FabSwingers.com forum: Submissive Sluts?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up!

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Ps Im not a submissive slut either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

You shall be punished for this.

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

Even if they're called Dom.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

LOL..

Can only speak from my experience, but this is FAR from the place I would 'look' for a Dom.

I have been very very lucky to have found one though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have to be a slut to be submissive?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Controlling person? You mean the sub?

I hope you mean the sub otherwise you are the one needing to understand what it means.

Without the subs willingness you have nothing.

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over a year ago

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

Even if they're called Dom."

One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good point suppose it can apply to a lot of things such as athletic body type etc etc.

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By *afadaoMan
over a year ago

Staines

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

Even if they're called Dom.

One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom

Dom Dom? Was he mates with Tom Tom?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Given how much your falling over yourself to be everything to everyone in the first paragraph of your profile and your post here, I'd say you'd probably suck as a dom as you seem to lack any kind of domineering personality.

More just another "i like it a bit rough so that's dom right?" type.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have to be a slut to be submissive? "

No (though I realise it was clearly a rhetorical question). And personally the title of the thread only serves to highlight the condescending and patronising tone of the opening post and how uninformed the poster probably is

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

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ah you mean Dim Doms lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is funny when the Dom/sub 'experts' pop up. They like to create the impression there's a secret Dom/sub religion that only the privileged few can know and master. It really isn't that hard or exclusive.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

ah you mean Dim Doms lol"

Im sure I ate some of those from the Chinese last week

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"It is funny when the Dom/sub 'experts' pop up. They like to create the impression there's a secret Dom/sub religion that only the privileged few can know and master. It really isn't that hard or exclusive."

Im no expert nor do I claim to be,Im just sick of men who say they're dominant when all it means is that they're a selfish rough fuck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought all Doms were dicks , or are all dicks Doms

I'm always getting my Dick & Doms mixed up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Going by what the ladies post on there profile terminology. No ones came back to tell me who the real controlling person is in that situation?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

To much TV

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By *randMrsHorny24Couple
over a year ago

South wales

Most of the Dom guys on here claim to be the next Mr. Grey but what they don't realise is its not all about whips and chains it's about gettin in the subs head knowing what they want mentally, physically and emotionally they also have to have the subs permission so really the subs have control too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im no expert nor do I claim to be,Im just sick of men who say they're dominant when all it means is that they're a selfish rough fuck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Domination and Submissive are the words applied. Unfortunately in a lot of cases your correct. So called Doms are complete F#*k wits who do not have a clue of what is really required or expected x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Domination and Submissive are the words applied. Unfortunately in a lot of cases your correct. So called Doms are complete F#*k wits who do not have a clue of what is really required or expected x"

Out of interest, what makes you a Dom worth listening to?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Going by what the ladies post on there profile terminology. No ones came back to tell me who the real controlling person is in that situation? "
you missed a reply then, a lady said it pperfectly, so read back

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx"

Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You haven't got a clue have you???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not into the sub way

I prefer making my own sandwiches

At least a few people on here understand it is about head games and not just wacking an arse with a mouldy slipper

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I.e the sub has the ultimate control. I'm not into this but it's hardly rocket science

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx

Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some females post on there profile that there Sub and want a Dom. Unfortunately some of these ladies don't have the first inclination of exactly what a Sub is! Or what is expected of them or the Dom. In those roles. Ladies if your going to want that situation. Please make sure you understand exactly what it is that you need. If you do. You will know exactly who the controlling person is in that arranged set up!

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex "

so is it a case that they have not got a clue but that youre the dom every sub is looking for?? sounds more like a wannabe rant!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx

Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone

But don't forget to add what you want to say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

Even if they're called Dom.

One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom

What if they like to play safe and promote the use of a conDom?... Are you saying then that you like to bareback??!!! *runs and hides

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You haven't got a clue have you???"

Who?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

Dick...or.....Dom.....or.....dickdomhead?????

Even if they're called Dom.

One guy was actually called Dom! That was years ago before everyone else became Dom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That didn't come out right lol

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By *octor DeleriumMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex "

In all honesty, the submissive retains full control at all times.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

It's threads like this that make me lurve the forums...... Gotta love a dimdom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about Dom Perignon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You haven't got a clue have you???"

No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually.

And here's why...

Being submissive does not mean being a slut.

And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive.

Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut.

Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut.

If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different.

Some just prefer the guy to take control.

And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut".

Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not).

Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Needed to be spelt out

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"You haven't got a clue have you???

No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually.

And here's why...

Being submissive does not mean being a slut.

And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive.

Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut.

Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut.

If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different.

Some just prefer the guy to take control.

And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut".

Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not).

Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".

Could you say all that again without the aggression maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You haven't got a clue have you???

No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually.

And here's why...

Being submissive does not mean being a slut.

And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive.

Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut.

Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut.

If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different.

Some just prefer the guy to take control.

And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut".

Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not).

Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".

Could you say all that again without the aggression maybe?

haha...I was just sayin....

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

And en epic reminder of why I do not use fab for the submissive side of my life.

I'll stick with my bloody amazing dom who completely gets it and leave you to pretend OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controlling person? You mean the sub?

I hope you mean the sub otherwise you are the one needing to understand what it means.

Without the subs willingness you have nothing.

100% agree with this, the submissive is the one with the real control, they can end what ever is happening as soon as they like.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

i often end up telling the "dom" guys what to do ..so many are full of shit..

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Who cares about anyone's expectation is of you and what you'll offer

Turn up and find out

If it's rubbish simply don't do it again

People's definition of things differ

If you yourself cannot be flexible and understanding of others then why should they do the Same for you

And who wrote the rules anyway

That's my view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yet another thread which reinforces why I will not find what I seek on here.

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

"You haven't got a clue have you???

No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually.

And here's why...

Being submissive does not mean being a slut.

And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive.

Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut.

Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut.

If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different.

Some just prefer the guy to take control.

And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut".

Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not).

Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".

Could you say all that again without the aggression maybe?

"
. good girl! I think that you might be the dom lol

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"At last I have someone who has come up with correct answer! Sorry no goldfish or teddy bear prize xx

Rex if you click reply and quote after the post you want to respond to it will make more sense for everyone

But don't forget to add what you want to say"

Don't go bullying him now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet another thread which reinforces why I will not find what I seek on here.

I can cope with the misconceptions. What would prevent me from delving into BDSM with most on here is the inability to truly understand and apply negotiation and consent.

crystal

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"You haven't got a clue have you???

No. YOU don't have a fucking clue actually.

And here's why...

Being submissive does not mean being a slut.

And being a Slut doesn't necessarily mean being submissive.

Being submissive could have absolutely NOTHING to do with being a slut.

Equally, it could have EVERYTHING to do with being a slut.

If you had a clue, you would know that every situation is different.

Some just prefer the guy to take control.

And that may or may NOT have anything to do with them being a "sub slut".

Personally I like to be in control as I'm Dominant, but that doesn't make me a "Dom" (because I'm not).

Equally, if someone is submissive, that doesn't make he/or she a "subslut".

This

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Is a Dom the same as a 'Masta' with chains and whips hanging around his waist on a work-belt?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Dom/sub relationships are totally unique to those that play together!

I am sub, I have a Dom playfriend, who hates being referred to as Dom, am I a slut? No! Do I play by his rules? No! Do we play as we both like? Yes!

The OP post is so wrong on so many basis that I think I will just stop saying anything else

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By *ilacWoman
over a year ago

Cheshire

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex "

'Submissive Sluts' Grrrr. I'm fed up of people thinking those words are interchangeable or paired.

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

"Yet another thread which reinforces why I will not find what I seek on here.

I can cope with the misconceptions. What would prevent me from delving into BDSM with most on here is the inability to truly understand and apply negotiation and consent.

crystal"
. now that is deep! Loving the female response to this thread!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all.

The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub.

It's what appeals to individuals/couples and how important communication is between the Dom and Sub to make sure boundaries and limits are respected. which will obviously be different to every person.

I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it.

Jason

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

I am classed as a submissive! But it doesn't mean treat me like shit!!!! If you catch my drift lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a new game

We like to play you see

A game with added reality

You treat me like a dog

Get me down on my knees

We call it master and servant

It's a lot like life

This play between the sheets

With you on top and me underneath

Forget all about equality

Let's play master and servant

It's a lot like life

And that's what's appealing

If you despise that throwaway feeling

From disposable fun

Then this is the one

Domination's the name of the game

In bed or in life

They're both just the same

Except in one you're fulfilled

At the end of the day

Let's play master and servant

Come on, master and servant

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

"There's a new game

We like to play you see

A game with added reality

You treat me like a dog

Get me down on my knees

We call it master and servant

It's a lot like life

This play between the sheets

With you on top and me underneath

Forget all about equality

Let's play master and servant

It's a lot like life

And that's what's appealing

If you despise that throwaway feeling

From disposable fun

Then this is the one

Domination's the name of the game

In bed or in life

They're both just the same

Except in one you're fulfilled

At the end of the day

Let's play master and servant

Come on, master and servant"
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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

guess it really depends as to what extent you want to go with it ..im happy just being told what to do and being punished ..for being good or naughty .some like to to extremes..whatever floats your boat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who switched on this threads 'Depeche' mode?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

'Epic fail' seems readily given out in these scenarios.

Perhaps op could post in the meets section, in the hope that someone may have use of his services.

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By *exy hot wife 84Couple
over a year ago

Stevenage

"Who switched on this threads 'Depeche' mode?

"
. i know! There's always one to let loose with the lyrics ay

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

"There's a new game

We like to play you see

A game with added reality

You treat me like a dog

Get me down on my knees

We call it master and servant

It's a lot like life

This play between the sheets

With you on top and me underneath

Forget all about equality

Let's play master and servant

It's a lot like life

And that's what's appealing

If you despise that throwaway feeling

From disposable fun

Then this is the one

Domination's the name of the game

In bed or in life

They're both just the same

Except in one you're fulfilled

At the end of the day

Let's play master and servant

Come on, master and servant"

ohhh yes. *drooool*.

Had me a totally DM couple of hours yesterday on youtube yesterday. Live concerts - forwarded to 3/4 way through when Dave is topless and sweaty.

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

apologies for not being able to type proper.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex

so is it a case that they have not got a clue but that youre the dom every sub is looking for?? sounds more like a wannabe rant!!"

Definitely not a rant I was replying to the guy who was completely off cue. Anal I think is the word I'm looking for x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex "

Surely though, as with many things, there is a scale. Every individual/partnership will end up at a different place within that scale. Some - will be at the extreme end and others on the lightly dabbling end. Plus there will be movement within this as you gain trust with another person or your experience increases.

I agree with what others have said though that it is all to do with getting inside the mind. The power is definitely not all with one of the parties, and personally I feel it often lies more with the submissive partner. Not a view always agreed with, but it's how I see it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally anything less than breath play and a gimp mask is a no no for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all.

The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub.

I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it.

Jason "

You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic.

But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm.

I read so many posts where its evident all someone wants to do is get their misogynistic/misandrist rocks off, bark orders like General Melchett or just have a selfish rough shag. They disguise it under a 'D/s' wrapper and its anything but that.

Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly.

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

Lots of people are getting hooked up on the word slut.. All of us on here are sluts..

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By *eavenNhellCouple
over a year ago

carrbrook stalybridge

"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all.

The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub.

I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it.

Jason

You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic.

But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm.

Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sub Dom relationship is a learning curve involving boundary pushing but most of all trust.

Learning what each other wants and needs.

There is no place for macho bullshit

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Lots of people are getting hooked up on the word slut.. All of us on here are sluts..

Speak for yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all.

The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub.

I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it.

Jason

You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic.

But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm.

Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. "

Well Said!

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By *gNeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

"Lots of people are getting hooked up on the word slut.. All of us on here are sluts..

Speak for yourself

I can't, my mistress does all the talking

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By *aeganaWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

u do get a lot of fake dominants and a lot of idiots who think because they have read 50 shades of shit that they have become bdsm experts lol but hey ho it happens luckily enough I have learned to notice the fakes a long time ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You state in your profile that you can be vanilla or dominant, so two points, if your a sub and not dom does this mean being a sub is vanilla? as your sentance suggest and my second point is that if the person you are meeting is choosing your role as a dom or 'vanilla' as you put it, then they are the dominant one over you and you are a natural sub, willing to obey others damands, that has a little fantasy of one day being in control, yet no woman has yet given you the privilege to live out this fantasy, so you take to the forum with a little titty fit rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I could say the same about all the plastic Doms on here who don't have the first clue

So much so that I actively avoid anyone who messages me with the word Dom in their profile

nice one lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Submissive sluts". They're all just a bunch of pussies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any submissive sluts in penge?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I used to love watching Dick and Dom in Da Bungalow.

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

I Can be Submissive - but its got where guys just want to fuck and leave..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sub but call me a slut and I will happily break bones because I can as the sub is always the one with total control, its called a safeword and no Dom has that power.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have read quite a lot information on the Dom/Sub topic as I was curious about it all.

The theme that runs through the articles and information that I have read. Is that there's no "correct" way to be a Dom or a Sub.

I'm certainly no expert but that's how I understand it.

Jason

You're right, there is no 'correct' way to be a Dom or a sub. Its an organic process bound within each individual dynamic.

But, there's a metric fuckton of ways to do it incorrectly, badly or worse - dangerously. Ways that can cause lasting emotional, mental or physical harm.

Trust, boundaries, hard limits, soft limits, consent - these things are learned and earned over time. The gift of submission should never be given nor accepted lightly. "

well at least somebody gets it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are so many subs and doms on here now, it's seems to be Fabs new in thing.

I am neither sub nor dom and ignore any message with all that malarkey in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Controlling person? You mean the sub?

I hope you mean the sub otherwise you are the one needing to understand what it means.

Without the subs willingness you have nothing.

I agree completely. But once that trust has been built with that guidance, approval and understanding of you. You are totally lost without them.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex "

Let me guess...

You saw a profile of a woman you wanted to meet. It said she's submissive. You sent her a message commanding her to "Kneel, slut" and told her she would meet you, how she would present herself, what she would do for you and what you would do to her.

She either:

- Blocked you (hopefully)

- Declined to meet you

- Told you that she has limits that don't gel with what you want, or told you she needs to get to know you a bit and establish trust first.

You are having a hissy fit because, in your head, saying you are Dom entitles you to exactly what you want, when you want it, from anyone and everyone who identifies as submissive.

They say they are submissive so obviously they want to be told what to do and will enjoy doing exactly what you want, for the joy of 'serving' a total stranger. If they say no, that clearly means they are not really submissive and don't understand what they are asking for.

You'll deny it, obviously, but I'd bet money on it.

It's you, OP, that blatantly has no clue at all about the nature of D/s. Capitalising submissive was an indication and everything you've said screams that you don't know what you're on about.

There are responsibilities to being Dominant and a sub has a right, always, to be treated with respect, regard and care, to have limits and to say no.

Saying you're Dominant is not a meal ticket to getting your cock sucked, being selfish and/or rough or anything else, even though a lot of men on here seem to think it is.

I also tend to avoid men who claim they are Dominant on here, even if they say they can meet without D/s (since I am very, very far from sub). Usually they turn out to be arrogant, entitled, pushy and selfish.

Put '50 Shades' down, you're not doing yourself any favours.

And since we're on the subject of representing yourself accurately, perhaps you should take a realistic look at yourself and lead by example. I'm not just talking about your claim of being a Dominant, ridiculous though that is.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"There are so many subs and doms on here now, it's seems to be Fabs new in thing.

I am neither sub nor dom and ignore any message with all that malarkey in it

50 Shades has a lot to answer for.

Plus men who can't get a meet suddenly think "Hey, if I find a woman who says she's sub, I can command her to meet me. She'll dress and act exactly as I say and I'll get my cock sucked as much as I like. Plus, since she's sub, she'll love it and totally get off on it so I don't need to concern myself with her pleasure. Brilliant!"

And a "Dom" is born.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Do you have to be a slut to be submissive?

^ yup!

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Im just sick of men who say they're dominant when all it means is that they're a selfish rough fuck

^ yup again

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By *L RogueMan
over a year ago

London

"There are so many subs and doms on here now, it's seems to be Fabs new in thing.

I am neither sub nor dom and ignore any message with all that malarkey in it

I'm with you. With so many arguing about the right and wrong way of doing this, it doesn't seem like you get much out of it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Responses Remarks Most welcome. Rex

Let me guess...

She either:

- Blocked you (hopefully)

- Declined to meet you

- Told you that she has limits that don't gel with what you want, or told you she needs to get to know you a bit and establish trust first.

You are having a hissy fit because, in your head, saying you are Dom entitles you to exactly what you want, when you want it, from anyone and everyone who identifies as submissive.

You'll deny it, obviously, but I'd bet money on it.

It's you, OP, that blatantly has no clue at all about the nature of D/s. Capitalising submissive was an indication and everything you've said screams that you don't know what you're on about.

There are responsibilities to being Dominant and a sub has a right, always, to be treated with respect, regard and care, to have limits and to say no.

Saying you're Dominant is not a meal ticket to getting your cock sucked, being selfish and/or rough or anything else, even though a lot of men on here seem to think it is.

Put '50 Shades' down, you're not doing yourself any favours.

Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved

It's not a generally well regarded thing to claim here, as a result of attitudes like those displayed by the OP.

There are better sites for pursuing interests in D/s and BDSM if they happen to appeal.

It is possible to find BDSM and D/s here and those with knowledge and the right attitude can be picked out from the sea of chancers and wannabes by anyone who knows what they're on about, but some here will always be put off by it, based on the behaviour of the Dumbinants.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am naturally passive,it's an innate trait in me. I can also be a bit of a slut. When a man picked up on that he said oh you're submissive! And slapped me around the face and bit me. I stopped him obviously and he looked shocked that I did then proceeded to tell me what he wanted from me and what I was to do for him in our exclusive relationship. I don't have exclusive relationships. I don't know which book or article he read but it didn't teach him anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do you have to be a slut to be submissive? "

Not at all. Scarlett is very submissive when we play but would be very angry if referred to as a Sub Slut.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved

It's not a generally well regarded thing to claim here, as a result of attitudes like those displayed by the OP.

There are better sites for pursuing interests in D/s and BDSM if they happen to appeal.

Yeah I'm on fet as well just enjoy this side of things as well. nothing wrong with wanting a little bit of both worlds haha

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

"Honestly this exactly why I am wary of mentioning it on my profile, a shame as I have an interest in this sort of thing when done the right way with the trust and respect of the people involved

It's not a generally well regarded thing to claim here, as a result of attitudes like those displayed by the OP.

There are better sites for pursuing interests in D/s and BDSM if they happen to appeal.

Yeah I'm on fet as well just enjoy this side of things as well. nothing wrong with wanting a little bit of both worlds haha"

I never said there was. You were the one complaining about not feeling able to mention D/s on your profile here.

They're different worlds. If you want both, fine, but you have to accept the nature and limitations of both.

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