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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? " Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking)" So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? | |||
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"Maybe using it as a excuse to get into your inbox and speak privately Take it as a compliment " This | |||
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"Maybe using it as a excuse to get into your inbox and speak privately Take it as a compliment This" this! | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum??" Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we? | |||
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"I like a flirt on the forums but prefer to have private more personal chats....and I don't mean about sex " Its a lot easier to get to know someone and find out if you would get on at a social/meet by private messages then just by commenting on their posts all the time | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly?" We get people in boxing about my forum posts, we like it and enjoy the contact. If I was having a discussion in a group I'd have no problem discussing the same thing with just one member of that group | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly?" They want to talk to you, not us! | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we?" What are you talking about. I'm trying to understand what the issue is? Open on the forum or pm if people are still contacting you what exactly is the issue. No silly challenge at all | |||
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"I like a flirt on the forums but prefer to have private more personal chats....and I don't mean about sex Its a lot easier to get to know someone and find out if you would get on at a social/meet by private messages then just by commenting on their posts all the time" thank you you worded it better than I did | |||
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"I like a flirt on the forums but prefer to have private more personal chats....and I don't mean about sex " This totally. | |||
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"If I like someone on the forums,I'd get to know them a little more via private message rather than make comments in public " this is a good tip | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we? What are you talking about. I'm trying to understand what the issue is? Open on the forum or pm if people are still contacting you what exactly is the issue. No silly challenge at all " Sorry, but I just get tired of starting a discussion, and people immediately going 'oh no, someones trying to promote themselves, I MUST attack them!'. Plenty of others posting on the thread seem to have taken the discussion as it was intended, so why can't you? | |||
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"I like a flirt on the forums but prefer to have private more personal chats....and I don't mean about sex This totally." | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we? What are you talking about. I'm trying to understand what the issue is? Open on the forum or pm if people are still contacting you what exactly is the issue. No silly challenge at all Sorry, but I just get tired of starting a discussion, and people immediately going 'oh no, someones trying to promote themselves, I MUST attack them!'. Plenty of others posting on the thread seem to have taken the discussion as it was intended, so why can't you?" Er. ..I merely asked a question and you leapt on me. Play the victim if you will. | |||
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"When you pm someone off the forums do you find the people seem different to the persona you imagined them being? " Not really, though sadly I have met a couple of people (years ago, gladly) who were absolutely nothing like in person how they attempted to portray themselves online. | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we?" Not sure why your jumping down her throat there she asked a reasonable question as people are contacting you privately the only thing you could be missing out on is a bit of public flirtation. If that's what you're after there's the chat rooms. | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? " This for me. | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly?" They are using it as an excuse to get into your panties/boxer shorts* * Delete, as appropriate | |||
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"When you pm someone off the forums do you find the people seem different to the persona you imagined them being? " Well I have been told to move on or fuck off Usually about threads regarding sending pictures or status shuffle, But I don't think they read the subject text, | |||
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"When you pm someone off the forums do you find the people seem different to the persona you imagined them being? " People I have mailed and/ or met in person have all been exactly as I expected. | |||
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"So really what you're saying is you'd rather have a forum post dedicated to you rather than an inbox message?... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. I'd find an inbox message a lot more genuine by a factor of about 100 personally." | |||
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"So really what you're saying is you'd rather have a forum post dedicated to you rather than an inbox message?... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. I'd find an inbox message a lot more genuine by a factor of about 100 personally." I've had a birthday thread which was nice not sure I'd want any other sort ....not that anyone would do one for me anyway | |||
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"I only send "Fancy a fuck?" messages privately, not on the forums " i know can you stop please i've said no so many times your heading for a block! | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we? What are you talking about. I'm trying to understand what the issue is? Open on the forum or pm if people are still contacting you what exactly is the issue. No silly challenge at all " I'm with you on this,I'm trying to understand what the issue is! | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly?" Is this why people have loud phone conversations on packed trains, just so everyone can see how popular they are? | |||
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"So really what you're saying is you'd rather have a forum post dedicated to you rather than an inbox message?... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. I'd find an inbox message a lot more genuine by a factor of about 100 personally." That's a rather sweeping and inaccurate statement. I know there's a few people who mark what they consider to be their territory but it's very rare. As for hidden agendas....really?! | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly? Is this why people have loud phone conversations on packed trains, just so everyone can see how popular they are? " I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly? Is this why people have loud phone conversations on packed trains, just so everyone can see how popular they are? I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. " Pearl! | |||
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"..... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. ..... " In that case, you are running out of lampposts | |||
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"..... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. ..... In that case, you are running out of lampposts " huh?... | |||
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" I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! " Ah bless her, but I dont think she'd appreciate the 'old'... | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly? Is this why people have loud phone conversations on packed trains, just so everyone can see how popular they are? I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! " I hope the lovely Pearl is doing ok | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we? What are you talking about. I'm trying to understand what the issue is? Open on the forum or pm if people are still contacting you what exactly is the issue. No silly challenge at all I'm with you on this,I'm trying to understand what the issue is!" The issue appears to be overthinking things on an epic scale. | |||
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" I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! Ah bless her, but I dont think she'd appreciate the 'old'... " I'm worried now lol who's pearl? | |||
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" I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! Ah bless her, but I dont think she'd appreciate the 'old'... I'm worried now lol who's pearl?" She used to be a very regular forum poster - it was probably a bit before your time | |||
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"Maybe because some don't like to share their business with the forum world? Perhaps not, but as a single male it does get frustrating, wondering how many potential partners you've missed out on, simply because they didn't have the confidence to say hello (by the way that's not a green light for people to starting hammering my inbox, just try and be more open in the forums is all I'm asking) So you think you are missing out because people don't openly flirt with you on the forum?? Lets leave the silly challenges out shall we? What are you talking about. I'm trying to understand what the issue is? Open on the forum or pm if people are still contacting you what exactly is the issue. No silly challenge at all I'm with you on this,I'm trying to understand what the issue is! The issue appears to be overthinking things on an epic scale. " It appears so. Or maybe some people don't like receiving inbox messages,whether to talk about a forum post or to flirt... | |||
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" I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! Ah bless her, but I dont think she'd appreciate the 'old'... " It was yonks ago since she left. I'm old so she must be. x | |||
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" People email me about my posts on here; not once have I ever considered it a gateway to anything else other than they like/dislike my post and wish to discuss further away from the discourse of other posts in-between." | |||
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"So really what you're saying is you'd rather have a forum post dedicated to you rather than an inbox message?... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. I'd find an inbox message a lot more genuine by a factor of about 100 personally. That's a rather sweeping and inaccurate statement. I know there's a few people who mark what they consider to be their territory but it's very rare. As for hidden agendas....really?!" There's plenty of hidden agendas. Threads to invoke sympathy. Threads to have a subtle dig. Threads to illicit certain responses - increased message traffic, the common 'look at me' threads, threads seeking approval/reassurance. Threads designed to give the impression that the situation is different to what is the reality - the volume/content of message claims, the tales more suited to the fantasy forum, the I'm leaving (sometime this decade!) threads. All is often not what it seems. A little reading between the lines often starts the spidey senses twitching and sometimes a pattern emerges in people's posts. And to answer the original question? Whether someone comments in a thread or messages via PM I honestly couldn't be bothered. And I've generally noticed little difference between the two regarding content. A | |||
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"I do mis her *camping with the pets posts.Wonder if she is here incognito. " Probably having a real ale in a pub beer garden somewhere in the country! A | |||
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"I do mis her *camping with the pets posts.Wonder if she is here incognito. " Camping in sub zero temperatures. I liked her. | |||
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"So really what you're saying is you'd rather have a forum post dedicated to you rather than an inbox message?... You do realise, that forum posts have hidden agenda's right..especially lamppost marking. I'd find an inbox message a lot more genuine by a factor of about 100 personally." I don't even take much notice of post on here, people flirt and joke all the time when its on an open forum I just take it as a bit of fun Its like the kiss, fuck, avoid type threads I don't think every guy who puts fuck really wants to fuck me Surely if you were genuinely interested in them you would mail them not just try to make yourself popular buy flirting with everyone on the forums, which I have noticed some do | |||
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"All is often not what it seems. A little reading between the lines often starts the spidey senses twitching and sometimes a pattern emerges in people's posts." An over inflated sense of importance certainly being among them... | |||
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"It's good that you admit it. Now let's move on eh? " *slow clap* 'Witty' | |||
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"I'm a natural flirt and I'm not going to apologise for sometimes flirting on the forums... " Flirting? On a swinging site? | |||
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"I created a post last week which got bugger all by way of public feedback but had my inbox overflowing. Could hardly keep up! So it's not just you, although i did wonder the same " Some people may not want to attract flak!! | |||
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"I like a flirt on the forums but prefer to have private more personal chats....and I don't mean about sex This totally." Likewise, although I rarely flirt on the forums other than join in the odd 'fuck, suck, dump' type thread I welcome any pms and have no filters up, I've had quite a few good convos on pm with men, women, couples, TV/TS (most of which I'm never going to or have no interest in meeting) from a few quick shared comments about a forum thread to longer chats that go off at 90 degrees and morph into something totally different! Good civil chats either on the Forums or via PM are one of the key draws to this site for me | |||
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"I like banter in the forums, if it was anything more serious I'd take it to pm. In fact nothing would put me off more than someone fawning all over me in the forums. Why do people need someone to public ally display they fancy them unless its for some narcistical reasons. " I'd feel uncomfortable & awkward if a guy publicly said he fancies me on forums, in "kiss,fuck, pass" games it's all fun but I'd rather have a private pm | |||
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"I like banter in the forums, if it was anything more serious I'd take it to pm. In fact nothing would put me off more than someone fawning all over me in the forums. Why do people need someone to public ally display they fancy them unless its for some narcistical reasons. I'd feel uncomfortable & awkward if a guy publicly said he fancies me on forums, in "kiss,fuck, pass" games it's all fun but I'd rather have a private pm " Pm sent. Ha (*joke) | |||
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"This thread is getting pulled around all over the place. OP. Can you clarify what the problem is as you see it? .. I'm not getting it...." Fine. I don't see why some people feel that when chatting about none personal things, such as forum topics, they need to take it to PM when the information being shared isn't particularly personal or private. If you find a person particularly interesting, and don't want to message them on the forum because it may be an older topic and they probably won't see your reply then it's fine to message them personally, but lately I've been getting a lot of messages from topics currently running, and I could only conclude that it's because for some reason, they felt like they couldn't talk to me publically. | |||
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"This thread is getting pulled around all over the place. OP. Can you clarify what the problem is as you see it? .. I'm not getting it.... Fine. I don't see why some people feel that when chatting about none personal things, such as forum topics, they need to take it to PM when the information being shared isn't particularly personal or private. If you find a person particularly interesting, and don't want to message them on the forum because it may be an older topic and they probably won't see your reply then it's fine to message them personally, but lately I've been getting a lot of messages from topics currently running, and I could only conclude that it's because for some reason, they felt like they couldn't talk to me publically." Out of interest were they supportive or critical or a mix of both? Quite often I'll get a pm from someone they say they agree with something I've said but doesn't tend to happen if they disagree (in my experience recently anyway). Maybe they just want to offer support without putting their head above the parapet especially if it's a divisive topic? | |||
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"This thread is getting pulled around all over the place. OP. Can you clarify what the problem is as you see it? .. I'm not getting it.... Fine. I don't see why some people feel that when chatting about none personal things, such as forum topics, they need to take it to PM when the information being shared isn't particularly personal or private. If you find a person particularly interesting, and don't want to message them on the forum because it may be an older topic and they probably won't see your reply then it's fine to message them personally, but lately I've been getting a lot of messages from topics currently running, and I could only conclude that it's because for some reason, they felt like they couldn't talk to me publically. Out of interest were they supportive or critical or a mix of both? Quite often I'll get a pm from someone they say they agree with something I've said but doesn't tend to happen if they disagree (in my experience recently anyway). Maybe they just want to offer support without putting their head above the parapet especially if it's a divisive topic? " They were typically supportive, either of something I'd said, or simply that they liked the thread (I got a few for the Chinese Whispers game), I don't think I've ever received any for controversial topics. | |||
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"That's it. You're over thinking it. " Everyone says that lately? Maybe I do tend to pick things apart and lay them out like a disassembled Lego set, but that leads to interesting conversations. I bet if I started a thread about ice cream it wouldn't do very well. | |||
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"This thread is getting pulled around all over the place. OP. Can you clarify what the problem is as you see it? .. I'm not getting it.... Fine. I don't see why some people feel that when chatting about none personal things, such as forum topics, they need to take it to PM when the information being shared isn't particularly personal or private. If you find a person particularly interesting, and don't want to message them on the forum because it may be an older topic and they probably won't see your reply then it's fine to message them personally, but lately I've been getting a lot of messages from topics currently running, and I could only conclude that it's because for some reason, they felt like they couldn't talk to me publically." They are obviously just interested in talking to you. Maybe they don't want to take over a thread. Take it as a compliment and try and stop over thinking it. | |||
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"This thread is getting pulled around all over the place. OP. Can you clarify what the problem is as you see it? .. I'm not getting it...." I understand it completely now, but I've pm'd the op | |||
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"I like banter in the forums, if it was anything more serious I'd take it to pm. In fact nothing would put me off more than someone fawning all over me in the forums. Why do people need someone to public ally display they fancy them unless its for some narcistical reasons. I'd feel uncomfortable & awkward if a guy publicly said he fancies me on forums, in "kiss,fuck, pass" games it's all fun but I'd rather have a private pm Pm sent. Ha (*joke)" wouldn't mind a private pm from you | |||
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"That's it. You're over thinking it. Everyone says that lately? Maybe I do tend to pick things apart and lay them out like a disassembled Lego set, but that leads to interesting conversations. I bet if I started a thread about ice cream it wouldn't do very well." I'd have to agree with the OP. You're over analysing this. People have felt the need to message you in private about a post/thread. That's it. It's happened to me in the past, and I'm sure there's plenty more people in the same boat. | |||
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"That's it. You're over thinking it. Everyone says that lately? Maybe I do tend to pick things apart and lay them out like a disassembled Lego set, but that leads to interesting conversations. I bet if I started a thread about ice cream it wouldn't do very well." My experience is ice cream threads do well, especially when it's warm. Cake and biscuit threads do better though. | |||
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"And a personal message is easier to follow than a thread with multiple people commenting. My eyes ache from scrolling sometimes. " And having someone's love in in the middle of a thread can be irritating to everyone else who have to chat round it | |||
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"Sometimes I don't want to clog up a thread with my witterings. " I can think of plenty of posters on here who should try thinking the same way. | |||
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"Sometimes I don't want to clog up a thread with my witterings. I can think of plenty of posters on here who should try thinking the same way." But surely response to your threads was the desired effect.....unless I'm misunderstanding again? | |||
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"Sometimes I don't want to clog up a thread with my witterings. I can think of plenty of posters on here who should try thinking the same way. But surely response to your threads was the desired effect.....unless I'm misunderstanding again?" Yes, quite. | |||
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"And a personal message is easier to follow than a thread with multiple people commenting. My eyes ache from scrolling sometimes. And having someone's love in in the middle of a thread can be irritating to everyone else who have to chat round it" Exactly darling | |||
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"And a personal message is easier to follow than a thread with multiple people commenting. My eyes ache from scrolling sometimes. And having someone's love in in the middle of a thread can be irritating to everyone else who have to chat round it Exactly darling " Yes that's extremely annoying and a perfect case of where a discussion should be taken to PM, but I'm referring to thread based exchanges. | |||
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"The forums can be quite scary places to some so maybe they are scared of the reactions they may get if they post on the threads so choose to message you personally. " Some read but are unable to post to a thread so send a PM. | |||
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"The forums can be quite scary places to some so maybe they are scared of the reactions they may get if they post on the threads so choose to message you personally. Some read but are unable to post to a thread so send a PM. " That is a very valid point of course .. some people are forum banned | |||
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"If it's a general comment or compliment then I'll reply on the thread. If it's more personal then I'll reply privately. Not because I'm ashamed or not up front but because it's often no one elses business. I don't mind others messaging me about forum posts privately. " | |||
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"I've had a pm specifically saying they agreed with something I said but didn't want a public kicking. I totally understand that. " This is valid. | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly? Is this why people have loud phone conversations on packed trains, just so everyone can see how popular they are? I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! " | |||
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"I tend to be a fairly direct person myself, and make it clear who I do and don't like, especially on here, but how open do others consider themselves to be? I was inspired to ask as lately, I seem to be getting rather a lot of people inboxing me directly regarding a number of my forum contributions, I don't have an issue with this as they've all been very friendly and polite, but it does ultimately make me wonder why some don't wish to interact openly? Is this why people have loud phone conversations on packed trains, just so everyone can see how popular they are? I was once sat behind a rather old and large oriental woman on the train who was having a very loud and very sexual conversation with her husband on the phone. Pearl! " I did that too. | |||
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