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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is sleeping with a prostitute even more of an insult then having an affair?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think a prostitute would feel insulted if a client fell asleep...after-all,,,, easy money tic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think so. At least with a prostitute it's just a physical act. If it's an affair there's a chance they've been lovey dovey & its that that would hurt me more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion, I would be more hurt he my partner went with a prostitute rather than had an affair. With a prostitute he's deliberatly sought her out and paid for it, knowing full well what he's doing.

With an affair at least he could have been in a situation where one thing led to another...

On the other hand people might say well with a prostitute there's no feelings involved, its just sex. Whereas an affair may involve emotions - some people find that side of it more betraying than the sex bit. xx

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

I think a prostitute seems more pre-meditated.

You can't use the 'I tripped and my penis fell inside her by accident' excuse as easily with a transaction of that kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a prostitute seems more pre-meditated.

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Agree with this, not to mention any potential health risks in doing so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my opinion, I would be more hurt he my partner went with a prostitute rather than had an affair. With a prostitute he's deliberatly sought her out and paid for it, knowing full well what he's doing.

With an affair at least he could have been in a situation where one thing led to another..."

He's sought her out to get rid of his load for an hour! Crack on I say! But it's ok for him to spend hours on the phone or wining & dining someone....because one thing led to another? I'd kick his bollocks up through his throat for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a prostitute seems more pre-meditated.

Agree with this, not to mention any potential health risks in doing so"

And I think you'll find that many working girls are cleaner than most. At least they use protection and get health checks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think a prostitute seems more pre-meditated.

Agree with this, not to mention any potential health risks in doing so

And I think you'll find that many working girls are cleaner than most. At least they use protection and get health checks "

Thats very true, didnt think of that!

I havent thought this argument thru...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel less of an insult.

No emotional connection with a "professional lady of the evening". Just a physical thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sex is just sex but it's the pain that comes with knowing your loved one has had an emotional connection with someone else that's the worst. The thought that they have been saying the same things they say to you to the other person, the amount of deceit and lies that have gone on for the time the affair has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Betrayal is betrayal - I wouldn't quantify it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmmmm i have othen thought what would i do if my hubby came home from one of his regular monthly trips to Denmark to tell me he had been with a prostitute

i think unless he had asked me before iwould be hurt

but in my mind (although i wouldnt like it) its not as bad as an affair

an affair is an emotional connection

a prostitute is an hour and gone

thats not to say i would approve - who knows what they feel until it happens - but given a hobsons choice i would choose the prostitute

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's illicit love having an affair, and i would say that it is more upsetting to find out your partner had a long running affair rather than just sexual gratification with a prostitute where no emotion is involved.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"mmmmmm i have othen thought what would i do if my hubby came home from one of his regular monthly trips to Denmark to tell me he had been with a prostitute

i think unless he had asked me before iwould be hurt

but in my mind (although i wouldnt like it) its not as bad as an affair

an affair is an emotional connection

a prostitute is an hour and gone

thats not to say i would approve - who knows what they feel until it happens - but given a hobsons choice i would choose the prostitute "

Remarkable! If I'm following this correctly the one thing that escapes me is how did you deduce the Danish prostitute was called Hobson?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mmmmmm i have othen thought what would i do if my hubby came home from one of his regular monthly trips to Denmark to tell me he had been with a prostitute

i think unless he had asked me before iwould be hurt

but in my mind (although i wouldnt like it) its not as bad as an affair

an affair is an emotional connection

a prostitute is an hour and gone

thats not to say i would approve - who knows what they feel until it happens - but given a hobsons choice i would choose the prostitute

Remarkable! If I'm following this correctly the one thing that escapes me is how did you deduce the Danish prostitute was called Hobson?"

Oh Monkey, just be serious for one minute!

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


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Oh Monkey, just be serious for one minute! "

I vill say zis onlee the once.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I don't think feeling insulted would be my first reaction to either scenario - betrayed, let down, furious, the list goes on - either way - he'd be out - no question - cheating is cheating regardless of who it's with. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"mmmmmm i have othen thought what would i do if my hubby came home from one of his regular monthly trips to Denmark to tell me he had been with a prostitute

i think unless he had asked me before iwould be hurt

but in my mind (although i wouldnt like it) its not as bad as an affair

an affair is an emotional connection

a prostitute is an hour and gone

thats not to say i would approve - who knows what they feel until it happens - but given a hobsons choice i would choose the prostitute "

An hour you say eh. Well, I am glad am not the Franksta bloke off the other forum "Wos wrong with people". He'd spend a fortune seeing as it takes him hours to blow his load.

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden


"mmmmmm i have othen thought what would i do if my hubby came home from one of his regular monthly trips to Denmark to tell me he had been with a prostitute

i think unless he had asked me before iwould be hurt

but in my mind (although i wouldnt like it) its not as bad as an affair

an affair is an emotional connection

a prostitute is an hour and gone

thats not to say i would approve - who knows what they feel until it happens - but given a hobsons choice i would choose the prostitute

Remarkable! If I'm following this correctly the one thing that escapes me is how did you deduce the Danish prostitute was called Hobson?

Oh Monkey, just be serious for one minute! "

I'm trying... very trying.

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By *ushroom7Man
over a year ago

Bradford


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I'm trying... very trying."

Take a break. Have a good rest. Works wonders.

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By *umgetus69Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

makes me think

how do u know if you meet a cple in a club that he not payed to take the fem along

as we met a cple and hubby said he put his wages on that she was a pro and no way they was bf and gf

1 did ask how he made that out

he said just her reaction to the bf and the way they was together

we did pass on the offer to play cos hubby thought that

but god she was hot x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cumgetus69 do you know you could be on to somthing there , Do you think thay do that .. pay for lady so thay can go on couples dates or clubs ... ? do people do that sort of thing in swinging ... ?

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By *unky monkeyMan
over a year ago

in the night garden

pause thread-------------

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Game4it2 I love your boobies!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"pause thread-------------

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Game4it2 I love your boobies!

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------------resume thread"
lolol there was a pause too i was thinking i was seeing things , lol xxx kisses you x

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By *umgetus69Couple
over a year ago

birmingham

well game4it we thought about it and why not

what stops someone going into a club as g/f an b/f

all they need is id

pay for the lady for the nite then he can hopefully pay with a cpl and her maybe after

guess all in a nites work for her

as i said was just a thought we had that nite

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In some cultures it is welcomed and encouraged.

For instance the Ghurkas serving in the British Forces have full permission of thier wives to have sex with prostitutes during thier years away from home, but if it was found out that they had had an affair while serving overseas they would be shamed and ruined.

Thier wives accept that being away for years far from home they have sexual needs, they accept that a prositute serves these needs whereas having an affair is an intimate matter and not acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So often we hear men and women who are cheating using the excuse that thier home is sexless, would it not be better for them to see prostitutes to serve that need rather than have affairs, because a wife or husband would see swinging as an affair.

Don't tell me it is cost because guys are always telling us how much it costs for them to be a swinger.

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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We where in partners one night (thursday night it was) couples only. But one guy and his GF where not so together if you know what i mean.

We went into the couples room, started playing and the odd couple came in they asked if we would play we said no sorry just new to the swinging then she said to him your two hours are up. So yes it does happen.

Ian

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if we all communicated properly we wouldnt be in this precademant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

netty here, my first boyfriend was a bastard and had both. personally i think it was the affair that was worse coz it was my m8, but the prostitute was bad coz i thought he didnt want to do it with me coz i wasn't sexy enough. i was only 19 and he's already crapped on my confidence from a great height ever since i put baby weight on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMHO, no, as it means emotional dependency still exists between two people if the gent pays for sex instead of having an affair.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not necessarily as sometimes it is the way the woman is treated that causes the problem. This was the case with my ex so this is my opinion.

Peeps should look at how they can improve their relationship first.

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