FabSwingers.com forum: Question..

By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Anyone can answer... But i am only seeking single men so i guess its aimed at them.(not all may i add)

Ok... You wink somebody, they dont wink back..

You message them, they dont message you back and delete your message.

You send them a friends invite.. They dont accept.

You send yet another message. Then another.

So my question is... At what point do you get the picture they are not interested?????

Im sure from what ive read on other topics that you get a site message something about them not replying before so are you sure you want to mail them again? Or words to that effect.

Do we really have to block everyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do get that site message, yes. And you do have to block some guys also, but be aware they can make new profiles to get round the block (report them), or the blocklist can break and people come off it. I used to block everyone i didn't fancy, am more selective now and only block pests, which the above in your post would be considered one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a message and it gets deleted without a reply I can guess from that the answer is no thank you.

As for winks and friends requests I don't send winks as no one seems to like them and friends requests are sent after it has been discussed in text.

I think that clears me of any wrong doing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not the sharpest tool in the box is he!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I don't wink.

But if I message and it gets deleted I take that as an answer.

It doesn't bother me. I'd much rather have that than it get read and not replied to. .. because then I haven't got a clue what that means.

I normally leave it a week or two and if they still haven't responded then they just weren't interested in me.

I have had messages read and not replied to for several days before then all of a sudden I'll get a reply.

Sometimes not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Anyone can answer... But i am only seeking single men so i guess its aimed at them.(not all may i add)

Ok... You wink somebody, they dont wink back..

You message them, they dont message you back and delete your message.

You send them a friends invite.. They dont accept.

You send yet another message. Then another.

So my question is... At what point do you get the picture they are not interested?????

Im sure from what ive read on other topics that you get a site message something about them not replying before so are you sure you want to mail them again? Or words to that effect.

Do we really have to block everyone?"

Oh course they are interested, they just haven't realised it yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I offer a service where I charge 9.99 to personally go round to their house and tell them to fuck off.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"I offer a service where I charge 9.99 to personally go round to their house and tell them to fuck off.

Your booked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to a high volume of demand I will let you know when I am free ha xx

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"They do get that site message, yes. And you do have to block some guys also, but be aware they can make new profiles to get round the block (report them), or the blocklist can break and people come off it. I used to block everyone i didn't fancy, am more selective now and only block pests, which the above in your post would be considered one."

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they delete my first message then I take it as they're not interested and so I don't bother them again with anything.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Not the sharpest tool in the box is he!!

They Mr B.... 'THEY'... There is more than one!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just block

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"Well I don't wink.

But if I message and it gets deleted I take that as an answer.

It doesn't bother me. I'd much rather have that than it get read and not replied to. .. because then I haven't got a clue what that means.

I normally leave it a week or two and if they still haven't responded then they just weren't interested in me.

I have had messages read and not replied to for several days before then all of a sudden I'll get a reply.

Sometimes not. "

Mixed signals on both sides. Once I didn't hear anything from a girl for six weeks. Then I got a message out of nowhere and we met a week later.

Go figure!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I give up as soon as the court order comes through, if you love someone you don't get a restraining order against them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just block"

works for me. I don't encounter the multiple messages winks etc that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!"

You can report them. Don't know if anything happens but at least the site then knows the guy is a problem.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES. "

I used to... Which resulted a few times in more, abusive messages.

I now have a rule... You cant be arsed to read my profile.. I cant be arsed to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!

You can report them. Don't know if anything happens but at least the site then knows the guy is a problem."

Report seems a bit harsh when she had the tools to stop further contact.

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"Due to a high volume of demand I will let you know when I am free ha xx"

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By *ohn_d57Man
over a year ago

Bedlington

"If I send a message and it gets deleted without a reply I can guess from that the answer is no thank you.

As for winks and friends requests I don't send winks as no one seems to like them and friends requests are sent after it has been discussed in text.

I think that clears me of any wrong doing lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not the sharpest tool in the box is he!!

They Mr B.... 'THEY'... There is more than one!! "

Pfft!

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

I used to... Which resulted a few times in more, abusive messages.

I now have a rule... You cant be arsed to read my profile.. I cant be arsed to reply.

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sorry but thats the wrong attitude.

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

I used to... Which resulted a few times in more, abusive messages.

I now have a rule... You cant be arsed to read my profile.. I cant be arsed to reply.

sorry but thats the wrong attitude. "

And abusive messages because you dont want to meet somebody isnt?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah just block them, happens all the time with women as well tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!

You can report them. Don't know if anything happens but at least the site then knows the guy is a problem.

Report seems a bit harsh when she had the tools to stop further contact. "

I've had one guy i met make 5 profiles to contact me after i told him i wasn't interested and blocked him. Once he even had no pics and i ended up chatting to him not realising who it was until he sent me pics. I don't think it's harsh at all, it's creepy for guys to make new profile to contact you when you've expressed you don't want to.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

I used to... Which resulted a few times in more, abusive messages.

I now have a rule... You cant be arsed to read my profile.. I cant be arsed to reply.

sorry but thats the wrong attitude.

And abusive messages because you dont want to meet somebody isnt?"

Tell them that In a polite way. Then block them. Ayleast they know where they stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!

You can report them. Don't know if anything happens but at least the site then knows the guy is a problem.

Report seems a bit harsh when she had the tools to stop further contact.

She didn't say he'd made new profiles just to contact her? That's completely different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!

You can report them. Don't know if anything happens but at least the site then knows the guy is a problem.

Report seems a bit harsh when she had the tools to stop further contact.

She didn't say he'd made new profiles just to contact her? That's completely different"

Yeah i read that wrong. Thought he'd contacted her and that's why she knew he was back. No i wouldn't report them if they left me alone.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES. "

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying. "

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest"
well if u don't tell them they don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know. "

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling. "

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ? "

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

The making a new profile has certainly been proven recently too. I had someone blocked for pestering after me saying a polite no thanks and hes back!!!"

Thats the reason i block newbies,stop same people messaging when they rejoin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing. "

Do you acknowledge every bit of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or every bit of spam email ?

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing.

Do you acknowledge every bit of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or every bit of spam email ? "

No. Cus its not a personal message directed at me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing.

Do you acknowledge every bit of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or every bit of spam email ?

No. Cus its not a personal message directed at me. "

It has your name and address in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

I used to... Which resulted a few times in more, abusive messages.

I now have a rule... You cant be arsed to read my profile.. I cant be arsed to reply.

sorry but thats the wrong attitude. "

Why is that the wrong attitude??

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By *ustin666666Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing.

Do you acknowledge every bit of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or every bit of spam email ?

No. Cus its not a personal message directed at me.

It has your name and address in it. "

True. But they want to fuck me over in a different way. Lol

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By *ilmiss75 OP Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing.

Do you acknowledge every bit of junk mail that comes through your letterbox or every bit of spam email ?

No. Cus its not a personal message directed at me. "

Neither are the copy n pasted ones i receive saying.. I hope your both well haha

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By *hattyman80Man
over a year ago

stockport

Tbh i send a message if someone interests me. If I don't have a reply in 48 hours I just assume they aren't interested. Sometimes I get a reply saying no thanks but if my message gets deleted I just assume I'm not their type.

A woman has the choice of a million people messaging them and I'm realistic I'm not the home handsome, athletic or have the biggest dick but I let my personality do the work lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mixed signals on both sides. Once I didn't hear anything from a girl for six weeks. Then I got a message out of nowhere and we met a week later.

Go figure!

I don't know how I'd feel about a response 6 weeks later lol.

I don't know what your dialogue was with her and what reason she gave you for 6 weeks to reply.

It would feel to me like she had a list. . Or she was stuck for a shag.

If it was me and there was no indication of why she'd messaged after 6 weeks all of a sudden, I'd be inclined to delete it.

But again, I don't know what your conversation was.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sometimes you're damned if you do, as well as don't. I block some, including pests who create discomfort. I reply to some, encouraging their attention to anyone but me and I'm particularly responsive where a lot of effort has been invested. It can still backfire.

That wink I've responded to, where the gallery of cock pics possibly were a taste of good things to come - but, hell were they not!

I understand the blocking and its value, saving repetition ad nauseam. When the profile pics not changed, 3 years further on, it's easy to recall that they weren't for you. Other times it's not so easy.

Id quite like a set of terms and conditions, unique to my profile, that users would accept, before being allowed to message me. The public throwing of rotten garbage would be scheduled for every Friday, in the Birmingham markets area, if they contravened any condition. Id hate it to become a freak show but fear that it may. Any 2 headed users etc would be pickled and then displayed at social gatherings.

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing. "

Im sometimes inundated with messages,many from one liner,dont read profile types... do i really have to waste my time messaging them?

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

"Why can't you just answer the first message.

A simple No thanks is all it takes. Then block them if there not for you. SIMPLES.

Only an idiot or someone with way too much free time would sit there typing 'no thanks' to every single message that's of no interest!

I don't even have time to read all mine, let alone reply!

Well in that case I can't see how they can criticise people for trying.

Further messages after the first is deleted is not trying, it's being a pest well if u don't tell them they don't know.

Is it not too hard to guess that a deleted message means no , why on earth would they delete the message otherwise ?

I find your attitude baffling.

Is it too hard to say no thanks. It's just being polite. Or is it a case of just being to popular. Lol

How do you equate a no thanks message to being polite ?

Why is rejection better in written form ?

Atleast they are acknowledged. Surely thats better than nothing.

Im sometimes inundated with messages,many from one liner,dont read profile types... do i really have to waste my time messaging them?"

ps i generally reply to ALL messages (of any effort) but its so many, i need to cut out all the deadwood so im free to message the ones WHO READ MY PROFILE ,and then, PUT THE EFFORT IN...

Theres alot of guys in competition with each other for attention-surely its the ones making the best effort should merit our time?

Most girls get alot of messages here..ALOT..

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