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Do men prefer women who are bitches ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've been clearing out some books and came across a long forgotten book - Why men love bitches!

It defines a bitch as nice, she's sweet as a peach. She smiles and is feminine. She just doesn't make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. She never allows someone to be her priority whilst she's just an option.

My first serious bf told me it was my aloofness that first attracted him to me and that I didn't wait on his phone calls.

So can some women be too nice and you prefer a bitch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find neediness difficult to deal with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like a lady who has a bit of fire in her belly. Combined with intelligence, sarcasm and a naughty streak it's an incredibly attractive personality.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I prefer authentic people and if that means they are a bitch, cool.

Least I know the true them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was there ever a sequel 'Why Women love Bastards'?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Most close to me describe me as a lovely woman..l do have a cheeky nature and tend not to chase men but to my downfall I wear my heart on my sleeve. I've got a lot tougher though so tend to speak my mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Was there ever a sequel 'Why Women love Bastards'?

"

I've no idea, but I think there's something in that. We often go for the guy who's termed as the bad boy ! I confess I have in the past!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bastard and love a dirty bitch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They need to have that about them for sure.

But it's a certain type of "bitch".

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I wouldn't say I was a bitch but judging by that definition I am.

Sometimes if I was them (not jay) I'd tell me to fuck off lol.

My mum said to me one day that no one can argue with me as I just tell them to fuck off and not come back.

But I am pretty sweet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not too nicey but not too bitchy is my personality

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find neediness difficult to deal with. "

Did you help write the book as that's a quote in there !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get called aloof and Ice Queen a lot. (the latter by my own mother) i think men prefer women who are strong minded tbh. Unless they like easily controlled/manipulated women.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

nowt wrong with a chick who is Being In Total Control of Herself!

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London&Dublin


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It defines a bitch as nice, she's sweet as a peach. She smiles and is feminine. She just doesn't make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. She never allows someone to be her priority whilst she's just an option.

"

that is the defintion of 'bitch'..?

wow..im definitely clueless..

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I'm confused, why do these things make us Bitches?

- Amy. x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Last I checked, it was called not being a doormat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused, why do these things make us Bitches?

- Amy. x"

Agreed...if that's what makes a bitch I'll happily be one but I'm not convinced...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Last I checked, it was called not being a doormat..."

Agreed, but some people do end up being one. Even of they weren't always one. Dynamics in a relationship often change over time.

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Been told by my bf that what attracted him to me was my aloofness and that seemed hard. In reality I am not, as when people know me I always give people the benefit of the doubt, see the good in everyone and would do anything for anyone. However, that said, I don't suffer fools gladly and tell people exactly what think because I know my own mind. Comes of bee g a single parent, working full time in a high pressure job and having to do it all on my own I always thought. Part of the reason I was on fabs, because I like my own space and my own company and don't like people in my face. If bitch means independent woman who knows her own mind and is not afraid to speak it, then that's me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused, why do these things make us Bitches?

- Amy. x"

They don't. Strong minded doesn't make a woman a bitch, just strong minded.

I would more equate the 'bitch' definition as equal to how the term 'bastard' equates to men - someone who treats the opposite sex as subordinate, who is self centred, dismissive and unfaithful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Last I checked, it was called not being a doormat...

Agreed, but some people do end up being one. Even of they weren't always one. Dynamics in a relationship often change over time. "
and a bad man can make a nice girl become a bad bitch!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been clearing out some books and came across a long forgotten book - Why men love bitches!

It defines a bitch as nice, she's sweet as a peach. She smiles and is feminine. She just doesn't make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. She never allows someone to be her priority whilst she's just an option.

My first serious bf told me it was my aloofness that first attracted him to me and that I didn't wait on his phone calls.

So can some women be too nice and you prefer a bitch? "

I don't think that someone is a bitch just because they put themselves first in life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm confused, why do these things make us Bitches?

- Amy. x

They don't. Strong minded doesn't make a woman a bitch, just strong minded.

I would more equate the 'bitch' definition as equal to how the term 'bastard' equates to men - someone who treats the opposite sex as subordinate, who is self centred, dismissive and unfaithful."

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I wonder if the definition of a bitch has changed since the book was written, since that description isn't quite how I'd use the term myself either.

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

All of these are positive traits imo, whereas a bitch is more negative: mean, selfish, demeaning, two-faced etc.

Mr ddc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bitches! fckn love em!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dirty bitches even more!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

"

This exactly. ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

This exactly. ^^ "

I didn't know there was another option?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

This exactly. ^^ "

But that isn't being a bitch necessarily...

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

This exactly. ^^

But that isn't being a bitch necessarily..."

(That was my point)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

This exactly. ^^

But that isn't being a bitch necessarily...

(That was my point)"

Yes...sorry only just realised when I read back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

This exactly. ^^

I didn't know there was another option? "

I haven't got a clue what you mean?... I'm referring to what I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate bitches, so no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bitch - a malicious spiteful or coarse woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bitch - a malicious spiteful or coarse woman"

Or a femAle dog

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So no I dont prefer women who are bitches

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't sound like a bitch to me. More like a woman who is happily independent and knows her own mind. A bitch in my mind is something very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't sound like a bitch to me. More like a woman who is happily independent and knows her own mind. A bitch in my mind is something very different."

I agree, I love a confident, self assertive woman who knows what she wants. That is not my definition of a bitch.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The full title of the book is Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl.

If being self-assured is being a bitch and that makes you a dreamgirl I wonder what is the question we are trying to answer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope - feisty is fine but a bitch isn't my idea of fun...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do men prefer women that are bitches?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do men prefer women that are bitches? "
who

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Bitchyness doesn't float my boat at all regardless of who it's from. Life free of unnecessary drama(s) is a conscious preference on my part, might put words to that effect in

our profile.

Him

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By *hetalkingstoveMan
over a year ago

London

I don't know that I'd use the word bitch, but women that are independent, intelligent and strong minded are very attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The full title of the book is Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl.

If being self-assured is being a bitch and that makes you a dreamgirl I wonder what is the question we are trying to answer?

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The book is now in the charity shop ! I went through a phase of reading a few books of a similar vein. Then decided I'm just me -whatever that is.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts


"All of these are positive traits imo, whereas a bitch is more negative: mean, selfish, demeaning, two-faced etc.

Mr ddc"

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

No... unless she's my bitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

I like strong, independent women, who know what they want/like, are happy to speak their mind freely and are prepared to stand up for themselves.

This exactly. ^^

I didn't know there was another option?

I haven't got a clue what you mean?... I'm referring to what I like."

Sorry GT, wasn't referring to your choice. I'm as you describe thought it's never been a choice - just natural.

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

There's bitches and Bitches !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been clearing out some books and came across a long forgotten book - Why men love bitches!

It defines a bitch as nice, she's sweet as a peach. She smiles and is feminine. She just doesn't make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. She never allows someone to be her priority whilst she's just an option.

My first serious bf told me it was my aloofness that first attracted him to me and that I didn't wait on his phone calls.

So can some women be too nice and you prefer a bitch? "

I too have this book!

It taught me a few things.

Although I like to think I am who I am from life experiences and myself wanting to be the person I am today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a hot temper and can be bitchy but not on here. Im too nice, maybe if I wasnt, then people wouldnt walk all over me. oh well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been clearing out some books and came across a long forgotten book - Why men love bitches!

It defines a bitch as nice, she's sweet as a peach. She smiles and is feminine. She just doesn't make decisions based on the fear of losing a man. She never allows someone to be her priority whilst she's just an option.

My first serious bf told me it was my aloofness that first attracted him to me and that I didn't wait on his phone calls.

So can some women be too nice and you prefer a bitch?

I too have this book!

It taught me a few things.

Although I like to think I am who I am from life experiences and myself wanting to be the person I am today."
and very nice you turned out too

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