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Do kinky people ever go back to vanilla?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just been chatting and a friend says he's looking to go back to being vanilla.

This was my face ---

Turns out he wants to settle down but hopes to introduce a new missus to the kink lifestyle eventually.

But it got me thinking... have you ever gone back to being vanilla, if you've gone beyond that for a significant time period?

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

I go through kink-free phases but then I also go through sex-free phases.

I don't think I'd set out to give up kink. The interest (and availability) changes with what else is going on in my life though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just been chatting and a friend says he's looking to go back to being vanilla.

This was my face ---

Turns out he wants to settle down but hopes to introduce a new missus to the kink lifestyle eventually.

But it got me thinking... have you ever gone back to being vanilla, if you've gone beyond that for a significant time period?"

No going back for me, it's too much fun being kinky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll stop being kinky when they pry the flogger from my cold dead hands

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things? "

I mean more BDSM, etc rather than swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things?

I mean more BDSM, etc rather than swinging. "

You can tone it up or down depending on the partner.

Sometimes it is just a matter of time and trust and that partner surprises the hell out of you...

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral

Kink is a drug,you become addicted and your hooked.Gave up smoking easily but could never give up kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have, when in 'proper' relationships but never for long

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i guess im not over kinky Sx

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

I get distracted sometimes. I have phases when I'm kink/BDSM obsessed and it's an absolute daily need and then other times when I can go a while with just vanilla sex. I have to say though, my vanilla sex isn't probably what most would class as vanilla sex. It's roleplay and ravishment heavy.

Don't think I can suppress my BDSM needs any more long term. Especially impact play/corporal punishment. That's like a drug and I soon notice that I'm out of sorts if I haven't played for a bit.

I would certainly never deny myself kink/BDSM any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Kink is a drug,you become addicted and your hooked.Gave up smoking easily but could never give up kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have, when in 'proper' relationships but never for long"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends wot it is.

The bdsm looks relatively manageable , same with role play.

But all those masochists with needle cuts may well be hooked.

But can understand your friend, coz it's definitely corrupting. Porn type fantasies is one thing, but with kink, same as this site- not really how you want to start a serious relationship.

Get clean, go back to real values + lead the healthy loving life. Not the depraved fuck-fest of Fet + fab. Genitals become boring after a while, same with bums in g strings+ I love bums.

Like a tin of worms, all these naked bodies writhing away- what we all need is one beautiful face to love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We're not kinky we just like to play swapsies every now then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the definition of Kinky

Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never go to completely vanilla, but since being on here i'm mostly vanilla now. Miss being in a kinky relationship tbh, i need that level of trust to be kinky and i haven't found it on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know if I'm kinky or weird then! What does it mean if you like doing things to (consenting) guys that are sleeping or getting them to pretend they have injuries that stops them bathing, washing and dressing themselves? When in a relationship I like the guy to eat his own cum out of me or let me give their arse holes a fuss, I like medical role play with speculums and other equipment and for the guy to pretend he's doing a gynaecological examination on me but then does rude things he's not supposed to.

Is that having kinks or is it weird?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know if I'm kinky or weird then! What does it mean if you like doing things to (consenting) guys that are sleeping or getting them to pretend they have injuries that stops them bathing, washing and dressing themselves? When in a relationship I like the guy to eat his own cum out of me or let me give their arse holes a fuss, I like medical role play with speculums and other equipment and for the guy to pretend he's doing a gynaecological examination on me but then does rude things he's not supposed to.

Is that having kinks or is it weird?"

It's your kink.

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By *ho am IWoman
over a year ago

Mids


"By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things?

I mean more BDSM, etc rather than swinging.

You can tone it up or down depending on the partner.

Sometimes it is just a matter of time and trust and that partner surprises the hell out of you... "

Love it when that happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't know if I'm kinky or weird then! What does it mean if you like doing things to (consenting) guys that are sleeping or getting them to pretend they have injuries that stops them bathing, washing and dressing themselves? When in a relationship I like the guy to eat his own cum out of me or let me give their arse holes a fuss, I like medical role play with speculums and other equipment and for the guy to pretend he's doing a gynaecological examination on me but then does rude things he's not supposed to.

Is that having kinks or is it weird?"

That's called wifey material, I love you x lol

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Now that everyone is kinky, then that's become the "New Vanilla"..

Cal

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Id say I'm more vanilla than "kinky" at the moment

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things?

I mean more BDSM, etc rather than swinging. "

We have been into bdsm and extreme forms of sex for years (ever since we met in fact) but only been doing swinging just over a year so for us it is a way of life and normal (for us) rather than a choice

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By *aneandpaulCouple
over a year ago

cleveleys

Think once you have played and enjoyed it you don,t stop We stopped 2 year,s to have our daughter was never going to play again but started again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now that everyone is kinky, then that's become the "New Vanilla"..

Cal"

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

My desires can't change. I can't see a time when I would want to eliminate kink from my life but I do go through times when I put it on the back burner in favour of some good vanilla.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love seeing how far I can push mine, and other's bodies. I love that choking is a sure fire way to get me going, and how powerful I feel with a flogger in hand... Kink enables me to manage my emotions in a safe sane way as well. That isn't to say I'm a heartless biatch quite the opposite, I am always communicating and checking in with my subs/bottoms, which makes for better play I think. I also looooove consensual non consent, that is me saying stop and him not stopping... He does when I say Margaret Thatcher!

I could never go back to vanilla missionary with the lights off twice a month, I like numbers in the bedroom, and playing, swinging is lots of fun. For now, I've got 2 months of uni left so its down to the bare minimum for kinky fun, but I know he will choke me if I ask nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All my relationships have had an element of kink and it's something I enjoy exploring and introducing.

When I was meeting I'd select partners that were interested in similar things to myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just enjoy sex.

Something new, wild or adventurous can be fun, and if you can have a laugh, create some new experiences then that's great.

But I'd be just as aroused by a cheeky lunchtime fumble, morning sex in the shower as an afternoon with bed restraints an ice cold glass dildo, a purple jewelled butt plug, a wand, a little flogger and a gorgeous young lady to play with.

Actually, who the fuck am I kidding? Book that hotel room now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things?

I mean more BDSM, etc rather than swinging. "

I don't think we could ever leave the kinky stuff behind as it is far too much fun experimenting and always learning new exciting things to get up to but it isn't in our thoughts 24/7 and we do enjoy vanilla too, so I guess we have a good balance.

Vanilla 24/7 would drive me around the bend

Kink 24/7 would be lots of fun but exhausting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Vanilla can be great. It is great. Yes there are some times kinkier moments but for me they aren't the be all and end all. People's perceptions of kink vary so much. It's about what feels good I guess. I also think you can still be a into kinky fuckery without BDSM or swinging. To some people that seems to be the only definition though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just enjoy sex.

Something new, wild or adventurous can be fun, and if you can have a laugh, create some new experiences then that's great.

But I'd be just as aroused by a cheeky lunchtime fumble, morning sex in the shower as an afternoon with bed restraints an ice cold glass dildo, a purple jewelled butt plug, a wand, a little flogger and a gorgeous young lady to play with.

Actually, who the fuck am I kidding? Book that hotel room now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have, when in 'proper' relationships but never for long"

Same here, and for the right person is give all this up permanently, but I can't see that happening anytime soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like lots of cock - so unless I could be in a LTR with about 5 guys who would all be happy to live together then it looks like swinging is the way I will stay atm lol....

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

Would "the right person" want you to give it up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like anything, there are scales of kinkiness. What one considers kinky, someone else might think is pretty vanilla. I think I have always had a slightly kinky side, and it's a side I don't want to suppress again. I tried in the past and it made me sexually miserable.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I would love to find the right person but can't go back to vanilla. I know the character I am and it takes one heck of a strong man to take on me and my life.

I still wouldn't want to be without women though (and maybe a few other men,parties,clubs....)

Vanilla. God no!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would love to find the right person but can't go back to vanilla. I know the character I am and it takes one heck of a strong man to take on me and my life.

I still wouldn't want to be without women though (and maybe a few other men,parties,clubs....)

Vanilla. God no!!"

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By *angerpointCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

We were kinky along time before we started swinging, so for us vanilia is kink.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We still use the force. Not been turned to the dark side fully but playing on the edges has us excited

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"By kink do you mean swinging or doing/liking kinky things?

I mean more BDSM, etc rather than swinging. "

about 13 years ago when I first started to meet men off sites like this I was into kinky stuff until I met different men and realised how good straight sex could be, now that's all I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We still use the force. Not been turned to the dark side fully but playing on the edges has us excited "

You must embrace the Dark Side!

Tried to put on a Darth Vader accent but failed miserably.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be a slave to Dominant bf who turned me into sissy submissive for him. Was kept locked in chastity 24/7/365 and only allowed to cum by anal orgasm while he fucked me. He was into bondage, spanking, watersports, outdoor, butt plugs, role play and sissy training etc. Was very intense relationship but since then have had Totally vanilla relationships. I do miss being dominated but some of the stuff im happy going without as too much effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be a slave to Dominant bf who turned me into sissy submissive for him. Was kept locked in chastity 24/7/365 and only allowed to cum by anal orgasm while he fucked me. He was into bondage, spanking, watersports, outdoor, butt plugs, role play and sissy training etc. Was very intense relationship but since then have had Totally vanilla relationships. I do miss being dominated but some of the stuff im happy going without as too much effort"

Fun at the time or too intense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I meet my future husband.

We will discuss sex and all things kink.

I hope to find someone who likes explore sexually.

For the time being I'm happy searching for play mates and pushing my boundaries with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I used to be a slave to Dominant bf who turned me into sissy submissive for him. Was kept locked in chastity 24/7/365 and only allowed to cum by anal orgasm while he fucked me. He was into bondage, spanking, watersports, outdoor, butt plugs, role play and sissy training etc. Was very intense relationship but since then have had Totally vanilla relationships. I do miss being dominated but some of the stuff im happy going without as too much effort"

I don't understand how that turned you on? Where you just denied orgasm or did you do everything else?

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