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Wedding gift etiquette

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By *trawberry-pop OP   Woman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Hi all, i'm going to a work colleague's wedding in May. They've asked for money instead of gifts. I'm going alone, how much is an appropriate gift?! I'm by no means flush (not buying a new outfit or anything!)

Cheers! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A score should suffice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bugger all, They should be grateful that i turn up drink all the Beer grope a couple of Bridesmaids n bugger off after throwing up in the Punch Bowl

Generosity Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How well do you know and like them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't give less than a tenner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If your going with work colleagues why not all put money in together in a joint card then you will not feel to pressured to put to much in and they will still be happy.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"If your going with work colleagues why not all put money in together in a joint card then you will not feel to pressured to put to much in and they will still be happy. "

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

£5 is an insult, £20 is real money, go for a tenner.

Personally, I think it a cheek asking for money.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands


"£5 is an insult, £20 is real money, go for a tenner.

Personally, I think it a cheek asking for money. "

I do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"£5 is an insult, £20 is real money, go for a tenner.

Personally, I think it a cheek asking for money.

I do too

"

Yeah fuck em. Just give a card.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"£5 is an insult, £20 is real money, go for a tenner.

Personally, I think it a cheek asking for money.

I do too

Yeah fuck em. Just give a card. "

But if you do fuck them, get pics, as wedding dress fuck pics will get into the hottest pics, easily and it'll be nice to see someone different up there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

20 quid I'd eat more then that from the buffete

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"20 quid I'd eat more then that from the buffete "

You could take a rebate in the form of a week's worth of salmon cobs and bread with dripping.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How much would you have spent on a gift ? That's how much we would give.

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By *trawberry-pop OP   Woman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I wouldn't know how much I'd spend on a gift-it depends what they wanted!

I'm thinking £20 feels a bit stingy still?!

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By *each_PittWoman
over a year ago

Belfast

I always think a gift equal in value to the cost of the meal. Obviously depends where the reception is but between £30 - £50 a head is the 'norm'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always think a gift equal in value to the cost of the meal. Obviously depends where the reception is but between £30 - £50 a head is the 'norm'."

You have used the word colleague, which would imply that they are not a friend but more of an accquaintance therefore i think £20 is more than generous... If it was a friend it would be slightly different..

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I would give £20 for a work colleage

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By *ot monkey71Couple
over a year ago

middlesbrough


"I always think a gift equal in value to the cost of the meal. Obviously depends where the reception is but between £30 - £50 a head is the 'norm'.

You have used the word colleague, which would imply that they are not a friend but more of an accquaintance therefore i think £20 is more than generous... If it was a friend it would be slightly different.."

I would agree with this, unless you can comfortably afford more.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Hand crafted wedding card off me

And the business card inside of a good divorce lawyer Lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't know how much I'd spend on a gift-it depends what they wanted!

I'm thinking £20 feels a bit stingy still?! "
I would say £20 is what I would give in this situation. Not stingy imo. X

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By *trawberry-pop OP   Woman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

Ok thanks folks. She is a friend too, we go for lunch together, but i've only known her the 2 years i've been here and we've never socialised outside of lunch breaks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd give them a card telling them not to be cheeky twats and be grateful for whatever people decide to give them !

I really, really hate people who make specific requests for specific gifts or type of gifts.

I was always taught to be grateful for whatever I receive whether I liked it of not.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"£5 is an insult, £20 is real money, go for a tenner.

Personally, I think it a cheek asking for money. "

A friend is to become a grandmother soon and has made it known that she wants money for the sprog rather than gifts even hand made ones. I have opted for the third choice of giving nothing.

I don't know how I feel about being asked for money but if you're skint it's darn embarrassing if you are unable to give.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"£5 is an insult, £20 is real money, go for a tenner.

Personally, I think it a cheek asking for money.

A friend is to become a grandmother soon and has made it known that she wants money for the sprog rather than gifts even hand made ones. I have opted for the third choice of giving nothing.

I don't know how I feel about being asked for money but if you're skint it's darn embarrassing if you are unable to give."

Even Grandmothers can make Demands..yer right thats gonna happen

Gimp

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By *trawberry-pop OP   Woman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT

I'd buy them a present but they have everything they need, hence they're asking for money instead.

I don't think it's cheeky, it's quite common these days. They have their house, 2 cars, a toaster, a fridge, a kitchen sink...they don't 'need' anything for their marital home.

I had planned to do the bride's hair but she decided on another hairdresser (ouch) because she wanted me to 'enjoy the day'. That would have been my gift!

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's a bit awkward. We've given £50 before but that was pre kids!!!

I think £20 or £30 as she's a work colleague and a nice card

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By *ove bi guysWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

£20 is fine ... but I have been known to buy a gift anyway. Ok they don't 'need' anything but if I saw something I thought would look nice in their house or was something to remember the day but I would get it.

Last works wedding I got them a Yankee candle with a shade for it. Looked nice and was a scent they I hoped they would both like as it was a foodie smell and they both enjoyed cooking

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By *ain n MableWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

The norm around here (London) is £100 for a couple, which is way to expensive, but if you don't keep up with the norm the the Chelsea Tractor brigade talk about you at the school gates.

Give what you can afford to, no more, no less. Then you are honest with yourself. Enjoy.

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By *trawberry-pop OP   Woman
over a year ago

South East Midlands NOT


"The norm around here (London) is £100 for a couple, which is way to expensive, but if you don't keep up with the norm the the Chelsea Tractor brigade talk about you at the school gates.

Give what you can afford to, no more, no less. Then you are honest with yourself. Enjoy. "

I gave 50 euros at a wedding in Paris last year as a single.

I think i'll go with £30. Either that or i'll do her next cut and colour for free perhaps.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Money should never be discussed in polite circles.

Traditional marriage etiquette requires everyone to service the bride after the marriage.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Funnily enough, I'm going to a wedding in May and the bride and groom have asked for money. Perhaps I'll see you there!

The bride and groom are family to me, so I know the money is going either towards the honeymoon or towards the house reconstruction. I'm planning on giving £50.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

We get married in four weeks and we don't want gifts, we have everything we need.

If people would like to give us a gift we have asked that they make a donation towards our planned garden renovation so that we can enjoy it for years to come.

When I married my first husband we did the whole wedding list thing, despite not needing anything. I found the whole thing quite tacky really. Adding stuff for the kitchen that I already had and was in good condition just so that people could buy us something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I attended a wedding last year - the couple already had a house and all the usual mod cons. Their gift request was for money which they would use towards paying for their honeymoon they were saving for. I thought it was an excellent idea - they went to the Seychelles.

OP - given she is a colleague who you occasionally lunch with then £30 is absolutely fine - enjoy the day

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