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Are you an overthinker...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I know I do.. I take things to heart to much.

It can at times be annoying and I can hear myself and wish that there was a rewind and mute button..

So are you??? and has anyone truly overcome it.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I do.. I take things to heart to much.

So are you??? "

no

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I can usually know fairly quickly what my opinion is on something - I may be open to debate or persuasion.

I will never understand most people and their interests or motivations, but that's fine, I can focus on my own and people who are important to me.

Most stuff is trivial, so no need to be bothered by it. I spend time thinking about my studies and medical developments and potential. Otherwise, it's time for fun.

If ever perplexed, some yoga or meditation is always a better use of my time and energy.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I know I do.. I take things to heart to much.

So are you???

no "

Im a thinker. Not sure things can be overthought. Too much effort can be put into insignificant events tho xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hold on, I'll be right back with my answer.......

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151

Geez I suffer from over thinking all the time... I play countless scenarios when in reality the issue is not even there most of the time look in hindsight... I have had sleepless nights overthinking matters.

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By *earboynottinghamMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Yes.

I sometimes recall things I said 10/15 years ago and cringe.

Doesn't do me any favours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think just do .....is my motto

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am. Absolutely. By the time I've taken an innocent situation put my own perception on it, over analysed it and played it out in my head over and over again it bears no resemblance to it's origin!

I have black and white thinking and don't seem to see the grey areas. After CBT therapy a few years ago I learnt that my perceptions are often distorted. It allowed me to see things for what they really were and not what I was making them to be. It helped me loads. I'm still guilty of overthinking, but I tend to be more practical and logical about it now and can be objective to my own thought process.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmmm, let me think about this.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wish i could act without thinking sometimes, i have great ideas then talk myself out of them !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over think and over analyse, that's me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i am.

I overcame it by studying many different sciences as well as philosophy. There are some really interesting things to over think about in these fields and they'll absorb plenty of your time, will be hard finding other people to talk about this stuff with but you can find them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I do.. I take things to heart to much.

It can at times be annoying and I can hear myself and wish that there was a rewind and mute button..

So are you??? and has anyone truly overcome it.?"
I think my recent posting history speaks for itself. Over thinking everything.

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By *ouple1973Couple
over a year ago

clowne


"Over think and over analyse, that's me!"
me to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup very much so. However I try really hard not to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I do.. I take things to heart to much.

It can at times be annoying and I can hear myself and wish that there was a rewind and mute button..

So are you??? and has anyone truly overcome it.?"

Yes i am, but i will also keep quiet about what i am over thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup i think too much about things...maybe i've too much time on my hands

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.....yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.....overthink all the time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Seems to mostly be ladies... Is it a woman thing you think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeh defo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I overthink and it drives him nuts.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Seems to mostly be ladies... Is it a woman thing you think ? "

No. Men don't vocalist it in quite the same way but the threads where men say that people haven't deleted mail that they've sent and asking what this means indicates an overthinker to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope never unless there is bull shit involved and I have to go digging and then I am a thinker. Very intuitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Years ago I used to be when in chatrooms but I started using the yahoo fightrooms they used to have and now I couldn't care less what someone says to me or thinks of me online.

I'm myself and if someone don't like it then tough

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep!But I'd rather be an over thinker than an under thinker.....although it does have its disadvantages at times........ lol

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuuuuuuuuck yeah! It's a curse.

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By *ouple1973Couple
over a year ago

clowne


"Yep!But I'd rather be an over thinker than an under thinker.....although it does have its disadvantages at times........ lol"
so true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be a major over thinker, i have found life so much easier and healthier since learning too not dwell on things or wonder what if or why, 9 times out of 10 it is paranoia and on the rare occasion it isn't , what does over thinking it change, now i am so laid back i am horizontal.. ooh anybody want too take advantage of that.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"Seems to mostly be ladies... Is it a woman thing you think ? "

They say women spend more time thinking about what men think than men actually spend thinking!

I am a thinker for sure, but I feel most of the time that is a benefit, maybe you can only 'over think' if you are dwelling on something negative?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

No, but I know a few people who are. They can have an existential break down whilst going to the loo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I might over think a situation to try and find the best solution, but if I find myself over thinking things that don't matter, I realise I'm stressed about something.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I am guilty of overthinking at times - and usually it is one of my friends who will tell me to stop this "analysis to paralysis" nonsense. It is probably a bit down to up bringing - my parents always told me to think before acting!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am a terrible over thinker i run issues through my mind time and time again instead of putting it behind me and moving on !!!

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Oo yes...wish I could just switch off at times

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

My OH says i think too much!

OP when thinking i imagine the worst case scenario that way i am ready for poop & fan to collide. If its good then hey i survived

Mrs WD40

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My OH says i think too much!

OP when thinking i imagine the worst case scenario that way i am ready for poop & fan to collide. If its good then hey i survived

Mrs WD40"

I'm like that.. I always do the what ifs... I will worry about worst case scenarios x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something I'm really bad for BUT.... I'm normally right and if it doesn't feel right it normally isn't, I've had some clangers that I've not seen coming but on the whole I'm normally right. Doesn't make me turn and run when I should though which is a shame!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know I do.. I take things to heart to much.

It can at times be annoying and I can hear myself and wish that there was a rewind and mute button..

So are you??? and has anyone truly overcome it.?"

Yep over think everything, every decision has to be thought over and the dozens of possible outcomes.

Drives jools crazy.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Oh god yes! Sometimes I wish I could just switch my brain off.

I try to give myself a shake and get a grip, but sometimes I find it difficult and have had a few panic attacks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Wow thanks for all the replies..

I sometimes can hear the panic and the illogical arguments I make to myself and others. They are legitimate reasons to me... But I can hear it and the inner logical person is crying out to shhh me xx

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