FabSwingers.com forum: Names that come and go

By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

We've been around the forums now long enough to have seen many member names come and go. Some of those regular posters that have left gave a valuable contribution and insight into many subjects.

Just lately though we have seen the emergence of a new trend and wonder if it is working.

Some of those new names, no we won't mention them! Post and post and post, new topic after new topic. While it may keep the forums ticking over, does anyone else believe like we do, that the reason for it is not to add topics for discussion.

But rather to get their names up there and noticed in the hope that it will generate contacts for them?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Well people are told to become known, go into chat.... Post in the forums.... And go to socials..

So I don't think that.

Sometimes you are dammed if you do, dammed if you don't at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go through stages with the forums, I think other people do too, sometimes I just read and don't post xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with View, you see lots of newbies asking for advice on meets, particularly new guys and a common bit of advice is post in forums, go to chatrooms and socials so this could be a reason. I do agree though that sometimes it looks a bit like 'look at me' but each to their own, doesn't bother me how many posts someone makes.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Well people are told to become known, go into chat.... Post in the forums.... And go to socials..

So I don't think that.

Sometimes you are dammed if you do, dammed if you don't at times.

* nods *

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think you should name names! Expose these thread makers! How dare they!

I would make more threads if I could but I can never think of anything. I'm a reactive poster not a proactive poster. But even if I was prolific in thread creation I would never consider it a way to get me a fuck LOL.

As scumqueen says, forums and chat rooms are transient things and people take breaks. I have worked in this area and studies suggest the average life span is no more than 18 months for a forum or a chat user before they move on. Coincidentally the same time span a human can maintain infatuation with a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's nice to have a varied mix of posters, it keeps the boards alive.

That said, I do understand where the OP is coming from. Some regular posters do swamp the forums with "crap" attention seeking threads. If the subject matter doesn't interest me or I know the poster is attention seeking, I jog on by!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's nice to have a varied mix of posters, it keeps the boards alive.

Me me me me me me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm responsible for some of the crap posted here, and I'll continue to do it.

It's never won us any meets though. I've had pm's condemning me for some of my "sick" quips, "supportive" pm's for some of my serious contributions, and pm's where fellow posters have laughed along with my childish humour.

When we go to socials people often comment that they have chuckled at my ramblings, and ahhh thats nice

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I don't mind lots of threads it makes it interesting

If I think they're crap I don't respond,Ive never seen it as a way to make contacts on here,less than 0.05% of the site users use the forums I can think of easier ways to meet people than creating post after post if I wanted some attention

I just see them as a discussion board and thats all,sometimes im howling with laughter and sometimes im grinding my teeth at them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have been reading the forums since i joined this site but very rarely reply here

its sometimes like a school playground here. i have seen people being patronised and had the piss taken out of them for asking a 'silly' question??

i do enjoy these forums though and think more peeps should post here.

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By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

If I think they're crap I don't respond"

Me too....fuck I just did

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

does that mean i cant put my "falling out of bed and bruising me bum" thread up?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"does that mean i cant put my "falling out of bed and bruising me bum" thread up?

Take it to another thread will ya. Hijacker!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"does that mean i cant put my "falling out of bed and bruising me bum" thread up?

Take it to another thread will ya. Hijacker!

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i have pineapples here and im not afraid to use em ya know......

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

"does that mean i cant put my "falling out of bed and bruising me bum" thread up?

Take it to another thread will ya. Hijacker!

i have pineapples here and im not afraid to use em ya know......

Gulp! Shutting up.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

"does that mean i cant put my "falling out of bed and bruising me bum" thread up?

Take it to another thread will ya. Hijacker!

i have pineapples here and im not afraid to use em ya know......

Gulp! Shutting up."
i may de prickle them if your very good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I go through stages with the forums, I think other people do too, sometimes I just read and don't post xx"

exactly that. luv reading them, just rarely post now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have just started posting replys and love reading the threads. i have had many a good laugh thank you all.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Sometimes you are Dammed if you do, Dammed if you don't at times.

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Every night i'm there , i'm always there, she knows i'm there

And heaven knows, i hope she goes

Eloise, my Eloise , i tried to please her.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Oh aren't i the lucky one. I got a meet through posting on here.

Some odd guy called Mushroom. uh oh.

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By *uton_coupleCouple
over a year ago

luton

i think its very ominous how some of the people who post regular suddenly fall of the radar

there have been so many that it seems im not the only one to have there suspitions aroused

its geting worse than argentina and the "dissapeared"

perhaps we should get a big board and "post it" there nanes on it

LOST IN THE FORUMS ,emblasened on the top

or mayby we could do like in the USA have there profile avatar printed on milk cartons with the word "missing"

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

Maybe they have chosen to leave the site?.....just a guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im a bit of a forum junkie, I like to read other peoples _iews etc, I think its fun. I dont post on the forums to get myself known or get myself more meets. Like many couples, I dont really need extra help, as all the other ladies experience, we get a lot of messages. My partner never comes on the forums, hes not keen on them, hes the one that looks at profiles and says hi to folks that he thinks are on our wavelength. I come on the forums because im interested in swinging and I like to read the different _iewpoints and other peoples experiences

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

"We've been around the forums now long enough to have seen many member names come and go. Some of those regular posters that have left gave a valuable contribution and insight into many subjects.

Just lately though we have seen the emergence of a new trend and wonder if it is working.

But rather to get their names up there and noticed in the hope that it will generate contacts for them?

this is forums,why would anyone think people who post.are crying out,look at me,look at me.its the forums.if no one posted,there would be no forums.if you don't like the subject,move on.its not a difficult concept.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you should name names! Expose these thread makers! How dare they!

he he most interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a bit of a forum junkie, I like to read other peoples _iews etc, I think its fun. I dont post on the forums to get myself known or get myself more meets. Like many couples, I dont really need extra help, as all the other ladies experience, we get a lot of messages. My partner never comes on the forums, hes not keen on them, hes the one that looks at profiles and says hi to folks that he thinks are on our wavelength. I come on the forums because im interested in swinging and I like to read the different _iewpoints and other peoples experiences

yep always a learner and ain't it just fun

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By *-and-K OP Couple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

You obviously miss the point. Take a look at the first page, or the second or the third. See how many members names crop up time and time again,

Not just once or twice on a page but 6,7 or more times. Iv'e seen pages in the past where the first 12 posts have all been started by the same person.

That to me is just a way of saying 'please notice me'

And you _iew of 'if you don't like the forums, move on' Is probably why those members who have left have done so. Leaving the place to become stale and mundane.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

"But rather to get their names up there and noticed in the hope that it will generate contacts for them?"

Yes!

We wouldn't, but some may call it “Attention Seeking”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We've been around the forums now long enough to have seen many member names come and go. Some of those regular posters that have left gave a valuable contribution and insight into many subjects.

Just lately though we have seen the emergence of a new trend and wonder if it is working.

But rather to get their names up there and noticed in the hope that it will generate contacts for them?

It's a possibility and one that lies alongside a thousand other possible reasons.

Who cares ?

Does it matter ?

Not one bit.

If you want to know intentions and results ask the person/people you are talking about. How would the rest of us know if it's working for them? ~We don't even know them.

Shit ! Am I one of them ? Now that would make me laugh like a drain.

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

"I go through stages with the forums, I think other people do too, sometimes I just read and don't post xx"
me to

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

You obviously miss the point. Take a look at the first page, or the second or the third. See how many members names crop up time and time again,

Not just once or twice on a page but 6,7 or more times. Iv'e seen pages in the past where the first 12 posts have all been started by the same person.

That to me is just a way of saying 'please notice me'

And you _iew of 'if you don't like the forums, move on' Is probably why those members who have left have done so. Leaving the place to become stale and mundane."

if you would take the time to read,what i actually wrote.it would probably help.IF YOU DON'T LIKE THE SUBJECT.MOVE ON.you really shouldnt change other peoples words,to suit you'r own purpose.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It very well may be a way of drawing attention to themselves, but so what, good on them, we all use these forums for different reasons, there shouldnt be a limit to how many posts a person should do, its basically up to them. Noone is stopping anyone else from posting 20 subjects in one go on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Noone is stopping anyone else from posting 20 subjects in one go on here

Oh Admin have been known to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol well yeah rules permitting of course

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

Is there any other reason to post on what are likely to be anonymous forums? After all, with however many thousand members(whoops, people, as half don't have members) it might take a while to get noticed otherwise.

After all, how often does OP hunt the profiles for potential contacts?

(I only asked the question because my posts usually kill threads, lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there any other reason to post on what are likely to be anonymous forums? After all, with however many thousand members(whoops, people, as half don't have members) it might take a while to get noticed otherwise.

After all, how often does OP hunt the profiles for potential contacts?

(I only asked the question because my posts usually kill threads, lol)

Yup your right .... you did it again! Doh

he he he x

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

But I'm a hard act to follow - otherwise you would have been last

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I enjoy the forums, i dont do chat and yup..like jack ...have posted some twaddle in my time but hopefully nothing offensive or to tick anyone off.

Tho some do.

I respond if i likes the thread and dont bother if i dont.

simples really.

Think people take it way to seriously sometimes.

Lighten up, join in and have a titter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that it is just that some people maybe aren't so comfortable with chat, but like the forums.

I tend to read more than I post on here..

Be thankful we are not having post count wars... you should see the amount of silly posts people make on some car forums lol :D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems like a- oh no they are trying to infiltrate our clique!!!!. kind of thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy the forums, i dont do chat and yup..like jack ...have posted some twaddle in my time but hopefully nothing offensive or to tick anyone off.

Tho some do.

I respond if i likes the thread and dont bother if i dont.

simples really.

Think people take it way to seriously sometimes.

Lighten up, join in and have a titter

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I enjoy the forums, i dont do chat and yup..like jack ...have posted some twaddle in my time but hopefully nothing offensive or to tick anyone off.

Tho some do.

I respond if i likes the thread and dont bother if i dont.

simples really.

Think people take it way to seriously sometimes.

Lighten up, join in and have a titter

I agree

Yus!

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

I've said before that every post on here is a "look at me" post to some extent.

Ps sorry to see scumqueen's namechange. She was nice.

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