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People that send a friend request, yet they have never sent a message

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Does any one else get pissed off with friend requests from people that have never had the decency to even send a simple message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else get pissed off with friend requests from people that have never had the decency to even send a simple message? "

Oh yes!!!!

A really hot guy done it last week!

As much as I wanted to accept I didn't out of principle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Drives me bonkers lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Instant block. Says so on my profile. Really is a pet hate of mine. They are only pic collectors. You can always wait till they are off line, accept, look at their pics if interested then block. But to me they are just rude people I'd never want to meet so I just hit that good old block button.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Yes! I think some of them think of it like the hotlist function or have limited social sensibilities, not grasping that it works against them.

Happens a lot, though less than in the past.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always block, it clearly says in our profile x

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By *ouple36DDCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Happens all the time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whoever they are we delete the request on the grounds they must be picture collectors. We don't always block but sometime do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Does any one else get pissed off with friend requests from people that have never had the decency to even send a simple message? "

Not really. It's hardly an intrusion in your life and you have to do nothing more than ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just find it a little rude lol. We will chat with anyone, but find it cheeky to just wink and friend request x

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By *p4funCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth


"We always block, it clearly says in our profile x "

Snap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After commenting on this I've just looked at mine....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was it in a mirror lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I just really find it pisses us off its says friend! If you have never spoke then why would you want them as a friend. Just bloody lazy it doesn't take much to send a message and just say hello

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else get pissed off with friend requests from people that have never had the decency to even send a simple message?

Not really. It's hardly an intrusion in your life and you have to do nothing more than ignore it. "

Exactly this. I get around 10 a day, probably because I have a few friend only pics. I just bulk delete every so often, not really an issue.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

it matters not a jot, just ignore and delete when one looks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me. "

Me neither. If someone can't be arsed to spend a minute or two writing a message then they're not my cup of tea anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just really find it pisses us off its says friend! If you have never spoke then why would you want them as a friend. Just bloody lazy it doesn't take much to send a message and just say hello "

I think that some people genuinely think it's just a way to ask if they can be your friend. Not done in a malicious way.

Chill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont bother looking I just bulk delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We agree x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly get a wink and a friend request of the same person. Just send a message lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thinks it's both rude and presumptious.

I always ask if I can add a person. And only after chatting for a bit

Though I think most people do it to get a glimpse of friends only pics...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I just really find it pisses us off its says friend! If you have never spoke then why would you want them as a friend. Just bloody lazy it doesn't take much to send a message and just say hello "

Personally of something as silly as someone chancing their arm pissed me off that much I'd have to question whether or not this is for me. Life is way too short to get pissed off about someone you don't know clicking a button to try and be your 'friend'.

I don't think everyone on my friends list is an actual friend. If I like the look of who had requested me I'll add them and perv their photos, if i dont then I won't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why stress over something so trivial. Any requests from randomers just go to file B1N

Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just really find it pisses us off its says friend! If you have never spoke then why would you want them as a friend. Just bloody lazy it doesn't take much to send a message and just say hello

Personally of something as silly as someone chancing their arm pissed me off that much I'd have to question whether or not this is for me. Life is way too short to get pissed off about someone you don't know clicking a button to try and be your 'friend'.

.."

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me. "

same here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just block them.

I hate it when I say on my status that my birthday party on the 4th April is friends only and I get messages off single blokes asking if they can be my friend, I tell them just because they "want" to get to know me doesn't mean they're gonna get an invite

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By *MaleMan
over a year ago

I just email anyone back for a little convo before accepting them. 99% of the time whoever it is aint even capable of basic online hello etc etc convo.

All in not the recipe for a good meet lol

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

We have a simple policy.

Nobody goes on our friends list til we've met.

Why do you need to add a stranger? The only changes that happen if you do are that they can see extra pics (that you could send via message anyway), that they appear in a different section of updates (hotlist them - does the same job!) and smiley face appears next to their messages!

This isn't facebook. There's no prize for the most 'fwends' !!

And if an uninvited request grinds your gears - ignore it! Deleting it allows another to be sent. Ignoring stops them trying again.

It's sooooooooo easy.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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And if an uninvited request grinds your gears - ignore it! Deleting it allows another to be sent. Ignoring stops them trying again.

It's sooooooooo easy.

A"

This.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends are people who i have spoken to first, only logical i think to speak first it doesnt cost anything lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I just email anyone back for a little convo before accepting them. 99% of the time whoever it is aint even capable of basic online hello etc etc convo.

All in not the recipe for a good meet lol "

Just because they DON'T want to talk to you doesn't mean they're incapable of doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just let mine build up, I have hundreds, I leave them built up so they can't re-send them.

Works for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I just email anyone back for a little convo before accepting them. 99% of the time whoever it is aint even capable of basic online hello etc etc convo.

All in not the recipe for a good meet lol

Just because they DON'T want to talk to you doesn't mean they're incapable of doing so "

If they DON'T want to talk why would they send a friend request?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just block them.

I hate it when I say on my status that my birthday party on the 4th April is friends only and I get messages off single blokes asking if they can be my friend, I tell them just because they "want" to get to know me doesn't mean they're gonna get an invite "

Is this the party you posted details on the forum for? People probably think it's an open invite, otherwise why post it on the forum?

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

Some people get so wound up over the smallest of things lol, if you dont want to accept requests then dont, if you do then do, it really is as simple as that, nothing to get wound up about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just block them.

I hate it when I say on my status that my birthday party on the 4th April is friends only and I get messages off single blokes asking if they can be my friend, I tell them just because they "want" to get to know me doesn't mean they're gonna get an invite

Is this the party you posted details on the forum for? People probably think it's an open invite, otherwise why post it on the forum?"

I posted it on the forums but I also made it clear that it was friends only.

The people who are coming use the chat rooms and I talk to them about it in there but also say that its friends only and still get messages off men asking if they come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have a simple policy.

Nobody goes on our friends list til we've met.

Why do you need to add a stranger? The only changes that happen if you do are that they can see extra pics (that you could send via message anyway), that they appear in a different section of updates (hotlist them - does the same job!) and smiley face appears next to their messages!

This isn't facebook. There's no prize for the most 'fwends' !!

And if an uninvited request grinds your gears - ignore it! Deleting it allows another to be sent. Ignoring stops them trying again.

It's sooooooooo easy.

A"

Your on our hotlist jen x

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Some people get so wound up over the smallest of things lol, if you dont want to accept requests then dont, if you do then do, it really is as simple as that, nothing to get wound up about."

ain't that the truth......

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Some people get so wound up over the smallest of things lol, if you dont want to accept requests then dont, if you do then do, it really is as simple as that, nothing to get wound up about.

ain't that the truth......"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No. We look when they're off line if we feel like it and then delete them. It's no hardship really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else get pissed off with friend requests from people that have never had the decency to even send a simple message? "

Nope...it's obviously a sign of interest and to me show's they're too shy to message, find it quite flattering actually.

Don't know why people on here moan about it when you can quite easily delete them...

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit


"I just let mine build up, I have hundreds, I leave them built up so they can't re-send them.

Works for me "

I do this too

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I often think the angst with stuff on here is similar to celebrities getting irritated from their adoring fans, the times they just want to chill and someone asks for a selfie or autograph/

The chore of having to deal with the constant 'being in the spotlight'

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me. "

Me too. I just leave them sat there and they can't send another.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I often think the angst with stuff on here is similar to celebrities getting irritated from their adoring fans, the times they just want to chill and someone asks for a selfie or autograph/

The chore of having to deal with the constant 'being in the spotlight'"

Dahling if you only knew. I employ a profile double now.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I have rarely had an unsolicited friend request. I wouldn't mind one though.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I often think the angst with stuff on here is similar to celebrities getting irritated from their adoring fans, the times they just want to chill and someone asks for a selfie or autograph/

The chore of having to deal with the constant 'being in the spotlight'

Dahling if you only knew. I employ a profile double now. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me.

Me too. I just leave them sat there and they can't send another. "

And me!

Leave them hanging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get many unsolicited friends request, but then I don't have any private photos. I think the two tend to go together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does any one else get pissed off with friend requests from people that have never had the decency to even send a simple message?

Not really. It's hardly an intrusion in your life and you have to do nothing more than ignore it.

Exactly this. I get around 10 a day, probably because I have a few friend only pics. I just bulk delete every so often, not really an issue. "

Really not worth allowing it to annoy you!

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By *hyandtwistedCouple
over a year ago

loughborough

We state no friends requests, but still get them, so a quick perve and then we delete .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often think the angst with stuff on here is similar to celebrities getting irritated from their adoring fans, the times they just want to chill and someone asks for a selfie or autograph/

The chore of having to deal with the constant 'being in the spotlight'"

Shitloads of drama queens.

I made a profile with naked pics on the internet and SOMEONE MAILED ME AND WANTED TO FUCK ME!! HOW DARE THEY!!! RESPECT MY PRIVACY YOU MORONS!!!

Bless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I often think the angst with stuff on here is similar to celebrities getting irritated from their adoring fans, the times they just want to chill and someone asks for a selfie or autograph/

The chore of having to deal with the constant 'being in the spotlight'

Shitloads of drama queens.

I made a profile with naked pics on the internet and SOMEONE MAILED ME AND WANTED TO FUCK ME!! HOW DARE THEY!!! RESPECT MY PRIVACY YOU MORONS!!!

Bless. "

This made me chuckle

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By *egsandPearlyCouple
over a year ago

Shaftesbury

We send this standard responce....

"You will be more successful in the future if you take the time to read profiles.. Happy swinging"

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Me being a bloke, if a woman or couple sends me a friend invite and especially if they've got private pics I'll accept just because I'm a perv and want to check out their pics! If a bloke does then no chance, gets deleted straight away.

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By *oward1978Man
over a year ago

Rotherham


"I often think the angst with stuff on here is similar to celebrities getting irritated from their adoring fans, the times they just want to chill and someone asks for a selfie or autograph/

The chore of having to deal with the constant 'being in the spotlight'

Shitloads of drama queens.

I made a profile with naked pics on the internet and SOMEONE MAILED ME AND WANTED TO FUCK ME!! HOW DARE THEY!!! RESPECT MY PRIVACY YOU MORONS!!!

Bless. "

Drama queens on fab?! Never!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll have a glance at requests and if they look good and have friends only pics I might accept whilst they offline, perv, then delete... But rarely keep them as friends as they haven't made any other attempt at contact. The vast majority though I just leave as outstanding requests so they can't keep re-requesting. Can't say it's ever sparked any emotion though, unless they are fit and I decide to contact them after a perv!

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me. "

^^^^ This

I only ever go into friend requests when someone I've met says they've sent one

At that point sometimes I accept random ones while they're offline, perv the pics and delete again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this from couples a lot in fact!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I never look at friend requests or winks so no it doesn't bother me.

^^^^ This

I only ever go into friend requests when someone I've met says they've sent one

At that point sometimes I accept random ones while they're offline, perv the pics and delete again"

Oooooh me too! Sommetimes if I'm feeling particularly naughty, I'll put all my friend only pics to private (I assume its why I get random requests) then accept the invite mwahahaa!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think "request" has been overlooked! that's all it is a "request" not a fckn demand! some people are sooo far up their own arses they do indeed talk shite!

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Hate it

Don't add them

Ever

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

We never look at them unless someone says they are sending one....they just sit there....waiting.....same with winks

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