FabSwingers.com forum: Divorce

By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

Kinda following from the name change thread... for those of you who are divorced, did you change your name back to your maiden name?

I never changed my name on any documents, I didn't see the point as I never used anything anyway... but now that I'm divorced, I want to go back to my maiden name. For my passport and bank account, I still use my maiden name, but for my doctors stuff I use my married name.

Is there anything official I need to do? I don't really get the whole name thing to be honest! Can I revert back to my maiden name using my decree absolute?

Also, on a side note, as a few people have mentioned it to me, did you celebrate your divorce?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kept my married name just because I didn't want a different name to my son.

Oh, and keep your Decree Absolute safe, it's amazing how many people misplace them & they ain't cheap to replace

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to change your name back by Deed Poll. Dont cost much

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've stayed with my married name because I'm known by a nickname which is a derivative of my maiden name and sounds daft with my maiden name after it (like Ally Allinson or similar)

I celebrated my divorce by getting my nipple pierced, but it didn't heal properly so I removed it after a few months

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I kept my married name just because I didn't want a different name to my son.

This too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that."

That's a shitty card to be dealt. My condolences.

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By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"You have to change your name back by Deed Poll. Dont cost much"

Is this for like, official purposes? Can I still do stuff in my maiden name? I know I can change my name at the docs and stuff just with proof of my divorce, but that's not really 'official' is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that."

I'm really sorry to hear that xxx

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I've stayed with my married name because I'm known by a nickname which is a derivative of my maiden name and sounds daft with my maiden name after it (like Ally Allinson or similar)

I celebrated my divorce by getting my nipple pierced, but it didn't heal properly so I removed it after a few months"

A divorce marker that wouldn't heal... All better now though, cruel woman that you are.

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By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"I kept my married name just because I didn't want a different name to my son.

Oh, and keep your Decree Absolute safe, it's amazing how many people misplace them & they ain't cheap to replace

It's on my dad's mantelpiece

although nothing is safe in that house, cos he burned the bloody garage down a few months ago.. Oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that."

So very sorry to hear x

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By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that."

I'm so sorry to hear that

*hugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have to change your name back by Deed Poll. Dont cost much

Is this for like, official purposes? Can I still do stuff in my maiden name? I know I can change my name at the docs and stuff just with proof of my divorce, but that's not really 'official' is it? "

You can just show the bank etc your decree absolute and tell them you are reverting to your maiden name. No need for the deed poll unless you are changing to a totally new name. It's official.

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

"You have to change your name back by Deed Poll. Dont cost much

Is this for like, official purposes? Can I still do stuff in my maiden name? I know I can change my name at the docs and stuff just with proof of my divorce, but that's not really 'official' is it?

You can just show the bank etc your decree absolute and tell them you are reverting to your maiden name. No need for the deed poll unless you are changing to a totally new name. It's official.

As long as you can prove you are reverting to maiden name - don't need deed poll.

I was told if I wanted to revert, I would need my birth certificate, my marriage certificate and my decree absolute. As long as it is clear that its "your" name, its fine.

I stayed with my married surname for my son, and also my maiden name is a nightmare to spell, and its nice not to have to spell it out half a dozen times and for folk to still get it wrong!

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By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"You have to change your name back by Deed Poll. Dont cost much

Is this for like, official purposes? Can I still do stuff in my maiden name? I know I can change my name at the docs and stuff just with proof of my divorce, but that's not really 'official' is it?

You can just show the bank etc your decree absolute and tell them you are reverting to your maiden name. No need for the deed poll unless you are changing to a totally new name. It's official.

My bank account is in my maiden name anyway, but they know that I was married and didn't change it. Should I just pop into a branch next time and chat to them to see if they need any proof of reverting back to the name I already use? lol sounds silly when I say it like that!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"You have to change your name back by Deed Poll. Dont cost much

Is this for like, official purposes? Can I still do stuff in my maiden name? I know I can change my name at the docs and stuff just with proof of my divorce, but that's not really 'official' is it? "

Lots of things are more official than you might think. For the doctor just think about being able to trace your medical records back if you needed an operation, for instance.

In everyday life you can call yourself what you like but some things it's best to follow through properly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not quite the same but when my husband died I would of loved to change my name back....long story but I've kept it because of my kids

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Kinda following from the name change thread... for those of you who are divorced, did you change your name back to your maiden name?

Is there anything official I need to do? I don't really get the whole name thing to be honest! Can I revert back to my maiden name using my decree absolute?

Also, on a side note, as a few people have mentioned it to me, did you celebrate your divorce? "

No I did not celebrate my divorce. I loved my husband and I'll never be loved like he loved me again.

We divorced for reasons that were long drawn out.

Not every marriage that ends , ends in acrimony. I wasn't married to a feckless bastard. He was amazing.

I kept my married name because it never dawned on me until my daughter mentioned that it's not mine.

I have thought of changing but maybe i'll save it until I have the energy and time to waste.

You can call yourself what ever you like apparently. No need to change by law. Exept in certain circumstances.

I want my Gran's maiden name anyway. Not mine.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that."

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By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

If my married name didn't suck (literally), I probably wouldn't bother.. but my maiden name is slightly better!

Thanks for your help, everyone

I'm also not celebrating my divorce, as I don't see the point.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

" Also, on a side note, as a few people have mentioned it to me, did you celebrate your divorce? "

No need but I often think I should probably be thankful I've never been married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I work in a court dealing with divorce amongst other things & the reactions to people hearing they are divorced ranges from a sniffle or two to champagne bottles being opened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I changed my name back before my divorce came through

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

I changed mine back with the bank and stuff. But when I got married again I had to change it by deed poll to be able to get married in my maiden name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just have your decree absolute and Birth Certificate available to prove your maiden name. I changed my bank details, driving licence, passport etc without any hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

been toying with changing mine and my youngest child name back into my maiden name ....

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

I never changed my name when I got married so wasn't a problem for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get involved in producing an expensive document. The wording is very simple and can be found by a quick Google search. Pop into a solicitor to get it signed, witnessed and you'll need several certified copies. Make sure you keep the original safely with your birth certificate. There's no law about name change but these days you are expected to produce a deed poll. After two marriages I reverted to my own name, I won't be changing it again...it's a right ol faff!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

I can never understand why someone would want a party to celebrate a divorce...no matter what the reasons of a divorce, that person was someone you once loved and it is sad that it comes to a split.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can never understand why someone would want a party to celebrate a divorce...no matter what the reasons of a divorce, that person was someone you once loved and it is sad that it comes to a split."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" been toying with changing mine and my youngest child name back into my maiden name ...."

You can't change a child's name without both parents concent I tried to change my daughters but my ex wouldn't allow it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You just need your decree absolute to be able to change back to your maiden name. Been there and done it lol x

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

I can apply for my decree absolute in two week, can't wait for that, means I am free to marry my fiancee and use his name!

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I kept my name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not yet. When I moved out I lost my divorce papers,my driving license and birth certificate. I needed a new passport and driving license so I renewed them without the name change. I have to get new divorce documents to change them back but it's not a problem me using my married name. I had it for 30 years,I've gotten used to it and my maiden name is longer

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

I was the other end both me and one child had the same family name as registered at birth my other child had another family name

so at school I signed on the papers that they was to be known by our name therefore felt part of the family as the other kids wouldnt pick on them for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just changed mine via deed poll, I think it cost me about £13, took a couple of days to come and sent a copy ti everyone who needed a cope, it's really easy to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" been toying with changing mine and my youngest child name back into my maiden name ....

You can't change a child's name without both parents concent I tried to change my daughters but my ex wouldn't allow it "

Got his permission to change the youngest as he told his new gf he's not his so makes it easier for him ....but he's said the 13 and 12 yr old he won't give permission

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I kept my name.

Change it to Fox this time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't have to change my name. Married someone with same surname. Didnt have to change it back either. Easy peasy.

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By *rcticFoxxx OP Woman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"I didn't have to change my name. Married someone with same surname. Didnt have to change it back either. Easy peasy.

That's handy

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"I kept my name.

Change it to Fox this time.

I was thinking of changing it to 'Honeybadger' instead!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I didn't have to change my name. Married someone with same surname. Didnt have to change it back either. Easy peasy.

That's handy

Certainly is. X

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

" been toying with changing mine and my youngest child name back into my maiden name ....

You can't change a child's name without both parents concent I tried to change my daughters but my ex wouldn't allow it "

My eldest didn't have the same surname as me, wasn't married to his mother so he had hers, and she asked my permission to change his to that of his stepfather. I said yes cos her surname was crap and his stepdad's is pretty cool. Guess she had to ask because I was on the birth certificate?

No way I'd have given permission to change the four with my ex wife though as they have my name.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I found it a pain in the arse changing my name when I got married

I'd never do it again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" been toying with changing mine and my youngest child name back into my maiden name ....

You can't change a child's name without both parents concent I tried to change my daughters but my ex wouldn't allow it

No way I'd have given permission to change the four with my ex wife though as they have my name."

Its to stop people changing children's identities for a number of reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I kept my married name: it's mine!

Didn't celebrate my divorce: I mourned the end of my marriage, we started with such hope and love. It was the death of our son that ended the marriage...what's to celebrate about that."
well thats a very sad story indeed. I'm seperated but still married. Like you...high hopes...met the english rose of my dreams....two awesome kids...and tho I get.on with life....when we finally divorce. ..I will morn it greatly. For all the lovely things about family life broken...memories...and I still love her.

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