FabSwingers.com forum: How ruthless are you.?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok guys an girls I have a guy who's very sweet and messages me regular and I've already told him he's not my type numerous times.

Thing is he's very polite and happens to be deaf and would make somebody a great bf, just not me.

I cant block him id fell a total bitch to.

So how ruthless are you on here.?

Go Fabbers. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can be pretty ruthless in different ways on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be pretty ruthless in different ways on here. "

I'm pretty ruthless in the real world too sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok guys an girls I have a guy who's very sweet and messages me regular and I've already told him he's not my type numerous times.

Thing is he's very polite and happens to be deaf and would make somebody a great bf, just not me.

I cant block him id fell a total bitch to.

So how ruthless are you on here.?

Go Fabbers. xx"

I'd simply suggest just winding the conversation down gently, there's no need to block.

As for being ruthless, I reckon I'm a pretty intelligent guy, but I'm not cruel, and that's what keeps me from being truly ruthless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is this a PC post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here, I am occasionally.

In real life, hurt my family or friends, woe betide the transgressor....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have had to learn to be ruthless on here

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

I'm a big softy so I can't contribute to this post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd meet up, and poke him in the eyes.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

honestly dunno why this is out ON the public forum...strange..

my advice..if he's been told no thanks numerous times..either block or ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had to learn to be ruthless on here

Unlearn it, it compromises the warm, sunlight thoughts inspired by your motherly bosom x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"is this a PC post

Lol I think I try and keep them less controversial from now on.

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By *orny and Sexy 2Couple
over a year ago

Blackwood

Awww also a big softie. Wud just answer his messages occasionally with short answers. Wouldnt like to block and upset him either x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums..."

Tbh id be mortified if he did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have had to learn to be ruthless on here

Unlearn it, it compromises the warm, sunlight thoughts inspired by your motherly bosom x"

I'm not in real life but on here when looking for a meet I do need to be or I would end up shagging/peeing on/giving head/playing with girlfriend of every guy that asks

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums...

Tbh id be mortified if he did.

Then why post a thread in a public forum?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not ruthless on here or reality, sometimes I think I should be though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or look at it another way...

I don't think it's being ruthless to block someone who won't take no for an answer, even if they are sweet or polite.

But if you don't wanna block then every time he messages you say, 'hi, not got much time to chat coz i'm arranging a meet'. Until he gets the hint you are meeting everyone except him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums..."

A quick poke in the eyes would solve that problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him again, firmly, that it isn't going to happen. He may be being polite, but he is being a pest by not taking 'no' for an answer. Forget his deafness, ask yourself, if he wasn't, would you still be hesitating about this? This is not being ruthless, this is being honest. You cannot meet him out of pity, that is far worse than being told to go away.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums...

Tbh id be mortified if he did.

Then why post a thread in a public forum?"

Yeah with the beauty of hindsight I know now.

But I was more curious about others on here and how ruthless they are and am I being too soft.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it ain't gonna happen I block em n tbh I expect the same

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

I'm not ruthless at all really. Maybe a bit too soft as shit for my own good. For me to get ruthless I have to be really hurt or full of some real hatred! That doesn't happen very often.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

If be knows there I'd no future meet going to happen but you enjoy chatting with him where's the harm?

I often chat to people I have no intention of meeting. Doesn't always have to be about the boom boom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm naturally inclined to being compassionate so learning to be ruthless in my compassion has been a lifelong journey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only block people who are rude. So I guess as long as he understands that you won't be meeting, then chatting is fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mainly block time wasters, picture collectors and cheats.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I'm not really ruthless at all. I don't see much need for it. I find life works well by doing my best not to be unpleasant to people.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell him again, firmly, that it isn't going to happen. He may be being polite, but he is being a pest by not taking 'no' for an answer. Forget his deafness, ask yourself, if he wasn't, would you still be hesitating about this? This is not being ruthless, this is being honest. You cannot meet him out of pity, that is far worse than being told to go away."

Thanks Countrygirl if I'm honest you just confirmed what I thought all along but just wanted to hear it from a bystander.

I've seen you post on here before and you are a very wise ole owl. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not really ruthless at all. I don't see much need for it. I find life works well by doing my best not to be unpleasant to people. "

I agree but sometimes tough love is needed and at times that needs a ruthless compassion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not in the slightest bit ruthless on here, perhaps I should sharpen up a bit!

I'll always respond to any message I receive - even those from guys who clearly think 'straight' is a pseudonym for 'likes cock'

I just thank them for their interest, wish them all the best on Fab and hope they find what they're looking for. I prefer to remain civil in all my proceedings if I can.

But then I'm not getting the hundreds of messages a day that most ladies / couples are probably getting so I can afford to be less ruthless as it doesn't take up all of my time on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mainly block time wasters, picture collectors and cheats."

Your block list must be huge....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm not really ruthless at all. I don't see much need for it. I find life works well by doing my best not to be unpleasant to people. "

My Fav Fab Auntie. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not ruthless. Atall i chat to a few that we would never meet to play but they are so lovely i just think they are doing no harm and often have a good old normal natter with them they know meeting wont happen and have accepted it nick however is brutal i cant look sometes lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"honestly dunno why this is out ON the public forum...strange..

my advice..if he's been told no thanks numerous times..either block or ignore."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mainly block time wasters, picture collectors and cheats."

I was washing my hair and wanking over pics I printed out of you..my wife shouted through asking why I was taking so long in the shower...sorry couldnt make our meet..I am one of the good guys.Honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I mainly block time wasters, picture collectors and cheats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks Countrygirl if I'm honest you just confirmed what I thought all along but just wanted to hear it from a bystander.

I've seen you post on here before and you are a very wise ole owl. x"

Thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums...

A quick poke in the eyes would solve that problem. "

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By *appyguy17Man
over a year ago

walthamstow

Why be ruthless !!!!

It doesn't cost anything to be nice.....

Sometimes i get the impression here that some people don't realise they are talking to real people on here...with feelings.......so if you have to let someone down....."do it nicely"

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By *on1Man
over a year ago

spain

Excuse me how cruel are you ?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums...

Tbh id be mortified if he did.

Then why post a thread in a public forum?

Yeah with the beauty of hindsight I know now.

But I was more curious about others on here and how ruthless they are and am I being too soft.

It's not about being soft it's about not taking the fucking piss

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Lets hope the poor guy doesn't read the forums...

Tbh id be mortified if he did.

Then why post a thread in a public forum?

Yeah with the beauty of hindsight I know now.

But I was more curious about others on here and how ruthless they are and am I being too soft.

It's not about being soft it's about not taking the fucking piss "

Excuse me how have I taken the piss by asking people how they deal with my situation.?

Are you taken the piss or do you need to take a seat and shut up.?

Please enlighten me and fab missy.

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By *riendlyGirlWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"Ok guys an girls I have a guy who's very sweet and messages me regular and I've already told him he's not my type numerous times.

Thing is he's very polite and happens to be deaf and would make somebody a great bf, just not me.

I cant block him id fell a total bitch to.

So how ruthless are you on here.?

Go Fabbers. xx"

I've had a few like this. I either try to explain that they're not what I'm looking for or if that doesn't work I wait till they're offline then block. Harsh yes but better than leading someone on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My block list is empty so id say that says it all..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok guys an girls I have a guy who's very sweet and messages me regular and I've already told him he's not my type numerous times.

Thing is he's very polite and happens to be deaf and would make somebody a great bf, just not me.

I cant block him id fell a total bitch to.

So how ruthless are you on here.?

Go Fabbers. xx"

How do you know he is telling the truth? He may be saying that just to get into your knickers.....#godiamsocynical

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Why be ruthless !!!!

It doesn't cost anything to be nice.....

Sometimes i get the impression here that some people don't realise they are talking to real people on here...with feelings.......so if you have to let someone down....."do it nicely""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

totally brutal block end of!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Yes, I am clinical in regards to somethings that happen on here.

and I don't give it a second thought.

but then again, I am not looking for friends, lovers, partners and/or a place of sanctuary for the needy.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Ok guys an girls I have a guy who's very sweet and messages me regular and I've already told him he's not my type numerous times.

Thing is he's very polite and happens to be deaf and would make somebody a great bf, just not me.

I cant block him id fell a total bitch to.

So how ruthless are you on here.?

Go Fabbers. xx"

My life won't be long enough to waste it on people I'm not interested in, and my ego doesn't need constant massaging. Therefore, no matter how "sweet" someone is, if I say no and that simple word alludes them then block and forget.

Same outwith Fab: if you don't enhance my life you have no place in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It takes time and effort to be nice and to write a considered message.

If you're responding to hundreds of messages, delete/block, move on.

But if it's one person and there's history, they maybe deserve a little more of your time.

But to answer your question; I can be direct, to the point, single-minded and put myself first. But I couldn't be mean or spiteful. It's just not in my personality.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not deaf but I am in one ear a bit from motocross racing.

If you're blocking him for that then that says more about you from my perspective.

Do you mean he's completely deaf. .. Totally?....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can be pretty ruthless in different ways on here.

I'm pretty ruthless in the real world too sometimes."

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he got a big cock.....

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Has he got a big cock.....

for goodness sake.... there is more to a person than a big cock

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

but thinking more about your words.... I couldn't agree more.......

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By *ikki ShooterTV/TS
over a year ago

Epsom

Ruthless!.... You have to be if your going to take over the world.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Has he got a big cock.....

for goodness sake.... there is more to a person than a big cock

Yep Big balls too....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok guys an girls I have a guy who's very sweet and messages me regular and I've already told him he's not my type numerous times.

Thing is he's very polite and happens to be deaf and would make somebody a great bf, just not me.

I cant block him id fell a total bitch to.

So how ruthless are you on here.?

Go Fabbers. xx"

Oh my , I wonder how you manage in the 'real' world if you worry about being a total bitch by blocking someone on here who won't take no for an answer .

If you went into a busy pub or club would you spend the whole night with people you weren't interested in because they were sweet or deaf ?

How would you have time for those You are interested in ?

To answer your question , I don't know whether it's ruthless or not , but we won't spend any time at all with anyone we aren't interested in .

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Our default is always to be polite and we probably reply to far too many messages in fairness. We've tried to temper that down by only replying to those we're interested in meeting but there are those messages that are incredibly polite and in our opinion warrant a response even if we're not interested. 'Yesteryear' we would engage in conversation but now we reply politely once with the respect it deserves whilst politely saying they're not for us, a second reply won't be forthcoming. One thing fab has taught us is that although you may not be naturally ruthless as we are not you soon learn that this is a pretty valuable manoeuvre around here when called for.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

he may possibly read this and relieve you of your dilemma

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

see... there are ways of looking at it that are so black and white that i don't think sometimes some people people see conversation for what it is.... conversation!!

I talk to people because they are good people to talk to... i don't play with everyone i talk to, and as long as you have told them nothing is happening, then as long as they are happy to accept it, then I chat away......

you told him, you are not leading him on.... so just enjoy the conversation

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