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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more" as some men dont understand women have a choice who they want to meet and preferences  | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more as some men dont understand women have a choice who they want to meet and preferences "I know! They think we should be grateful they messaged. Talk about delusional. | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... " Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos) | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more" Nothing's 'killing' the website at all as far as I can see. This site's not just about meets. You see it as that and you'll no doubt be disappointed! Some guys seem to think this site is like a Woolie's pick 'n' mix. They just choose the women they want and away they go! It's not like that and if you think it is then you'll get very frustrated. I haven't had any meets on here and I've never been happier! | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more Nothing's 'killing' the website at all as far as I can see. This site's not just about meets. You see it as that and you'll no doubt be disappointed! Some guys seem to think this site is like a Woolie's pick 'n' mix. They just choose the women they want and away they go! It's not like that and if you think it is then you'll get very frustrated. I haven't had any meets on here and I've never been happier! "Wollie's pick and mix
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos)" I don't know, some guys really do seem to do OK, I've seem a fair few mail profiles with loads of verifications so some do seem to have it cracked | |||
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"I can get meets but that is not the problem. Is OK for people to have preferences but I think in this website I think people take it a step to far other then a few websites I been in before!!! Some people don't even read msgs no more that's how bad it's has become so what's the point of being here? " I have plenty of unread messages, that is because I look at the profile and if it is dire? I don't bother, because the message will be dire as well | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos) I don't know, some guys really do seem to do OK, I've seem a fair few mail profiles with loads of verifications so some do seem to have it cracked " It depends on who they're meeting really. I simply find it difficult to find women I'm attracted to, there was a time when the site had many more females who excited me. | |||
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"The usual ups and downs but I'm happy enough. "Ha ha...I'd settle for a few ups and downs | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more Nothing's 'killing' the website at all as far as I can see. This site's not just about meets. You see it as that and you'll no doubt be disappointed! Some guys seem to think this site is like a Woolie's pick 'n' mix. They just choose the women they want and away they go! It's not like that and if you think it is then you'll get very frustrated. I haven't had any meets on here and I've never been happier! " Well said. It is a swingers site, but 75% of single guys forget that; ignore reading profiles and send so nice messages like: "I fuk u now" ... so striking messages of good quality  no wonder single guys have a hard time | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos) I don't know, some guys really do seem to do OK, I've seem a fair few mail profiles with loads of verifications so some do seem to have it cracked It depends on who they're meeting really. I simply find it difficult to find women I'm attracted to, there was a time when the site had many more females who excited me." Oh well that's down to personal preference isn't it, I know what you mean though I could get a meet a day every day if I wasn't fussy about who I met Not that I'm fussy as such just fussy about my own attractions as it stands I find it hard to get meets simply because most of the guys who mail me I'm not attracted to and the guys I am attracted to don't seem to like me
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Ha ha...I'd settle for a few ups and downs"Nice one! | |||
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"I admit I am struggling and have done for a few years now. Men attitudes up here seem to think I'm here for their convenience and a quick release." I have the same problem...finding local guys on my wavelength is nigh on impossible. | |||
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" Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos)" I'll put myself into THAT category of "usual male suspects" and i'll turn up and deny it. I do alright actually..... I flat out..straight up have never had a problem getting meets on this site. You specifically get problems because you think you're a cut above it and you moan like fuck about it too. If you changed that you'd probably get somewhere. | |||
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" Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos) I'll put myself into THAT category of "usual male suspects" and i'll turn up and deny it. I do alright actually..... I flat out..straight up have never had a problem getting meets on this site. You specifically get problems because you think you're a cut above it and you moan like fuck too."  | |||
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"I admit I am struggling and have done for a few years now. Men attitudes up here seem to think I'm here for their convenience and a quick release." | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more Nothing's 'killing' the website at all as far as I can see. This site's not just about meets. You see it as that and you'll no doubt be disappointed! Some guys seem to think this site is like a Woolie's pick 'n' mix. They just choose the women they want and away they go! It's not like that and if you think it is then you'll get very frustrated. I haven't had any meets on here and I've never been happier! "And good for you
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" Its been in decline for years. (Expect the usual male suspects to turn up and deny this, claim that they're doing great, and use this thread to boost their own egos) I'll put myself into THAT category of "usual male suspects" and i'll turn up and deny it. I do alright actually..... I flat out..straight up have never had a problem getting meets on this site. You specifically get problems because you think you're a cut above it and you moan like fuck about it too. If you changed that you'd probably get somewhere." Couldn't have put it better | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more as some men dont understand women have a choice who they want to meet and preferences
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more" We're having fun | |||
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"it is full of fakes! fake single women and couples profiles fake meets ffs it is now called a sex site and not a swingers site and too many fckn timewasters!!! "The influx of guys that come on here because they can't get their end away elsewhere...maybe new members should be vetted  | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more" Been on here 3 weeks..ho hum | |||
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"Bottom line is you have to treat this site with respect. It's a patience game, dont come on here expecting a quick bang cos it ain't happening! Also women rule this site so don't piss them off, a general rule of thumb I find is that if one doesn't like you then the rest of them won't either. Lol! "Not sure that's 100% correct, patience is a good thing to have but being patient doesn't automatically mean you're going to get a meet. It's the same with reading profiles, reading them is a good idea/essential but doing so won't mean you will definitely get meets. Being patient is a good idea but ultimately will not get you a meet, conversing will. | |||
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"Despite what many seem to think, it can be difficult on here to meet the type of people you want to meet even for a single bi fem. I fully admit that's my own fault I don't meet as much as I'd like to, but id rather have nothing than half of something. I'm stubborn like that. When it works though, it really works. "
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them..." True. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True." Really?... It matters to me what they look like, I wouldn't fuck any woman I wasn't attracted to. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Really?... It matters to me what they look like, I wouldn't fuck any woman I wasn't attracted to." To you! You must never have met any other men in your time then. To be fair a lot of blokes probably begin with the same attitude as you then lower their standards when they get knocked back a few times. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True." Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? " I dunno you have to be realistic, there are many more men than women on this site. I don't think he was wallowing in self pity, I think he was just offering a realstic insight. The advice to stand out from the crowd is quite obviously spot on. | |||
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"That is the beauty of fab! It is a well run, free site which works for me. And thousands of others! If something stops being fun and you don't enjoy it then stop doing it. That goes for anything in life." Definitely | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? I dunno you have to be realistic, there are many more men than women on this site. I don't think he was wallowing in self pity, I think he was just offering a realstic insight. The advice to stand out from the crowd is quite obviously spot on. " Realistic insight? Christ you're all a barrel of fucking fun aren't you. Via studied observation of these forums and various profile status updates, I've found level of whinging to be inversely proportional to number of meets. And the site works for me at the moment. I don't meet much at all, but when I do it's great. | |||
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"I must fall into the 'usual suspects' category then. I am lucky enough to have regular meets, some weekly, some monthly, some longer. The only problem with the site is the people on it. Usually single males who join a swinging site expecting a fuckfest. When they realise its not and they have to work at, as in 'real life' they become disillusioned. Then they start to come on the forums and complain about it, doing themselves no favours. Perhaps the only way to improve the site is to put a cap an the amount of single males joining. But where would you stop? That is the beauty of fab! It is a well run, free site which works for me. And thousands of others! If something stops being fun and you don't enjoy it then stop doing it. That goes for anything in life." I would hate a cap on the number of single males. What if one I'd like to meet hasn't joined yet and couldn't sign up because all the spots were taken by whinging twats with grossly unrealistic expectations? | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? I dunno you have to be realistic, there are many more men than women on this site. I don't think he was wallowing in self pity, I think he was just offering a realstic insight. The advice to stand out from the crowd is quite obviously spot on. Realistic insight? Christ you're all a barrel of fucking fun aren't you. Via studied observation of these forums and various profile status updates, I've found level of whinging to be inversely proportional to number of meets. And the site works for me at the moment. I don't meet much at all, but when I do it's great. " I didn't stard the thread and definitely don't whinge in statuses or even post them! What did you dislike about what he said? A lot of men will actually fuck anything male or female. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? I dunno you have to be realistic, there are many more men than women on this site. I don't think he was wallowing in self pity, I think he was just offering a realstic insight. The advice to stand out from the crowd is quite obviously spot on. Realistic insight? Christ you're all a barrel of fucking fun aren't you. Via studied observation of these forums and various profile status updates, I've found level of whinging to be inversely proportional to number of meets. And the site works for me at the moment. I don't meet much at all, but when I do it's great. I didn't stard the thread and definitely don't whinge in statuses or even post them! What did you dislike about what he said? A lot of men will actually fuck anything male or female. " It was the literally ANY woman bit. Sounded pretty derogatory to me. Describing anyone that way, as an "anything" isn't an attractive trait in my book. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? I dunno you have to be realistic, there are many more men than women on this site. I don't think he was wallowing in self pity, I think he was just offering a realstic insight. The advice to stand out from the crowd is quite obviously spot on. Realistic insight? Christ you're all a barrel of fucking fun aren't you. Via studied observation of these forums and various profile status updates, I've found level of whinging to be inversely proportional to number of meets. And the site works for me at the moment. I don't meet much at all, but when I do it's great. I didn't stard the thread and definitely don't whinge in statuses or even post them! What did you dislike about what he said? A lot of men will actually fuck anything male or female. " And I'm not saying you did whinge, that was purely an observation. | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more Nothing's 'killing' the website at all as far as I can see. This site's not just about meets. You see it as that and you'll no doubt be disappointed! Some guys seem to think this site is like a Woolie's pick 'n' mix. They just choose the women they want and away they go! It's not like that and if you think it is then you'll get very frustrated. I haven't had any meets on here and I've never been happier!
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" I would hate a cap on the number of single males. What if one I'd like to meet hasn't joined yet and couldn't sign up because all the spots were taken by whinging twats with grossly unrealistic expectations? " I wasn't suggesting for a minute that's what should happen. Fab is what it is and that's the way I like it. Its accessible. You get out what you put in. If you are a whingeing twat with unrealistic expectations then you get nothing. Too many men think with their cocks and not their brain. All it takes is a change of attitude. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Unless the lady has standards. Then she may have to wait half an hour before finding a fella. Posts like this though are a great help, identifying self-pitying folks with a sense of entitlement. Makes finding the happy, positive people a bit easier. Yes this is a sex site, but who wants to fuck a miserable git? I dunno you have to be realistic, there are many more men than women on this site. I don't think he was wallowing in self pity, I think he was just offering a realstic insight. The advice to stand out from the crowd is quite obviously spot on. Realistic insight? Christ you're all a barrel of fucking fun aren't you. Via studied observation of these forums and various profile status updates, I've found level of whinging to be inversely proportional to number of meets. And the site works for me at the moment. I don't meet much at all, but when I do it's great. I didn't stard the thread and definitely don't whinge in statuses or even post them! What did you dislike about what he said? A lot of men will actually fuck anything male or female. And I'm not saying you did whinge, that was purely an observation." What you said was true to a point but not all men think they're entitled to fuck everyone on the site. Personally I try message people who are of a similar attractiveness to myself! | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Really?... It matters to me what they look like, I wouldn't fuck any woman I wasn't attracted to. To you! You must never have met any other men in your time then. To be fair a lot of blokes probably begin with the same attitude as you then lower their standards when they get knocked back a few times." God sake,we're not pieces of meat you know. Just because someone isn't attractive to you doesn't make them some kind of monster!!! | |||
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" I simply find it difficult to find women I'm attracted to, there was a time when the site had many more females who excited me." I thinks its more likely that you've become more discerning, unless all those women have left the site. | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them..." I struggle to meet so I can only imagine what I look like. I'd better get a bag sorted for my head before the social then  | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... True. Really?... It matters to me what they look like, I wouldn't fuck any woman I wasn't attracted to. To you! You must never have met any other men in your time then. To be fair a lot of blokes probably begin with the same attitude as you then lower their standards when they get knocked back a few times. God sake,we're not pieces of meat you know. Just because someone isn't attractive to you doesn't make them some kind of monster!!!" I didn't say anyone was a monster or a piece of meat! | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... I struggle to meet so I can only imagine what I look like. I'd better get a bag sorted for my head before the social then "Oh you'll be fine, apparently some men will fuck literally ANYTHING  | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... I struggle to meet so I can only imagine what I look like. I'd better get a bag sorted for my head before the social then
Oh you'll be fine, apparently some men will fuck literally ANYTHING "Thats good to hear. I'm not proud. Seriously though, this attitude of 'woman get everything' perpetuated by certain men on here is getting so old. If you hate the site, leave. None of us will miss the whinging. There are men who struggle, there are men who don't. There are women who struggle, there are women who don't. There are couples who struggle... you get the idea. Stop blaming the site and other people for your problems. | |||
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"Via studied observation of these forums and various profile status updates, I've found level of whinging to be inversely proportional to number of meets." Being serious for once, the whingers post more threads about their experiences than those who are "successful" in what they do. Maybe this is because those who are happy and more than content with the site don't feel the need to go on about it. This means the whinging threads get more airtime. Unfortunately. Great site. Great people. And I for one am fucking knackered
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more" I meet Often lol | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them... I struggle to meet so I can only imagine what I look like. I'd better get a bag sorted for my head before the social then
Oh you'll be fine, apparently some men will fuck literally ANYTHING
Thats good to hear. I'm not proud.
Seriously though, this attitude of 'woman get everything' perpetuated by certain men on here is getting so old. If you hate the site, leave. None of us will miss the whinging.
There are men who struggle, there are men who don't. There are women who struggle, there are women who don't. There are couples who struggle... you get the idea. Stop blaming the site and other people for your problems."Ver well said! | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want "Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards... | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want
Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards..."I won't meet everyone who asks And I do have standards and a definite type But I meet lots because clearly I have more flexibility than many lol | |||
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Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards..."WEll its easy, if you do a local search within 5miles. I just did and this came up..... 0 women but 300 men plus, so you see what I mean? lol. | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want
Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...
I won't meet everyone who asks
And I do have standards and a definite type
But I meet lots because clearly I have more flexibility than many lol "Maybe some people have a life outside of fab and only have time for the best... | |||
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"Simple be honest genuine and gentlemanly if that doesn't work its for the best because if you have a meet pretending to be something or someone your not it will be awkward as f##k lol Don't do all you can to appease people be you. Sometimes my profile or pics may seem boring I'm better face to face never been one for all this online lark but I'm trying by being me when someone gives me a chance of a social the feedback is always great. Long and short of it be genuine and not pushy. Happy swinging adults playtime after all x" | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want
Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...
I won't meet everyone who asks
And I do have standards and a definite type
But I meet lots because clearly I have more flexibility than many lol
Maybe some people have a life outside of fab and only have time for the best..."I have a wonderful full life out of Fab And my meets well I know I consider them to be better than the ones I've turned down lol xx | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want "Not in my case. I have a life outside of Fab. Sometimes the guys or girls I fancy meeting aren't free when I am and vice versa so I don't get meets whenever I want. Probably about 50% of the time at a rough guess. What I don't do is blame the site or a particular demographic for any failure to meet, just my own logistical flexibility. | |||
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"I can get meets but that is not the problem. Is OK for people to have preferences but I think in this website I think people take it a step to far other then a few websites I been in before!!! Some people don't even read msgs no more that's how bad it's has become so what's the point of being here? " Is somebody forcing you to stay?? If you don't like just leave or go on the other websites. | |||
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Not in my case. I have a life outside of Fab. Sometimes the guys or girls I fancy meeting aren't free when I am and vice versa so I don't get meets whenever I want. Probably about 50% of the time at a rough guess. What I don't do is blame the site or a particular demographic for any failure to meet, just my own logistical flexibility." | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want
Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...
I won't meet everyone who asks
And I do have standards and a definite type
But I meet lots because clearly I have more flexibility than many lol
Maybe some people have a life outside of fab and only have time for the best...
I have a wonderful full life out of Fab
And my meets well
I know I consider them to be better than the ones I've turned down lol xx "Lol. That last line...
I don't have much of a life outside of fab, i'm not bothered about that, circumstances are that i haven't got one right now.
I don't think there is a best on here, it's subjective rather than objective, but i'm fussy as well. Despite having a cum fetish and loving cock and would love to fuck just about the whole site, i'm actually fussy enough to go for what i want on here, because i can.
I also sometimes struggle to get meets, can take me an hour to work out who i want to meet, if anyone. | |||
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"It's a woman's world really? If you don't mind being sent abusive messages when you say no thank you. If you like trawling through hundreds of profiles of cocks with little information,or if you enjoy reading hundreds of messages to find the one that stands out to you. If you like chatting to someone who after five minutes says "When are you free?" ,or "When do you want to meet?". It's not easy on here for a woman just because they are outnumbered by men. " | |||
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"Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...WEll its easy, if you do a local search within 5miles. I just did and this came up..... 0 women but 300 men plus, so you see what I mean? lol." not sure what filters you use on your search, but there are women within 5 miles? of all ages. but 300 men- fucks sake! you better just pop in the pawleyne or goldsmith arms. pulled a lovely bird in the goldsmith a few years ago. on a wed night as well. but there wasnt 300 guys sniffing about! | |||
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"It's a woman's world really? If you don't mind being sent abusive messages when you say no thank you. If you like trawling through hundreds of profiles of cocks with little information,or if you enjoy reading hundreds of messages to find the one that stands out to you. If you like chatting to someone who after five minutes says "When are you free?" ,or "When do you want to meet?". It's not easy on here for a woman just because they are outnumbered by men. " I had a very charming gentleman contact me today which I ignored..... The more I ignored him, he sent 3 x more even more disgusting and degrading than the others! (Blocked now!) So yeah, it's great being a female on here at times | |||
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"Its a cock fest for women, literally ANY woman would get a meet easily here it doesnt matter what she looks every guy will still want to give her go so its up to you to stand out make your profile look good to them..." Not EVERY man. Some women will probably rarely get turned down and some will get turned down a lot. Not all men will want every woman,no matter how horny they are. Some have some self respect | |||
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"Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...WEll its easy, if you do a local search within 5miles. I just did and this came up..... 0 women but 300 men plus, so you see what I mean? lol. not sure what filters you use on your search, but there are women within 5 miles? of all ages. but 300 men- fucks sake! you better just pop in the pawleyne or goldsmith arms. pulled a lovely bird in the goldsmith a few years ago. on a wed night as well. but there wasnt 300 guys sniffing about! " | |||
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"lol its a womans world here, they are having all the fun as the ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman they can get meets whenever they want
Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...
I won't meet everyone who asks
And I do have standards and a definite type
But I meet lots because clearly I have more flexibility than many lol
Maybe some people have a life outside of fab and only have time for the best...
I have a wonderful full life out of Fab
And my meets well
I know I consider them to be better than the ones I've turned down lol xx
Lol. That last line...
I don't have much of a life outside of fab, i'm not bothered about that, circumstances are that i haven't got one right now.
I don't think there is a best on here, it's subjective rather than objective, but i'm fussy as well. Despite having a cum fetish and loving cock and would love to fuck just about the whole site, i'm actually fussy enough to go for what i want on here, because i can.
I also sometimes struggle to get meets, can take me an hour to work out who i want to meet, if anyone." | |||
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"Who's killing the website??
I blame those of you who are into choking and asphyxiation!! Stop it ya perverts!! You're killing fab!!! "Touché | |||
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"All I have encountered is timewasters personally." I find people only waste your time IF YOU LET THEM Personally speaking No one does it to me | |||
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"I think it is fair to say the site is not what it was and I would agree with that. It still offers opportunity to interact with people and hopefully that may lead to meets. I have always relied on meeting people at clubs and socials and that remains to this day the best route for me. As social networking has developed, the site has reflected that change, it is after all a business first and foremost and it is revenue based." This | |||
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"Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...WEll its easy, if you do a local search within 5miles. I just did and this came up..... 0 women but 300 men plus, so you see what I mean? lol. not sure what filters you use on your search, but there are women within 5 miles? of all ages. but 300 men- fucks sake! you better just pop in the pawleyne or goldsmith arms. pulled a lovely bird in the goldsmith a few years ago. on a wed night as well. but there wasnt 300 guys sniffing about! " loll and no I didn't use any filters on, just search and clicked females only and no one came up, 5 miles from penge search I did. | |||
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"Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...WEll its easy, if you do a local search within 5miles. I just did and this came up..... 0 women but 300 men plus, so you see what I mean? lol. not sure what filters you use on your search, but there are women within 5 miles? of all ages. but 300 men- fucks sake! you better just pop in the pawleyne or goldsmith arms. pulled a lovely bird in the goldsmith a few years ago. on a wed night as well. but there wasnt 300 guys sniffing about! loll and no I didn't use any filters on, just search and clicked females only and no one came up, 5 miles from penge search I did." I'm not sure you've quite got the hang of the search tool Shag. I just did it and 300 plus women came up. | |||
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"Interesting that guys think that...guess some of the women on here will meet anyone...but there are also others that have standards...WEll its easy, if you do a local search within 5miles. I just did and this came up..... 0 women but 300 men plus, so you see what I mean? lol. not sure what filters you use on your search, but there are women within 5 miles? of all ages. but 300 men- fucks sake! you better just pop in the pawleyne or goldsmith arms. pulled a lovely bird in the goldsmith a few years ago. on a wed night as well. but there wasnt 300 guys sniffing about! loll and no I didn't use any filters on, just search and clicked females only and no one came up, 5 miles from penge search I did. I'm not sure you've quite got the hang of the search tool Shag. I just did it and 300 plus women came up. " Thanks and now it shows 300 as well, yeah must of been a glitch earlier. | |||
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Reading lots of these sort of threads it is the guys who have changed, now they join and expect the ladies to be hammering on their door 
No one seems to want to take the time to get known in the forums or the chat rooms.
build up a reputation as a nice guy and this includes your profile; so many guys profiles list what they want
very few take any time to ask what the lady wants and how you will full fill them needs.
Concern yourself with what the lady is
after and aim to please her first, Then you will start to get the meets( guys do you realise that lots of the ladies chat to each other ?) by reputation.
believe it or not this works, before I became a couple I had no problem with meets, in fact one of my best times I had 10 meets in a week ( none of them social) so go read your profiles and think what you are doing that's special for the lady to make you stand out | |||
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"having been on this site since 2008, i have not found the site changing much.
Reading lots of these sort of threads it is the guys who have changed, now they join and expect the ladies to be hammering on their door
No one seems to want to take the time to get known in the forums or the chat rooms.
build up a reputation as a nice guy and this includes your profile; so many guys profiles list what they want
very few take any time to ask what the lady wants and how you will full fill them needs.
Concern yourself with what the lady is
after and aim to please her first, Then you will start to get the meets( guys do you realise that lots of the ladies chat to each other ?) by reputation.
believe it or not this works, before I became a couple I had no problem with meets, in fact one of my best times I had 10 meets in a week ( none of them social) so go read your profiles and think what you are doing that's special for the lady to make you stand out " | |||
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"I wonder what are we doing wrong that's killing the website making it so hard to find meets when it's what the website was made for... We supposed to have fun here enjoy it but that's not what it seems to happen no more" . I cannot see any faults with the site . The forums are great and lots of interesting topics are discussed . The non sexual topics in the forums tend to attract the more interesting members and lots put great effort into posting comments . If it is meets you are after , you have to do an objective re_iew of your profile and ask yourself one question. Is the profile interesting enough to attract someones attention, is it backed up by good pictures , and what reasons would someone select you in prefererence to all the other members who are available .? Fab provides the tools with which you can market yourself , you have to use your skills to ensure that you market yourself correctly . | |||
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"i think it is really easy for some people to blame everything around then.... because in there eyes it leaves them blameless... "oh but there is nothing else i could do!!!"....... really??????? too easy to blame everything and everyone around you.... not so easy to do some self reflection and ask yourself "what could i do to improve myself... and in effect my chances" the site... as much as some like to blame everything around them... does give you the oppotunities to may it work and work for you... take all of those openings, some of those, or none of those..... that is up to you.... but in the end that is on you... and no-one else but you!!!!! it would be nice to see people take ownership rather than complaining..... " Sorry Fabio but I agree with View, the site has changed...maybe not the site itself maybe it just by region and maybe it is my region that is full of undesirables who think this site is instashag and the men are totally degrading towards the females on here. The messages I had from one guy on here today were disgusting! Now I would understand if my name and profile were written in a way to attract men to use and abuse me as a slut I could understand and accept it but they aren't...So yes since joining over 6 years ago it is much harder to find and meet respectful men than it was originally. | |||
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"i think it is really easy for some people to blame everything around then.... because in there eyes it leaves them blameless... "oh but there is nothing else i could do!!!"....... really??????? too easy to blame everything and everyone around you.... not so easy to do some self reflection and ask yourself "what could i do to improve myself... and in effect my chances" the site... as much as some like to blame everything around them... does give you the oppotunities to may it work and work for you... take all of those openings, some of those, or none of those..... that is up to you.... but in the end that is on you... and no-one else but you!!!!! it would be nice to see people take ownership rather than complaining..... Sorry Fabio but I agree with View, the site has changed...maybe not the site itself maybe it just by region and maybe it is my region that is full of undesirables who think this site is instashag and the men are totally degrading towards the females on here. The messages I had from one guy on here today were disgusting! Now I would understand if my name and profile were written in a way to attract men to use and abuse me as a slut I could understand and accept it but they aren't...So yes since joining over 6 years ago it is much harder to find and meet respectful men than it was originally. " I agree completely with the region thing. I really struggle to find anyone suitable in my area.....i am not about to fuck a squaddie in my car within moments of chatting but that is mostly what is available in my area. | |||
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"I'm a newbie on here so cant say really if its changed that much because this is all I've known but I cant complain. One thing it has taught me though is to toughen up and not to feel bad anymore if I tell a guy sorry not really my type ect. " I've started to delete and block a lot more now, I don't feel bad about it. So even if the site has had an influx of knobheads, it doesn't really affect me because I just don't engage with them. | |||
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"I'm a newbie on here so cant say really if its changed that much because this is all I've known but I cant complain. One thing it has taught me though is to toughen up and not to feel bad anymore if I tell a guy sorry not really my type ect. I've started to delete and block a lot more now, I don't feel bad about it. So even if the site has had an influx of knobheads, it doesn't really affect me because I just don't engage with them. " | |||
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"Fab is what it is, any old weirdo can join. So there are bound to be lots of fakes etc. However, it was set up as swingers site not a hook-up site. So anyone not getting quick-shag meets is on the wrong site anyway. Sex is not just the physical act. There's a lot more to it, including socialising, stimulating one's brain etc. There's more effort to be put in than taking a pic of your cock, writing "Fill in later" on your profile and then sending "How r u hun?" messages. If you pay attention to the clues, put in some real effort, treat people well and don't take it all too seriously it's a fantastic site "Totally agree x | |||
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"Has anyone said about too many single men just looking for a quick shag ?" giggidy! | |||
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"It is a site that the majority use for free to meet other people looking for the same thing. For us the site works the same as it always has. "You mean you open it, log in, look at pictures, read stuff and type stuff? | |||
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"It is a site that the majority use for free to meet other people looking for the same thing. For us the site works the same as it always has.
You mean you open it, log in, look at pictures, read stuff and type stuff? "And perve | |||
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"It is a site that the majority use for free to meet other people looking for the same thing. For us the site works the same as it always has.
You mean you open it, log in, look at pictures, read stuff and type stuff?
And perve " | |||
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"All quiet for us
Beginning to think our profile is invisible lol
X Mrs Flirty X "Your profile mentions not being able to meet Fridays of Saturdays...this is generally when a lot of swingers meet...so could just be one simple complication of that fact.... | |||
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"Judging by the verifications of some of the ladies I know, there are plenty of fellas who seem to be quite popular and are not out there bragging about it, but quietly getting in with being nice and having fun. I only meet every couple of months. I'm old, so I need time to build up my stamina; so it's perfect for me "If you're old I'm dead | |||
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"It's a woman's world really? If you don't mind being sent abusive messages when you say no thank you. If you like trawling through hundreds of profiles of cocks with little information,or if you enjoy reading hundreds of messages to find the one that stands out to you. If you like chatting to someone who after five minutes says "When are you free?" ,or "When do you want to meet?". It's not easy on here for a woman just because they are outnumbered by men. " | |||
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"Judging by the verifications of some of the ladies I know, there are plenty of fellas who seem to be quite popular and are not out there bragging about it, but quietly getting in with being nice and having fun. I only meet every couple of months. I'm old, so I need time to build up my stamina; so it's perfect for me
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"I never have a problem meeting people on here even though I'm in the dreaded 50+ category, it depends on how you are with the ladies and i find the more cheeky i am and the more i make them laugh the better the reactions leading to possible meets. When i do meet i prefer to make friends with them first even if it means meeting a few times before sex happens, I have my fair share of spontaneous sex making adult films so when i swing i like to have my mind stimulated also to make it that little bit different." I like men who make me laugh I have a definite type yet it all goes out the window if they're funny | |||
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"We find very little wrong with the site and the few things that are wrong for us would most likely suit others. We find a few people on the site annoying and a few meets disappointing, but that is more because of the way we use the site rather than the people themselves. We have a busy life and do not have time for constant messages; as a result we find multiple short questions annoying. Why can’t the other person ask what they want to know at the one time instead of as a series of twenty short questions. By the same token if we asked the other person more questions we would probably out the few disappointments we have had. We have only been here 8 months, though it seems longer so can’t compare it with what it used to be like, but all in all it works for us " | |||
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"yeah..I'm thinking of giving up...buncha fakes..especially on these forums...fakes..timewasters..keyboard warriors" | |||
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"It sometimes seems those that are less bothered / precious about meeting have the best experiences." I find the less effort I make, the more fun I seem to have. Relaxing about it all has helped my enjoyment quota rise. | |||
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