FabSwingers.com forum: Single males and discrimination

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Agreed make it more of a buyers market opposed to a sellers (figuratively speaking)

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Of course some of them feel aggrieved we hear about it often enough

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By *anchestercubMan
over a year ago

manchester & NI

"You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

There will always be men willing to jump through any hoop for a fuck.

Couples and women could be as rude as they like, and they'd still be inundated with offers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course some of them feel aggrieved we hear about it often enough"

Yeah agreed. For the record we as a couple don't subscribe to Single men bashing and they were part of the reason why we came to the site. They fill a very valuable hole in some people's fantasies on here and the site would not be the same without them.

The power does lie with them.

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

"Of course some of them feel aggrieved we hear about it often enough

The power does lie with them. "

They fill a very valuable hole !!! Oooo errrrr Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Of course some of them feel aggrieved we hear about it often enough

The power does lie with them.

They fill a very valuable hole !!! Oooo errrrr Mrs

Or holes if we are lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Of course some of them feel aggrieved we hear about it often enough

The power does lie with them. "

I totally agree

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By *ythenshawefredMan
over a year ago

stockport

Not sure I've cracked it but I'm not jumping through hoops anymore and have found that yes I get less meets (not vastly less) but when I get them they are so much better meets its untrue

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm a single male and I don't feel discriminated.

I'm here to talk crap on the forums. If I get a meet that's a bonus, if I don't, so what? I can carry on playing GTA

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm a single male and I don't feel discriminated.

I'm here to talk crap on the forums. If I get a meet that's a bonus, if I don't, so what? I can carry on playing GTA

Trevor is a legend in that game.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

If it was on the other foot and the ratios were 100:1 (women to men) Guys - I would say, pretty much all of us, would be beating our chests and batting down any "discrimination" jibes them there pokey women even so much as uttered.

That guy on the other thread just didnt realise that by sending a simple picture when requested, it saved driving 100 miles to be told 'not for me'.

On the other hand, I will say, that there is an expectation that when contacting women / couples ask for face pics despite not sending any of theirs first. I always send in my first if I am the one interested and initiating interest.

What happened to the other thread???

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By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

I must admit to feeling annoyed sometimes when afternoon carefully reading a profile, attaching face pictures, putting raspberries or whatever and then seeing read deleted.

But I don't blame the receiver I blame the hundreds of idiots on here who log on for a quick wank and waste everybody's time.

Although if it was obvious someone had taken the time to read my profile and sent a message based on it, personally I would take the time to reply and not bother replying to one liners and copy pasters.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Of course some of them feel aggrieved we hear about it often enough

The power does lie with them.

I totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol "

I'm in total agreement. I still enjoy hoop jumping profiles though. They are a great source of amusement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't jump through any hoops probably why I've not met anyone yet lol it's all got to be mutual for me I like to think there as interested in Me as I am in them otherwise your just a spare prick so to speak

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

"You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol

I'm in total agreement. I still enjoy hoop jumping profiles though. They are a great source of amusement. "

lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

I always say that people will only treat you the way you allow them to treat you. However on here where the desire for sex often overrides common sense people will get away with impossible demands. It wouldn't hurt to lay off the single blokes a bit though, they do get a bad press from some people.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Yes but after 2 years of expensive therapy I'm over it now !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol "

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

its apparent that very few guys ...and couple for that matter even bother to read a persons profile properly before sending a message . then the message will often a few words, dull or a cut n paste job so no wonder people cant be bothered to reply sometimes .. finding suitable playmates can be very hard work and u have to make an effort if u want to stand out ...this is what most fail to understand .

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

I dont feel discriminated against on the site tbh altho I'm aware it can seem that way on the club scene. I'm well aware of the reasons cpls on the site put out hurdles for us to jump and I take no offence at them. That is when it's a genuine feet on the ground people I'm in touch with who equally can jump my hurdles.

Saying that it does get tedious when the not so genuine or those with behavioral issues, gamers pop up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

There will always be men willing to jump through any hoop for a fuck.

Couples and women could be as rude as they like, and they'd still be inundated with offers. "

This....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't feel discriminated against. I think its probably the guys who sign up thinking the site is full of women with open arms and legs, who might!

Personally I take the time to read a profile and only message if I think I may match their requirements. Or maybe message if something on a status catches my eye.

As a single male I feel no more discriminated against than I do for age, build etc.

Its probably those men who don't put any effort in, or write stupid 'want to fuck' messages, who do.

But then I have been lucky, made some good friends have some regular playmates and only message someone who really catches my eye, for whatever reason. Somebody will always feel aggrieved about something, somewhere!

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

""You can easily judge the character of a man by how he treats those who can do nothing for him"

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Yes, though the vast majority don't read them anyway it seems!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speaking as a single male the site works well for me.

I've been on here almost 2 years now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally - I don't buy into the whole "ethos" of how most of the profiles are written with demands, etc.

Barring two messages - every single one I ever had have been through the forum. Either about a post/thread or something else

Of the two that weren't - one didn't get a reply - "fuck my wife whilst I watch at work" is of no interest and they'd have known that if they'd read my profile.

The other has lead to a good friendship and lots of smiles. However she/they took the time to read and understand and there was no mention of anything for a while just good, old fashioned talking.

Feel aggrieved? No - but then I don't do demands......

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By *inge 1985Man
over a year ago

London

Main problem is the average level of pushyness, rudeness and aggression from some single males if just too high and it taints the rest, but from a single males point of _iew I understand that it must be both frustrating and annoying for couple and females so they have to be a certain way to discourage these people and obviously the fakes and time wasters that seem to be in an abundance, it is a shame though that the experience has tainted people and also adversely effected genuine and honest guys like myself, but such is life.

Respect seems to be a hard concept for some people to contemplate and it is hard to show respect to the individual if the masses show so little, not sure if it is the majority or minority but shit sticks better than sugar, it is not discrimination but a tone taken due to experience and we all learn from experience.

It is good there is now the block and report option x

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I am only interested in single males but as in everything you get a mix of the good and bad, personally i don't have demands, if I choose to meet someone then I am willing to travel/share hotel costs, you don't have to be over a certain height or under a certain weight, you don't need the body of an Adonis, you just need to be a nice respectful bloke with a good personality and willing to kiss me for hours on end

However I do agree that there are some guys who think they just need to log in and the women come a running, there are also women and couples who think they are gods gift and a little humble pie wouldn't hurt now and again

It's a mixed bag in here and not all the bad bits can be laid at the door of the single man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Not really. Plenty of awesome folk on here never really had an issue with "hoop jumping" as I just ignore them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am only interested in single males but as in everything you get a mix of the good and bad, personally i don't have demands, if I choose to meet someone then I am willing to travel/share hotel costs, you don't have to be over a certain height or under a certain weight, you don't need the body of an Adonis, you just need to be a nice respectful bloke with a good personality and willing to kiss me for hours on end

It's a mixed bag in here and not all the bad bits can be laid at the door of the single man "

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"Not sure I've cracked it but I'm not jumping through hoops anymore and have found that yes I get less meets (not vastly less) but when I get them they are so much better meets its untrue "

I never jumped through any hoops - I'm not desperate, its not why I'm here.

So far, this attitude has seemed to work in my favour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a mixed bag in here and not all the bad bits can be laid at the door of the single man

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place isn't for the weak

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I don't jump through hoops, nor do I allow people to dictate to me.

My self worth would never allow it.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Not in the slightest. I find my own way on here and have no one to blame for any apparent lack of success except myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you feel aggrieved why participate? Yes there are demanding folk,but after all this site is about people getting something you want or some form of gratification. Make it what you will.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm guessing by the replies it's a resounding no.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol "

Here is a mirror for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm guessing by the replies it's a resounding no.

I think few people will ADMIT to feeling aggrieved.

But as per my reply anyway, the site definitely works well for me.

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By *aypapichuloMan
over a year ago

isleworth

Lets face it some of the woman on here need a mirror cause they go on as if they will only want a tom hardy or idris elba! But have they looked at themselves lol..seriously some of these woman need a reality check!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lets face it some of the woman on here need a mirror cause they go on as if they will only want a tom hardy or idris elba! But have they looked at themselves lol..seriously some of these woman need a reality check! "

I just ignore them. Let them believe the hype

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picking up on a year old thread with that comment. This should be fun. I'll put the kettle on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I threw out my mirrors because they kept braking when I looked in them

Can I still have Bradley Cooper?

-Courtney

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Has that taken you 47 weeks to have the balls to say that

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By *estlands4Man
over a year ago

Sidmouth

I can be any one you want so long as the lights are out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Picking up on a year old thread with that comment. This should be fun. I'll put the kettle on "

It didn't turn out well for me when I did that last time

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By *jj46Man
over a year ago

rhyl

I'm separated so basically single I'm happy just chatting and even spent time being celibate and after a couple of messages she gave me her number I declined nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But isn't that part of the fantasy for some people, Looking for something you wouldn't normally go for or attract in real life

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Wow where did this resurgence spring from?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if they dont they should. seen it plastered all over the forums since i joined up

personally it doesnt bother me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? "

Some? Yes.

All? No.

Me? No.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

Dont fall for it guys the OP is just trying to ingratiate herself so she can get in our pants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dont fall for it guys the OP is just trying to ingratiate herself so she can get in our pants."

She wouldn't have to try that hard with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Nope..I feel right at home here. Nobody has asked me to jump through any hoops and I've ignored the odd rare profile that has sounded demanding.

i've found chatting and making friends easy enough, had some great times, met some really great folk and even with some fucked each other seven ways from Friday.

What's to feel discriminated by?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I bet they still get laid more than you

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol "

Makes me sometimes laugh too; some just need to grow up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

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we kind of get used to the problems and stick to what you know ,if I had to start all over I think I wouldn't bother knowing what I do now

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Wow where did this resurgence spring from? "

A man messaged someone he thought should be desperate and grateful for his attention and she said no. He now has wounded pride and ickle hurt feelings, poor love.

Just a guess.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"if they dont they should. seen it plastered all over the forums since i joined up

personally it doesnt bother me though"

No, it bothers you so little that you feel the need to make nasty comments about these women regularly.

If it didn't bother you, you'd carry on doing your thing and leave them to do theirs. You're both entitled to look for whomever or whatever you like.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

But I bet they still get laid more than you

And that is exactly why he feels the need to insult them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I bet they still get laid more than you

And that is exactly why he feels the need to insult them."

What? The Green eyed monster of jealousy?! Here? On fab?!

Nahhhhh...yer having me on

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

But I bet they still get laid more than you

And that is exactly why he feels the need to insult them.

What? The Green eyed monster of jealousy?! Here? On fab?!

Nahhhhh...yer having me on

It's discrimination when men can't get laid. Sex is a human right and it's the duty of women to provide it. It's what we're for, dammit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I see a profile with a big list of rules or demands then it instantly puts me off the person. Fair enough asking for face pic. Don't feel discriminated against right enough but not going to jump through hoops for people and read a profile longer than the bible!

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over a year ago

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Who said that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol "

Agreed at the end of the day this is a sex site if you want a date or bf/gf then go to pof

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"if they dont they should. seen it plastered all over the forums since i joined up

personally it doesnt bother me though

No, it bothers you so little that you feel the need to make nasty comments about these women regularly.

If it didn't bother you, you'd carry on doing your thing and leave them to do theirs. You're both entitled to look for whomever or whatever you like."

lol wtf? i dont make any regular nasty comments about anyone :/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But I bet they still get laid more than you

And that is exactly why he feels the need to insult them.

What? The Green eyed monster of jealousy?! Here? On fab?!

Nahhhhh...yer having me on

It's discrimination when men can't get laid. Sex is a human right and it's the duty of women to provide it. It's what we're for, dammit!

Reporting for duty....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I write in my girly diary every night about how fab ruins my self esteem, makes me feel lonely and left out. After that, I normally roll over and cry myself to sleep over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I write in my girly diary every night about how fab ruins my self esteem, makes me feel lonely and left out. After that, I normally roll over and cry myself to sleep over it.

It's going to be ok brah. Shhhhhhhh go to your safe place.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

But I bet they still get laid more than you

And that is exactly why he feels the need to insult them.

What? The Green eyed monster of jealousy?! Here? On fab?!

Nahhhhh...yer having me on

It's discrimination when men can't get laid. Sex is a human right and it's the duty of women to provide it. It's what we're for, dammit!

Reporting for duty....

On hands and knees for the Lords 'n' Mastas

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol

Agreed at the end of the day this is a sex site if you want a date or bf/gf then go to pof"

Totally disagree! I'd rather go without as I have done for six months than settle for someone unsuitable....just because some men think this is a sex site I reserve all rights to my body!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol

Agreed at the end of the day this is a sex site if you want a date or bf/gf then go to pof

Totally disagree! I'd rather go without as I have done for six months than settle for someone unsuitable....just because some men think this is a sex site I reserve all rights to my body!

Uhmm it is

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By *razedcatMan
over a year ago

London / Herts

Uhmm it is"

The site is called fabswingers, not fabfuckers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single male I'm thinking of leaving the site and its not because of lack of interest or meets its because it's changing my perception of sex ..for me the greatest sex I've had is unplanned sex with someone who you didn't think you would have sex with but it just happened and turned out to be great. And for me all the formalities that's comes with most single women and couples on here just takes the fun away . I had a few meets in previous profile and but the time I got to the meets we have already discussed what would happen how it would happen and what time it would happen just felt like going through the motions not fun for me

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"It is what it is, it makes me laugh when some of these woman have many many hoops to jump thru, which is totally their choice, however sometimes they need a mirror and a reality check.

I am sure some guys will do anything lol

Agreed at the end of the day this is a sex site if you want a date or bf/gf then go to pof

Totally disagree! I'd rather go without as I have done for six months than settle for someone unsuitable....just because some men think this is a sex site I reserve all rights to my body!

Uhmm it is"

No it is not! If you want a sex site use one, or just pay for it, simple really!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

People look for sex on a swinging site surely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely"

Heaven forbid

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely"

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

Men who think they just need to join and have women accepting all offers and throwing abuse about when we don't isn't acceptable in my eyes. And no I don't see the point in reporting the abuse as all the site does is block you from each other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bitterness and entitlement are never attractive traits. So what's the issue, that women you think aren't attractive shouldn't have standards? Or is just not dealing with rejection from women you think are beneath you?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

I don't see anyone say any different. You can show respect and still look for sex.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

I don't see anyone say any different. You can show respect and still look for sex."

Unfortunately that doesn't happen on here all that often.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

Your experience is totally different than ours

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Your experience is totally different than ours

Maybe the difference is between being a couple and single female? Maybe single females are seen as easier targets as they don't have a male to counteract the abuse? Just maybe?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

I don't see anyone say any different. You can show respect and still look for sex."

It's possible, yes, but from the contents of my mailbox it's the exception rather than the norm.

If it were allowed, I'd provide some choice examples of the "respect" I frequently get, but it's not, so you'll have to take my word for it.

Sometimes it bothers me but usually I just feel a bit sad for those that think crass rudeness is an acceptable way to address a stranger, even on a sex site, as I block them. And I wonder how soon they'll be writing a status or posting on here complaining about how rude women are on here because we don't reply, or how they hate being blocked "for no reason".

Thankfully they're not all bad, but disrespectful, graphic, crass and presumptuous messages are far from uncommon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a single male and I don't feel discriminated.

I'm here to talk crap on the forums. If I get a meet that's a bonus, if I don't, so what? I can carry on playing GTA

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

I don't see anyone say any different. You can show respect and still look for sex.

It's possible, yes, but from the contents of my mailbox it's the exception rather than the norm.

If it were allowed, I'd provide some choice examples of the "respect" I frequently get, but it's not, so you'll have to take my word for it.

Thankfully they're not all bad, but disrespectful, graphic, crass and presumptuous messages are far from uncommon."

I think you are both missing the point I was making or trying to make. It wasn't about needing to know what goes on in peoples mailboxes, it was about when anyone mentions that they are here looking for sex they are being told to go pay for it on a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

I don't see anyone say any different. You can show respect and still look for sex."

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

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over a year ago

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

I must admit to feeling annoyed sometimes when afternoon carefully reading a profile, attaching face pictures, putting raspberries or whatever and then seeing read deleted.

But I don't blame the receiver I blame the hundreds of idiots on here who log on for a quick wank and waste everybody's time.

I really wish I could reply to everyone who sent me a thoughtful message where it was clear that they had read my profile. But I received over 500 messages in one day last week and when I used to reply to the messages from people I wasn't interested in, I'd get another 100 replies asking me why I wasn't interested... I just didn't have the time! My thumbs started to hurt

That's the only reason I try to be so explicit as to what I want on my profile so people don't waste their time!

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over a year ago

It doesn't bother me really as I just use the site for the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can't be who everyone wants, so if you put yourself out there you just have to accept rejection. That being said I've had some really harsh rejections lol

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"People look for sex on a swinging site surely

Yes they do, but surely there is or should be an element of respect attached or maybe I am just naïve?

I don't see anyone say any different. You can show respect and still look for sex.

It's possible, yes, but from the contents of my mailbox it's the exception rather than the norm.

If it were allowed, I'd provide some choice examples of the "respect" I frequently get, but it's not, so you'll have to take my word for it.

Thankfully they're not all bad, but disrespectful, graphic, crass and presumptuous messages are far from uncommon.

Looking for sex is one thing and is fair enough. I think most of us are looking for sexual gratification in one form or another.

Mind you, when people contact me and they sound like they think they are ordering from a menu, (particularly in their first message), I do tend to think they have misunderstood this site and the reason for my presence on this site, and may be better looking at sites for paid sexual service providers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always nice ,respectful always read the profile and always send a selection of pics ,I don't expect anything certainly not sex and I really don't understand why anyone gives abuse ,surely they are provoked in some way ,a woman earlier said they got 500 messages in one day this is the problem for most guys and it must be very frustrating if that is a woman you would like to meet ,frustrating for the woman because she can't effectively answer them messages frustrating for the guy that's interested and maybe has already chatted a few times so knows theirs mutual interest but many of his messages don't get read of answered

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Wow where did this resurgence spring from?

A man messaged someone he thought should be desperate and grateful for his attention and she said no. He now has wounded pride and ickle hurt feelings, poor love.

Just a guess."

My initial thought: must have been a real kick in the nuts being turned down by some munter he thought would empty his balls as he was tired doing it himself, hence the hissy fit.

I could be wrong...I was once last year.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Wow where did this resurgence spring from?

A man messaged someone he thought should be desperate and grateful for his attention and she said no. He now has wounded pride and ickle hurt feelings, poor love.

Just a guess.

My initial thought: must have been a real kick in the nuts being turned down by some munter he thought would empty his balls as he was tired doing it himself, hence the hissy fit.

I could be wrong...I was once last year.

Yeahbut the chance of us both being wrong?

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

"It doesn't bother me really as I just use the site for the forum."

Yep, me too. Not meeting; only here for forums

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over a year ago

"I write in my girly diary every night about how fab ruins my self esteem, makes me feel lonely and left out. After that, I normally roll over and cry myself to sleep over it.

It's going to be ok brah. Shhhhhhhh go to your safe place.

I dream of a place where every one throws rose petals at my feet, women desire me and people laugh and applaud every thing I say.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I write in my girly diary every night about how fab ruins my self esteem, makes me feel lonely and left out. After that, I normally roll over and cry myself to sleep over it.

It's going to be ok brah. Shhhhhhhh go to your safe place.

I dream of a place where every one throws rose petals at my feet, women desire me and people laugh and applaud every thing I say.

If people laughed at everything you say, you'd be a paranoid wreck within a week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can jump but I doubt I'd get my ass through a hoop

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Can people stop mentioning other sites please.

Thanks

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over a year ago

"I write in my girly diary every night about how fab ruins my self esteem, makes me feel lonely and left out. After that, I normally roll over and cry myself to sleep over it.

It's going to be ok brah. Shhhhhhhh go to your safe place.

I dream of a place where every one throws rose petals at my feet, women desire me and people laugh and applaud every thing I say.

If people laughed at everything you say, you'd be a paranoid wreck within a week

what if I'm a stand up comedian though? And no one laughs? Surely that would be worse?! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do feel bad for some single men I hate it when I get too many messages and I miss messages from the people I enjoy talking to on here.

But as with everything there are the odd few that ruin it for everyone else and I'm sure that can be applied to every category on here, not only single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't bother me really as I just use the site for the forum.

Yep, me too. Not meeting; only here for forums

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Not in the slightest. I find my own way on here and have no one to blame for any apparent lack of success except myself. "

And Shag and his abs.

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over a year ago

"Following on from a previous thread do single males sometimes feel aggrieved on here? I think the term discrimination was a little strong.

Whilst I agree that some profiles and the virtual hoop jumping that they ask of people are a bit wrong. You could always pass these profiles by and they would have to adapt accordingly?

Not in the slightest. I find my own way on here and have no one to blame for any apparent lack of success except myself.

And Shag and his abs. "
Yes. I will do few sets later lol.

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By *aypapichuloMan
over a year ago

isleworth

Who knows but judging by the way you look! Eeerm i wouldnt talk lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Papichulo is that you ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here a few years now. The amount of meets I've had I can count on one hand (not really by choice mind you)

It is what it is. I'm not one to go jumping through hoops for the sake of a meet and honestly most of the time is not worth it. The kind of people that put so many stipulations in their profile are normally the type of people that think way to highly of them self (in my experience anyway) more often than not women tend to think too highly of them self cause they get so many messages. It feeds their egos a little I think. Single guys don't get as much attention cause women get so many messages they can then afford to be more shallow than they normally would.

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