FabSwingers.com forum: What fab teaches you about you

By *uitar_antihero OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

It's interesting the things you learn about yourself being on here. I knew I was pretty patient & not the aggressive type so dry patches & rejection were never a problem.

But I have discovered some things, an important one being that I sometimes struggle to just turn up & fuck. I've been on meets where I'll be honest, it just hasn't happened for me & more often than not it's been when I have leapt at a chance to meet out of horniness. Within minutes of meeting I'm asked "shall we have some fun then?" & not wanting to seem disinterested I go for it. & it doesn't work. When there is pressure to "perform" I can struggle. Conversely, I've been in group situations where it's gone really well, because it was more laid back.

What have you discovered about yourself on here? Are you more emotional about sex than you thought? Are you more detached than you thought? Has it improved your outlook or detracted from it?

What have you learned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't beat a good book.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I can honestly say that so far I have only learned that I knew myself pretty well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably that I'm more sexually confident than I think... I'm really shy in real life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That age does not have it's virtues, if anything my age is a hindrance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I have a low tolerance for bullsh*t, boredom and people that cannot be bothered to have a conversation. The idea of meeting just for fun, with someone you haven't had some connection with doesn't appeal and that I quite often only interact with Fab at late hours of the night!

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The idea of meeting just for fun, with someone you haven't had some connection with doesn't appeal "

See as a "typical" guy I thought this was appealing. At first. But putting myself into these kind of situations I realised I'm not just an autocock who gets hard at the sight of a nipple & can proceed to pound away till the morning light. The connection is important.

I wonder if lots of the guys struggling to meet are thinking that they can just meet & fuck. They might find out they're not built that way after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that I love love kissing, and the whole unhurried foreplay thing probably even more than "the main event"

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

That I need to take everything said or done on her with a pinch of salt because it's all madness

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By *uitar_antihero OP Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

"that I love love kissing, and the whole unhurried foreplay thing probably even more than "the main event"

what this guy says!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that I love love kissing, and the whole unhurried foreplay thing probably even more than "the main event"

God, yes, kissing is so important. And being able to talk & laugh in between having sex is just as important as the sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah stop you are all making me feel nostalgic for lack of kissing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I'm not really happy with just sex anymore but then I've known that for ages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I'm not really happy with just sex anymore but then I've known that for ages.

And I have fat fingers , how did that

get there

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By *uperock99Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

I learnt on here that everyone is different, some I can connect better than others, sometimes it's just sex and nothing more but now and then you have a bit of a thing going on and get feelings for that person but not sure if this is the right place to be on here for.

But better to have a good connection for good sex than not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I learnt on here that everyone is different, some I can connect better than others, sometimes it's just sex and nothing more but now and then you have a bit of a thing going on and get feelings for that person but not sure if this is the right place to be on here for.

But better to have a good connection for good sex than not."

Good connections are crucial

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt that without expectation comes great reward. Have met some lovely people on here randomly without looking and that way has been far more exciting and enjoyable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That with the right connection with someone I can be much more confident than I first thought which was important for me.

That I can't have entirely meaningless sexual encounters, I need friendship, chemistry and a spark/connection or it's a complete non starter.

And more recently, that maybe just sex is not enough anymore, but the idea of going back to a boring vanilla sex life holds no appeal either. Catch 22.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learnt that the world is full of filthy fuckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That the expectation of people on a swinging site to be less narrow minded and judgemental is wrong x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That with the right connection with someone I can be much more confident than I first thought which was important for me.

That I can't have entirely meaningless sexual encounters, I need friendship, chemistry and a spark/connection or it's a complete non starter.

this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learnt that without expectation comes great reward. Have met some lovely people on here randomly without looking and that way has been far more exciting and enjoyable. "

Sorry Daniel it took me a while to work out what your profile picture was! Excellent!

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"The idea of meeting just for fun, with someone you haven't had some connection with doesn't appeal

I wonder if lots of the guys struggling to meet are thinking that they can just meet & fuck. They might find out they're not built that way after all. "

A connection is very important. The brain dictates how we feel and how our body reacts. So if you don't flick that switch...;-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I've become even more impatient and less tolerant of single guys. Some of the social skills of people in the chat lounge need addressing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'd be better in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I have a low tolerance for bullsh*t, boredom and people that cannot be bothered to have a conversation. The idea of meeting just for fun, with someone you haven't had some connection with doesn't appeal and that I quite often only interact with Fab at late hours of the night! "

I hear ya there and fully understand all your points.

I've come from the fetish scene and it's a lot more friendly, mainly because there are no expectations from anyone so it's easier to make friends and STAY FRIENDS.

How can you take someone seriously if they send you a message saying "Fancy a fuck!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

About myself.. Nothing that I didn't already know.

About others.. That alot of women on here have their head so far up their arse they forgot what daylight looks like and the guys will shag owt with or without a pulse and will say anything, and I mean anything to get that shag!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have learnt that without expectation comes great reward. Have met some lovely people on here randomly without looking and that way has been far more exciting and enjoyable.

Sorry Daniel it took me a while to work out what your profile picture was! Excellent!

I got attacked by some very lovely ladies on Saturday night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About myself.. Nothing that I didn't already know.

It's even worse when you start going to clubs!! I've seen single guys become packs of guys almost as if they going hunting as a pack, follow couples around , and not ask, stand there with their dicks out as if your obliged to accept that sort of behaviour. Then they wonder why they're single...... I could tell you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that people aren't very interested in having sex or even relating to me on a personal level, due to my age I believe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've learned that I have high standards and good morals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learned that I have high standards and good morals.

That's rare and bloody good. Someone needs to put you on display in a locked glass cabinet.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

About myself: that I'm less tolerant than I thought. This is evident when reading "what am I doing wrong: ladies why do you like BBC, avoid, fuck, marry" etc type threads!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About myself: that I'm less tolerant than I thought. This is evident when reading "what am I doing wrong: ladies why do you like BBC, avoid, fuck, marry" etc type threads!

this is so me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About myself.. Nothing that I didn't already know.

That's what puts me off clubs. I have only been to a small club and I pretty much knew everyone that goes there... The fact that guys expect to get a shag just cos they paid an entrance fee puts me off... I'd tell em to FO, if I ever did go to the big clubs and they hounded me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've learned that I have high standards and good morals.

That's rare and bloody good. Someone needs to put you on display in a locked glass cabinet."

I like that idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"About myself.. Nothing that I didn't already know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have learnt that fab is the ideal place for me at this moment in my life. It's given me the opportunity to express myself and , I feel, once I have fulfilled my fantasies and can move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab made me realise i am bisexual with no doubts .. that i am quite a perv also

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BAE

I learnt that I really only like 1on1.

That I am not a voyeur or an exhibitionist.

That I am attractive to some ladies and loads of men

That I am very trustworthy...the number of blindfold first meets I have had is amazing

That I am actually good in bed. Modesty prevents any further explanation

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

"Fab made me realise i am bisexual with no doubts .. that i am quite a perv also

Sx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I've little to zero patience for idiots.

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

I originally came on fab to fulfil some fantasies, but after embracing my naughty side and some amazing experiences I know I'd not want to return to a conventional relationship.

I've discovered I love sexual experiences way more than sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"that I love love kissing, and the whole unhurried foreplay thing probably even more than "the main event"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That with the right connection with someone I can be much more confident than I first thought which was important for me.

That I can't have entirely meaningless sexual encounters, I need friendship, chemistry and a spark/connection or it's a complete non starter.

And more recently, that maybe just sex is not enough anymore, but the idea of going back to a boring vanilla sex life holds no appeal either. Catch 22.

This exactly.

Plus my idea of "attraction" has changed. If I ever had a type before coming to FAB, that's entirely changed now. My mind is far more open to possibilities that don't fit any type at all.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BAE

"I originally came on fab to fulfil some fantasies, but after embracing my naughty side and some amazing experiences I know I'd not want to return to a conventional relationship.

I've discovered I love sexual experiences way more than sex!"

And if ever there was someone made to experience....

Good to see another on my hotlist pop into the forums.

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By *unkysoulWoman
over a year ago

Mitcham, Surrey

"I originally came on fab to fulfil some fantasies, but after embracing my naughty side and some amazing experiences I know I'd not want to return to a conventional relationship.

I've discovered I love sexual experiences way more than sex!

And if ever there was someone made to experience....

Good to see another on my hotlist pop into the forums. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That I am allowed to say no to certain demands if they appear to be for her enjoyment only! I guess then I'm more aware of what constitutes consensual mutual pleasure (if that's the right way to describe it).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That I am allowed to say no to certain demands if they appear to be for her enjoyment only! I guess then I'm more aware of what constitutes consensual mutual pleasure (if that's the right way to describe it)."

How dare you say no to my demands!!

Now bend over & show me that arse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can honestly say that so far I have only learned that I knew myself pretty well

This

Iv always known what I want and how I want it, however I'm open to suggestions and have learned I like something's I thought I'd never try.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dare you say no to my demands!!

Now bend over & show me that arse

Nice try Miss (Not so) Innocent!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How dare you say no to my demands!!

Now bend over & show me that arse

Nice try Miss (Not so) Innocent!!

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By *illwill69uMan
over a year ago

moston

That I can be a bit of a slut and the ladies like my cunning lingus!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As official Frog Kisser of the duo, I have learnt that I have zero tolerance for the crap communicators who inhabit Fab. Can't they understand that Fab was invented to allow people to communicate.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

That as a single bloke I'm suposed to shag a mouse if it asks

It's totally unexpectable to some males that I really don't want them to suck me off and I'm narrow minded for thinking that if I wanted that then I would at least be bi

That I've grown werry in my old age and no longer care what ppl think of me

That just sex isn't engh any more.

And I can very easy walk away from anybody if I feel it's time

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