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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Can people tell me why other people in general single men think a woman when on camera should be playing with herself just because she is on camera. If not they get rude and offensive about it. Can woman not chat without having to put on a show?

They don't read but as have been asked by these guys if single. Why do they get so abusive, when you try to chat like a normal person?

Do other women find this or is it just the times that I am on is what makes it happen. Usual on nights that I can't sleep due to worrying about family things so I spend time chatting in different rooms than normal.

Because of the abuse I find that don't go on camera only if H.I.T.T is around aka other half. Please why are there so many robbing us of our fun. I thought this was a site for making friends that lead to extra fun if the chemistry is right not just wham bham thank missus. If so I could hire a male escort or go to local to pick up guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't own a webcam, but I have chatted in the rooms. I do sometimes find that some of the single guys 'pounce' on me and want to chat on msn etc etc..

I totally agree with you that you should be able to chat on cam without having to be pestered in this way. The best thing to do is ignore those guys and move on, or if they are really abusive, report them. Don't let this minority of wankers spoil your fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends upon which room you are in ..

If you go into the directing room, then I guess it is more or less expected, but in any other rooms, ie general chat it shouldn't be going on

In fact I've banned people from non directing rooms for putting on a show and also for asking people to put on a show

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well I only go to directing room if with H.I.T.T to put on a show and for no other reason. but its the likes of the lobby or wales, or ireland room that I'm talking about. Knowing how hard a job the Mods have I do warn people about it. The directing in non-directing rooms and when guys ask me do I want to see anything I say it up to them they are adults.

Think it only right you give them the choice to show or not to show no matter what the situation as I view people as people no matter what sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends upon which room you are in ..

If you go into the directing room, then I guess it is more or less expected, but in any other rooms, ie general chat it shouldn't be going on

In fact I've banned people from non directing rooms for putting on a show and also for asking people to put on a show"

What's the point in having a cam room on a swingers site and then banning people for putting on a show? That's just plain silliness. A directing room is fine for those who want to be told in graphical detail what to do but the other rooms are ALL cam rooms and the general understanding of a cam room on a sex site is to get one's bits out for a sexy little show, because after all, if you just wanted to chat, you'd go to a CHAT room, wouldn't you?

I like using chat rooms and use one on another site daily but it's this kind of madness that keeps me away from the Chat rooms on here. I never know if I'm going to fall foul of some power-crazy mod's own personal likes and dislikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am taking a wee break from chat just now for the following 2 reasons..

1.. really nice ladies being hassled for being on cam. They are there sitting chatting, having a laugh and yu get the 'swarm' in,, and have to say not all SINGLE guys , many hubbys from verified Couples on here .. they swoop in, the room fills up and the lady get hassled stupid with whispers , ' you got msn ;' you got msn' you got msn ' you got great tits' etc etc..

2.. Females who sit on cam encouraging direction, soaking up all the attention, having their ego's stroked by masses of comments. One in particular then whispers you if she not getting enough attention asking if you want to 'play with her tits' , these fems should stick to 'directing' room if THEY WANT DIRECTED.

my tuppence worth ..

the second group help cause the issue that effects group one .....

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

You will always get men asking women are they going to show on cam, even if they are only showing an ear lobe at the time.

It is a sex site, thats what most of them want to see.

Do what you are doing and say no thanks, and if they persist, use the block button. Hopefully they will get the message that way.

As for showing in a no directing room, obviously that is allowed, but if you start enticing people to direct you, then you would be warned if you didn't stop that you would be banned ( from us anyway )

Although a lot of people think mods can see whispers in chat, they can't, so there isn't anything we can do about them, so if anyone is whispering you all te time directing and it isn't welcome, again, block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally agree Rugby xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and the MODS in Scottish room do a great job too.

xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ta rugby but have found most Mods are really nice and have helped in the past when I have been pestered by unwanted attention. But I am a big girl so I do let it be known that I don't want their attention if not appropriate to room. But have guys come to my aid in many cases just because I have been nice to them in the past. So I often wonder if I'm being to nice to people and not being assertive enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being a single male i dont ask woman with out cams on to put them on bcos thats their choice as they will put them on when they want to! The woman with them on i just accept what ever they are showing on cam is it , so if it leads to more being shown then happy days but being polite is a must at all times but no harm in asking if in the directing room and respect what said in reply. In the general chat room its nice to see cams on and what ever is being shown is nice and just to give nice compliments about what you can see but its not a must for them to be on just a bonusx

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Get your whip out hippies, that should do the trick !

Ah maybe not, they will expect you to show the whip while naked haha.

And yes View, I don't get in there often but the scottish room is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It depends upon which room you are in ..

If you go into the directing room, then I guess it is more or less expected, but in any other rooms, ie general chat it shouldn't be going on

In fact I've banned people from non directing rooms for putting on a show and also for asking people to put on a show

What's the point in having a cam room on a swingers site and then banning people for putting on a show? That's just plain silliness. A directing room is fine for those who want to be told in graphical detail what to do but the other rooms are ALL cam rooms and the general understanding of a cam room on a sex site is to get one's bits out for a sexy little show, because after all, if you just wanted to chat, you'd go to a CHAT room, wouldn't you?

I like using chat rooms and use one on another site daily but it's this kind of madness that keeps me away from the Chat rooms on here. I never know if I'm going to fall foul of some power-crazy mod's own personal likes and dislikes."

Sorry Wishy - have to disagree. General chat, means exactly that, General Chat.

Someone who is putting on a show, playing to an audience - can and often does lead to directing, or comments such as 'Nice' 'Mmmmmm' 'Nice Body xxx' etc etc etc which to be honest gets up peoples noses. The person who is doing the directing gets banned - nobody is fussed about that as a rule, but the person who is inciting the directing goes scott free - now that cannot be fair.

So in the event that someone is putting on a show and IF (Note the word, if) it causes either of the above, they are politely asked, in private, to move to the directors room. If they don't move or quit what they are doing then the inevitable happens.

So no, it isn't plain sillieness at all, it's allowing the room to be used for what it's intended without the enjoyment of others being disrupted.

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