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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people not carry Identification around and a letter to show that you are STD free?

I think people should take a more professional approach when meeting someone for the first time because you could be meeting any one.

What do you think?

Remember Comdoms can come off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better still, let's all just stop having sex. That's the the only true safe sex.

Protect yourself, that's all you can do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

How would you know who you are having sex with?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

A letter is no guarantee... testing time scales and exposure times need to be taken into account.

I would not trust a stranger with a random letter... I'd far rather take the precautions I think are acceptable, and weigh up the risks that way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What about ID?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"What about ID?"

Bloody hell, its a bit of NSA sex, not an application for the secret service.

Do you ID everyone you chat to in the pub to prove they are who they say?

You sound a little paranoid OP, are you concerned about something?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Imagine carrying a passport/photo driving ID, to back-up a certificate of some sort, that would not be accurate to someone's status at the moment that you meet.

Tests are not 100% accurate, as there is a lag from the point of someone's infection and the point that a test can indicate their positive infection.

Likewise home test kits also have the same lag factor, so even if people tested in your presence, it wouldn't reveal a result that you could trust for recent infections.

All tests, both positive and negative, also carry a margin of error.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got enough pieces of paper floating around in my wallet without carrying anything else.

Besides what if my wife were to see it ?

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(Just kidding about the wife bit )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest you go and become a monk OP. No sex, no risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about ID?"

Are you serious? Even some of my friends donlt know my surname!

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I would think the person was weird if they started wanting to exchange of ID

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

If exchange of ID was needed, I would stop meeting.

Not that I have something to hide, but I just don't see the need for NSA sexual partners to see any ID and have my home address before I am ready for them to have it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151

I think what OP is trying to get at is how to minimize risk from multiple avenues. Perhaps the question could have been phrased differently.

OP I think theoretically your ideas are Ace but it makes a meet too structured and to a certain extent feel like an application... but some people on this site would prefer such honesty and approach as you. My suggestion is discuss with the playmate you will meet and go from there....remember there is usually an incubation period for STD's so even with a letter my personal opinion is to use protection for the safety and ease of mind of both parties.

Resh

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By *.nottsbloke..Man
over a year ago

the vale

Date stamps on your bits when u visit the GUM clinic? Like a sex mot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, OP, if that's what you want then why don't you simply write on your profile that you won't meet anybody without full ID and a written certificate of health?

Then it's entirely up to people to decide if they agree with your request or not...

We are each able to make our own free choices in the matter!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

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I've travelled fairly extensively and never been asked to show ID on a casual meet with someone.

A letter is only as good as the day it was printed - and as I've said, doesn't take into account exposure times. You could have a "clean and clear" letter printed and have met someone with AIDS 2 days before and becoming infected... and it doesn't show.

As has been said, they only truly safe sex is abstinence, and I'm not quite ready for that, so I will manage the risks in my way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about ID?

Are you serious? Even some of my friends donlt know my surname!"

Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'Hi, we're Mr and Mrs x. Here's our ID, our CV and a letter stating that we're clean. What you don't know is that since collecting that letter we barebacked a skank who's probably given us a dose but we're not sharing that bit'

Blimey this sex lark sounds no fun anymore, I'm quitting it as of now.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Date stamps on your bits when u visit the GUM clinic? Like a sex mot "

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex


"Do people not carry Identification around and a letter to show that you are STD free?

I think people should take a more professional approach when meeting someone for the first time because you could be meeting any one.

What do you think?

Remember Comdoms can come off.

"

This ain't the porn industry its only a swinging site lol, we demand this of other porn industry people but would get a kick up the bum if we asked people on here.

The UK swinging scene may not be as up to date as on sexual health checks as the rest of the sex industry but just as much fun, what is the norm to us with certs and ID ain't the norm in this area.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you put the condom on before any play at all? I noticed every single guy i fuck doesn't and doesn't mind oral without a condom but thinks using them for sex only keeps them safe...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

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Are you sure about that?

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

Are you sure about that?

"

We (me and Kim) have played in Europe/States and have never been asked for photo ID, for shoots yes for swinging no.

Swinging is quite a personal thing so having to produce ID to every partner wouldn't work...getting ID for shoots is like pulling teeth sod getting them for swinging too lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

Are you sure about that?

We (me and Kim) have played in Europe/States and have never been asked for photo ID, for shoots yes for swinging no.

Swinging is quite a personal thing so having to produce ID to every partner wouldn't work...getting ID for shoots is like pulling teeth sod getting them for swinging too lol."

More and more clubs in London require a scanned ID for admission (that;s normal clubs as well as kink) and I feel that is a massive invasion of privacy but I suspect that is common in America and not just a London phenomena. But in the same way as ID for porn is totaly different, so is showing ID to get in a venue.

I'm also failing to see what benefit there is to the other person n seeing someones ID?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

Are you sure about that?

We (me and Kim) have played in Europe/States and have never been asked for photo ID, for shoots yes for swinging no.

Swinging is quite a personal thing so having to produce ID to every partner wouldn't work...getting ID for shoots is like pulling teeth sod getting them for swinging too lol.

More and more clubs in London require a scanned ID for admission (that;s normal clubs as well as kink) and I feel that is a massive invasion of privacy but I suspect that is common in America and not just a London phenomena. But in the same way as ID for porn is totaly different, so is showing ID to get in a venue.

I'm also failing to see what benefit there is to the other person n seeing someones ID?"

A friend of ours has spent time in America and apparently to get into the clubs, I think it's in California you need ID and a recent screening Within a couple of weeks and a certificate to prove

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

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If thats how you want to proceed then do so . Everyone must take their own precautions and shouldn't be vilified for it. Is it Greece where you need proof thst you are clear of STIs to work in catering?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about ID?"

Could give challenge21/25 a whole new meaning . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

RFID chips will be popular soon enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see how that would work. I could get my all clear results today, go and sleep with someone unprotected who has an STI then come to you and say "here are my all clear results" yet really I just contracted an STI...

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

Are you sure about that?

We (me and Kim) have played in Europe/States and have never been asked for photo ID, for shoots yes for swinging no.

Swinging is quite a personal thing so having to produce ID to every partner wouldn't work...getting ID for shoots is like pulling teeth sod getting them for swinging too lol.

More and more clubs in London require a scanned ID for admission (that;s normal clubs as well as kink) and I feel that is a massive invasion of privacy but I suspect that is common in America and not just a London phenomena. But in the same way as ID for porn is totaly different, so is showing ID to get in a venue.

I'm also failing to see what benefit there is to the other person n seeing someones ID?

A friend of ours has spent time in America and apparently to get into the clubs, I think it's in California you need ID and a recent screening Within a couple of weeks and a certificate to prove "

We were in New York with swinging friends for 2 weeks last year & we didn't need ID for meets just for entry as per normal in well organised clubs but there was nothing asked about recent screening, clubs like Fun4Two in Holland require photo ID when we go but don't need screening proof.

We always take our 28 day certs with us as habit but have never been asked to supply them for swinging.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

hahahahahhahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How would you know who you are having sex with?

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And is it not possible to catch a STD from date of your letter to date of your meet.

I don't get letters I get texts, to my understanding letters got stopped many many months ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

True

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

true women should carry femdoms also

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

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We aren't in America, and I wouldn't show my ID to anyone on this site, my name and address and DoB is my personal business not yours.

OP for all I know you could be into identify fraud, if I showed my ID, next thing I know big bills on my door steps from credit cards I've never had, see where I'm going with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I hate condoms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm staying indoors with all the doors and windows locked.

That way I will stay safe from ......well everything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell what's next first meet holding hands at the local gum clinic???

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"true women should carry femdoms also "

Oh god! That means I'm not a true woman

As I said before, you play how you want and allow me the same courtesy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"true women should carry femdoms also

Oh god! That means I'm not a true woman

As I said before, you play how you want and allow me the same courtesy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

O p do you carry letter round with you letters can be copied and altered us if aomeone broughg with them to a meet i would be suspicious because would make me think you had sti before.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enjoy the wet goodness

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

I've met loads of people from this site and personally I'm not really bothered if I know their name let alone see ID ..if someone asked to see ID I would not meet them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

So your saying really I want bareback sex because im clean . So you fuck a random stranger and pick up a STD . Then a day or so later meet another random stranger and fuck them ,thinking your ok but in reality your carrying a STD that you pass on . If some clever fucker can clone your bank card , knocking out some fake id for this pretence would be simple with some photo shopping

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anybody else think the OP is trolling?

No? Just me then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pick all the scabs off just before the meet. They'll be no wiser.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What about ID?

Are you serious? Even some of my friends donlt know my surname!"

You mean it isn't "Wheels"...??? Bloody fraud!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend


"true women should carry femdoms also "

Then I doubt you'll find many 'true' women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"true women should carry femdoms also

Then I doubt you'll find many 'true' women on here."
Would a cock last longer if a woman had one tho? As most deflates when putting one on lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would a cock last longer if a woman had one tho? As most deflates when putting one on lol."

You have a point shag.

I normally carry my own but for example I've met a few women that like novelty condoms which I don't buy myself.

If they don't fit well they can be a bastard to get on and I have to squeeze the fuck out of my dick to get it on in which time my cocks gone down.

I can get it back up again but it just delays the moment especially when you've just more or less ripped each others clothes off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A letter is no guarantee... testing time scales and exposure times need to be taken into account.

I would not trust a stranger with a random letter... I'd far rather take the precautions I think are acceptable, and weigh up the risks that way."

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

The only solution is to get 'em all micro-chipped

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

As well as an ID check, I also credit check each meet, and often ask for character references as well. Then of course there is the DBS (CRB) check, electoral register verification, I ask for a copy of their birth certificate and education certificates, and details of any professional bodies that they are a member of. After that Im ready for the sexy times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Americans and some parts of Europe carry ID and show it when meeting people.

Are you sure about that?

"

I lived in North America for three years, and ID is not exchanged as part of dating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better still, let's all just stop having sex. That's the the only true safe sex.

Protect yourself, that's all you can do."

well said!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Gorgeous,

Heres my ID but i had a quick shag on the train with a man on the way here so that's ok isn't it because my id proves im clear......and they both embrace and fuck like rabbits ...not

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By *asonnosaMMan
over a year ago

Grantham

Wear two Johnnys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP,if you attend an event with 20/30/80 people in attendance how would you know you checked everyone out properly before you got stuck in? It only takes one mouthful of spunk or piss to pass on a disease.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Would a cock last longer if a woman had one tho? As most deflates when putting one on lol.

You have a point shag.

I normally carry my own but for example I've met a few women that like novelty condoms which I don't buy myself.

If they don't fit well they can be a bastard to get on and I have to squeeze the fuck out of my dick to get it on in which time my cocks gone down.

I can get it back up again but it just delays the moment especially when you've just more or less ripped each others clothes off. "
lol yes as we don't wanna have any delays when shagging her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh the irony of this thread is breath taking. OP demanding Id from people he meets and his profile consists of ...

Seriously had to check the date wasn't 1st April.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

I don't think the OP is being serious...is he lol.

Certs work well in the industry but with some private clinics charging up to £200 a test its too expensive for swingers.

We pay £30 each every month from the local hospital in Clacton which ain't too bad but not all hospitals do written certs.

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