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By *hyblueEyes OP   Man
over a year ago

Daventry

apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

Is this from the UKIP handbook?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so,no offensive words other than ones used for homosexuality?....ridiculous!

where was this 'survey'....the daily mail?

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

That's an odd list.

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By *hyblueEyes OP   Man
over a year ago

Daventry

It was done by the BBC. I thought it was an odd list too, hence the fact I shared it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stupid. My brother is gay and we use most of those openly. It's all about the context and intent, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this from the UKIP handbook? "

Handbook? That be the manifesto old boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"That's an odd list. "

I thought that.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"It was done by the BBC. I thought it was an odd list too, hence the fact I shared it "

I'll have a furtle tomorrow.

I don't find cunt offensive but I do find the way the word is used offensive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not offened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

where exactly did you see this?...the word 'straight' is offensive?...this is utter nonsense and certainly was no BBC survey!

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By *hyblueEyes OP   Man
over a year ago

Daventry


"It was done by the BBC. I thought it was an odd list too, hence the fact I shared it

I'll have a furtle tomorrow.

I don't find cunt offensive but I do find the way the word is used offensive.

"

This is the link to the article

http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/32305180/phrase-thats-gay-acceptable-to-nearly-half-of-young-people

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Dyke - thing in Holland

Lezza -

Queer - feeling a little off

Faggot - awful food thing

Bender - robot from Futurama

That's gay -

Queen - Elizabeth's first name

Fairy - washing up liquid

Poof - piece of furniture

Homosexual - someone who is gay

Straight - not curved

Camp - where tents are

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By *hyblueEyes OP   Man
over a year ago

Daventry


"

Dyke - thing in Holland

Lezza -

Queer - feeling a little off

Faggot - awful food thing

Bender - robot from Futurama

That's gay -

Queen - Elizabeth's first name

Fairy - washing up liquid

Poof - piece of furniture

Homosexual - someone who is gay

Straight - not curved

Camp - where tents are"

Well that cleared that up haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not the words that are offensive, but the context and intention behind them. It's possible to be completely offensive whilst using the mildest of terms and inoffensive, funny and even alluring when using the strongest terms - at the right time and with the right intention. Having said that, I am often offended by silence ...!

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By *hyblueEyes OP   Man
over a year ago

Daventry

I could never be offended by silence. Sometimes I prey that silence will happen haha

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I hate you all, you lot are a bunch of bacon dancing puppies.

No offence

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By *hyblueEyes OP   Man
over a year ago

Daventry

No way you used the B word. I am disgusted by your actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We asked people what they thought about 12 words commonly used around sexuality."

It is a set list of words and they asked people how offensive they were.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp "

OK, what is a 'bender'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh I've always seen gay as meaning somethings crap.

Completely separate to the gay as in shagging a sexy man.

So its never really been offensive to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not offened."

Gay

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By *ueenandworkerbeeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

This survey was with regards to homophobic slang/slurs used against gay people. So yes, calling someone a gay man a fairy or a gay woman dyke is very offensive and homophobic.

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By *ueenandworkerbeeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Not to mention the ways that people will casually say 'that's so gay' to anything that's considered bad or uncool. It's offensive and damaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not to mention the ways that people will casually say 'that's so gay' to anything that's considered bad or uncool. It's offensive and damaging."

Really?

I used to call my boyfriend gay when he was being a tit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite offended by that list.

All aboard the offended bus,where in this country if you say you're offended by something,society must pander to your feeling of offence,and tiptoe round you,in case you're offended-complete madness!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Not to mention the ways that people will casually say 'that's so gay' to anything that's considered bad or uncool. It's offensive and damaging."

I never meant it as an insult. I only said that to him when his 'mirror time' exceeded mine, which it frequently did

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp "

and where's......CUNT???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ah...my fav

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

Do we get a prize if we successfully use them all in one sentence?

I'm thinking, scriptwriter on Top Gear?

Mr ddc

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp

and where's......CUNT??? "

Nobody knows where he is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No mention of 'shirt lifter'?

I'm offended.

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"Do we get a prize if we successfully use them all in one sentence?

I'm thinking, scriptwriter on Top Gear?

Mr ddc"

Although I'm struggling with 'Lezza', which is ironic seeing how it rhymes with Jezza...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp

and where's......CUNT???

Nobody knows where he is "

Unlos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did you find these in the beano

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ridiculous. I can immediately think of more offensive words. Very strange

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Ridiculous. I can immediately think of more offensive words. Very strange"

It looks to me as though they asked specifically about words related to sexuality rather than offensive words in general.

I'd vote for slag on the generally offensive words list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp

OK, what is a 'bender'?"
a good day and night out

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp "

They aren't the most offensive words.

Young people were asked if those 12 words were offensive.

A quote from the article:

Of the 12 words about sexuality which we put to the audience, "faggot" was the one that people found most offensive - 75%.

More than half of people in the survey said they would ask their friends to stop using the word if they heard it.

Just over half surveyed thought the term "lezza" was also offensive.

Many agreed the context in which a word is used is as relevant as the person who is using it.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I like the word fairy....I would love to be a fairy - I have my own wings I also love the 'c' word if it is being used in connection with my girl bits....not a fan of it as an insult...but pretty girl bits yes!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Camp "

I find all of those words offensive and ask people not to use them unless they are self-identifying in some situations (I.e. I call myself a dyke, but other people don't have permission to call me one).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Camp

I find all of those words offensive and ask people not to use them unless they are self-identifying in some situations (I.e. I call myself a dyke, but other people don't have permission to call me one)."

Most depressing post of the week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Camp

I find all of those words offensive and ask people not to use them unless they are self-identifying in some situations (I.e. I call myself a dyke, but other people don't have permission to call me one).

Most depressing post of the week"

Not really. Take some time to read up about reclamation of words from their historical usages. Then go call some people niggers.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"apparently the following words are the 12 most sexually offensive words/phrases in today's language. The survey basically asked what words/phrases people were offended by. The most offensive in the survey was Faggot, with 75% saying it was an offensive word. Surprisingly 15% of the people said that the word homosexual is so offensive that it should not be used in conversation at all. What do you guys think? Personally the most offensive sexually word/phrase for me is C**t

The list

Dyke

Lezza

Queer

Faggot

Bender

That's gay

Queen

Fairy

Poof

Homosexual

Straight

Camp

OK, what is a 'bender'? a good day and night out "

I still don't get it; I'm so thick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still don't get it; I'm so thick "

Someone who is 'bent'. I.e., not straight.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"I still don't get it; I'm so thick

Someone who is 'bent'. I.e., not straight."

Oh, OK, thanks. Not that I have any intention of using these words

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How I see it is,if you don't like a stranger to call you by a particular word you shouldn't call yourself it. It's very confusing for children to hear these words said and then get warned for saying them themselves. Don't call yourself dyke or nigger if you don't accept others calling you it. The words should not be in modern language anywhere. I call myself fat,I don't cry when someone else calls me it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so disappointed with this list. Why no 'shirt tail lifter'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How I see it is,if you don't like a stranger to call you by a particular word you shouldn't call yourself it. It's very confusing for children to hear these words said and then get warned for saying them themselves. Don't call yourself dyke or nigger if you don't accept others calling you it. The words should not be in modern language anywhere. I call myself fat,I don't cry when someone else calls me it. "

I wouldn't personally call myself a dyke in front of a child - random children don't need to know about my sexual activities and preferred lifestyle choices.

But I self identify as a dyke to my friends. Because I fit into a dyke subculture.

It's different if someone calls me it from outside that subculture. They are making assumptions about me, perhaps because of my hair or the way that I dress. Making assumptions about someone and then using words that have previously been insulting to describe them and their sex life isn't acceptable.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

How about too vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How I see it is,if you don't like a stranger to call you by a particular word you shouldn't call yourself it. It's very confusing for children to hear these words said and then get warned for saying them themselves. Don't call yourself dyke or nigger if you don't accept others calling you it. The words should not be in modern language anywhere. I call myself fat,I don't cry when someone else calls me it.

I wouldn't personally call myself a dyke in front of a child - random children don't need to know about my sexual activities and preferred lifestyle choices.

But I self identify as a dyke to my friends. Because I fit into a dyke subculture.

It's different if someone calls me it from outside that subculture. They are making assumptions about me, perhaps because of my hair or the way that I dress. Making assumptions about someone and then using words that have previously been insulting to describe them and their sex life isn't acceptable."

Other people use offensive words in front of children. I just think instead of perpetuating them get rid of them. Other adults hear you you say it,they keep saying it and don't care that children hear it. I understand what you're saying about reclaiming words of hatred but I'd rather they disappeared totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How I see it is,if you don't like a stranger to call you by a particular word you shouldn't call yourself it. It's very confusing for children to hear these words said and then get warned for saying them themselves. Don't call yourself dyke or nigger if you don't accept others calling you it. The words should not be in modern language anywhere. I call myself fat,I don't cry when someone else calls me it.

I wouldn't personally call myself a dyke in front of a child - random children don't need to know about my sexual activities and preferred lifestyle choices.

But I self identify as a dyke to my friends. Because I fit into a dyke subculture.

It's different if someone calls me it from outside that subculture. They are making assumptions about me, perhaps because of my hair or the way that I dress. Making assumptions about someone and then using words that have previously been insulting to describe them and their sex life isn't acceptable.

Other people use offensive words in front of children. I just think instead of perpetuating them get rid of them. Other adults hear you you say it,they keep saying it and don't care that children hear it. I understand what you're saying about reclaiming words of hatred but I'd rather they disappeared totally. "

So what do we do? Just make up a new word?

Myke instead of Dyke?

It's very hard to get new words to be adopted and everyone know what you're talking about. Words changing meaning happens all the time - like the word gay. Gay used to be an insult (and still is - see above) but has been reclaimed by the gay community in order to describe themselves. After a while it became acceptable to describe people as gay if you weren't gay yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How I see it is,if you don't like a stranger to call you by a particular word you shouldn't call yourself it. It's very confusing for children to hear these words said and then get warned for saying them themselves. Don't call yourself dyke or nigger if you don't accept others calling you it. The words should not be in modern language anywhere. I call myself fat,I don't cry when someone else calls me it.

I wouldn't personally call myself a dyke in front of a child - random children don't need to know about my sexual activities and preferred lifestyle choices.

But I self identify as a dyke to my friends. Because I fit into a dyke subculture.

It's different if someone calls me it from outside that subculture. They are making assumptions about me, perhaps because of my hair or the way that I dress. Making assumptions about someone and then using words that have previously been insulting to describe them and their sex life isn't acceptable.

Other people use offensive words in front of children. I just think instead of perpetuating them get rid of them. Other adults hear you you say it,they keep saying it and don't care that children hear it. I understand what you're saying about reclaiming words of hatred but I'd rather they disappeared totally.

So what do we do? Just make up a new word?

Myke instead of Dyke?

It's very hard to get new words to be adopted and everyone know what you're talking about. Words changing meaning happens all the time - like the word gay. Gay used to be an insult (and still is - see above) but has been reclaimed by the gay community in order to describe themselves. After a while it became acceptable to describe people as gay if you weren't gay yourself."

Use a word that you don't find offensive so everyone can use it? Or don't label yourselves? People will always use abusive words to call people they want to hurt,don't let names hurt you. When I got fat my husband started calling me a fat doughnut eating cunt,I would laugh at him and say is that all you have? He called me a fat cunt in front of my granddaughters recently,they weren't impressed. I just explained to them he has nothing intelligent to say so he calls me names. It's not so easy explaining to children why some words aren't acceptable,especially not to small children. I know I'm living in an ideal world in my head as film makers and the music industry use a lot of words we don't want children to hear that they can easily come across. We won't eradicate racism or homophobic behaviour but we shouldn't be seen to be condoning it. Just how I would like it to be,that's all.

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Mmmmmmm.....faggots....with onion gravy....

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