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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Going on from another post i replied in, im thinking of maybe tweaking my profile a bit.

I think it has me down as being very vanilla/closeminded when reality is differant.

My idea of kinky is i guess more along the extreme side which is maybe what i should put in my profile?

To me kinky/fetishes is more along the lines of scat, strong (maybe thats not the right word) bdsm, being covered head to toe in pvc, having a woman chained like a horse etc.

I guess my question is, is there a word for the kind of stuff i have mentioned as being my idea of kinky rather than me saying im not into anything kinky?

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Hmm. Good luck any one trying to help me on that.... it doesnt even make sense to me! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It makes some sense!

What one person finds kinky, another finds normal, so its hard to say what a kink is really...

And I don't think you have to list your kinks precisely on your profile....let people find a little out too ya know...

And I'm guessing none of tour kinks are absolute musts and I think by listing them it makes it look too much like that's specifically what your looking for...

I say in my profile I have a few kinks, and that I'll go into more detail when we start chatting....I didn't want it to lookikea list of stuff that had to happen on a meet...because none of my kinks are absolute pre requisites on a meet....and I dare say neither are yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes some sense!

What one person finds kinky, another finds normal, so its hard to say what a kink is really...

And I don't think you have to list your kinks precisely on your profile....let people find a little out too ya know...

And I'm guessing none of tour kinks are absolute musts and I think by listing them it makes it look too much like that's specifically what your looking for...

I say in my profile I have a few kinks, and that I'll go into more detail when we start chatting....I didn't want it to lookikea list of stuff that had to happen on a meet...because none of my kinks are absolute pre requisites on a meet....and I dare say neither are yours.

"

^this

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We have outlined our particular mild kink in our profile. It leads in to conversation and further discussion, maybe you could say you're into kink and happy to discuss details.

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It makes some sense!

What one person finds kinky, another finds normal, so its hard to say what a kink is really...

And I don't think you have to list your kinks precisely on your profile....let people find a little out too ya know...

And I'm guessing none of tour kinks are absolute musts and I think by listing them it makes it look too much like that's specifically what your looking for...

I say in my profile I have a few kinks, and that I'll go into more detail when we start chatting....I didn't want it to lookikea list of stuff that had to happen on a meet...because none of my kinks are absolute pre requisites on a meet....and I dare say neither are yours.

"

I dont have a list of whats kinky and what isnt. I guess im just more finding out in my own head that as u say stuff one person finds kinky is just kinda normalish to another person.

I guess i was just thinking the whole "not into anything kinky thanks, go to kinkyfuckers .com" mite be a bit off putting but then i also dont want messages from the fully clad pvc wearing men who like the woman to pretend to be a horse.

Hmmmmmmm. I think i have confused myself a bit now lol.

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"We have outlined our particular mild kink in our profile. It leads in to conversation and further discussion, maybe you could say you're into kink and happy to discuss details."

There isnt a set "kink" that im into. I guess im just very openminded and have done lots but then i have this higer opinion of whats kinky too.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"We have outlined our particular mild kink in our profile. It leads in to conversation and further discussion, maybe you could say you're into kink and happy to discuss details.

There isnt a set "kink" that im into. I guess im just very openminded and have done lots but then i have this higer opinion of whats kinky too. "

That's kind of what I meant. Instead of listing specifics you could say you're open to suggestion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It makes some sense!

What one person finds kinky, another finds normal, so its hard to say what a kink is really...

And I don't think you have to list your kinks precisely on your profile....let people find a little out too ya know...

And I'm guessing none of tour kinks are absolute musts and I think by listing them it makes it look too much like that's specifically what your looking for...

I say in my profile I have a few kinks, and that I'll go into more detail when we start chatting....I didn't want it to lookikea list of stuff that had to happen on a meet...because none of my kinks are absolute pre requisites on a meet....and I dare say neither are yours.

I dont have a list of whats kinky and what isnt. I guess im just more finding out in my own head that as u say stuff one person finds kinky is just kinda normalish to another person.

I guess i was just thinking the whole "not into anything kinky thanks, go to kinkyfuckers .com" mite be a bit off putting but then i also dont want messages from the fully clad pvc wearing men who like the woman to pretend to be a horse.

Hmmmmmmm. I think i have confused myself a bit now lol."

Just take that bit out and see what happens.....I doubt it'll open the floodgates to the saddle and gas mask crew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

kinky is using a feather

perverted the whole chicken

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile text used to read as follows....

"Time to add some text blurb then!

I am single, I work hard, I drive, I smoke (filthy habit I should work on)

I cannot accommodate as I have children and will not allow anything that I chose to do in my private time impact on them.

I absolutely have a kinky side. I love the bdsm scene and have dabbled (if you think you are a 50 shades type please don't message me)

I am submissive to the right person and take pleasure in caring for people.

In the right company I am cheeky and love having a laugh, quite a social little butterfly but I choose my friends carefully.

I prefer older men and am not interested in cock shots, I also will not be sharing with you pussy shots (my private pictures are face pics)

Sooooo any questions drop me a message

Update - If she's shouting Doritos. Penguin. Lipstick. Camaro. Butterfly. Apple. Kelly Clarkson. Oh God, please stop!... she probably forgot the safeword."

Added with a picture of my whipped arse it lead to people being able to approach that aspect if they wanted too.

I hope it helps a little x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BUT I've also met plenty of "vanilla " types too so it's just there for those who choose to work with it. If that makes sense? X

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"It makes some sense!

What one person finds kinky, another finds normal, so its hard to say what a kink is really...

And I don't think you have to list your kinks precisely on your profile....let people find a little out too ya know...

And I'm guessing none of tour kinks are absolute musts and I think by listing them it makes it look too much like that's specifically what your looking for...

I say in my profile I have a few kinks, and that I'll go into more detail when we start chatting....I didn't want it to lookikea list of stuff that had to happen on a meet...because none of my kinks are absolute pre requisites on a meet....and I dare say neither are yours.

I dont have a list of whats kinky and what isnt. I guess im just more finding out in my own head that as u say stuff one person finds kinky is just kinda normalish to another person.

I guess i was just thinking the whole "not into anything kinky thanks, go to kinkyfuckers .com" mite be a bit off putting but then i also dont want messages from the fully clad pvc wearing men who like the woman to pretend to be a horse.

Hmmmmmmm. I think i have confused myself a bit now lol.

Just take that bit out and see what happens.....I doubt it'll open the floodgates to the saddle and gas mask crew "

Hmmmmm what punishment can i dish out if that happens?????

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"BUT I've also met plenty of "vanilla " types too so it's just there for those who choose to work with it. If that makes sense? X "

I guess my profile hasnt done me any harm, maybe i should leave it.

I think u always find out more by just chatting with someone.

Plus im a firm believer what happens is more to do with the connection u have with someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"BUT I've also met plenty of "vanilla " types too so it's just there for those who choose to work with it. If that makes sense? X

I guess my profile hasnt done me any harm, maybe i should leave it.

I think u always find out more by just chatting with someone.

Plus im a firm believer what happens is more to do with the connection u have with someone."

If it ain't broke don't fix it

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"BUT I've also met plenty of "vanilla " types too so it's just there for those who choose to work with it. If that makes sense? X

I guess my profile hasnt done me any harm, maybe i should leave it.

I think u always find out more by just chatting with someone.

Plus im a firm believer what happens is more to do with the connection u have with someone.

If it ain't broke don't fix it "

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kink and a fetish are two different things.

Various books describe kink as an activity to enhance a sexual experience: bdsm, roleplay, swinging, toys etc,etc.

The fetish is individual and could go back to a childhood experience, a fetish is a sexual behaviours towards something or a situation.

All these have different degrees, go and find yours.

I cringe when I hear the word 'kinky' it's too normie for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile is quite direct and I have put a couple of my kinks up there, on a list of 'things I like', but I integrated choking (a biiiig one for me) with chocolate buttons, for example. I think a lot of people are open to trying kinky things, and there's nothing quite like exploring something with someone, so I'd allude, but not specify all of them. There are other websites as well that are for fetishists, which might work better for you if you're looking for a long term D/s or S/m relationship Good luck! x

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By *orethancurves OP   Woman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"My profile is quite direct and I have put a couple of my kinks up there, on a list of 'things I like', but I integrated choking (a biiiig one for me) with chocolate buttons, for example. I think a lot of people are open to trying kinky things, and there's nothing quite like exploring something with someone, so I'd allude, but not specify all of them. There are other websites as well that are for fetishists, which might work better for you if you're looking for a long term D/s or S/m relationship Good luck! x"

I think ive confused u a bit too much lol. There isnt any specific kinks or fetishes i am into. And im not really into the dom/sub thing either. Im more a 50/50 kind of gal. I was just thinking my profile maybe makes me come across as very close minded when infact in very openminded but i guess not in the few things i have mentioned i wouldnt like people messaging me asking me to do.

Can i ask u about the choking thing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Going on from another post i replied in, im thinking of maybe tweaking my profile a bit.

I think it has me down as being very vanilla/closeminded when reality is differant.

My idea of kinky is i guess more along the extreme side which is maybe what i should put in my profile?

To me kinky/fetishes is more along the lines of scat, strong (maybe thats not the right word) bdsm, being covered head to toe in pvc, having a woman chained like a horse etc.

I guess my question is, is there a word for the kind of stuff i have mentioned as being my idea of kinky rather than me saying im not into anything kinky?"

Neigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is kinky to someone, but that same person is vanilla to another.

We all have different views on what's hardcore and whats soft play, slap and tickle.

Trick is to just enjoy what you enjoy x

Kinky and Proud

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