FabSwingers.com forum: Tell them your not intrested

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd take no reply as not interested.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

And breathe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd take no reply as not interested."
This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ground hog day. Read the FAQ's it's all there about no replies.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Think there are a few disgruntled guys here today....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"
no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just take the no reply as not interested and move on. We are all geown ups after all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you wait with baited breath for a reply from every mail you send ?

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"
Shall not!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just delete your sent box dude, it will save you getting stressed, honestly, I was totally fine with somebody reading a message, not replying and deleting it, but the part that wound me up was people who read then don't reply or delete..

in the end its just not worth it, just delete sent box after you send a message, that way you wont be disappointed

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Just another person sounding off when they hear something they don't like, or don't receive the news that they expected to hear!

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By *rank_SimoneCouple
over a year ago

Bideford

If single guys could read there would be thousands of fewer threads started in the forums lol.

But answering the OP, shit happens, so get on with it.

No Reply = Not Interested.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

As I have said on the other thread....

I'm here for my enjoyment, not to appease everyone that mails me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering the amount of messages that women get , they would be forever messaging that they're not interested and not replying to ones they like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As I have said on the other thread....

I'm here for my enjoyment, not to appease everyone that mails me!

Why didn't you reply to me.... Answer me !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reply or lack of depends on the message received. A well thought out contact will usually get a reply. A hello or similar one liner seldom does.

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By *orkieLassCouple
over a year ago

York

Crikey, is it because the Sun's out?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"As I have said on the other thread....

I'm here for my enjoyment, not to appease everyone that mails me!

Why didn't you reply to me.... Answer me !!

Coz I couldn't be arsed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Considering the amount of messages that women get , they would be forever messaging that they're not interested and not replying to ones they like.

That goes to cpl's aswell

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Too busy replying to all the other messages?

Hire a P.A. !

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"Think there are a few disgruntled guys here today....

And a few happy ones too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for your message but I'm not interested in a meet thanks.

Oh well I didn't want to meet you anyway you f*c**ng f** s**g (please fill in the blanks)!

One of many reasons some don't reply. On the plus side, I was offered money today after a polite no thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I didn't know the difference between "your" and "you're" I wouldn't be expecting an answer either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I send a message and don't get a reply - true 99% of the time, I take that as meaning they aren't interested - no big deal really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You seriously telling me how to use this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

Yes Sir Certainly Sir right away Sir..

ATTENNNNSHUN

Gimp

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By *ertiVogtsMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"If I send a message and don't get a reply - true 99% of the time, I take that as meaning they aren't interested - no big deal really"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is there a time limit by when we should reply to a message?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Ah the sun seems to have bought out the best in the frustrated horny single man I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply means not interested so your not exactly hanging are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

The FAQ does tell you no reply should be taken as not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think there are a few disgruntled guys here today....

I think I got trolled by this once. On her profile it said "if I'm not interested ill delete your message" or similar and I said at the end of my message "if your not interested just delete the message"

....message stayed as "read" but not deleted till after a week in deleted it from the sent box lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have put this in my profile now.No reply =no thank you.

I imagine guys get fed up reading the 'no thanks' messages. Bit disheartening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is there a time limit by when we should reply to a message?"

I would go for within 20 seconds of it being read....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When a person opens a message up and no reply..THEY ARE NOT INTERESTED..going back with long winded why nots..is asking for it.

Her

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

I'll use the site the way that suits me, just as you do. You're no more entitled to make site rules than I am.

Do you send messages to people you're not interested in? I doubt it and I'm sure you feel that's entirely reasonable. So why should I not have the same right?

If you want to criticise something, take a look at your own profile and start there. That, you may be pleased to know, is something you are entitled to change and can do something about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No reply means not interested so your not exactly hanging are you? "

That explains the no response from my mail 8months ago , I've been eagerly waiting , you could of just said you were'nt interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just delete your sent box dude, it will save you getting stressed, honestly, I was totally fine with somebody reading a message, not replying and deleting it, but the part that wound me up was people who read then don't reply or delete..

in the end its just not worth it, just delete sent box after you send a message, that way you wont be disappointed

I also recommend bulk sent box deletion, it's much more liberating! Delete them all and wait to see who does reply rather than stressing about who doesn't

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By *byssMan
over a year ago

north wales

Under many names this topic keeps coming up, why?

Its just the way it is, deal with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

How long you waiting? Sometimes he opens the messages,but leaves the replies to me . .

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Under many names this topic keeps coming up, why?

Its just the way it is, deal with it"

Halleluja, he speaketh sense.

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

"I'd take no reply as not interested."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Shit happens"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

If we are interested we will reply.. if we are unsure we may wait till both can look.. If we aren't.. We may reply... if it was just a crap message and a crap profile then we will just delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys get so worked up on here over no reply - it's just silly!!!!

Single women/ladies get 100's of messages daily.

Couples the same!

Guys want that polite and honest reply yet if you had a reply with such honesty and demanded politeness I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate it.

They may not reply because your profile makes you sound like a prick.

Have a face only a mother could love.

Your cock wouldn't satisfy them.

Your profile doesn't stand you close to other single guys.

Or many other annoyances.

Just move on, there are 1000's on the site after all... You may not be one persons cup of tea but you may be somebody else's champagne.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Think there are a few disgruntled guys here today....

It's the heat..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

DON'T PANIC, no one has died, its just an ignored message. Phew!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if these guys reply to every unsolicitated flyer that is posted through their door.....

What people chose to do with messages received is wholly up to them. I would say out of 80 messages today- and I haven't posted for a meet, only a handful have read my profile/been polite. I'll reply where warranted/wanted/possible.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

If I'm not interested and I reply, that then means they can reply again if I chose to block all single men.. So 6 months down the line I'm wondering what we have spoken about and why we stopped talking when they try their luck again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Under many names this topic keeps coming up, why?

Its just the way it is, deal with it"

There should be forum "stickies" for common subjects like there is on every other internet forum in the world!!

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

"Thanks for your message but I'm not interested in a meet thanks.

Oh well I didn't want to meet you anyway you f*c**ng f** s**g (please fill in the blanks)!

One of many reasons some don't reply. On the plus side, I was offered money today after a polite no thanks!

Flame how much are you "worth"? lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

usually tell them -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

We always do

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

Me myself trying to get through 80 messages which answer a lot but rest when me ready not because they havent reply sometime just get too much all at once need to get to message read as delete old

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

And what about the one's that say they have read your profile but blatantly ignored the content? Do they deserve a reply as well?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Considering the amount of messages that women get , they would be forever messaging that they're not interested and not replying to ones they like.

Only the ones that need the ego boost get tons of mail....

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By *tloversCouple
over a year ago

Warrington

I got 32 messages today. I am not interested or looking at the moment.

I have a full time job.

Do I need to reply to all 32?

When can I find time in the day to do this?

Have you ever replied to 32 messages a day?

I await your reply OP...I am sure you won't just ignore these questions because that would be rude and leave me hanging...

So over to you....

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Considering the amount of messages that women get , they would be forever messaging that they're not interested and not replying to ones they like.

Only the ones that need the ego boost get tons of mail....

While I know the above comment was said tongue in check, there is in my opinion some truth to it.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I would rather nail my scrotum to a wooden bench using rusty spikes.......

usually works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd take no reply as not interested."

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

9 times out of 10, we will...

Its far less stressful to take a no reply as a not interested. Would also recommend deleting your sent messages so it doesn't drive you bonkers by keep checking.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

How about, read the site faqs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them your not interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"
We get this from every man that messages us and we delete the message,they then go on a rant calling us ignorant so we point out the fact that a "no reply"is a polite no.....to which there is yet another rant and a lot of insinuation that we can force our foreheads into our anal sphincters

...For this reason weve abandoned all hope of meeting men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Considering the amount of messages that women get , they would be forever messaging that they're not interested and not replying to ones they like.

Only the ones that need the ego boost get tons of mail....

While I know the above comment was said tongue in check, there is in my opinion some truth to it."

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By *tloversCouple
over a year ago

Warrington

Can't believe op has not answered my question and left me hanging. .how rude!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you ever replied to 32 messages a day?

Given a conversation can run into the dozens of messages very quickly I imagine most people have.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

Have you ever replied to 32 messages a day?

Given a conversation can run into the dozens of messages very quickly I imagine most people have."

Big difference between one conversation with one person, and 32 with different ones tho..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I didn't know the difference between "your" and "you're" I wouldn't be expecting an answer either."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

No I don't want to! as I get the but why then they get abusive then I have to block them .As faqs say take no response as a no thankyou move on everyone's happy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What makes me laugh is that everyone assumes we have even seen your message. My inbox holds about 100 unread messages. If I get 101 messages then I am afraid you have fallen off the bottom. I'm not actively ignoring you. I'm just busy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your message but I'm not interested in a meet thanks.

Oh well I didn't want to meet you anyway you f*c**ng f** s**g (please fill in the blanks)!

One of many reasons some don't reply. On the plus side, I was offered money today after a polite no thanks!

Haha I got" you fucking slag I didn't want to meet you anyway you're riddled with aids like all swingers and your fanny looks like a box of smashed crabs"

My reply "hahaha your cock looks like ET'S finger son fuck off and be gone" so I just ignore people I am not interested in its easier that way

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"I would rather nail my scrotum to a wooden bench using rusty spikes.......

usually works.

I can't see that working so well for me, somehow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just another person sounding off when they hear something they don't like, or don't receive the news that they expected to hear!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The use of filters reduces message volume considerably..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

A bit extreme isn't it, to send a message and then go hanging. I hope it's more like a monkey in a tree than with rope near your neck

Whatever way it is, I'm still not complying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I had a no reply and 5 weeks later they did- we ended up playing !!

You never know on this site ...its brilliant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couldnt admin automatically delete these kinds of posts as soon as they're posted? All day, every day.

I'm all for censorship in this case!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was to reply to all the messages I get. I would be on here for. Errmm seconds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The use of filters reduces message volume considerably.."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couldnt admin automatically delete these kinds of posts as soon as they're posted? All day, every day.

I'm all for censorship in this case!!"

Bless.

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By *dam_TinaCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire

It's very rude of the OP to not come back to this thread and respond individually to all the comments.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

No.

Dem Bitches can hang! (as they clearly haven't read the site FAQs).

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"I'd take no reply as not interested."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

Another consideration should be that if they clearly say in their profile you are not their type, don't bother them.

We get LOADS of that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pft....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your message but I'm not interested in a meet thanks.

Oh well I didn't want to meet you anyway you f*c**ng f** s**g (please fill in the blanks)!

One of many reasons some don't reply. On the plus side, I was offered money today after a polite no thanks!

Haha I got" you fucking slag I didn't want to meet you anyway you're riddled with aids like all swingers and your fanny looks like a box of smashed crabs"

My reply "hahaha your cock looks like ET'S finger son fuck off and be gone" so I just ignore people I am not interested in its easier that way

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how very rude! nice bum btw

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Are you talking to anyone in particular?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to find being polite and saying no thanks is actually taken as a 'please mail me as much as possible because no thanks means I'm really interested '

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Reminiscent of face pic friday, you lower your "shields" to play the game then after the swapping of faces, the guy who you don't want to meet because he's not what you're looking for continues to message you looking for a meet until you end up having to block them. Not his fault, probably because it's the longest conversation he's had on here! And of course once you've talked to someone after dropping your filters they can always message you even after you reinstate them. So the most usual recourse is unfortunately block. Ah pity the single guy.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"If someone messages you and your not intrested tell them your not intrested don't leave them hanging by not replying to their mail !!!!!!"

I cant believe I don't get laid more on here when this is how the competition behave

Women should be throwing themselves at a nice guy like me

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