FabSwingers.com forum: Meeting but not verifying

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm always happy to verify people but recently last few guys I met didn't verify me despite telling me both before and after we met that they would. One of them have a response that they don't want to seem very promiscuous and that they don't want people to know he shagged a tranny. Even after I said I wouldn't publish he still didn't verify.

So what is up with people? If you're on a swinging site which is sex focused we don't expect you to be virginal. We know you are having sex with others that's the point.

Obvs I don't need loads of veris but having a few gives a profile more credibility.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hid most of mine because one of my meets was getting some tosser hassling them via their veri on my profile. Some people simply don't show any or some or all or whatever they want to do as its their profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Were they straight ??

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

1st thing - labels stick like mud on here, so that's prob why they don't want to be associated with a tgirl if they feel it will work against them.

2nd thing - people will agree to verify beforehand because if they say they won't, they might miss out on a meet and because they don't want the confrontation of being asked why they wouldn't verfiy you.

You wouldn't meet someone who honestly said; "I want to fuck but I don't want to verify you because I don't want people to think I fuck trannies" - that's why they say they will but don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hid most of mine because one of my meets was getting some tosser hassling them via their veri on my profile. Some people simply don't show any or some or all or whatever they want to do as its their profile."

Same with mine am very selective as and when i show veris as exactly someone i rejected contacted folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like veris on our profile.We have had people get jealous thinking we are exclusive to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares as long as you had a good time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this problem with a really good friend some time back. Tbh I am really not her type...but after a couple of social only meets we ended up in a hot tub at a party and got it on....she then decided that yes...maybe she could make exception lol.

We played a few times, verified each other but then the dickheads she turned down, looked at my profile and thought they were better than me (maybe they were in some respects...certainly in their heads).

We then both got abuse off them. Reported and blocked of course. I even had a statement that I was not her pimp as guys wanted me to arrange meets for her. But in the end shedeleted her profile and left the scene (for everyone else lol).

Recently she is back on. She shows my verification which I carefully worded to state we are "just friends" AND that I will not arrange meets for her. Quite deliberately she has not reverified me.

Some single (often not so single) guys on here have no decorum or sense of etiquette

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"I'm always happy to verify people but recently last few guys I met didn't verify me despite telling me both before and after we met that they would. One of them have a response that they don't want to seem very promiscuous and that they don't want people to know he shagged a tranny. Even after I said I wouldn't publish he still didn't verify.

So what is up with people? If you're on a swinging site which is sex focused we don't expect you to be virginal. We know you are having sex with others that's the point.

Obvs I don't need loads of veris but having a few gives a profile more credibility. "

That is harsh, and I feel for you. But a meet with no veri is still a meet, and may led to others with the same person. So long as you concentrate on that, and not see one meet as a stepping-stone to your next, I'm sure you'll be fine.

Good luck and have fun.

Mr ddc

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

never expect people to behave in a manner similar to yours then you will rarely be disappointed when they dont act like you.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I hide most of mine because people make judgements based on numbers without paying any attention to the fact that they're mostly from socials.

Just recently I got an interesting insight into someone's attitude regarding t girls because I'm currently showing t girl veris.

People give away a lot more than they realise in there response to verifications, it can be a useful way to decide who not to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know and it happends, met one last year but they didnt give a veri. Its not a big deal tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who cares as long as you had a good time."

This

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"I know and it happends, met one last year but they didnt give a veri. Its not a big deal tho

Don't be scared of showing a veri if they thinked you was a shit shag, Shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't verify them. I've noticed most guys who go on about veris don't verify, so i wait for them to verify me first. They're trophy collectors of women they fuck i reckon, else why do they want a veri but not to hand one out?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know and it happends, met one last year but they didnt give a veri. Its not a big deal tho

Imagine how famous that person would be if they'd verified you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't worry about it. I don't verify people and I don't except them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't like veris on our profile.We have had people get jealous thinking we are exclusive to them"

This.

They cause more problems then good half the time so keep mine hidden.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had meets not give a Veri.

I've had grief - a LOT of grief because of Veri's.

I'm not here to build a massive list though and if someone doesn't understand that then they won't be meeting me anyway let alone being in a position to leave/not leave a Veri.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know and it happends, met one last year but they didnt give a veri. Its not a big deal tho

Imagine how famous that person would be if they'd verified you?

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Yes thats right, she would of gotten even more famous lol she would get offers from all over uk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know and it happends, met one last year but they didnt give a veri. Its not a big deal tho

Don't be scared of showing a veri if they thinked you was a shit shag, Shag

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lol I know. I prob would show a crap shag as well lasting 1min

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So what is up with people? If you're on a swinging site which is sex focused we don't expect you to be virginal. We know you are having sex with others that's the point.

Obvs I don't need loads of veris but having a few gives a profile more credibility. "

It's almost certainly because the guys think they will lose meets with women and couples if the veri trail shows they have met you . Which totally sucks , and is one of the negatives in a supposed liberated community . But that's the way it is , and nothing will change it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its up to the individual if they want to give one. You shouldn't expect one even if you've written one. No where does it state you have to.

Also sometimes people don't want to write one because they can't give a positive one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had our friends list and verifications picked apart in the past by people. Why we hide them this tine. Still nice to receive them. And we always give them back. Up to them what they do with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet lots that are unwilling to write a Verification, they are guys that put on their profiles they are straight, they all tell me they have to hide their bisexuality as a lot of the women on here wont meet a bisex guy....

Thats fair enough I tell them, the way round this dilemma for those guys is to have two profiles on here, one for their Bisex side and another for their straight side......

At the end of the day its nice to have fresh verifications so folks know your active, but its no big deal if folks dont want to give one

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Some will say anything to get a shag. I'd only be concerned if I was unverified and encourage the op to relax, as she is.

The main problem for guys here is they often want some of their activities to be secret, due to perceived reduced chances to meet others.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"never expect people to behave in a manner similar to yours then you will rarely be disappointed when they dont act like you."

Very true!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its up to the individual if they want to give one. You shouldn't expect one even if you've written one. No where does it state you have to.

Also sometimes people don't want to write one because they can't give a positive one. "

Obvs if it wasn't a very good meet I don't expect a veri but if he fucked me enthusiastically three times and kept mounting me that can't be reason lol.

I think it's probably what other people are saying about not wanting to be judged based on people seeing their veris. Personally though if someone doesn't accept me as I am then I don't want to shag them no matter how hot they are. Much prefer someone who makes me feel good about myself and I know who I am and not gonna pretend to be someone innocent and virginal just to get laid. Plenty of fish

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I use verifications to decide who NOT to meet!

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