FabSwingers.com forum: To have or to be ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...

Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...

Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...

Is having more important than being?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no idea. Your new profile pic looks intriguing though

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By *rcticFoxxxWoman
over a year ago

Hereabouts

"I have no idea. Your new profile pic looks intriguing though

I was thinking the same thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love is nothing but power, you tell a woman you love them and all you are doing is giving them the power to break your heart.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Love is nothing but power, you tell a woman you love them and all you are doing is giving them the power to break your heart. "

Well my thread was about that but I do see where you come from mate.

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Chaque acte de rébellion exprime une nostalgie de l'innocence et un appel à l'essence de l'être.

According to Camus anyway. I like rebelling and being.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chaque acte de rébellion exprime une nostalgie de l'innocence et un appel à l'essence de l'être.

According to Camus anyway. I like rebelling and being."

Albert Camus was right, I do believe it is linked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Rebelling yourself is expressing yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde."

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde."

Fabulous quote!

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde."

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...

Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...

Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...

Is having more important than being?

On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...

Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...

Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...

Is having more important than being?

On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here. "

Very inhuman indeed...leaves you feeling lonely and craving emotional contact

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...

Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...

Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...

Is having more important than being?

On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here.

Very inhuman indeed...leaves you feeling lonely and craving emotional contact"

and although for some the fuck and go thing is what they do and up to them - we prefer the connection which is more than just the physical- if its not there its not going to happen for us -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't agree that nobody cares about others' feelings. I want to make men feel good not hurt them. I care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think for many people they get their emotional fulfilment elsewhere, and are here to fulfil their sexual needs only.

I don't actually 'care' about any of my NSA 'friends', i don't wish them dead or anything like that, but if they had drama in their lives i wouldn't give a shit about it. Honestly do just fuck them off if they try and offload their shit onto me, i'm not here for that. NSA basically means not here to deal with your shit.

Probably does sound horrible but i just don't want to invest myself in people who don't give a shit about me. I'm happy for that to go both ways.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"It seems that more physical attributes you have... more likely you'll meet people...

Viewed as a temporary lover or manipulable commodities, the look becomes important...

Nobody cares about your feelings as long as the outlook is great and you can deliver...

Is having more important than being?

On Fabs yes, which is why it can be very inhuman here.

Very inhuman indeed...leaves you feeling lonely and craving emotional contact"

It can indeed - but as the last few posts have shown, the whole of life is represented here, some want more, some want less. It can become something of a numbers game if your selection process is based on the 'haves', it's really hard to search for the imponderables. But if you are lucky every now and then a true connection of some depth is made, and then maybe it's worth it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.

Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.

For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though.

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By *arksidesubCouple
over a year ago

not far from you..

Looks are unimportant in my view!..

The mind of a person is by far more interesting

And a Beautifull & exciting personality is a must!..

Bambi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think for many people they get their emotional fulfilment elsewhere, and are here to fulfil their sexual needs only.

Probably does sound horrible but i just don't want to invest myself in people who don't give a shit about me. I'm happy for that to go both ways."

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.

Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.

For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though."

Yes it was my point... have instead of being and you'll meet.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

If you offer nothing except something temporary

Can you really expect to be highly thought of?

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Personally I'm not that shallow to base a meet on looks alone

Because I'm not particularly attractive myself

So I base it on how I'm spoken to during the eventual first phone conversation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm starting to think I care too much.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If you offer nothing except something temporary

Can you really expect to be highly thought of?

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think I care too much."

Don't you dare... you are perfect the way you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think I care too much."

Never stop caring

You will shrivel up inside and be sad

I care and like you have regular 'friends' who I'm quite fond of.

I'm glad some men care too as when I've had trouble it's guys from fab who have stepped in to help me out for no reward other than a cuppa

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.

Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.

For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though."

My profile also mentions non-physical attributes that I prefer too, such as a sense of adventure. I see that as having just as much as with physical attributes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love is nothing but power, you tell a woman you love them and all you are doing is giving them the power to break your heart. "
that works both ways

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

It's possible to 'have' physical attributes that are unappealing to.

Having a flipping great wart on the end of your nose, for example.

Hmmm.

Yes, I see what you mean. What one has can be important.

Particularly when it's a diamond encrusted platinum credit card. Or genital warts.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If the media is to be believed having IS being. Life is not worth much unless you have a certain look, style, weight, age etc. and own certain material goods.

Read many of the profiles and threads on here and they're all about what you must have in terms of looks and that is defended as personal preference.

For me I don't care what my loved ones have in terms of physical attributes, I do care what people I'm going to meet for nsa sex do though.

My profile also mentions non-physical attributes that I prefer too, such as a sense of adventure. I see that as having just as much as with physical attributes."

Yes personality traits are important to me but on here I go for physical attraction first. I'd be deluding myself and any potential meet if I said otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde."

A nice quote but I wouldn't want someone to treat me like something I wasn't

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Never love anybody who treats you like you’re ordinary.

Oscar Wilde.

A nice quote but I wouldn't want someone to treat me like something I wasn't "

I think if someone loves you you aren't ordinary to them. I also think that you can't choose who to love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm starting to think I care too much.

Never stop caring

You will shrivel up inside and be sad

I care and like you have regular 'friends' who I'm quite fond of.

I'm glad some men care too as when I've had trouble it's guys from fab who have stepped in to help me out for no reward other than a cuppa

Sometimes I think I care more about others' well being than my own. I never put myself first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other."

I can too. I can also like someone I don't

find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.

I can too. I can also like someone I don't

find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them."

Some toys are just to be looked at,not for touching.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Physical and mental attraction are one for me.

I am only drawn to people in who I can see both. I can't change that it is who I am.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I can find someone attractive because of their self. I can have sex with them, even if I don't find them particularly attractive. To a degree anyway.

Funnily enough it doesn't go the other way. I cannot have sex with beautiful people who are ugly in their self.

But I do go for looks first here, it is a visual media after all.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.

I can too. I can also like someone I don't

find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them.

Some toys are just to be looked at,not for touching. "

That's very true.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

"Love is nothing but power, you tell a woman you love them and all you are doing is giving them the power to break your heart. "

And vice versa.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

On here...While someone's looks/body will often get my attention. It's their personality and attitude that will either lose or keep it.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Back to physical attributes,I can see two men who physically look very similar,and after talking to them both I like one but not the other.

I can too. I can also like someone I don't

find physically attractive but I would'nt have sex with them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can see why it's hard for single people, we as a couple can easily be quite cold and blunt in what we want because we have each other to fall back on emotionally so don't get that lonely feeling,

but we are quite specific what we want and at the end of the day we are here for sex, we can have a laugh and a giggle but looks is the main factor for us

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