FabSwingers.com forum: Opinions Please.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I was contacted last night by someone I had never seen before or had any idea who they are. I mean contacted on here.

They congratulated me on always 'putting down' a certain person.

( Their words not mine )

They continued to insult this person and say how much they disliked having to put up with them and that as soon as people see them for the liar they are etc etc etc.....

They signed off by saying happy ( persons name ) baiting.

Now I have NEVER baited anyone. I reply to posts but I have never sought someone out to ' put them down' ...

I wasn't bothered at first but it's niggled me now that I've re read the mail.

I've told the person not to include me in their petty squabbles and that I have NO idea what they are going on about.

Your thoughts on this are very welcome.

Thanks

Gran x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's ok Granny, I won't be upset if you want to appease them and bait me

Sticks and stones n all that

I think I would quite enjoy it

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like an idiot who can't distinguish between opinions and baiting, I would just block them and carry on the way you are Gran x

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice your posts and find great humour in them...it's a bit like going to a frankie boyle gig, don't go if you don't want to be offended.

one thing they cannot say about you is that you're not an equal opportunist, because you call a spade a shovel regardless of who is making the ridiculous, asinine, funny, legitimate or thoughtful comment....niggles not required!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why."

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's ok Granny, I won't be upset if you want to appease them and bait me

Sticks and stones n all that

I think I would quite enjoy it

There are things I've thought of doing to you Jed but baiting isn't one of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like they might have read more into your posts than you intended or maybe don't get the tongue in cheek tone of your posts? I for one havent a clue who they could mean, so it is by no means obvious that there is any "baiting" going on ... just good old fashioned banter and I for one enjoy the posts you contribute to.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive. "

Well maybe im simple minded to know that this post will just generate a one sided _iew of everything (not for one minute saying your not genuine) . All everyone is going to do is call whoever sent you the mail all kinds of names, not saying they dont deserve it but we have all had some kind of mail where people have tried to get us on or off side against others but most of us dont bother bringing it to the forums

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sounds like an idiot who can't distinguish between opinions and baiting, I would just block them and carry on the way you are Gran x"

Thanks Kev..... never thought i'd see the day that I sought comfort but when some bitter ,acrid , socially inept trouble maker mails me to talk about someone I've never heard of I wonder negatively about who it is im playing with here ..... So TA xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive.

I asked for the opinions of others. Can you be more specific than 'most' .??

How many people post here and which ones wouldn't ask for opinions on it ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive. "

simple minded of evesham checking in

i think its sad that someone has felt the need to 'bash' a fellow forumite and has to go round trying to find comrades in arms

i like you Granny - sometimes i dont get your posts but i have always thought you a fun person to have around

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Granny I would just block as it has bothered you and it seems odd to want to contact you in an attempt to join forces to bait someone else and perhaps email the person they are targeting too, thats if you feel its right to.

I got the wrong end of the stick from some of your posts, but i see that you just give your opinion which differs sometimes from mine and that is good healthy discussion. I apologised to you by email and I apologise on here publicly too.

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

My opinion, you can be sometimes harsh, however that is normally in response to total planks of postings and not necessarily at any one poster

Sometimes i feel it can go either way.. But then that is the way of an open forum..

With regards to the email.. That is a bit daft and one way of trying to clique the forum.. Not good

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive.

I asked for the opinions of others. Can you be more specific than 'most' .??

How many people post here and which ones wouldn't ask for opinions on it ?

Well personally i know quite a few that have had such problems over the years but kept it and delt with it behind the scenes. But you asked for opinions and i just gave you mine. Simple

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I notice your posts and find great humour in them...it's a bit like going to a frankie boyle gig, don't go if you don't want to be offended.

Thanks ! I think

I just natter but never feel an ounce of bad toward anyone. thanks for the insight x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive.

I asked for the opinions of others. Can you be more specific than 'most' .??

How many people post here and which ones wouldn't ask for opinions on it ?

Well personally i know quite a few that have had such problems over the years but kept it and delt with it behind the scenes. But you asked for opinions and i just gave you mine. Simple"

How many is quite a few please ? I know I asked for opinions. I know you gave yours. Why do you keep telling me that ?

How many people have had this kind of mail but never mentioned it ? And if they never mentioned it how do you know please ? Thanks xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's ok Granny, I won't be upset if you want to appease them and bait me

Sticks and stones n all that

I think I would quite enjoy it

There are things I've thought of doing to you Jed but baiting isn't one of them

x "

awwww quite dissapointed now - hope it WAS me, hope it WAS me.

Joking aside it would be quite a compliment, it would mean that my humble opinions were getting a reaction and thought provoking

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well my opinion is you should of just left it at that and not brought it to the boards. Now everyone will be wondering who, what and why.

Only the simple minded will wonder about it.

I want it public and I want others ideas on it.

Im ALWAYS transparent ..... never secretive.

simple minded of evesham checking in

i think its sad that someone has felt the need to 'bash' a fellow forumite and has to go round trying to find comrades in arms

i like you Granny - sometimes i dont get your posts but i have always thought you a fun person to have around

Ta tuppence. I always get yours and like reading them......place would be duller without you x

P.S. they didn't bash me they wanted to bash someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Granny I would just block as it has bothered you and it seems odd to want to contact you in an attempt to join forces to bait someone else and perhaps email the person they are targeting too, thats if you feel its right to.

Yes you did apologise in a message and there was really no need but I respect that.

Do you REALLY think I should tell the person they were talking about?

Wouldn't that cause more trouble ?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just find it strange that some one who can come across as quite nasty at times and yes tries to put people down, and on occassions in my opinion does come across as having a bad attitude towards people is upset by this.

I cant understand why you didnt do what you usually do, give them a piece of your mind, block them and leave it at that. I for one never understand your posts either because im simple minded or because your not able to communicate in the same way as me, so just maybe this person could have made an assumption on what they see on the boards as you "bashing" one person. Personall i havent seen you bash one individual anymore than you bash the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Report it with both parties details ie. the two people involved plus yourself, to admin, that way if anything further happens, you have been responsible.

Oh and block the fruit-bat!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I just find it strange that some one who can come across as quite nasty at times and yes tries to put people down, and on occassions in my opinion does come across as having a bad attitude towards people is upset by this.

I don't bash anyone. Got to admit though ....... you have just made several personal comments about me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Report it with both parties details ie. the two people involved plus yourself, to admin, that way if anything further happens, you have been responsible.

Oh and block the fruit-bat!

Yep .....that was my thoughts don't know if it warrants it though.

Thanks for the comment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't bash anyone. Got to admit though ....... you have just made several personal comments about me. "

that's the way the thread reads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Granny I can honestly say I find some of your posts acerbic, harsh, funny, inciteful and your opinions sometimes similiar to my own.

I can't say I've noticed you baiting any one individual...I have noticed one poster do that, the person involved is more than capable of taking care of themself!

What I can say is sometimes your posts leave me speechless and all I can add is "Granny!!!!"

I'm surprised you've bothered to post this though...we've all received unsolicited mail from forum members along the same line as you've quoted. I just ignore, as frankly I post comments to threads that interest me, and I have an opinion on...and I'll continue to do so!!

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Thought Granny bashed everyone, was what we expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you report it Admin will decide if it warrants further action or just monitoring, they set the rules so should have the chance to look at the situation.

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By *andKCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Hey Granny, we luv yer posts - always to the point and I'll push Jed out the way so you can bait me anytime you want! xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Granny I can honestly say I find some of your posts acerbic, harsh, funny, inciteful and your opinions sometimes similiar to my own.

I can't say I've noticed you baiting any one individual...I have noticed one poster do that, the person involved is more than capable of taking care of themself!

What I can say is sometimes your posts leave me speechless and all I can add is "Granny!!!!"

Thanks Sass. I've got to repeat. I have NEVER made a personal comment on ANYONE....

I do comment and pass opinions on open discussions.

If others see it as personal they need to look at themselves cos I repeat - I have never made a personal comment about a forum member or anyone else.

The reason I posted here was to invite opinions on it and to make it public.

I don't like behaviour like back stabbing, being a snake or any other underhanded conversations that go on by those that use the anonimity of messaging.

So ....... I will wait and see if they have the courage to comment themselves and just hopefully they will think twice before trying to involve me in their 'troubles' - What ever they may be.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Granny I can honestly say I find some of your posts acerbic, harsh, funny, inciteful and your opinions sometimes similiar to my own.

I can't say I've noticed you baiting any one individual...I have noticed one poster do that, the person involved is more than capable of taking care of themself!

What I can say is sometimes your posts leave me speechless and all I can add is "Granny!!!!"

i havent - i feel left out now

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey Granny, we luv yer posts - always to the point and I'll push Jed out the way so you can bait me anytime you want! xxx"

Thanks xx I love your legs xxx

They didn't knock my posts they just wanted me to bait someone which i wont do .... xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Granny I can honestly say I find some of your posts acerbic, harsh, funny, inciteful and your opinions sometimes similiar to my own.

I can't say I've noticed you baiting any one individual...I have noticed one poster do that, the person involved is more than capable of taking care of themself!

What I can say is sometimes your posts leave me speechless and all I can add is "Granny!!!!"

i havent - i feel left out now

No I never have receieved sommat like it before so don't feel left out ..... it suprised me to be honest. First in over a year.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Granny I can honestly say I find some of your posts acerbic, harsh, funny, inciteful and your opinions sometimes similiar to my own.

I can't say I've noticed you baiting any one individual...I have noticed one poster do that, the person involved is more than capable of taking care of themself!

What I can say is sometimes your posts leave me speechless and all I can add is "Granny!!!!"

Thanks Sass. I've got to repeat. I have NEVER made a personal comment on ANYONE....

I do comment and pass opinions on open discussions.

If others see it as personal they need to look at themselves cos I repeat - I have never made a personal comment about a forum member or anyone else.

The reason I posted here was to invite opinions on it and to make it public.

I don't like behaviour like back stabbing, being a snake or any other underhanded conversations that go on by those that use the anonimity of messaging.

So ....... I will wait and see if they have the courage to comment themselves and just hopefully they will think twice before trying to involve me in their 'troubles' - What ever they may be. "

You've misunderstood me Granny: I didn't say you posted personal comments about anyone: your general comments often leave a sting in the tail and perhaps someone has interpreted "general" comment for "personal" baiting.

Some people take things personally, usually those those that accuse others of personal comments are the ones very quick to make personal attacks.

But hey ho...c'est la vie!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Incidentally. I haven't EVER blocked anyone. Please don't say I do. It's totally untrue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Granny I can honestly say I find some of your posts acerbic, harsh, funny, inciteful and your opinions sometimes similiar to my own.

I can't say I've noticed you baiting any one individual...I have noticed one poster do that, the person involved is more than capable of taking care of themself!

What I can say is sometimes your posts leave me speechless and all I can add is "Granny!!!!"

Thanks Sass. I've got to repeat. I have NEVER made a personal comment on ANYONE....

I do comment and pass opinions on open discussions.

If others see it as personal they need to look at themselves cos I repeat - I have never made a personal comment about a forum member or anyone else.

The reason I posted here was to invite opinions on it and to make it public.

I don't like behaviour like back stabbing, being a snake or any other underhanded conversations that go on by those that use the anonimity of messaging.

So ....... I will wait and see if they have the courage to comment themselves and just hopefully they will think twice before trying to involve me in their 'troubles' - What ever they may be.

Some people take things personally, usually those those that accuse others of personal comments are the ones very quick to make personal attacks.

But hey ho...c'est la vie! "

~This is gonna make me laugh Sass...... You misunderstood my post COS .....although I said I don't make personal comments I didn't mean that you said that I did make personal comments :P

Fnarrrrr ! xx

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Incidentally. I haven't EVER blocked anyone. Please don't say I do. It's totally untrue. "

Now what the hell are you on about, i said do what you usually do give them a piece of your mind then i said block and move on, how the hell am i supposed to know if you block someone or not, maybe you cant understand how i write same as i cant understand how you write

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can understand you Diamond. I read it. It says it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey Granny got any carparks you want breaking into...??

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"I can understand you Diamond. I read it. It says it. "

Simple case of one person writing something and someone else reading it the wrong way, i have no idea if you do or dont block people. Wouldnt be the first thing you or i have misinterpreted on the boards.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hey Granny got any carparks you want breaking into...??

did you go away and paint a goatie on so you didnt look like Lee Evans?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey Granny got any carparks you want breaking into...??

did you go away and paint a goatie on so you didnt look like Lee Evans?????

Shhhh!!! They havnt guessed yet...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Hey Granny got any carparks you want breaking into...??

did you go away and paint a goatie on so you didnt look like Lee Evans?????

Shhhh!!! They havnt guessed yet...

hahaha cos now you jut look like Jack of jackandkate in a green hat

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I don't bash anyone. "

At the start of the thread I thought "yeah sounds about right" and only intended to skim down the page and then skip merrily on.

The I skimmed across your decription of the person or more to the point your opinion of their character... and thought... they are hardly likely to post on here and defend themselves (not saying they have a defence).

They obviously follow the forums - otherwise they would not have send the message.

They obviously know your comments on their character are soley aimed at them.

This is a form of bashing.

However, I choose not to share whether I feel it is justified or not.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

posting only to deselect myself xxxx

have a nice night all xx

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place

"posting only to deselect myself xxxx

have a nice night all xx"

me too .....but would like to add ...perhaps you should send the post and details to a moderator so they can watch and intervene when the target is "baited".

Looks like the sniper screwed up this time ..

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

My thoughts on this?

Odd message, odd thread.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

My thoughts

Get a life

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

My opinion, for what it is worth, is that this whole thread is a "baiting thread" in that you are wanting the person who sent you the mail to come onto the thread; as you said earlier "I will wait and see if they have the courage to comment themselves".

This will be why the Mods usualy remove threads like this as there is no need to mention any "personal mail" that has been received from another fab member in the forums.

It will always be a one-sided version of the mail that is told here, that is, until the other person involved decides whether or not they want to come and defend themselves!

So I agree with diamonds first post (which needed no further explanation) and wonder why you would bring this into the forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually Granny, i can remember someone posting something about you, and i stand by what i said about you then, you say it how it, no holds barred but not a bad bone in your body.

I've never seen you say anything bad or put anyone down on the posts, far from it so if i was you, i would report them as i think they are baiting you because they can do it online without you seeing what they look like, hiding behind a pc screen, how bloody cowardly of them

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

Isn't it time this thread was closed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My opinion, for what it is worth, is that this whole thread is a "baiting thread" in that you are wanting the person who sent you the mail to come onto the thread; as you said earlier "I will wait and see if they have the courage to comment themselves".

This will be why the Mods usualy remove threads like this as there is no need to mention any "personal mail" that has been received from another fab member in the forums.

It will always be a one-sided version of the mail that is told here, that is, until the other person involved decides whether or not they want to come and defend themselves!

So I agree with diamonds first post (which needed no further explanation) and wonder why you would bring this into the forums?

It's not a baiting thread at all. I wanted comments on it as I couldn't understand why a total stranger would try to get me to act against another.

I wanted it in the open that's true. It gives the person the opportunity to comment if they want with the added bonus of them knowing im not up for rubbish.

There was need for me to post this. Othewise I wouldn't have posted it.

Thanks for your comments.

I can recall other posts that have been generated by mail received.

It's up to the individual what they post and to others whether they respond or not.

Your opinion is as pertinent and welcome as anyone elses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the contents of a private message should have remained private as it cannot be posted in here in it's entirety due to site rules and naming the person who sent them pm is also against site rules. Bearing all that in mind, the pm cannot be corroborated because of site rules and we have no way of knowing if this is a sideways pop at someone.

However, the mitigating factor in this is Granny herself. I've met her in person and traded words with her on here on more than several occasions and I have never found her to be singular in her pursuit of someone she doesn't like. As said above, she gives everyone the same treatment regardless of who they are.

The Block feature would probably have been the better course of action on this issue.

(you know this isn't a dig at you Granny)

Wishy xx

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford

Granny says that the message was from a "total stranger".

Has that person ever posted on here? Can that person post on threads. AFAIK not every one can.

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

This thread now getting boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wots AFAIK?

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

AS far as I know

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"This thread now getting boring"

stop reading it then

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

"This thread now getting boring

stop reading it then

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

I stand by my comments I made above 100% and disagree that "There was need for me to post this. Othewise I wouldn't have posted it".

You could have just left it by telling the other fab member that you would not get involved in this by sending them a PM and kept this a private matter between the 2 of you!

Yes there have been other threads generated by a PM the OP of the threads has received but they are usually closed or taken down by a Mod as it is against the rules to use a PM as a basis for a thread; for the reason that the other fab member could come on and defend themselves which then usually results in a tit for tat arguement or (as has happened here) other people start to slag off the other person (whether named or not) without actually knowing the full story.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

[Removed by poster at 28/09/10 21:14:35]

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

As this is about someone else so I am shutting this one although if this is what does go on as suggested by peoples comments on this thread, when do they time to perve inbetween all the bitching?

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By *b430Man
over a year ago

Tayside

Am I allowed to act all smug and say I knew this would be a thread that was going to be closed?

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