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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have a question: how do you people (it will be applying to both sexes, not just the men) deal with egos on this site? I have been here on and off for years and I have noticed some pretty crazy stuff. Everyone has A psychological edge or thing that separates you from the rest of the other individuals. In men this tends to be the ego. However I have noticed that there are women who do have egos as well. Perhaps it's an over compensatory trait from the environment that they are dealing with. They get inundated with attention and that inflates their egos to the stratosphere. And before anyone jumps in to say maybe you're not there choice, I am not talking about shoelaces I am talking about women who play you along because they are beautiful they know you want them and they make it complicated and exhibit twisted characteristics. I, of course I'm not immune to my ego but I do like to keep it in check every single day. I would love to hear peoples views on this thank you. And please don't make this personal, we are just discussing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people suffer from body dysmorphia. Quite obvious when you compare their photos to their profile text

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

How do you keep your ego in check?

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

Isn't that just human nature though?

If you can choose then you do, if you can't then you try to find that needle in a haystack.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fuckin love myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"How do you keep your ego in check? "

By thinking through how this would affect someone before I say it. Egotistical people don't have that due care for what you think or how you might be affected

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"How do you keep your ego in check? "

By not being arrogant, deluded, looking down on people thinking you are above them, always remember there's a person behind the text/profile and not being a tool in general.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells


"I fuckin love myself "
I love fucking myself lol

Have you seen my huge

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Dildo lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not often that I come across people with over-inflated egos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Some people suffer from body dysmorphia. Quite obvious when you compare their photos to their profile text"

I suffer from BDD as well. But I've never said I'm a big strong guy bla bla lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Everyone has an ego, its just that some of us don't require it massaging as much as others.

Of course its great being a woman on Fab. I'd be lying if I said otherwise. I get gorgeous hot blokes messaging me for sex. But I know that if I turn them down, they'll just be moving on to the next likely target, so they really don't mean it. Complimenting me was a means to an end.

I think the fact I have a cynical outlook, and a deep mistrust of compliments, means I can keep a relatively level head when on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It still comes down to personality with me. An ego doesn't mean unattractive to me. I don't have much of an ego,so it's difficult to inflate mine. I know exactly what I am and why men want me.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

My ego is 'id.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You talkin to me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has an ego, its just that some of us don't require it massaging as much as others.

Of course its great being a woman on Fab. I'd be lying if I said otherwise. I get gorgeous hot blokes messaging me for sex. But I know that if I turn them down, they'll just be moving on to the next likely target, so they really don't mean it. Complimenting me was a means to an end.

I think the fact I have a cynical outlook, and a deep mistrust of compliments, means I can keep a relatively level head when on here."
Aw I think you are lovely with a great body and would live to get you in the sack

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

These things are massively complicated...chatting and looking to meet people on here needs to take into consideration the reasons behind their [and our own] approaches, values, ideas about loads of things...It isn't necessarily all about 'nice tits/lovely face/blue eyes' or whatever...

Egos certainly play a part, but it is up to each of us to look at that and make a decision based on our own values and ideas about acceptable personalities and behaviour.

For some, these things won't matter...If you are looking to meet someone purely for [one off?] sexual contact, then perhaps it is less important and shouldn't be worried about to any degree...

Not sure if any of that makes sense but it's a way of beginning to answer your post.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Its very easy to get an over inflated ego.

When I first joined websites about 18 years ago I was extremely overweight and had all these guys telling me I was gorgeous, being told your gorgeous every day by guys can make you feel as though your something special,I didn't but I can see why some women would push these guys, see what they would do and what they could get out of them.

Fortunately I'm a realist, every day on here I get men telling me how gorgeous, stunning I am in fact some days I think they are in competition to come out with the most ridiculous stuff.

So really its the men/women that are doing the fawning that are creating these huge egos.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"My ego is 'id. "

Badum tish!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

If i come across someone with a bad attitude i just delete .We are all on here for the same thing .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you keep your ego in check?

By not being arrogant, deluded, looking down on people thinking you are above them, always remember there's a person behind the text/profile and not being a tool in general. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you keep your ego in check?

By not being arrogant, deluded, looking down on people thinking you are above them, always remember there's a person behind the text/profile and not being a tool in general.

"

No fun in that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's normally pretty clear from chatting whether you are chatting to an ego or a person. I don't have time for people that think they are better than everyone else or deserve special treatment. I don't make demands of others and I don't give in to demands of others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's normally pretty clear from chatting whether you are chatting to an ego or a person. I don't have time for people that think they are better than everyone else or deserve special treatment. I don't make demands of others and I don't give in to demands of others. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep my own ego in check by being an intelligent enough person to separate the bullshit of people blowing smoke up my ass from the views of the people who count.

I just ignore others whose egos I think are out of control. Block, delete, never have to think about.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I have a question: how do you people (it will be applying to both sexes, not just the men) deal with egos on this site? I have been here on and off for years and I have noticed some pretty crazy stuff. Everyone has A psychological edge or thing that separates you from the rest of the other individuals. In men this tends to be the ego. However I have noticed that there are women who do have egos as well. Perhaps it's an over compensatory trait from the environment that they are dealing with. They get inundated with attention and that inflates their egos to the stratosphere. And before anyone jumps in to say maybe you're not there choice, I am not talking about shoelaces I am talking about women who play you along because they are beautiful they know you want them and they make it complicated and exhibit twisted characteristics. I, of course I'm not immune to my ego but I do like to keep it in check every single day. I would love to hear peoples views on this thank you. And please don't make this personal, we are just discussing"

Sounds to me like a very long winded way of saying "I was chatting to an attractive woman who then stopped chatting/declined to meet me"

A

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I have a question: how do you people (it will be applying to both sexes, not just the men) deal with egos on this site? I have been here on and off for years and I have noticed some pretty crazy stuff. Everyone has A psychological edge or thing that separates you from the rest of the other individuals. In men this tends to be the ego. However I have noticed that there are women who do have egos as well. Perhaps it's an over compensatory trait from the environment that they are dealing with. They get inundated with attention and that inflates their egos to the stratosphere. And before anyone jumps in to say maybe you're not there choice, I am not talking about shoelaces I am talking about women who play you along because they are beautiful they know you want them and they make it complicated and exhibit twisted characteristics. I, of course I'm not immune to my ego but I do like to keep it in check every single day. I would love to hear peoples views on this thank you. And please don't make this personal, we are just discussing

Sounds to me like a very long winded way of saying "I was chatting to an attractive woman who then stopped chatting/declined to meet me"

A"

That is not the issue. You are just speculating.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Power corrupts. I wonder how many people truly have over-inflated egos or if actually they just behave in a self-centred and arrogant manner because they can get away with it. Some of the most overtly 'egotistical' people are the ones with the lowest self-esteem anyway.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

That's true as well. Which is why I am curious in hearing from people. It's like that saying: he who laughs the loudest, is the saddest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Met a nice bloke on here ,we stared talking on whatsapp and he told me stuff about him self and I told him things about me ,we swopped pictures and a we arranged to meet but out the blue he blocked me and blocked me from whatsapp ,not a clue why but he did fancy him self just a bit to much and had a big ego ..in the end his loss not mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab isn't real life.

The attitudes of ladies to me on here is very different to what I've experienced in the 20 years before joining Fab.

So, fabbed pics, nice comments and the like are lovely and make me smile.

But I have no problem keeping my head, because it isn't real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't seek out those people in the first place.

This place isn't real, anyone can project an image of themselves that isn't real. Anyone can think they're all that and some will agree, others won't. That's just how people are.

I'm not looking for anything much on here, some fun, more fun, sex, bit of banter. And if i wasn't getting these things i'd leave.

It is nice when other people validate how you feel about yourself, but insecure people who have not validated themselves need extra validation from others. If you wanna understand why they are like that? They don't tend to have an actual ego because they are relying on others for one.

Be confident in yourself. If you don't like who you are then change that, do it for you though and not for anyone else because it's you who has to live with the consequences of whatever you do in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people suffer from body dysmorphia. Quite obvious when you compare their photos to their profile text"

*cough*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyone has an ego, its just that some of us don't require it massaging as much as others.

Of course its great being a woman on Fab. I'd be lying if I said otherwise. I get gorgeous hot blokes messaging me for sex. But I know that if I turn them down, they'll just be moving on to the next likely target, so they really don't mean it. Complimenting me was a means to an end.

I think the fact I have a cynical outlook, and a deep mistrust of compliments, means I can keep a relatively level head when on here."

Except I don't get hot men messaging me.

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"How do you keep your ego in check? "

That's why i have my alter-ego...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many on here would be so much happier if they could take their ego out of the equation.

Something I've said for a very long time about this site.

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