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Are we being too harsh??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So... Our profile pretty much spells out what we are looking for on fab.

We get an abundance of messages from people who are outwith what we are looking for which we simply delete, alot of the time without reading.

On occasion we get more messages calling us ignorant or more colourful names. How are we ignorant for not reading a message when the sender hasn't read our profile??

Anyone else have similar issues?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

All the time, often being told I am up my own arse, and obviously think I am something special. Its why you can block people.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Stick to your guns and meet who ever you really want to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunately never had a nasty response, but from reading the forums, some don't take rejection well it seems. But your profile, your rules, and if folk can't handle that, that's their problem,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Read your profile. Seems pretty clear. I wouldn't message you because I am out of your age range and too far. Simple really. Dont see an issue at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not harsh at all - we used to be over polite and reply to everyone - almost apologising for not being what they wanted - but your profile and bodies do what you want to please you - yeah we toughened up pretty damn quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All the time, often being told I am up my own arse, and obviously think I am something special. Its why you can block people."

I kinda like my arse and I tell them, I'd rather be up it than them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So... Our profile pretty much spells out what we are looking for on fab.

We get an abundance of messages from people who are outwith what we are looking for which we simply delete, alot of the time without reading.

On occasion we get more messages calling us ignorant or more colourful names. How are we ignorant for not reading a message when the sender hasn't read our profile??

Anyone else have similar issues?

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All the time. It's not harsh at all, it's ignorance on their part. If they won't take two minutes to read a profile then they're not the kind of people we want to meet anyway so a deletion or block is totally reasonable.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes. Block them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To many rules this and that lol and I don't agree with the gym queen ones, some of us are actually gym sharks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get called names, luck i guess though because it's the people messaging you that are the problem. I just delete and if anyone moans about me being ignorant i tell them they're ignorant for ignoring my profile requirements, then block them.

My inbox has been shit lately, and after wasting an hour or so deleting crap out of it i changed my profile to reflect this and don't care if it is offensive or harsh.

I don't think you're being harsh, some people on here don't care what you want, just what they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Block them. "

Don't block them,continue to delete unread,really wind the fuckers up.

As you say if they can't be arsed to read your profile why should you be arsed replying to their drivel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get called names, luck i guess though because it's the people messaging you that are the problem. I just delete and if anyone moans about me being ignorant i tell them they're ignorant for ignoring my profile requirements, then block them.

My inbox has been shit lately, and after wasting an hour or so deleting crap out of it i changed my profile to reflect this and don't care if it is offensive or harsh.

I don't think you're being harsh, some people on here don't care what you want, just what they want."

Lol just read your updated profile. Your not taking any prisoners ate you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get called names, luck i guess though because it's the people messaging you that are the problem. I just delete and if anyone moans about me being ignorant i tell them they're ignorant for ignoring my profile requirements, then block them.

My inbox has been shit lately, and after wasting an hour or so deleting crap out of it i changed my profile to reflect this and don't care if it is offensive or harsh.

I don't think you're being harsh, some people on here don't care what you want, just what they want.

Lol just read your updated profile. Your not taking any prisoners ate you!!"

Nope. I wasted way too much time deleting last night!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I don't get called names, luck i guess though because it's the people messaging you that are the problem. I just delete and if anyone moans about me being ignorant i tell them they're ignorant for ignoring my profile requirements, then block them.

My inbox has been shit lately, and after wasting an hour or so deleting crap out of it i changed my profile to reflect this and don't care if it is offensive or harsh.

I don't think you're being harsh, some people on here don't care what you want, just what they want."

Just read your profile.....love it

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

I think your profile is fine. We would not meet Yu as we are out of your age range and bf is black and well endowed, but each to their own. We are specific on our single and couple profiles. I hate it when we get messages saying, love your profile and I respond saying which bit exactly and then the delay, as they read it ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a wee wanger and I'm interested..

ok in truth, its an ok profile..everything is set out..without sounding too arsey.

there is a possibility of it sounding a little too serious in my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't get called names, luck i guess though because it's the people messaging you that are the problem. I just delete and if anyone moans about me being ignorant i tell them they're ignorant for ignoring my profile requirements, then block them.

My inbox has been shit lately, and after wasting an hour or so deleting crap out of it i changed my profile to reflect this and don't care if it is offensive or harsh.

I don't think you're being harsh, some people on here don't care what you want, just what they want.

Just read your profile.....love it "

Thanks. I think mine is too harsh but i'm gonna leave it for now anyway.

Glad i got regulars because i honestly have hardly found anyone appealing via my inbox lately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not harsh at all

People don't read my profile and get arsey when I point out the fact that I'm currently not meeting.

Not your fault people think chancing their arm will get them somewhere

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"All the time, often being told I am up my own arse, and obviously think I am something special. Its why you can block people."

This made me laugh as used to get this so often!

One even said, I was a twat, up my own ass and should lower my standards and give an ordinary bloke a chance, I'm still not sure if he was trying to woo me or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're stating your preferences which should make people either mail you or move on!

There's always the odd few who take it personally and like to have a dig ... I've had a few snotty mails in the past, but just laugh, delete and block em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say harsh but it's very negative and not appealing at all. I understand that people you aren't interested in contact you but your wording is not to my taste. It's getting you meets you want so it's working for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've yet to experience a nasty message. Quite the opposite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to all first mails and usually get nice replies. I think the current count is 3 'not very nice' replies in the last 2 years.

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