?

That's the important issue here.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Op you reminded me of a time when I went away on a training course with four women, came to the uk and one got very d*unk and went off to a hotel room with a random stranger. I was disgusted as she was away from her husband and family and I had never expected her to do something like this. It really unsettled me and I was never close to her again. Now, I can reflect on this. I think she felt trapped in her marriage and her lifestyle. I would never want to be in such a situation, but, I do wonder what my friends in my normal vanilla life would think if they knew what I did at the weekends. Such incidents I think are good to come across now and then as they make us think about where we stand in this and why, and obviously we all stand somewhere different in our moral code. These days I take it as a cue for naval gazing rather than judging the other .... after all, its all about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh for heavens sake grow up.. Snogging is hardly cheating .. its none of your business. Just leave it alone.

Sorry to disagree but I would be very disappointed if my wife snogged someone on a night out with the girls . And she would be equally as disappointed if I did .

It may not be that big a deal to some , but it's still cheating

Completely agree with this, in fact I go as far as to say we would split up if either of us did it, it may only be a kiss but its still a betrayal of trust

How do you know she didn't have permission???

To quick to judge"

The only people I judged were myself and my wife in our relationship .

I said how we would react in the same situation ,

We would see at cheating , whether the ops work colleague or anyone else sees it in the same way is their business

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"Firstly: she may have gone straight home and told hubby "guess what I did tonight"

Please! Telling someone to grow up for their opinion is hardly having a friendly discussion and I have every right to defend myself from such statements.

I'm not the one taking umbrage and I am never growing up"

You are the one calling her out on a forum while telling her she was wrong to call someone else out.

Maybe leave people to defend their own posts and it won't cause more upset

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

To the OP....I wouldn't be amused if my OH was snogging someone while out and he wouldn't be amused if I did...UNLESS we had decided that was our fun for the week.

I suppose you will never know unless you ask her whether they have a relationship that likes this so I would personally not say a word and just carry on as normal.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

"I went out last night with a group of mums and at the end it was me and one other left.

This woman is married, a teacher and I don't know her very well.

She got chatting to a guy who turned out to be a ex student 6 years ago.

She ended up snogging him.

Tbh I was disgusted with her so I left without saying anything.

Ive very open minded when it comes to sex but I can't stand people cheating and lying.

I can't avoid this women so what do I say to her when i see her?

I'm annoyed she put me in this position but I not going to tell anyone what happened. She may deserve to be found out but its not my place to do it.

What are you stressed about?like you say you don't know her and she snogged someone you don't know...don't say anything..its not your concern...unless you want a fight over it,and give her a piece of your mind, then say something.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I am not sure why all the angst on this thread but it might be time to shut now

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