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How to get the spark back?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When we first got together I couldn't stop thinking about sex, the flirting, it was all amazing and such a rush.

But now Fab and I have known each other for some time, we've had our ups and downs, falling out and making up, we are close but it's starting to feel more like mates and less... sexy?

How do I get that "omg this is so naughty" vibe back?

Please don't tell me I have to leave Fab and rejoin, you'd have to close the forum for me to stay away.

Don't send me back to FaceBleaurgh! Arrgghhhh NOOOO!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break and come back.

That's how.

I've done it numerous times.

It works.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Take a break and come back.

That's how.

I've done it numerous times.

It works.

"

Can't. Log. Off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been there now bored need new things to come along ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's called life, happens to all of us.

One alternative is death.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get bored from time to time on here for a variety of reasons so I simply decide not to login and go about my daily life.

and when reality gets a little same ole I log back on.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Just hold each other for a month. No sex at all. Then spend the next month having some sort of sex every day for a month. Make an effort and don't take each other for granted. Compliment each other at least once every day and mean it.

I'm sure that's what the books say about getting the spark back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just hold each other for a month. No sex at all. Then spend the next month having some sort of sex every day for a month. Make an effort and don't take each other for granted. Compliment each other at least once every day and mean it.

I'm sure that's what the books say about getting the spark back."

Sounds like good advice!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I haven't had sex for at least a month through Fab. Possibly longer! The compliments are all there, but it doesn't seem to go further than that.

(Assuming you consider "wanna fuk" is a compliment.)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

(Assuming you consider "wanna fuk" is a compliment.)"

hell yeah, now about the distance.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound


"I haven't had sex for at least a month through Fab. Possibly longer! The compliments are all there, but it doesn't seem to go further than that.

(Assuming you consider "wanna fuk" is a compliment.)"

The books always say that you both need to work at it, change the dynamics and take yourself out of the comfort zone.

Maybe you should take the lead?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't had sex for at least a month through Fab. Possibly longer! The compliments are all there, but it doesn't seem to go further than that.

(Assuming you consider "wanna fuk" is a compliment.)"

You telling me that you didn't instantly drop your knickers for the "wanna fuk" messages?!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I'm trying a different approach. It's a bit strange. I hope I don't worry anyone with my overly social behaviour.

And yep, I would've dropped my knickers but I wasn't wearing any.

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By *lutmeup500Woman
over a year ago

London

I'm taking 8 weeks off sex/playing/orgasms. Done it before, started having sex again. Wow. so much better!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"I'm taking 8 weeks off sex/playing/orgasms. Done it before, started having sex again. Wow. so much better!"

It definitely works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the spark has a lot to do with who you meet.maybe needing to adjust what your looking for at a meet.

I would certainly say that my preferences have changed in Fab over the last 3 years ive been off and on. I think everyone at some point gets scunnered with Fab ,but I would say having taken several breaks from fab my recent return has been the most enjoyable,and I put that down to only playing with people where I find the connection electric. Wether you can find that person/Cpl is a totally different matter !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

^

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Dohhh!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm taking 8 weeks off sex/playing/orgasms. Done it before, started having sex again. Wow. so much better!"

Bloody hell has my mrs read this as it seems 8 weeks since I last had anything ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Been there now bored need new things to come along .."

There's always new people joining thus new opportunities for fucking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just do the forums for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Been there now bored need new things to come along ..

There's always new people joining thus new opportunities for fucking "

Amazing how many of those newbies are just people who keep returning.

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By *he tactile technicianMan
over a year ago

the good lands, the bad lands, the any where you may want me lands


"When we first got together I couldn't stop thinking about sex, the flirting, it was all amazing and such a rush.

But now Fab and I have known each other for some time, we've had our ups and downs, falling out and making up, we are close but it's starting to feel more like mates and less... sexy?

How do I get that "omg this is so naughty" vibe back?

Please don't tell me I have to leave Fab and rejoin, you'd have to close the forum for me to stay away.

Don't send me back to FaceBleaurgh! Arrgghhhh NOOOO!!!!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Been there now bored need new things to come along ..

There's always new people joining thus new opportunities for fucking

Amazing how many of those newbies are just people who keep returning."

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Try NGK "

I had to google that! It's far too early in the morning for oblique references to stuff I don't know anything about.

Can I go back to bed yet?

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

I would say take a break from sex/scene for a bit it works for me also.

I normally find if I am busy at work I go off the boil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on a break for two years!

The only pressure your have is that which you make for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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The only pressure your have is that which you make for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The only pressure your have is that which you make for yourself.

"

Wise words indeed!

I think people really over think fabs at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try expanding your repertoire. Try a mmfm or a mmfmm they are great fun and you can play all sorts if games with the extra cocks.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

I didn't meet for 7 months. Just used to forums. Had a lot going on with my lad, my ex, trying to lose weight and get fit, got my confidence back and all is right with the world again and now fab is back to being fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The only pressure your have is that which you make for yourself.

Wise words indeed!

I think people really over think fabs at times. "

I just wish I hadn't put a bloody autocarrot in it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the old saying " less is more", Nuff said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

The only pressure your have is that which you make for yourself.

Wise words indeed!

I think people really over think fabs at times.

I just wish I hadn't put a bloody autocarrot in it! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all get bored, for me, the secret is not to place to much emphasis on it, fab is a pleasant distraction, but certainly doesn't rule my life. Like you, I love the forums and there are some incredibly witty people on here, most of my 'fab fix' revolves around that and chatting to friends but, every now and then, someone special comes along and I give into temptation. If I get really bored, I take a break for a while too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe OP take time out too get ready to come back ............ Your time off you will be looking at porn and pics and reading erotic books .... And no playing with your self your looking your getting that fire burning hot again ... for when you come back here to have a sex feAst . lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

New challenge Milf club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you watch how I met your mother? Fab is like the proclaimers song in that, it always comes back round, you hate it you love it you hate it you love it,

If you don't watch it this post makes no sense

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