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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

diagnosed with a life threatening illness would you tell family and friends or go enjoy the time you have left and go out with a bang

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'd keep it quiet, I'd rather not have the attention that comes with a terminal illness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yesrday i was seeing my autie she told be about one of her best friends dieing her cancer has just come back she know its bad but not how bad ..... Her husband told my Autie she has 6 weeks he think ,And he did not wish her to know.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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Keep it quiet, cos I know certain members of my family would not cope with it.

But I would certainly try to enjoy life while I was able

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

id have to agree with you there mally

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

my dad kept it quiet and it was devastating when he died. i felt he did not trust us enough. i would tell and give those left as much time as possible to come to terms with it. it may be easier for you to keep it quiet but at the end of the day you will be gone and it is the ones who love you that will carry on living without you and have to cope with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"id have to agree with you there mally"

id stay quiet about it, i suppose it depends how strong you are. my mum was diagnosed with terminal cancer and she just gave up there n then she lasted 3 yrs. i think if i was diagnosed i wouldnt say anything then as it got closer if it was something lie my mums would serously think about taking a overdose. it may seem the cowards way out but for the last 3 months of her life i watched her suffer and its hard wouldnt want thatfor any1. anyone who as had someone with a terminal illness will no what i mean

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my dad kept it quiet and it was devastating when he died. i felt he did not trust us enough. i would tell and give those left as much time as possible to come to terms with it. it may be easier for you to keep it quiet but at the end of the day you will be gone and it is the ones who love you that will carry on living without you and have to cope with it."

i think its more a case of he was thinking about you, wanting to spend what time he had left being treated normal. loving you enough not to want to put you threw it aswell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my dad died of cancer, mom died of advanced diabetes and heart disease.

Both my brothers are diabetics, but i'm fit as a flea.

Because of my family medical history, I have a 6 monthly health check, blood test, urine test etc. Up to now everything is good. Doc says I probably haven't got the bad genes that are blighting my brothers. Sounds strange to me.

I keep expecting the Doc to say "we've found something in one of your samples"

But I'm ok for another 6 months at least

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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My father was ill for months and in and out of hospital for the last six months of his life. My mum had cancer and lasted six and a half weeks from diagnosis to her death.

Both deaths affected me equally, because you were 'waiting' for them to die.

Another close family member dropped down dead of a heart attack, no warning. Although the death affected me, it was easier than a lingering death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"my dad died of cancer, mom died of advanced diabetes and heart disease.

Both my brothers are diabetics, but i'm fit as a flea.

Because of my family medical history, I have a 6 monthly health check, blood test, urine test etc. Up to now everything is good. Doc says I probably haven't got the bad genes that are blighting my brothers. Sounds strange to me.

I keep expecting the Doc to say "we've found something in one of your samples"

But I'm ok for another 6 months at least

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nothing strange about it just because some members have it doesnt mean all do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My father was ill for months and in and out of hospital for the last six months of his life. My mum had cancer and lasted six and a half weeks from diagnosis to her death.

Both deaths affected me equally, because you were 'waiting' for them to die.

Another close family member dropped down dead of a heart attack, no warning. Although the death affected me, it was easier than a lingering death."

you no eactly what i mean then

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I would try and do as much as I could without saying a word to anyone,that is if declined any treatment to prolong life

But there would come a time when its going to be obvious to those closest to me that something was wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have two young children (9&5) and i couldnt put them through that so id keep quiet about it as long as i could.

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