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"Is it a guy thing? Are they not that interested? Is it because my husband gets added to all kik conversations? I have chatted to a few guys recently on kik and no matter what I say they reply with 2-3 word answers at best. I feel like I'm having to make the effort in the conversation to keep it going? I think I've answered my own question. They aren't that interested are they. Or are they? Are they just nervous and not very verbal? I dunno, maybe it's a different reason for each guy who does this?" Yes | |||
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"I assume they aren't interested if I get one word answers. either way I can't be arsed chatting to people that don't chat back." I should just do this. But I have a FB who is very one word-y on kik and doesn't shut up on person. So I don't know how to take it really? | |||
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"Is it a guy thing? Are they not that interested? Is it because my husband gets added to all kik conversations? I have chatted to a few guys recently on kik and no matter what I say they reply with 2-3 word answers at best. I feel like I'm having to make the effort in the conversation to keep it going? I think I've answered my own question. They aren't that interested are they. Or are they? Are they just nervous and not very verbal? I dunno, maybe it's a different reason for each guy who does this?" I've had this happen on the reverse side, infuriating isn't it xx | |||
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"Why don't you just give your hub your kik password that way he can check if he wants? Can't imagine I would be as open on a group chat x" I tried that but when he logs into my account on my phone it boots me off kik and I lose all the conversations. I might just show him my phone periodically. It might be easier these days. He's having the same trouble with women getting annoyed that I am on the group chat. Neither of us say a word in the other's conversation, it's just our name at the top. Bit annoying. | |||
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"If it feels like hard work I just give up especially on here. I've had some really good looking men interested, but my god trying to have a conversation? If it feels like pulling teeth, I ignore and move on! " YES! Some that do it are absolutely gorgeous! It's very annoying. | |||
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"If it feels like hard work I just give up especially on here. I've had some really good looking men interested, but my god trying to have a conversation? If it feels like pulling teeth, I ignore and move on! YES! Some that do it are absolutely gorgeous! It's very annoying." Oh it is I agree! But then I think what would trying to have naked chats on my sofa would be like? Makes me shudder lol | |||
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"Why don't you just give your hub your kik password that way he can check if he wants? Can't imagine I would be as open on a group chat x I tried that but when he logs into my account on my phone it boots me off kik and I lose all the conversations. I might just show him my phone periodically. It might be easier these days. He's having the same trouble with women getting annoyed that I am on the group chat. Neither of us say a word in the other's conversation, it's just our name at the top. Bit annoying." I would hold back chatting to a man if his wife was on the group chat regardless if they joined in or not. | |||
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"If it feels like hard work I just give up especially on here. I've had some really good looking men interested, but my god trying to have a conversation? If it feels like pulling teeth, I ignore and move on! " | |||
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"I have 2 friends from here on Kik who I chat with, Sometimes daily, Its mainly day to day things but sometimes it does get a bit flirty " yeah i am the same, its good to talk as BT say, lol | |||
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"No, it's not a guy thing. I've cut short a few conversations when all I'm getting is a few uninteresting words. About to do so with one now. Wouldn't mind but I didn't even initiate contact." uhuh.... | |||
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"No, it's not a guy thing. I've cut short a few conversations when all I'm getting is a few uninteresting words. About to do so with one now. Wouldn't mind but I didn't even initiate contact. uhuh.... " Ha. We've messaged under a previous profile. You know how to communicate | |||
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"P's if you do not want to post publicly message me xx " um yeah thanks for the totally unsolicited and unnecessary dropping of your Kik address. It was very in keeping with the tone of the discussion. In answer to the op I use Kik loads as its easier to chat on there and I use it as a conversation medium. As the old phrase goes maybe they're just not that into you? | |||
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"Life is to short direct approach is worth a try to many people pussy foot around " I think you mean too | |||
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"Is it a guy thing? Are they not that interested? Is it because my husband gets added to all kik conversations? I have chatted to a few guys recently on kik and no matter what I say they reply with 2-3 word answers at best. I feel like I'm having to make the effort in the conversation to keep it going? I think I've answered my own question. They aren't that interested are they. Or are they? Are they just nervous and not very verbal? I dunno, maybe it's a different reason for each guy who does this?" I think its because they cant wank and type at the same time they will chat just enough to keep you going in the hope of pics or vids i dont think there on there for the chat lol | |||
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"Kik and most of these Apps are just pointless juvenile nonsense really and I cant be arsed with them. Would rather pick up the phone and chat. You can tell more about a person in 2 mins off real convo then 10 hours on Kik ect. " Exactly!!! | |||
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"It's the other way round for me so my interest drops after asking 5 em questions and only getting yes or no " I'm guilty of this if a guy starts asking the "what are you into?" "What's the kinkiest thing you've done?" etc type questions or it begins to feel like it's turning into some sort of interview then I will give short one word answers. It bores me. | |||
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"It's the other way round for me so my interest drops after asking 5 em questions and only getting yes or no I'm guilty of this if a guy starts asking the "what are you into?" "What's the kinkiest thing you've done?" etc type questions or it begins to feel like it's turning into some sort of interview then I will give short one word answers. It bores me. " So what kind of questions/chat would you prefer? | |||
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"It's the other way round for me so my interest drops after asking 5 em questions and only getting yes or no I'm guilty of this if a guy starts asking the "what are you into?" "What's the kinkiest thing you've done?" etc type questions or it begins to feel like it's turning into some sort of interview then I will give short one word answers. It bores me. So what kind of questions/chat would you prefer?" Just a chat that naturally flows. ...could be about anything. That to me signifies some sort of connection. | |||
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"Scarlet but then if it starts like that ie 2/3 reply then it becomes very hard to find a way to make the conversation flow. And before you think I am not one to send a cock photo within that first few replies." I'm more interested in those that don't struggle to make the conversation flow. ....simple | |||
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"Scarlet but then if it starts like that ie 2/3 reply then it becomes very hard to find a way to make the conversation flow. And before you think I am not one to send a cock photo within that first few replies. I'm more interested in those that don't struggle to make the conversation flow. ....simple " Totally understand that and respect that; would I want to chat to someone that there is no flow to the conversation.. No. But I also understand that it can be very hard for people to find someone to have that with, especially on fab where everything seems to be done at 100 miles an hour. | |||
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"Scarlet but then if it starts like that ie 2/3 reply then it becomes very hard to find a way to make the conversation flow. And before you think I am not one to send a cock photo within that first few replies. I'm more interested in those that don't struggle to make the conversation flow. ....simple Totally understand that and respect that; would I want to chat to someone that there is no flow to the conversation.. No. But I also understand that it can be very hard for people to find someone to have that with, especially on fab where everything seems to be done at 100 miles an hour." Yes i understand it's hard for some. ..but there are enough that i don't struggle to converse with and those are the ones I'll concentrate on. It's just another one of my selection criteria. Not everyone likes to chat | |||
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"Scarlet but then if it starts like that ie 2/3 reply then it becomes very hard to find a way to make the conversation flow. And before you think I am not one to send a cock photo within that first few replies. I'm more interested in those that don't struggle to make the conversation flow. ....simple Totally understand that and respect that; would I want to chat to someone that there is no flow to the conversation.. No. But I also understand that it can be very hard for people to find someone to have that with, especially on fab where everything seems to be done at 100 miles an hour. Yes i understand it's hard for some. ..but there are enough that i don't struggle to converse with and those are the ones I'll concentrate on. It's just another one of my selection criteria. Not everyone likes to chat " Hey if chat isn't working people can always try "show me your tits/cock etc". But I agree, it should be something that flows. By the way is this a conversation?? Ha ha. | |||
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" I should just do this. But I have a FB who is very one word-y on kik and doesn't shut up on person. So I don't know how to take it really?" I just don't see the point in KIK. Surely a verbal conversation is much more important? What is the advantage in messaging over speaking? Any kind of messaging can become very boring very quickly for me yet I can talk on the phone or better still in person for hours. You could probably put me in the one word message camp if I used KIK, but it would have little or no reflection on my level of interest. | |||
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"To update: I've just learnt that it's worth calling a someone out on it and asking if they are interested or not. It's an approach I'd definitely recommend for the future. It has good results. " Well yes I'd agree, ask a direct question to the person who you want the answer from.. Have fun!! | |||
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" I should just do this. But I have a FB who is very one word-y on kik and doesn't shut up on person. So I don't know how to take it really? I just don't see the point in KIK. Surely a verbal conversation is much more important? What is the advantage in messaging over speaking? Any kind of messaging can become very boring very quickly for me yet I can talk on the phone or better still in person for hours. You could probably put me in the one word message camp if I used KIK, but it would have little or no reflection on my level of interest." Kik is really handy if you are multi-tasking. I'd never have the disposable free time to chat on the phone for hours! I can also send a sneaky message or three while my kids are in the house. But I wouldn't want to have even a social chat over the phone - I'm sure me shouting things like "Put that down! Leave the dog alone! Don't sit on his neck! A Hoover is not a light saber!" would really add to the mood. | |||
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"OP if you ask open ended questions, e.g. "Tell me about . . . " monosyllabic answers aren't an option. I do think it's a guy thing (sometimes) - I've learned the open ended question technique from dealing with my (neandrathal) son LOL " Hahaha you and me both!! | |||
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"It's the other way round for me so my interest drops after asking 5 em questions and only getting yes or no I'm guilty of this if a guy starts asking the "what are you into?" "What's the kinkiest thing you've done?" etc type questions or it begins to feel like it's turning into some sort of interview then I will give short one word answers. It bores me. " fair play if there trying to jump straight into sex talk but I've had it with the most normal of questions like hiya love what's your name then ...... Can't say ...... Ok why ...... Just can't ......... Where you from ....... Lancashire no shit Sherlock lancashires massive place by that Time it's convo delete cya later lol maybe I should be more patient but convo is a 2 way thing for me I like to know that there genuinely interested in me aswell | |||
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"To update: I've just learnt that it's worth calling a someone out on it and asking if they are interested or not. It's an approach I'd definitely recommend for the future. It has good results. " did he offer an insight into why his replies were all short?! Every conversation we've been asked to move off of here and onto whatsapp or kik has floundered. For us Whatsapp only seems to work as a group conversation after we've all already met for a social. We've only tried chatting to one couple on Kik and the conversation just fizzled out, even though conversation on here started great | |||
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"To update: I've just learnt that it's worth calling a someone out on it and asking if they are interested or not. It's an approach I'd definitely recommend for the future. It has good results. did he offer an insight into why his replies were all short?! Every conversation we've been asked to move off of here and onto whatsapp or kik has floundered. For us Whatsapp only seems to work as a group conversation after we've all already met for a social. We've only tried chatting to one couple on Kik and the conversation just fizzled out, even though conversation on here started great " Says he just doesn't like talking on kik. But will talk like a normal person, in err.. person. I had visions of a meet where he only gives one word answers to anything I said! lol | |||
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" I should just do this. But I have a FB who is very one word-y on kik and doesn't shut up on person. So I don't know how to take it really? I just don't see the point in KIK. Surely a verbal conversation is much more important? What is the advantage in messaging over speaking? Any kind of messaging can become very boring very quickly for me yet I can talk on the phone or better still in person for hours. You could probably put me in the one word message camp if I used KIK, but it would have little or no reflection on my level of interest. Kik is really handy if you are multi-tasking. I'd never have the disposable free time to chat on the phone for hours! I can also send a sneaky message or three while my kids are in the house. But I wouldn't want to have even a social chat over the phone - I'm sure me shouting things like "Put that down! Leave the dog alone! Don't sit on his neck! A Hoover is not a light saber!" would really add to the mood. " I just wouldn't feel the need to message you when you're busy with your children. I'd much prefer a 2 minute chat when you were free. Some women want to constantly text or message, that can be very annoying and come across as needy and for some immature. I just think it can be flawed to measure interest by the length or regularity of messages. | |||
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" I should just do this. But I have a FB who is very one word-y on kik and doesn't shut up on person. So I don't know how to take it really? I just don't see the point in KIK. Surely a verbal conversation is much more important? What is the advantage in messaging over speaking? Any kind of messaging can become very boring very quickly for me yet I can talk on the phone or better still in person for hours. You could probably put me in the one word message camp if I used KIK, but it would have little or no reflection on my level of interest. Kik is really handy if you are multi-tasking. I'd never have the disposable free time to chat on the phone for hours! I can also send a sneaky message or three while my kids are in the house. But I wouldn't want to have even a social chat over the phone - I'm sure me shouting things like "Put that down! Leave the dog alone! Don't sit on his neck! A Hoover is not a light saber!" would really add to the mood. I just wouldn't feel the need to message you when you're busy with your children. I'd much prefer a 2 minute chat when you were free. Some women want to constantly text or message, that can be very annoying and come across as needy and for some immature. I just think it can be flawed to measure interest by the length or regularity of messages. " Nope neeeever free when you have kids! | |||
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" Nope neeeever free when you have kids!" That's not true or you'd never meet anyone. | |||
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"Seriously? I wouldn't meet and play with a guy after a two minute phone conversation. I prefer longer messaging here and there over time. It makes the build up more intense and makes the meet so much better. But that's just the way my mind works. Do what works for you." I wasn't being funny with you, I was just answering your opening post. Just like the guy you've been messaging has said, I don't enjoy using KIK or messaging when verbal conversations are an option. It's just an honest response. I wasn't criticising your personal preference just suggesting that one word answers are not always a definite indicator of interest. | |||
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