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"Great Idea - pity about the people I have been trying for 6 years on various sites to make contact and meet a partner after my wife died . I thought Dating Sites would be a good place to find like minded people looking to contact , meet , and make friends Whilst I have managed to meet some very nice women but for various reasons have not developed into long term relationships .These I would class as success stories . The downside has been all the other ones who have messed me about - raised my expectations only to have them dashed . This I find very disheartening when I try my best only to find myself at the whim of other people . Joined 4 weeks ago hoping this site would be better than the paid sites who I suspect generate false messages to get you to pay -- then nothing . Like lots of good ideas in the past its the people who spoil it either deliberately or because of an uncaring attitude to others or simply misfortune . During my short stay I have come across the usual problems Mail not replied to Mail from people who do not even click on profile Mail from too far away Mail from unwanted types of contact Mail from people who come on strong then disappear People who arrange to meet but decline to say when or where People who arrange to meet but but cancel at the last moment People who arrange to meet but arrive late . People who arrange to meet but do not arrive then disappear Individually their reasons might be be unavoidable but when I am at the receiving end of it all it feels different .I feel devastated when I am excited about a getting a meet and have put other things off to make myself available During my 4 weeks I have had the following actual letdowns one couple 2hr late arrival , 2 different couples cancelling twice at last moment 4 times in all , another couple cancelling once and not showing for the second then not answering my mail . I have decided that the pain and heartache is not worth the benefit I get from trying . So as I cannot stand the heat I will leave he kitchen and find some fresh air away from people and sadly bring my sexual career to a close . I can only take so much shit before I sink under its weight Hope the rest of you fare better Colin " Not really the site to seek long term relationships. Best of luck in life however. Ps - a little bad form to identify the couple who turned up, verified you and left a good comment as being 2 hours late .....be nice to hide their veri | |||
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" Mail from people who do not even click on profile Mail from too far away Mail from unwanted types of contact Mail from people who come on strong then disappear " How many messages have you had from others, (started by others I mean, not replies to messages you've sent)? Most men, until they establish themselves on here, at least, say they get very few messages from women/couples. It sounds unlikely you've been inundated with messages from people who are too far away etc. | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments . I appreciate where a lot of you are coming from . As always things get mixed up between what I think -- what I say -- what you read - what you think I mean . I am NOT looking for a partner except for fun . To me a relationship is that something between two people however short . Living where I do there is no club scene to try without travelling a long distance . The same difficulty is the number of members in my area . As I said I have been on other sites for 6 years and sent over a thousand requests with little success and had the same sorts of problems . I have travelled 120 miles round trip to meet several different women who never turn up . I am sure there are lots of very nice and genuine swingers out there but I have encountered too many of the bad ones that most of these sites appear to attract . My opinion is coloured by the people I encounter I like to treat other people as I would like them to treat me Guess I'm not thick skinned enough to try any more " So basically you are judging us mostly according to messages and actions of people on other sites You've been here 4 weeks. Years on other sites won't count for anything here and why would it? You say you're looking for someone to fill the gap left after losing your wife but we're expected to know that doesn't mean you're looking for a partner? You also say "I am sure there are lots of very nice and genuine swingers out there but I have encountered too many of the bad ones that most of these sites appear to attract." yet you said until now you've been using dating sites Dating sites don't tend to attract swingers at all. I'm confused. I'm not sure you know what this site is, and I'm not even sure you know what you're looking for, and if you do, I'm doubtful you are expressing it clearly to others. I'm not really surprised you aren't having much success. It's easier to blame us, the site, the sites you've used previously and the people there though, than consider it might be something to do with you. If you were going to judge this site negatively, after 4 weeks, based on years of experiences on totally different sites, why did you even bother? I'm not interested in discussing this one-to-one, thanks, so please keep replies on the thread. | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments . I appreciate where a lot of you are coming from . As always things get mixed up between what I think -- what I say -- what you read - what you think I mean . I am NOT looking for a partner except for fun . To me a relationship is that something between two people however short . Living where I do there is no club scene to try without travelling a long distance . The same difficulty is the number of members in my area . As I said I have been on other sites for 6 years and sent over a thousand requests with little success and had the same sorts of problems . I have travelled 120 miles round trip to meet several different women who never turn up . I am sure there are lots of very nice and genuine swingers out there but I have encountered too many of the bad ones that most of these sites appear to attract . My opinion is coloured by the people I encounter I like to treat other people as I would like them to treat me Guess I'm not thick skinned enough to try any more " Yes I guess it does. Best wishes for your future. | |||
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"Swinging and Dating sites not for you. better luck in the non online world " You mean the REAL world? Scary | |||
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" I like to treat other people as I would like them to treat me" Where does "pity about the people" fit into that? Particularly since a lot of the people you are complaining about are, apparently, on other sites you've used over the years. This is almost your first post on the forum and in the title and the very first line you insult everyone on here! That is how you want to be treated? Since you would like us to treat you as you treat us, it would be fair to say this is a great site but it's a pity some people whinge and moan about their experience here and blame absolutely everyone and everything else rather than looking at themselves first, no? | |||
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"Great Idea - pity about the people I have been trying for 6 years on various sites to make contact and meet a partner after my wife died . I thought Dating Sites would be a good place to find like minded people looking to contact , meet , and make friends Whilst I have managed to meet some very nice women but for various reasons have not developed into long term relationships .These I would class as success stories . The downside has been all the other ones who have messed me about - raised my expectations only to have them dashed . This I find very disheartening when I try my best only to find myself at the whim of other people . Joined 4 weeks ago hoping this site would be better than the paid sites who I suspect generate false messages to get you to pay -- then nothing . Like lots of good ideas in the past its the people who spoil it either deliberately or because of an uncaring attitude to others or simply misfortune . During my short stay I have come across the usual problems Mail not replied to Mail from people who do not even click on profile Mail from too far away Mail from unwanted types of contact Mail from people who come on strong then disappear People who arrange to meet but decline to say when or where People who arrange to meet but but cancel at the last moment People who arrange to meet but arrive late . People who arrange to meet but do not arrive then disappear Individually their reasons might be be unavoidable but when I am at the receiving end of it all it feels different .I feel devastated when I am excited about a getting a meet and have put other things off to make myself available During my 4 weeks I have had the following actual letdowns one couple 2hr late arrival , 2 different couples cancelling twice at last moment 4 times in all , another couple cancelling once and not showing for the second then not answering my mail . I have decided that the pain and heartache is not worth the benefit I get from trying . So as I cannot stand the heat I will leave he kitchen and find some fresh air away from people and sadly bring my sexual career to a close . I can only take so much shit before I sink under its weight Hope the rest of you fare better Colin " 4 weeks and a veri your doing well my friend suck it up smile and crack on | |||
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"All those mails and promises of meets in 4 weeks... I'd say you had a lot better response than most .. (Well me lol) " Apparently most of the mails he's referring to were those received over a period of years on other sites. How that's our fault, I'm not sure. | |||
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"Op stop trying on here for a relationship. There are 100s of men to every over privledged woman. The odds are just stacked tall. If its a relationship your after have you considered a nice thai or eastern european woman? In general far better looking and much less demanding than tbere western counterpart hence why men are dating them in their droves. I cannot count how manytimes ive read a profile on here from a overweight,middle aged, not exactly good looking womans profile that she insists on a young fit and tall bloke because on here they can get what they could only dream of elsewhere, They have the pick here. So i suggest go where your the prize. I await the hate. But ladies you know in general its true. " One guess who's been knocked back by a middle aged, overweight, not exactly good looking woman! Enjoy fucking your thai birds. Obviously the language barrier stops them fully understanding the crap you are saying. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin " Like I said, it couldn't possibly be anything you are doing wrong! And now it's all still us for not agreeing with you. "Pity about the people" (i.e. us) wasn't meant to be insulting? Riiiigggghhhhttttt. Yeah, I can entirely see how you'd expect a positive response after being on here for 4 weeks with that as an opening comment. I suspect, if you think this is how to start a discussion with people, I can see where your problem getting responses or interest lies. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin " I tried to be as honest as possible in my first response to you without being unkind, I see that this was wasted. I feel this post holds more of a clue to your lack of success than the reasons you stated. As before I wish you well with your off line ventures. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin " Hmmm can't understand why this guy can't find a woman? Anyone got any ideas? Any clues? | |||
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"Thanks for all your comments . I appreciate where a lot of you are coming from . As always things get mixed up between what I think -- what I say -- what you read - what you think I mean . I am NOT looking for a partner except for fun . To me a relationship is that something between two people however short . Living where I do there is no club scene to try without travelling a long distance . The same difficulty is the number of members in my area . As I said I have been on other sites for 6 years and sent over a thousand requests with little success and had the same sorts of problems . I have travelled 120 miles round trip to meet several different women who never turn up . I am sure there are lots of very nice and genuine swingers out there but I have encountered too many of the bad ones that most of these sites appear to attract . My opinion is coloured by the people I encounter I like to treat other people as I would like them to treat me Guess I'm not thick skinned enough to try any more " You need to get in that sweet ride you have in your pics and road trip it to a club. Some are happy for people to stay onsite in their own vehicles. You have done well in the short time you have been here. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin " Blimey How rude. See ya | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin Blimey How rude. See ya " Don't hold your breath, he was leaving 5 hours ago! | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin " Bugger it you do have some attitude dont you.. I was extremely polite to you.. This is a public forum you should expect some differences of opinion... How rude | |||
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"Op stop trying on here for a relationship. There are 100s of men to every over privledged woman. The odds are just stacked tall. If its a relationship your after have you considered a nice thai or eastern european woman? In general far better looking and much less demanding than tbere western counterpart hence why men are dating them in their droves. I cannot count how manytimes ive read a profile on here from a overweight,middle aged, not exactly good looking womans profile that she insists on a young fit and tall bloke because on here they can get what they could only dream of elsewhere, They have the pick here. So i suggest go where your the prize. I await the hate. But ladies you know in general its true. " And here's the silver medallist for rudeness,... Points upwards... | |||
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"Op stop trying on here for a relationship. There are 100s of men to every over privledged woman. The odds are just stacked tall. If its a relationship your after have you considered a nice thai or eastern european woman? In general far better looking and much less demanding than tbere western counterpart hence why men are dating them in their droves. I cannot count how manytimes ive read a profile on here from a overweight,middle aged, not exactly good looking womans profile that she insists on a young fit and tall bloke because on here they can get what they could only dream of elsewhere, They have the pick here. So i suggest go where your the prize. I await the hate. But ladies you know in general its true. And here's the silver medallist for rudeness,... Points upwards... " Bitterness. It happens when they find that even the "munters" (who should be grateful for the attention yadda yadda yadda) can do better than them and they can't get a meet. Ignore it, it's just sour grapes. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin Hmmm can't understand why this guy can't find a woman? Anyone got any ideas? Any clues? " I know ... Its the SOCKS naked with socks I dont think so | |||
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"Op stop trying on here for a relationship. There are 100s of men to every over privledged woman. The odds are just stacked tall. If its a relationship your after have you considered a nice thai or eastern european woman? In general far better looking and much less demanding than tbere western counterpart hence why men are dating them in their droves. I cannot count how manytimes ive read a profile on here from a overweight,middle aged, not exactly good looking womans profile that she insists on a young fit and tall bloke because on here they can get what they could only dream of elsewhere, They have the pick here. So i suggest go where your the prize. I await the hate. But ladies you know in general its true. And here's the silver medallist for rudeness,... Points upwards... Bitterness. It happens when they find that even the "munters" (who should be grateful for the attention yadda yadda yadda) can do better than them and they can't get a meet. Ignore it, it's just sour grapes." As a fat old munter I know my place and never demand sex, or anything else, from the fit young men. I only choose the fat old munter men. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin Hmmm can't understand why this guy can't find a woman? Anyone got any ideas? Any clues? I know ... Its the SOCKS naked with socks I dont think so " Cinn! | |||
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"Op stop trying on here for a relationship. There are 100s of men to every over privledged woman. The odds are just stacked tall. If its a relationship your after have you considered a nice thai or eastern european woman? In general far better looking and much less demanding than tbere western counterpart hence why men are dating them in their droves. I cannot count how manytimes ive read a profile on here from a overweight,middle aged, not exactly good looking womans profile that she insists on a young fit and tall bloke because on here they can get what they could only dream of elsewhere, They have the pick here. So i suggest go where your the prize. I await the hate. But ladies you know in general its true. And here's the silver medallist for rudeness,... Points upwards... Bitterness. It happens when they find that even the "munters" (who should be grateful for the attention yadda yadda yadda) can do better than them and they can't get a meet. Ignore it, it's just sour grapes." Thx thats my whole point. The munters can do better. Because they are 100s of men to one of them. And yes even they ungratefull munters say no. Cause well they are punching above there weight. Because they can. I dont blame em, just pointing it out and suggestion solutions. Now if yer trying to say they aint taking advantage then you are talking crap. I dont mind at all and im not bitter at all. I just chat here i cant be bothered with the competition when its a lot easier andbetter elsewhere.just ssying deal with it. | |||
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"Thank you for all the personal rants which illustrate just what a lovely kind hearted bunch of people are on here (not). I did not intend to insult anyone but only to say how I felt .If you choose to take it personally thats your making . I am told that thats how the site is and I should accept it . Then you are not wanting to listen to my point of _iew as to why I think it needs improving . Would you be happy to live in a dirty pig sty because that is the way most pigs live Bye - everyone bad or good I am leaving you to your perfect site Colin Hmmm can't understand why this guy can't find a woman? Anyone got any ideas? Any clues? I know ... Its the SOCKS naked with socks I dont think so Cinn! " You are not a fat old munter at all :O.. but one could not say the same about me.. and yes im naked with soxs but would Never take pics in them I like younger fit men not way would i go older | |||
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"Op stop trying on here for a relationship. There are 100s of men to every over privledged woman. The odds are just stacked tall. If its a relationship your after have you considered a nice thai or eastern european woman? In general far better looking and much less demanding than tbere western counterpart hence why men are dating them in their droves. I cannot count how manytimes ive read a profile on here from a overweight,middle aged, not exactly good looking womans profile that she insists on a young fit and tall bloke because on here they can get what they could only dream of elsewhere, They have the pick here. So i suggest go where your the prize. I await the hate. But ladies you know in general its true. And here's the silver medallist for rudeness,... Points upwards... Bitterness. It happens when they find that even the "munters" (who should be grateful for the attention yadda yadda yadda) can do better than them and they can't get a meet. Ignore it, it's just sour grapes. As a fat old munter I know my place and never demand sex, or anything else, from the fit young men. I only choose the fat old munter men. " I like to calculate my munter percentage and then devise an Excel spreadsheet so as to only meet men on a similar level of munterishness to myself. Obviously, if I were to pull a fit young hottie I would need to even the scales with my next meet. | |||
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" As a fat old munter I know my place and never demand sex, or anything else, from the fit young men. I only choose the fat old munter men. I like to calculate my munter percentage and then devise an Excel spreadsheet so as to only meet men on a similar level of munterishness to myself. Obviously, if I were to pull a fit young hottie I would need to even the scales with my next meet. " I've just been doing it intuitively as I can't work out the sum needed on the spreadsheet. I look better in dim lighting so does that raise my attractiveness level and mean I can aim higher (or should it be lower?) on the munter scale? | |||
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"I wonder what it was the OP wanted. To get something off his chest, or try and reform the site(!) or both... Either way, I somehow think he didn't have a career in the Diplomatic Service " Or the conviction of his words. | |||
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