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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having my son.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS "

Sorry about your Mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mines too sad to put here but it had a profoundly altering effect on me

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Becoming a mum.

Second was getting divorced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First child being born

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing my unborn child.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Sorry about your Mum.

"

Thankyou.

She was diagnosed about 18 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my first daughter was born. I vowed to never be like my own father. So far I've been 99% successful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Losing my unborn child. "

Oh I'm sorry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can think of lots of moments that changed my life ..birth of each of my children, the death of my mum, meeting the man who I married, getting married, getting divorced, changing careers. ..discovering an ex was cheating ...The list goes on x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Sorry about your Mum.

Thankyou.

She was diagnosed about 18 years ago. "

How is she doing?

My aunt has MS.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sitting in a specialist room being given results.....

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Hillsborough 15 April 1989

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mines too sad to put here but it had a profoundly altering effect on me

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Ditto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me there have been many times my live has been changed. Not always in a good way but everyone of them has changed me. I'm a stronger, more confident person. Where once I was a daydreamer with my head stuck in the sand now I have my head up and I live in the present.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Sorry about your Mum.

Thankyou.

She was diagnosed about 18 years ago.

How is she doing?

My aunt has MS."

It's 50/50 good days and bad days. Looking at her you wouldn't think she had it. Luckily she is not in a wheel chair and has the use of her legs. She can't walk far.

I sometimes forget she has got MS because as I said to look at her you wouldn't know.

How is your aunt with it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

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I like it when I hear of people saying "I just knew when I saw her she would be mine"

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By *istressZoeTV/TS
over a year ago

cheshire

Becoming a Father

Getting divorced

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Meeting Mr changed mine. He introduced me to a new way of life and has given me so much confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting divorced tops the list...best thing I ever did.

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By *ingle Beds LassWoman
over a year ago

Bedfordshire

My son being born 28 years ago, my mum dying 3 years ago. Best and worst days of my life. Both still affecting me to this day in a negative way, but slowly getting there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So many to list, all too personal to post but a recent one was had I not argued with my mums husband I wouldn't have landed in a situation that now see's me set up for life and mortgage free.

Had the argument not happened - I would not have ended up in the situation.

I still think he's a tosser but thank him for being one now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

"

Romantic x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

I like it when I hear of people saying "I just knew when I saw her she would be mine" "

It took a while before she felt the same about me lol

But from going up to her at that bar and saying hello it was destiny and the chase and challenge was on!

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By *oxic1998Woman
over a year ago

Belfast

Becoming a mother

Plucking up the courage to kick my ex out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

Romantic x"

I'm an old charmer at heart

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Sorry about your Mum.

Thankyou.

She was diagnosed about 18 years ago.

How is she doing?

My aunt has MS.

It's 50/50 good days and bad days. Looking at her you wouldn't think she had it. Luckily she is not in a wheel chair and has the use of her legs. She can't walk far.

I sometimes forget she has got MS because as I said to look at her you wouldn't know.

How is your aunt with it? "

She's still walking but not as much.

A bit unsteady on her feet now.

Otherwise doing okay thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Another of mine was calling of my wedding 3 months before the day.

I realised he was not the man I wanted to marry.

Massive descission and one of my hardest to make.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

arriving on the scene of the uften nervet rail crash where i spent the next three days acting as liason with the RAIB .saw some sites smells and sounds i never want to endure again . eventualy lead to my breakdown that ended my 28 year career as a railway signaler a job that i loved . still have flashbacks when ever i hear the nokia ring tone going unanswered for any length of time

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS "

Snap. Sorry about your mum. It's a horrible disease.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"arriving on the scene of the uften nervet rail crash where i spent the next three days acting as liason with the RAIB .saw some sites smells and sounds i never want to endure again . eventualy lead to my breakdown that ended my 28 year career as a railway signaler a job that i loved . still have flashbacks when ever i hear the nokia ring tone going unanswered for any length of time

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I can't imagine

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Snap. Sorry about your mum. It's a horrible disease."

Sorry about your mum too. Iv seen some very bad cases of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arriving on the scene of the uften nervet rail crash where i spent the next three days acting as liason with the RAIB .saw some sites smells and sounds i never want to endure again . eventualy lead to my breakdown that ended my 28 year career as a railway signaler a job that i loved . still have flashbacks when ever i hear the nokia ring tone going unanswered for any length of time

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Huge hug for ya.

x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Sorry about your Mum.

Thankyou.

She was diagnosed about 18 years ago.

How is she doing?

My aunt has MS.

It's 50/50 good days and bad days. Looking at her you wouldn't think she had it. Luckily she is not in a wheel chair and has the use of her legs. She can't walk far.

I sometimes forget she has got MS because as I said to look at her you wouldn't know.

How is your aunt with it?

She's still walking but not as much.

A bit unsteady on her feet now.

Otherwise doing okay thank you.

"

Yes my mum is unsteady too, some people think she is d*unk!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arriving on the scene of the uften nervet rail crash where i spent the next three days acting as liason with the RAIB .saw some sites smells and sounds i never want to endure again . eventualy lead to my breakdown that ended my 28 year career as a railway signaler a job that i loved . still have flashbacks when ever i hear the nokia ring tone going unanswered for any length of time

"

I've had a similar experience with smell that I try and block out of my mind - was with an immediate family member.

I'll never forget it and never want to experience it again.

Luckily not many people do - wouldn't wish it on anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being put into care, I was one of the lucky ones for whom it was the best thing for me, I went to a foster home where they taught me the world doesn't owe you anything and what you want you are going to have to work for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Sorry about your Mum.

Thankyou.

She was diagnosed about 18 years ago.

How is she doing?

My aunt has MS.

It's 50/50 good days and bad days. Looking at her you wouldn't think she had it. Luckily she is not in a wheel chair and has the use of her legs. She can't walk far.

I sometimes forget she has got MS because as I said to look at her you wouldn't know.

How is your aunt with it?

She's still walking but not as much.

A bit unsteady on her feet now.

Otherwise doing okay thank you.

Yes my mum is unsteady too, some people think she is d*unk! "

Exactly!

My aunt doesn't drink.

It doesn't bother her as she's a tough cookie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"arriving on the scene of the uften nervet rail crash where i spent the next three days acting as liason with the RAIB .saw some sites smells and sounds i never want to endure again . eventualy lead to my breakdown that ended my 28 year career as a railway signaler a job that i loved . still have flashbacks when ever i hear the nokia ring tone going unanswered for any length of time

I've had a similar experience with smell that I try and block out of my mind - was with an immediate family member.

I'll never forget it and never want to experience it again.

Luckily not many people do - wouldn't wish it on anybody. "

Sounds really traumatic.

You seem strong so good on you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being diagnosed with early stages of cancer. I changed my life for the better

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By *ipsxxCouple
over a year ago

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Meeting my hubby in Ibiza never believed in love at first sight but do now .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There has been a few, some good , some bad

but they are all parts of a jigsaw that make us who we are x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving my apprenticeship at 19 to start my current job

Buying our first house which was a wreck last year - really stressful few months

Getting our dachshund puppy after 6 years of planning him he's chocolate and tan and called George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Snap. Sorry about your mum. It's a horrible disease.

Sorry about your mum too. Iv seen some very bad cases of it. "

My sister has just been diagnosed at 33 after a a few episodes of symptoms over the past few years, quite a worrying time .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being diagnosed with early stages of cancer. I changed my life for the better "

Good for you.

Cancer is a scary thing to experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There has been a few, some good , some bad

but they are all parts of a jigsaw that make us who we are x"

Exactly my thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being born, changed my life for ever.

The day jools met me, changed her life forever.

Good or bad?

I will let her decide that one.

All the other stuff is personal and don't want to share thank you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Snap. Sorry about your mum. It's a horrible disease.

Sorry about your mum too. Iv seen some very bad cases of it.

My sister has just been diagnosed at 33 after a a few episodes of symptoms over the past few years, quite a worrying time . "

I can imagine and at such a young age

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Leaving my apprenticeship at 19 to start my current job

Buying our first house which was a wreck last year - really stressful few months

Getting our dachshund puppy after 6 years of planning him he's chocolate and tan and called George "

I'm not having any more children so I got a puppy instead then got another one! I have always wanted one and it took me years to finally do it.

Hope you have very happy times with him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Being put into care, I was one of the lucky ones for whom it was the best thing for me, I went to a foster home where they taught me the world doesn't owe you anything and what you want you are going to have to work for "

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

So many Times. The first was an eye accident at 6 rendering my right eye useless and me unable to land a job with any significance.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Losing my perfect two week old son

My life will never ever be complete now, and i shall live the rest of my life with a broken heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Losing my perfect two week old son

My life will never ever be complete now, and i shall live the rest of my life with a broken heart "

Oh that's heartbreaking.

So so sorry for you.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Losing my sister. Still hurts like crazy after all these years. Some days it can be a real struggle to get through.

In weird way though it also makes you stronger when you realise the fragility of life and how truly precious it is. It can make you a better person. Makes you understand what true love really is. Most people never really get to feel that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Losing my sister. Still hurts like crazy after all these years. Some days it can be a real struggle to get through.

In weird way though it also makes you stronger when you realise the fragility of life and how truly precious it is. It can make you a better person. Makes you understand what true love really is. Most people never really get to feel that."

(Hugs)

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

Moving 5000 miles, alone aged 16, changed me. The death of my father taught me that you only live once. That led to me evaluating the whole of my life. So I started swinging, which gave me the self confidence to leave my job. I've now got the job of my dreams and, despite being very tired I'm in control of my destiny, very happy with my fab FB and looking forward to the next chapter - divorce.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Losing my perfect two week old son

My life will never ever be complete now, and i shall live the rest of my life with a broken heart

Oh that's heartbreaking.

So so sorry for you.

"

It is literally heartbreaking.

Thank u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I gave birth to my daughter

When I lost my dad to cancer

When i lost my second child

When my mum had her stroke and had a massive impact on my future

And when I was diagnosed with ovarian cancer

All presented me with massive changes in my life

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

My old life was ruined when the major newspapers leaked a story of a film me and Kim shot, I lost my job had to move and we buried our heads in the sand for at least a year afterwards.

We then used the same media to recreate ourselves to our advantage hence the line of work we are in, some lowlife got £2500 for a story on us years ago but we can now look back and think they actually done us a favour as we love our life now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs to all those who's lives have changed because of sadness

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Snap. Sorry about your mum. It's a horrible disease.

Sorry about your mum too. Iv seen some very bad cases of it. "

Depends on the type. My mum's was slow and progressive. No periods of remission. It killed her but took over 30 years to do so. Early on wasn't so bad but later stages were very difficult. But she never gave in to it. I think that made all the difference. I quit my job for a while to care for her and even when I returned to work it was at a lower level and lower pay than before (I'd been in management and was working my way up). MS affects whole families - as with most other major illnesses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being told my 5 week old beautiful son might have cancer.

And 1 very long week later being told it wasn't cancer but there would be other issues

I knew I would cope with anything else that came our way.

He is now 15 and a typical teenager

I am very lucky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The night my wife told the kids I was leaving the family home. We all fell asleep together on the big bed after sobbing the night away. So desperately sad. I wasn't made to be a part time. I do it as best I can but after three years it hurts as much as ever. Love her and my boys. I'm ok strong and despite saying all that moving on but man breaking decision.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Loads of things mostly negative stuff but some positive but I find it easier not to dwell or to put down on paper it keeps me sane that way. There are some really sad stories on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had many, probably once a year I come across something that changes my life for periods of time!.

At the moment it's fracking rallies but I did spend six weeks in a tent outside St Paul's in 2011.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When two close friends died. One of cancer and one of an aneurysm. They were both in their 30's. I thought I'd be a mug not to learn anything and so in a way of remembering them, I don't get wound up about stupid things, try always to be positive, take risks, act daft and have as much fun as I can cram in.

Even when life's shit; it's still good.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was told I had breast cancer, the worst thing was telling my kids - but I stayed strong and positive so they would too.

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"Being told my 5 week old beautiful son might have cancer.

And 1 very long week later being told it wasn't cancer but there would be other issues

I knew I would cope with anything else that came our way.

He is now 15 and a typical teenager

I am very lucky "

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea


"When two close friends died. One of cancer and one of an aneurysm. They were both in their 30's. I thought I'd be a mug not to learn anything and so in a way of remembering them, I don't get wound up about stupid things, try always to be positive, take risks, act daft and have as much fun as I can cram in.

Even when life's shit; it's still good. "

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

The death and trauma things but for Fab meeting the ex five years ago this week. He took me to my first club, put us on Fab and introduced me to this world.

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge


"arriving on the scene of the uften nervet rail crash where i spent the next three days acting as liason with the RAIB .saw some sites smells and sounds i never want to endure again . eventualy lead to my breakdown that ended my 28 year career as a railway signaler a job that i loved . still have flashbacks when ever i hear the nokia ring tone going unanswered for any length of time

Huge hug for ya.

x"
ta very much its just the smell of effluent diesel and the nokia ring tone that puts me strait back there .not allowed to answer the phones just had to leave them where they were as they evidence and we didnt know the status of the phones owner. was more profound than seeing the dead to be honest

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

walking into a house knowing something was not quite right, finding a note that confirmed to me what I was going to find....

and seeing someone at peace from this sometimes cruel world.

I will never recover from it, but I have learned to live again.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

The day I met my ex and father of my son

Over the next couple of years I went from a happy outgoing person sinking deeper into an abusive relationship. Fell pregnant, things got worse. Then the day my son was born my life totally changed. I got the courage to get out. Changed my life completely. And now 3.5 years later it's taken me a while but I'm finally nearly back to being my old self.

I used to wish I had never me him but everything has made me stronger and I got my gorgeous boy out of it x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and being diagnosed Diabetic, it gave me the kick up the arse I required.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"walking into a house knowing something was not quite right, finding a note that confirmed to me what I was going to find....

and seeing someone at peace from this sometimes cruel world.

I will never recover from it, but I have learned to live again.

"

Oh god _iew

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

I'm a delicate flower as it is at the moment and now I'm a blubbering mess reading these.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lost a few good friends during my school years, two of them taken by cancer and the other in a car accident. I do often think what would they be doing now if things had been different.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent


"walking into a house knowing something was not quite right, finding a note that confirmed to me what I was going to find....

and seeing someone at peace from this sometimes cruel world.

I will never recover from it, but I have learned to live again.

"

I would of had this too as I had a phone call to see if I could pop round and check on a close friend as no one had heard from him for a while. I couldn't go as I wasn't in town. Instead 2 male friends went round and when they could hear his phone ringing inside but no one was answering it they peeked through the letter box.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having my daughter.

Deciding to leave my husband.

Being in a near fatal car crash.

My best friend getting cancer.

Watching my auntie coughing up blood and dying.

Just typing these is making me feel sad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The day I met my ex and father of my son

Over the next couple of years I went from a happy outgoing person sinking deeper into an abusive relationship. Fell pregnant, things got worse. Then the day my son was born my life totally changed. I got the courage to get out. Changed my life completely. And now 3.5 years later it's taken me a while but I'm finally nearly back to being my old self.

I used to wish I had never me him but everything has made me stronger and I got my gorgeous boy out of it x"
great storey...wish you well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The last text conversation i had with my parents and the thought 'you know what I really can't be bothered anymore'. Walking away fron the 2 biggest negative factors out of my life was long overdue.

I also often refer to 7th March 2007 as 'the day everything changed' as the gig that I was at that night led to me moving to London

And losing my unborn son. Which at the time was the worst thing to have happened to me but with the passing of time was by far the best. It changed me so much for the better

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By *lactontogMan
over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

This is sad and depressing reading this thread, lets all hop to a fun thread instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing my mother.

She was a bloody amazing woman.

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By *ldestswingerintownMan
over a year ago

Lancaster

The worst thing that ever happened to me - finding out one day that the Love of my Life had just got married to another fella just two months after dumping me, and that in fact she'd been seeing him for the last year of our relationship without me knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is sad and depressing reading this thread, lets all hop to a fun thread instead "

I disagree.

It can be cathartic for some.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This is sad and depressing reading this thread, lets all hop to a fun thread instead "

It's a thread where people can express their feelings, good or bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When my dad died 17 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The worst thing that ever happened to me - finding out one day that the Love of my Life had just got married to another fella just two months after dumping me, and that in fact she'd been seeing him for the last year of our relationship without me knowing."

Clearly better off with out. I know it's hard to think that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Losing my mother.

She was a bloody amazing woman. "

I will crumble to bits when my parents time is up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On a bad note. Finding out my wife was having a affair

On a good note. realising that been single ain't half bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aged 11 wishing the ground would open up and swallow me whole having just drowned in humiliation following a mass mocking session metered-out by my classmates after I'd boldly and fervently argued that bulls milk tasted better than cows milk during a lesson ....

Even the teacher was sniggering which only added to my embarrassment.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"On a bad note. Finding out my wife was having a affair

On a good note. realising that been single ain't half bad. "

With a face and a bum and a cock like yours!! Why!?!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a bad note. Finding out my wife was having a affair

On a good note. realising that been single ain't half bad.

With a face and a bum and a cock like yours!! Why!?!? "
Aww thanks. You say all the right things xx

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Getting divorced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This is sad and depressing reading this thread, lets all hop to a fun thread instead "

Awww my post was very positive!

There have been several negative turning points too but I don't dwell on such things. It's all part of the rich tapestry of life.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Joining FAB yay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I nearly died in a bike accident August last year.

Funny it helped me turn my life around and realise life is too bloody short

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"When I nearly died in a bike accident August last year.

Funny it helped me turn my life around and realise life is too bloody short "

Good on ya

I can relate to that

Nearly getting murdered eventually changed my life for the better

I'm just happy most days to open my eyes

Are you the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing my little girl, nothing was the same thereafter x

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"Losing my little girl, nothing was the same thereafter x"

Hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I nearly died in a bike accident August last year.

Funny it helped me turn my life around and realise life is too bloody short

Good on ya

I can relate to that

Nearly getting murdered eventually changed my life for the better

I'm just happy most days to open my

Are you the same? "

I think how lucky I am to be here the only regret I have was the guy that pulled out in front of me was not done for drink driving

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Losing my little girl, nothing was the same thereafter x"

A www how old?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Losing my little girl, nothing was the same thereafter x

A www how old? "

I was 23 weeks pregnant and I lost her on my 21st birthday.... She was cremated on my sisters birthday.

Got to give her love though and she'll always be with me.

Sorry morbid as hell!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leaving the Kurds to fend for themselves back in 1992 when the British government pulled us out after 3 months.

#

On a positive note have to say children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

xxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Losing my little girl, nothing was the same thereafter x"
Massive hugs. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some good some bad but all changed me and have made me the person I am today good or bad

I don't regret experiencing any of those Times and I always try to learn from each n eeveryone

Like sucks in a beautiful kinda way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing the cars in front disappear under 40T of Arctic...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep Live for the day as you never know whats coming round the corner, you omly live once make it count whoop whoop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. Being adopted....i was too young to remember it...but knowing now where I came from...i'm a lot better off.

2. Finding out my biological father had died and deciding that having never met him, that I should attend the funeral and thus reconnecting with my biological family. Was odd though, only ever meeting him in a pine box....

3. Joining fab...oddly, I've met folk through fab that have changed me and my life permanently and for the better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yep Live for the day as you never know whats coming round the corner, you omly live once make it count whoop whoop "

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"

Losing my mother.

She was a bloody amazing woman.

I will crumble to bits when my parents time is up "

I used to think that but for me the reality was discovering strength I was unaware of. Didn't make it hurt any less but surprising how you are able to cope.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Losing my mother.

She was a bloody amazing woman.

I will crumble to bits when my parents time is up

I used to think that but for me the reality was discovering strength I was unaware of. Didn't make it hurt any less but surprising how you are able to cope. "

I'm hoping I will cope better than I realise.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

When my hubby died in front of me. After going through all the emotions for a couple of years, I came out of it truly appreciating the sentiment 'Enjoy life'.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon


"Losing my little girl, nothing was the same thereafter x

A www how old?

I was 23 weeks pregnant and I lost her on my 21st birthday.... She was cremated on my sisters birthday.

Got to give her love though and she'll always be with me.

Sorry morbid as hell! "

It's horrible and most harrowing thing about death of an unborn child as you feel helpless as there is nothing you can do to save it...Mother Nature is a cunt at times..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bribing two jurors and getting that not guilty verdict

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defining moment for me was waking from a 7 day coma after a bad motorbike accident. Taught me to value each day better as you never know when it could be your last. Also when my daughter was born as I had to calm down and realise I was responsible for her life too not just my own so changed my lifestyle dramatically.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The birth of my two children, and the loss of a third

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS "

Also when I realised what MS meant for my mum.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

I've led quite a charmed life, but needing a hip replacement at 45 was a bit of an eye opener in the Carpe Diem stakes, seeing my Grandma die in front of me at my siblings birthday party when I was 17 was a bit of a growing up thing as well and joining Fab in 2011 was possibly one of the best decisions I ever made as I've made so many good buddies and a couple of true friends and I think I have a pretty awesome life right now so I'm going to carry on carrying on for however long I'm spared

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting blondetaz scarred me for life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My life changed for the worse 16 years ago when I got ill. Downhill all the way since but I don't let it get to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"1. Being adopted....i was too young to remember it...but knowing now where I came from...i'm a lot better off.

2. Finding out my biological father had died and deciding that having never met him, that I should attend the funeral and thus reconnecting with my biological family. Was odd though, only ever meeting him in a pine box....

3. Joining fab...oddly, I've met folk through fab that have changed me and my life permanently and for the better. "

I know what you mean with regard to no. 1.

No 2. Don't know my biological father's name, so I'll never meet him

3. Fab has changed me yes

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

I have a few, my mum dying when I was 10, our first baby being still born and also having my 2 wonderful children.

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Meeting blondetaz scarred me for life"

You are sooooo dead next time I see you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Meeting blondetaz scarred me for life

You are sooooo dead next time I see you "

If you bring that psycho blondedaz with you, it ain't happening!

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

When I was born; that changed my life forever; forever until, how you English say, I will be "pushing up the daisies"

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

The death of my father 8 months before my wedding sad thing is it wasn't natural or an accident. It was 20 yrs ago and I still struggle to use the 's' word.

Positive things tho the birth of my 3 wonderful children and meeting a half sister and getting on like a house on fire

Hugs to every one of you who have experienced trauma x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being diagnosed with early stages of cancer. I changed my life for the better

Good for you.

Cancer is a scary thing to experience "

It is and it's still ongoing. But im getting on and hopefully July I'll be told no need to see my oncologist for 12 months

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By *inkershoes69Woman
over a year ago

maidstone

Missing a phone call from my dads girlfriend during the night and hearing she took her own life during night, my friends little boy dying of a brain tumour aged 10 and having to watch him go

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria


"Meeting blondetaz scarred me for life

You are sooooo dead next time I see you

If you bring that psycho blondedaz with you, it ain't happening! "

Daz and Taz are pussycats compared to me when I'm riled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realising I had depression stemming from Aspergers (autism). Very mild but caused me hell through a lot of years and a relationship until I figured it out. Still get visits off the black dog though

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Lots of things, no1 being having my son, seeing my grandson on 3d scan. Meeting jay, I'm unrecognisable to the person I was when I met him.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

lots of things have changed me but my dad dying in 2013 hit me for six and spiralled me into depression

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By *ocknrollerMan
over a year ago

Glasgow/Stirlingshire

mine is too sad

Similar to some other people's

That's my good nights sleep fucked up again...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Being blissfully happy: everything was perfect. All came crashing down one July morning 25 years ago: I woke up, my son didn't.

I've never been truly happy since.

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By *eryBigGirlWoman
over a year ago

East Yorkshire

Being told I'd never have my own child after suffering the loss of 3 ivf babies and then day I met my adopted daughter for the first time. That was nearly 14 years ago and from that moment my life changed inexplicably!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The days I gave birth..

The day my father died.

My mother throwing me out at 15..

The night I ended up hospitalised, through my husband, I emerged 4 days later, so much stronger...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Being blissfully happy: everything was perfect. All came crashing down one July morning 25 years ago: I woke up, my son didn't.

I've never been truly happy since."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind off puts things into perspective... I sat and held my lad, after his partner gave birth last year the baby survived only a few minutes, I had lots of warm n heartfelt wishes on here. He,s still suffering his girlfriend was sectioned.. This has changed my life immensely he's a very different young man... No longer carefree and giggeley...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On a bad note. Finding out my wife was having a affair

On a good note. realising that been single ain't half bad.

With a face and a bum and a cock like yours!! Why!?!? Aww thanks. You say all the right things xx "

agreed, your wife was an ejit!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First child being born "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I gave birth to my daughter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

12th march 2012.....mind-blowing ((

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my son bein born very premature, and loosing him 13 days later.

Im only still here as fell pregnant with my daughter soon after. my little miracle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These are too tragic and painful to comment on. Mine was meeting Bee.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing Scarlett for the first time. Stood at the bar with a very short, slinky black dress on, stocking tops visible. I knew she was going to be my Wife from that moment.

Our first child being born kind of changed everything too.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I thought itd be a good idea to attempt to jump off a bridge. Never went through with it. a man asked me if I was okay while I was stood contemplating with blood all over me. I think he probably saved me without realising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The day my son died

He'd be 20 now and even though I have three beautiful daughters there is still a gap inside me that will never be filled there isn't a single day goes by that I don't wonder what he'd look like now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The day i lost my son, Theropy, Councilling, medication. Think it made me a better person in the end. Some days i wish i could just be me and carry on being angry at the world and everything in it.

Then i remember how important my daughter is in my life, their's still a void, but she fills it with love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many seem to have lost their babies. Lost my little girl in 1986 at 6 weeks Old. Still struggle with it. Lost 3 close friends in the last year one after the other. Only one of these deaths had a reason/illness. Mums getting on if I loose her I'm a gonna!

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By *overOral0Man
over a year ago

Nr Cheltenham

Suffering a major Heart Attack 2 years ago and being in a coma for 10 days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing my Dad at 13 to cancer - he was an amazing man. The only positive from that was that I was amazingly close to my Mum and my sis.

Then losing my Mum four years ago also to cancer - I thought my heart would never recover. Sitting and watching someone you love so much, leave this world was my toughest thing I've ever experienced to date. My heart will never be the same, but I can now laugh again and remember so many good memories.

But in the middle of all that, and getting married then leaving an abusive relationship. IVF finally worked on the 5th and 6th times giving me two wonderful children who really have made my world a better place.

I think all the adverse and sad things we experience , help us to really appreciate the good. I like to think that I never take time or people for granted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Moment they strapped me to the Table for my Frontal Lobotomy

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meeting chris then loosing him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Watching the only man I ever loved die in my arms

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad passed away when I was 12 loved him so much but then a year later my stepdad came along and helped me through it and turned my life around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I once had to choose between spending 2 years working in either Asia or Africa. That decision led to marriage (bad) and kids (wonderful)

I often think how different life would've been if I'd chosen the other path.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My big broad smile when finally meeting my kids when i gave birth

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being shot in the eye with an air pistol, worse thing was it was a mate who did it.

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

Coming out of the theatre and being told by the surgeon, that he had removed a testicle due to cancer. That was the only time I was not positive that I could beet cancer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being widowed with six dependent children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry, kinda killed the thread didn't I? Now is probably not the time to say that my mother died six months later and a year after that my daughter was diagnosed with ms. Made me more self reliant though, it didn't kill me so it made me stronger

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By *horltzMan
over a year ago

heysham

My son , followed shortly by becoming a single parent to my son

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"... Answers on a postcard

When my mum was diagnosed with MS

Snap. Sorry about your mum. It's a horrible disease.

Sorry about your mum too. Iv seen some very bad cases of it.

Depends on the type. My mum's was slow and progressive. No periods of remission. It killed her but took over 30 years to do so. Early on wasn't so bad but later stages were very difficult. But she never gave in to it. I think that made all the difference. I quit my job for a while to care for her and even when I returned to work it was at a lower level and lower pay than before (I'd been in management and was working my way up). MS affects whole families - as with most other major illnesses."
so very true

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Life is very cruel at times ... Makes us all stop n take stock of things.... We are all stronger than we think tho! Case if having to be

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Of**

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

when I tasted blueberry cart dor ice cream lol..

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By *ratsweetkittensWoman
over a year ago

stalybridge

the lost of my gran last year but she is now at rest and not in pain anymore she was my hero x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some great ones some sad ones loved reading them all

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