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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I was at the business end for the first one.. a footling.. complicated birth. Very worried and terrified for my ex and my son... the next two were straight forward and I was delighted to welcome them into the world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Caesars both times ....

First was an emergency section and the second elective ....

so I never actually got to see the birth ... But was present in the delivery room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. It was simultaneously the most moving, wonderful experience of my life as I was filled with a kind of awe I suppose and an immediate feeling of a deep connection and love; as well as scary hell because he was so premature and needed help breathing and my wife had lost so much blood because of birth complications. I felt helpless and just wept

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!!"
Yep I was fuck all use too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes.

Very relived actually.

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By *oe bloggs69Man
over a year ago

fife

Missed the first,I went home to feed our cat but was at 2nd two..best feeling ever....knowing that bitch isvgoin thru hell hahahahahaha.. Joke!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep, relieved as I was in scrubs, twice.. proud, happy, in awe of the woman that brought my cubs into the world.

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By *vbride1963TV/TS
over a year ago

E.K . Glasgow

Emergency caesarian section twins after seeing them quickly removed all hell broke loose as eclampsia set in . I have seen more of my partner than most would wish . She is still here to tell the tale . My story is one of pride that I didn't faint during the proceedings

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Caesars both times ....

First was an emergency section and the second elective ....

so I never actually got to see the birth ... But was present in the delivery room

I've had three sections my ex came in with me for all three, he kept getting a bollocking with the last one cause he kept going down the bottom end to watch, apparently if you have a section your not allowed to watch your child actually coming out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, relieved as I was in scrubs, twice.. proud, happy, in awe of the woman that brought my cubs into the world."

Awwww that's lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and it was amazing! Cut the cord on both my kids

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter's father was barely there for the conception let alone the birth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!! Yep I was fuck all use too

But I'm sure you would have at least held my hand?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was, saw my daughter coming out in an emercancy c section, not a nice experience and also a horrible decision, stay with the seriously ill (ex) wife or rush of with an equally ill new baby??? Choose my beautiful daughter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yep, relieved as I was in scrubs, twice.. proud, happy, in awe of the woman that brought my cubs into the world."

Lovely. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!! Yep I was fuck all use too

But I'm sure you would have at least held my hand?"
I did most of the time except when not possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!! Yep I was fuck all use too

But I'm sure you would have at least held my hand? I did most of the time except when not possible

Excellent. Xx

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By *overs14Couple
over a year ago

norwich

Both natural births and hubby stayed up the top with me. He's squirmish about anything like that lol. I touched my daughters head on her way out but he wasn't keen lol. He was ok and thrilled once they were both out and cleaned!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For 39 out of 40 of em i was.

T'other came at same time 200 miles apart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!! Yep I was fuck all use too

But I'm sure you would have at least held my hand?"

If only.

'kin eck, i'd to do a lot more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't the little buggers ( love em really ) have jet black poo for the first day or two?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was at the birth of both of our kids. Fat lot of good he was!!! Yep I was fuck all use too

But I'm sure you would have at least held my hand? I did most of the time except when not possible

Excellent. Xx"

Then had to go to Mothercare and buy lots of tiny baby clothes and other stuff because we weren't prepared for him to arrive so early....I knew I was no longer "in Kansas"

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By *unguy2757Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I had the pleasure of having scars in my arms (del boy styleee) .. but wouldn't of had it any other way. .. ... .. It is after all what we here for ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't the little buggers ( love em really ) have jet black poo for the first day or two? "

Yes its called meconium

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where the frig did I go wrong??

Ah wait, I didn't. My sprogs still live with me.

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By *haznsteCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

I cut the cord and felt so honored

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was there for both of my kids births. I will admit I broke my heart when they both came out. Such an emotional experience even fed them whilst my wife composed herself afterwards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mr was there when I gave birth, he was top end with me but when I struggled to push he had a look ans when he said he could see our babies head of hair that made me push so I could see him. Me, him and the midwife in the room, im sure his version of events happened differently but he did brilliantly in my eyes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is something I never experience and is one of my biggest regrets in life.

That moment when you're world and being becomes complete must be just magical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mr was there when I gave birth, he was top end with me but when I struggled to push he had a look ans when he said he could see our babies head of hair that made me push so I could see him. Me, him and the midwife in the room, im sure his version of events happened differently but he did brilliantly in my eyes "

Aw. That's really lovely. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was there for all of them. I delivered my third she came out like a catapult, labour less than the ambulance took to get there, I was wondered how to get her to cry and how hard to slap her bottom, luckily, she cried without any help from me. The irony was I seemed to know what to do, I didn't panic, she popped out, funny thing is she was always a daddies girl.

How did I feel like I do whenever I see them now, I speak to my children at least twice a week, but when I see them, I cry I never do otherwise, I feel so embarrassed now, my daughters cry too, but my son taunts me, he'll understand on day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I was, to be honest, I didn't like it very much and as soon as my son was born, I felt an overwhelming sense of responsibility, he's now 21, and I love that boy as much as I did when I first saw him. I'm a very very proud dad

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Sadly I have no kids; however, I have been present at the birth of some almighty turds.

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By *ire_bladeMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Not my son's but I was for my daughter's birth. I've no idea how to describe the feeling going throw me as she was born. She popped out conpleatly gray and for a few very long slow motion seconds I really did think she was dead but then what i can only describe as this pink wave flushed over her as she gulped her 1st breath and scream out her 1st cry. The joy love and pure emotions I felt where finnominal and as much as I'd love to I could never put that into words. Shes 13 in 2 wks and that love never has and never will leave me.....oh by the way I've never in my life counted 10 fingers and 10 toes so fast in my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex never left my side for all of ours... don't know what i'd have done without him. He's an excellent Father too.

Was a knob head of a husband though.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Nope.

I didn't meet him til he was 2.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aw. That's really lovely. X"

Thanks! Thankfully I've also been on the other side at a friends labour so I can understand why men would seem so "unhelpful" I dont think id ever judge the way my man is at anymore of our births, just hope the next goes as smoothly haha

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By *hyandtwistedCouple
over a year ago

loughborough

We are expecting our 2nd grandchild and will be there for that, it will be mine (mr) first birth. The wife was at all her kids births though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

Yes both times.

Immensely proud, happy and In awe of jools.

Why wouldn't a man want to be there at the birth of his child?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is something I never experience and is one of my biggest regrets in life.

That moment when you're world and being becomes complete must be just magical.

You're only 25, there's still time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes was there there at my 2 girls births,

Both was pool births both was very quick and smooth going ( compared to what others i have heard about) i even delivered both girls. Absolutely amazing would not change it for the world, very joyful and emotional time.

Good on mummy, both times in and out the pool within 30mins, no complications, no drugs even the gas and air she was ment to be sucking on the bottle had ran out lol.

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

Yes both times.

Immensely proud, happy and In awe of jools.

Why wouldn't a man want to be there at the birth of his child? "

Lots of men are not there for the birth so,e through choice some due to circumstances etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

Yes both times.

Immensely proud, happy and In awe of jools.

Why wouldn't a man want to be there at the birth of his child?

Lots of men are not there for the birth so,e through choice some due to circumstances etc..."

don't think mine was at my birth, he didn't even ring to say happy birthday to me today

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

Yes both times.

Immensely proud, happy and In awe of jools.

Why wouldn't a man want to be there at the birth of his child?

Lots of men are not there for the birth so,e through choice some due to circumstances etc...

don't think mine was at my birth, he didn't even ring to say happy birthday to me today"

Happy Birthday x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

Yes both times.

Immensely proud, happy and In awe of jools.

Why wouldn't a man want to be there at the birth of his child?

Lots of men are not there for the birth so,e through choice some due to circumstances etc..."

Even for my boy's birth (i didnt know if he was even mine at the time) i was still in the hospital waiting outside the room just in case, glad i did cos he is mine and i would not have forgiven myself if i was not there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

Yes both times.

Immensely proud, happy and In awe of jools.

Why wouldn't a man want to be there at the birth of his child?

Lots of men are not there for the birth so,e through choice some due to circumstances etc..."

I would rather have been there and then found out he was not mine, then not been there and found out he is mine,

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By *omaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I have 3 daughters. Was privileged to be there for the births of 1 and 3 But was working away when number 2 came along.

Never felt so complete seeing them born.

Magical!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We're you at the birth of your child? How did you feel when you saw your child being born?

I was at all 3 of my childrens births. And I just though wow how women go through this just amazes me let alone more than once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was there. Helping support then emergency c section . I was so proud to hold him for the first time. He peed on the knobhead midwife and I got to keep the scrubs. Best day of my life and I have my boy

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

as with my daughters birth we found out early so bought in for the birth

a bit complicated as childs back bone was on mrs backbone at birth it was either c section but was refused as too far i believe

she had to give birth on all 4s

I got in trouble from her as I wanted to see the birth of first child her second child so whilst holding her hand i was going to have a look then got dragged back up top again

she also bent the bed frame whilst giving birth

after birth i cried as was so happy for all 3 of us

and then informed all family that we had a daughter at ... time

she wanted out i said no shes staying in hospital overnight to get her rest so picked son up and went home to bed for the night then son and i went to collect his mum and his sister from hospital the day after after discharge

then a year later became the career of both children

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was there. Elective section, which he said I didnt need (hundreds of women have had kids, it can't be that painful). Kind of set the tone for gargantuan knob ish behaviour. He bogied ogf when she was tiny, hasn't seen or asked after her in 8 months, including when I was rushed into hospital and he was informed. And ive got to go to court soon to try and stop him getting full custody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

S was there, seeing him in the scrubs was about the only time I smiled during all the horrendousness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delivered two of my three.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at both and cried with happiness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My ex was there. Elective section, which he said I didnt need (hundreds of women have had kids, it can't be that painful). Kind of set the tone for gargantuan knob ish behaviour. He bogied ogf when she was tiny, hasn't seen or asked after her in 8 months, including when I was rushed into hospital and he was informed. And ive got to go to court soon to try and stop him getting full custody. "

Judge Rinder??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I remember our first. It was like watching people come and hurt the the most precious thing in the world to me. Then i was left in an empty room with a puddle of blood and a sick feeling! Yay....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was for all but one, we had our youngest at home early morning, midwifes were there for 10 minutes and Hids slept most the day after that, was a very long day!

Hex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being at the births of all my grandchildren I came to realise it's worse for someone watching than the mother. I only cried once when my son in law cried as my granddaughter was born.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

I really wish I could be a dad

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I really wish I could be a dad

Awwww

I doubt you are the only one the same as women wishing to be mothers it's a difficult pill to swallow at times xx

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By *ig1gaz1Man
over a year ago

bradford

"I really wish I could be a dad

Awwww

I doubt you are the only one the same as women wishing to be mothers it's a difficult pill to swallow at times xx"

they can also be a step parent as well there still a dad and also a mum at end of the day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My dad was there when I was born. Bless him. always there for me. Even when I've come crawling in tonight d*unk crying about a tequila worm. Always be daddies little girl

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

My dad was at my birth though nearly fainted as he hates the sight of blood...his first words were "not another bloody wedding to oay for"

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

A dad is more than a father.

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By *lshere77Man
over a year ago

Wigan

A mother too?

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By *lshere77Man
over a year ago

Wigan

What a fuckwit statement

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"What a fuckwit statement"

What part is a fuckwit statement?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a fuckwit statement"

Time to call it a day and go to bed?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a fuckwit statement"
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Anyone can Father a child. a dad is someone who's always there.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

"A dad is more than a father."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was at my 1st and 3rd missed my second one due to working away. Proud of all my boys. The hardest one was the 3rd ex had preaclamsia and developed heart problems I had to juggle work and look after the other kids.she was in hospital for a month thought I was gonna loose the both. Thank god they both survived that was 7 years ago.she still has heart problems even though we're no longer together I would still always be there for her if she struggles and proud of her they way she copes with the heart problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What a fuckwit statement.

Anyone can Father a child. a dad is someone who's always there. "

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By *lashheartMan
over a year ago

shrewsbury

Been there for all mine. No feeling like it. Pure love (aaaaah)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was there for both my sons births abd was a great experience, just a shame I choose the wrong woman to have children with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was there, it was a mixture of pride, fear, and overwhelming joy, little helpless beings that needed me, would I be able to be a good dad, I don't know if I am, but I do what I can and I tell them everyday that I love them, and now it's me that needs them, they are my joy, and all the love I'll ever need, I love being a dad

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex

"What a fuckwit statement.

Anyone can Father a child. a dad is someone who's always there. "

That is what I was on about. x

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"What a fuckwit statement"

I'd say this is the fuckwit statement actually...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pushing 30 years old now.

If I was the type of bloke that is supposed to have kids. .I think it would have happened by now.

That being said. I'd make an epic dad.

But that's never going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my kids dad was pissed off as it meant no pub - literally dropped me and baby off home and went straight out - he was at the birth of them both tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely, all you dads. I personally would prefer to be dragged naked over a field of broken glass with my tongue wrapped around a Harley Davidson's exhaust pipe. And I am really not sure that this site is the right one for this sort of subject. Call me a sour beggar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has to have been the best experience of my life cant explain the feeling you get when you first see your child instant love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scared.

My wife had an emergency section after being diagnosed with pre-eclampsia. The docs lost track of the baby's heartbeat. She was being cut open before she was fully flat on her back. No was born effectively dead and needed resuscitating. And several weeks on neo natal. Because no room in the hospital he was born in, in neo, he was transferred to a different hospital to my wife

Wife went from bad to worse, and 3 days later I was told she wouldn't make it through the night. Her blood pressure was off the charts, literally. She made it through that night. Next night she was found unconscious fallen off her hospital bed. Needed resuscitating.

Fortunately, everybody ok now. God bless the NHS, they were absolutely fantastic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was there for both of mine.

My first, my daughter, was delivered by emergency cesearian section, but my son, two years and a month later, was a much more normal affair. In fact, the only pain relief the ex needed was gas and air.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

don't think that makes him a knob, hes right!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there for both 1st Forceps delivery so got kicked out for the last 5mins of a 12hr labour

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

There for both of them and it was an amazing experience, emotional and scary at the same time..

do remember saying 'if you dont want to go through that again i will understand'..

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By *essiCouple
over a year ago

suffolk

Delivered our daughter and cut the cord was an amazing thing to be part of especially as I didn't see our son being born

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"I'm pushing 30 years old now.

If I was the type of bloke that is supposed to have kids. .I think it would have happened by now.

That being said. I'd make an epic dad.

But that's never going to happen.

Try pushing 35 and being a woman and your dad saying he doesn't want me to turn out like my childless aunts

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By *isscheekychops OP Woman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Lovely, all you dads. I personally would prefer to be dragged naked over a field of broken glass with my tongue wrapped around a Harley Davidson's exhaust pipe. And I am really not sure that this site is the right one for this sort of subject. Call me a sour beggar."

Ahh well never mind, I posted the question and you are entitled to your opinion

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I was there, but I wasn't allowed down the business end...

I'd have been interested to see - I brought some blazer twine in case the bugger got stuck.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

"I'm pushing 30 years old now.

If I was the type of bloke that is supposed to have kids. .I think it would have happened by now.

That being said. I'd make an epic dad.

But that's never going to happen.

Men produce new sperm until the day they kick the bucket.... 30 is plenty young enough to have kids - my daughter was born when I was 28 and I am a pretty young dad compared to most at the school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best had be.....or I'm kicking arse...

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