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I'm rubbish at flirting ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some people are naturals at flirting, others not quite so comfortable at it.

I think I fit in the latter category, whilst I think I get on well with most people I meet on a social basis I can actually sometimes feel myself inwardly cringe when I try to flirt - and the more I think about it the more conscious of it I become and then I start to feel my cheeks warm as I go red and blush ... which just makes things worse!

Maybe it's my own insecurities and maybe the clue is in the statement 'when I TRY to flirt' .. I guess it's always better when it flows naturally.

Anyway - what part of the Swinging / dating game are you rubbish at or would you change given the chance??

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There's only one way to get good at anything... practice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are naturals at flirting, others not quite so comfortable at it.

I think I fit in the latter category, whilst I think I get on well with most people I meet on a social basis I can actually sometimes feel myself inwardly cringe when I try to flirt - and the more I think about it the more conscious of it I become and then I start to feel my cheeks warm as I go red and blush ... which just makes things worse!

Maybe it's my own insecurities and maybe the clue is in the statement 'when I TRY to flirt' .. I guess it's always better when it flows naturally.

Anyway - what part of the Swinging / dating game are you rubbish at or would you change given the chance??

"

I'm perfect.

No faults here.

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By *obka3Couple
over a year ago

bournemouth

Just be yourself, I found when I got divorced that I had far more "success" when I just talked normally to ladies than when flirting, they just get bored of all the wise cracks, when I met one on a blind date I always took a bunch of flowers, I used to call them my knicker removers,it worked 80/90% of the time, not sure quite how that might play out on a swinging meet tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i realise i do it without thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually find the people who think they are rubbish at something are usually very good at it & those who go on about how great they are at something are usually shit at it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even realise I'm doing or that someone's flirting with me x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't even realise I'm doing or that someone's flirting with me x"

Yeah I guess the best flirting just 'flows' without being consciously aware of it - when you make a natural connection.

I'm probably not aware when that happens - it's only when I *think* about how I'm interacting with someone that the old insecurities come out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are naturals at flirting, others not quite so comfortable at it.

I think I fit in the latter category, whilst I think I get on well with most people I meet on a social basis I can actually sometimes feel myself inwardly cringe when I try to flirt - and the more I think about it the more conscious of it I become and then I start to feel my cheeks warm as I go red and blush ... which just makes things worse!

Maybe it's my own insecurities and maybe the clue is in the statement 'when I TRY to flirt' .. I guess it's always better when it flows naturally.

Anyway - what part of the Swinging / dating game are you rubbish at or would you change given the chance??

"

I wish I wasn't so afraid of meeting for a social first.

Aim also rubbish at flirting. So would like to change that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i am attracted to some one I find it very easy to flirt. I also love flirting across a room to a stranger with my eyes, very sexy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's why you are a single male on a swing site.

If you were good at flirting you would not be on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why you are a single male on a swing site.

If you were good at flirting you would not be on here."

What a load of bollocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why you are a single male on a swing site.

If you were good at flirting you would not be on here.

What a load of bollocks."

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Can one flirt without knowing it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"That's why you are a single male on a swing site.

If you were good at flirting you would not be on here."

so just me, you and 70% of Fab then!

You're probably right though - those natural flirters are probably out charming the knickers off ladies in the 'real world' so I know where you're coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's why you are a single male on a swing site.

If you were good at flirting you would not be on here."

Im amazing at flirting..im confident and funny..i keep eye contact but also make sure they see me checking them out here and there.

i dont say anything innapropriate and remember too smile and laugh...i dont focus on getting into a pair of knickers i just try and have a good time with whoever im with and then the flirting comes natural because your not stressing about it.

..And yet im on here..because i still want too explore sexually, meet new people and generally make good memories..funny that

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By *p4fun1000Man
over a year ago

Manchester

in the same boat as you. 2 left lips.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you know your own answer Hun. Don't think about it!!

Though to be fair I'm crap at flirting too

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester


"Can one flirt without knowing it? "

What do you think it's 80% of my post but my real problem is my right thumb is a sneaky little fucker and when it's on it game it faster then the brain and send is pressed shortly followed by a high pitch nooooooo head landing in hands and a very nervous wait for the reply and the thoughts of how many time are you going to do this

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

Crap at it. I can be flirty with those I don't find attractive but bloody useless if I do.

The net has helped me somewhat as I am pretty good at wordplay and my humour is usually translated in prose. Usually but their have been a few misses.

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By *p4fun1000Man
over a year ago

Manchester


"I think you know your own answer Hun. Don't think about it!!

Though to be fair I'm crap at flirting too "
Not on our own then, phew.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I'm a natural flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people are naturals at flirting, others not quite so comfortable at it.

I think I fit in the latter category, whilst I think I get on well with most people I meet on a social basis I can actually sometimes feel myself inwardly cringe when I try to flirt - and the more I think about it the more conscious of it I become and then I start to feel my cheeks warm as I go red and blush ... which just makes things worse!

Maybe it's my own insecurities and maybe the clue is in the statement 'when I TRY to flirt' .. I guess it's always better when it flows naturally.

Anyway - what part of the Swinging / dating game are you rubbish at or would you change given the chance??

"

Be confident but not flash or rude and most of all don't worry bout it worst she can say is no lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't flirt for toffee and I'm useless and knowing of someone is flirting with me

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't flirt for toffee and I'm useless and knowing of someone is flirting with me "

I'm flirting!

ah bugger, see now I'm CONSCIOUS that I'm flirting so now I'm self aware and going red!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a social situation with strangers I think i'm pretty rubbish at it too. I think i respond quite well when the person i'm chatting to is quite flirty but stumble along a bit if i'm taking the lead!

I don't think I'm that bad if i know the person or have chatted with them before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can't flirt for toffee and I'm useless and knowing of someone is flirting with me

I'm flirting!

ah bugger, see now I'm CONSCIOUS that I'm flirting so now I'm self aware and going red!! "
ohhhhh you look cute when you blush

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I can't flirt for toffee and I'm useless and knowing of someone is flirting with me

I'm flirting!

ah bugger, see now I'm CONSCIOUS that I'm flirting so now I'm self aware and going red!! ohhhhh you look cute when you blush "

now I'm going even redder! Wish a hole would open up in the ground below and swallow me up!

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