FabSwingers.com forum: Cancelled meet because of a bereavement

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I had to cancel today because of a bereavement....so just chatting at the mo....and no its not a sympathy thread.I wonder if they really believed me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had to cancel today because of a bereavement....so just chatting at the mo....and no its not a sympathy thread.I wonder if they really believed me."

It was an expected bereavement I must admit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we're honest probably not, I've had a lot of meets cancelled due to family death and illness, its hard to know who to believe and not on here

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Sorry for your loss.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss.

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had the oh so obvious fake bereavement as an excuse. The more the guy told me, the more I knew it was fake.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had the oh so obvious fake bereavement as an excuse. The more the guy told me, the more I knew it was fake."

I agree..... but it does happen as in my case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I planned a meet bout a month ago, had to cancell, daughter was poorly, re planned for the following week, old lady i looked after died, had to cancel again, figured that was it no way I would get another chance, but I did, and went to a club together this weekend as 1st meet went so well.

some people fake things as an excuse, but not all, sorry for your loss,x

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I was delaying committing to a date for a meet once because I knew I had a funeral coming up. The male of the couple then felt the need to say I clearly wasn't that upset about my cousin's death if I was meeting that week.

Tosser. Needless to say his Mrs was unimpressed when we said we'd not be meeting them at all.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i wouldnt care if i was believed or not in a situation like that. I have had to cancel a meet due to my nan dying and to be honest the last thing on my mind was whether or not some bloke i was going to fuck believed me or not, if he didnt then i wouldnt want to meet him anyway so dodged a bullet there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had two plasterers not turn up because their mothers had died, (the first one and his replacement on the same job)the next one was afraid too just in case his did as well

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I planned a meet bout a month ago, had to cancell, daughter was poorly, re planned for the following week, old lady i looked after died, had to cancel again, figured that was it no way I would get another chance, but I did, and went to a club together this weekend as 1st meet went so well.

some people fake things as an excuse, but not all, sorry for your loss,x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've had the oh so obvious fake bereavement as an excuse. The more the guy told me, the more I knew it was fake.

I agree..... but it does happen as in my case."

Of course it happens. None of us live forever and we all have friends and relatives that are going to die at some point.

My sympathies Dave

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

hardly expect to meet someone under those circumstance

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've had the oh so obvious fake bereavement as an excuse. The more the guy told me, the more I knew it was fake.

I agree..... but it does happen as in my case.

Of course it happens. None of us live forever and we all have friends and relatives that are going to die at some point.

My sympathies Dave"

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I wouldn't really care if they believed me or not

But if it was an expected bereavement then I might have spoken about it beforehand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had to cancel today because of a bereavement....so just chatting at the mo....and no its not a sympathy thread.I wonder if they really believed me."

Sorry for your loss doesn't seem adequate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wouldn't really care if they believed me or not

But if it was an expected bereavement then I might have spoken about it beforehand"
y

To be fair we were given a prognosis of weeks not minutes .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for your loss xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss xxx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, sorry for your loss fella. It pays to be honest at all times. I had to cancel a meet today due to a change in work plans this week but unlike your situation its annoying but everyone's happy to rearrange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for your loss. You might not be looking for sympathy but it always improves things when you're in another's thoughts at a hard time. (In my opinion.)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the words of kindness but I must sleep now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss. You might not be looking for sympathy but it always improves things when you're in another's thoughts at a hard time. (In my opinion.)"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep, sorry for your loss fella. It pays to be honest at all times. I had to cancel a meet today due to a change in work plans this week but unlike your situation its annoying but everyone's happy to rearrange."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry for your loss but i'd unlikely believe the situation.

The number of deaths I've heard of from meets its shocking - but because of those who waste time those who are genuine then get cast with the bad brush because of those who use such awful excuses rather than the truth.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I wouldn't really care if they believed me or not

But if it was an expected bereavement then I might have spoken about it beforehandy

To be fair we were given a prognosis of weeks not minutes ."

Aww that's very sad,so understandable that it's something you wouldn't have discussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with other posters in that I wouldn't care what anyone else thought. This is just a hobby, not important, just a pastime. If I can't make a date for whatever reason I tell them and then don't really give it a second thought

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I hope you're ok

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I hope you're ok

Im fine thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened to me a week or so ago.

Had a meet planned he messaged me to say he had to cancel due to a family emergency. I obviously didn't know what the family emergency was as I didn't ask.

I saw him on fab later that day.

Then he messaged a few days later saying he wanted to meet and o said no thanks as you fobbed me off the other day.

He then proceeded to say his gran had died.

I didn't feel bad as Iv caught him out with lies before.

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By *ittle Pocket PerveWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Sorry for your loss... I had to cancel my Wednesday meet as I'm working late all week, to make up for wanting Xtasia weekend off at the end of the month. These things happen, real life unfortunately gets in the way from time to time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for your loss... I had to cancel my Wednesday meet as I'm working late all week, to make up for wanting Xtasia weekend off at the end of the month. These things happen, real life unfortunately gets in the way from time to time. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"This happened to me a week or so ago.

Had a meet planned he messaged me to say he had to cancel due to a family emergency. I obviously didn't know what the family emergency was as I didn't ask.

I saw him on fab later that day.

Then he messaged a few days later saying he wanted to meet and o said no thanks as you fobbed me off the other day.

He then proceeded to say his gran had died.

I didn't feel bad as Iv caught him out with lies before. "

My mum passed away after a long illness.She was 85

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"i wouldnt care if i was believed or not in a situation like that. I have had to cancel a meet due to my nan dying and to be honest the last thing on my mind was whether or not some bloke i was going to fuck believed me or not, if he didnt then i wouldnt want to meet him anyway so dodged a bullet there."

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This happened to me a week or so ago.

Had a meet planned he messaged me to say he had to cancel due to a family emergency. I obviously didn't know what the family emergency was as I didn't ask.

I saw him on fab later that day.

Then he messaged a few days later saying he wanted to meet and o said no thanks as you fobbed me off the other day.

He then proceeded to say his gran had died.

I didn't feel bad as Iv caught him out with lies before.

My mum passed away after a long illness.She was 85"

She is in a much better place now and sorry for your recent lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mum passed away after a long illness.She was 85"

Sorry to hear that. Condolences.

But seriously, If my mum had just passed away the last place on earth I'd be is on here worrying about meets though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My mum passed away after a long illness.She was 85

Sorry to hear that. Condolences.

But seriously, If my mum had just passed away the last place on earth I'd be is on here worrying about meets though.

Thanks for the condolence and im not worrying about meets as my profile is hidden and not meeting anyone. Being here is only like replying to friends on face book although I blocked you weeks ago for always being negative to my posts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have vanilla lives. I always give people the benefit of the doubt unless they are repeat offenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

although I blocked you weeks ago for always being negative to my posts. "

Ah yes.

Was that the one where me and about 5 others called you out on a thread for being foul and abusive to a young lad... that one?

It must have been because I've only ever commented on 3 of your threads.

If I'm on your block list I have no problem with that at all.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

although I blocked you weeks ago for always being negative to my posts.

Ah yes.

Was that the one where me and about 5 others called you out on a thread for being foul and abusive to a young lad... that one?

It must have been because I've only ever commented on 3 of your threads.

If I'm on your block list I have no problem with that at all.

Not quite but such is forums.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I had to cancel today because of a bereavement....so just chatting at the mo....and no its not a sympathy thread.I wonder if they really believed me."

We've cancelled a meet and a party (same week) in the past due to a family bereavement. We know one didn't believe us by the reply we got back.

The other we went on to meet at a later date.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Forgot to add..

Sorry for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear of your loss.

I have to be 100% honest and say that if I was told they couldn't meet due to a bereavement but then saw that they were online on a swinging site on and off during the day, I would be suspicious.

Not saying you're not genuine and everyone reacts in different ways, but I'd probably not be logging on to here if I had a bereavement close enough to me to make me cancel existing commitments whether swinging meets or otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Forgot to add..

Sorry for your loss x"

Thanks

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

My mum passed away after a long illness.She was 85

Sorry to hear that. Condolences.

But seriously, If my mum had just passed away the last place on earth I'd be is on here worrying about meets though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm confused at people criticising the OP for being here after a bereavement.

When my Grandad died last year the first place I came to for support was here, there was no way I was up to meeting anyone but I wanted my fab friends to chat to and I got a lot of support from them.

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