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"This is one of the reasons I have it on my profile...saves me wasting my time and theirs. " I agree that's it best people can make informed choices by having the facts to hand. If they're ok with it cool, if not they know to move on. | |||
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"Exactly...we are playing as a couple and we aren't hurting anyone and we are totally honest with everyone who messages us.." | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. " I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. " same here lickety.. im still hacked off with the guy as id never have met him. | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. same here lickety.. im still hacked off with the guy as id never have met him. " I had one tell me he was a widower. It wasn't amusing when she came back to life after apparently being dead for a decade. | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. same here lickety.. im still hacked off with the guy as id never have met him. I had one tell me he was a widower. It wasn't amusing when she came back to life after apparently being dead for a decade. " The smell of Prawns must have been awful Gimp | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. same here lickety.. im still hacked off with the guy as id never have met him. I had one tell me he was a widower. It wasn't amusing when she came back to life after apparently being dead for a decade. " oh shit.. just annoyed me how this guy was/is so popular amungst a lot of us yet lied to so many. | |||
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"What have I missed? " jumps up n down.. hellooooo yooo hooooo | |||
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"What have I missed? " Nothing new. The attached should declare it. I understand people not putting it on their profile. I don't judge what brings married people here as I'm not in their relationship. (Plus, I chat to lots of married people via the forum and have met some socially and if their partner doesn't know they are on here it probably feels as bad for that person as finding out they are having sex). However, when asked I think a straight answer should be given so that the other person can make an informed choice. | |||
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"What have I missed? jumps up n down.. hellooooo yooo hooooo " Will you stop jumping and just give me that kiss please?! But, on a serious note. As you guys have already mentioned. If you don't ask, you won't know. If the alarm bells don't ring in your head and you have nothing to expect - i'd put that down to life experiences. I'm 25 and the amount of things i've seen people do and get away with throughout the years i've been on here are surreal. Especially, the women that fall for it head over heels. Worries me sometimes. May be quite a naive thing to say. But, should be us young ones who are making these sort of mistakes and not those you'd expect not to. | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. same here lickety.. im still hacked off with the guy as id never have met him. I had one tell me he was a widower. It wasn't amusing when she came back to life after apparently being dead for a decade. oh shit.. just annoyed me how this guy was/is so popular amungst a lot of us yet lied to so many. " It always surprises me how many handsome, charming, professional, ripped and hung bachelors of an age when they'd be prime husband or at least boyfriend material are on here... all these absolutely amazing singletons! You ladies really are so lucky ... | |||
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"I was in a relationship with a woman up until 2 years ago, even though she didn't want to be on here she knew I was and even took some of ma pics. Anyone that I met was fully aware of this, although not everyone asked or seemed remotely bothered to be honest. I'm young, free and single now btw Well, free & single anyway " I know attached people who are here with permission/consent but others find it difficult to believe that. It's tricky. | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. I usually ask the question in the second message. Some still don't give you the truthful answer until the third meet though. same here lickety.. im still hacked off with the guy as id never have met him. I had one tell me he was a widower. It wasn't amusing when she came back to life after apparently being dead for a decade. The smell of Prawns must have been awful Gimp" giggidy | |||
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"I was in a relationship with a woman up until 2 years ago, even though she didn't want to be on here she knew I was and even took some of ma pics. Anyone that I met was fully aware of this, although not everyone asked or seemed remotely bothered to be honest. I'm young, free and single now btw Well, free & single anyway I know attached people who are here with permission/consent but others find it difficult to believe that. It's tricky. " Yeah, I suppose that's why so many feel the need to deceive others in order to get a meet. I'd sooner go without if that was the case. | |||
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"I was in a relationship with a woman up until 2 years ago, even though she didn't want to be on here she knew I was and even took some of ma pics. Anyone that I met was fully aware of this, although not everyone asked or seemed remotely bothered to be honest. I'm young, free and single now btw Well, free & single anyway I know attached people who are here with permission/consent but others find it difficult to believe that. It's tricky. " I'm here with consent......she's on here too and will probably read this in the morning (morning you) She has her own account for her thing, I have this for my thing, and we have a couples account for our things I'd find it a bit odd were she not on here though....I'd feel silly explaining that I was attatched but had permission without having the ability to point her out to people and to say 'if you want to check....go ask her' I can see why some folk would take the attatched but with permission thing with a pinch of salt..... | |||
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"when a guy is messaging , I wish they would be upfront straight away and say they are married instead of wasting our time..." Until they start declaring their undying loyalty to you, then start running. | |||
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"i would prefer it if there was a relationship status where people select from.. but it is one of the 1st questions i ask. people do lie and i detest dishonesty.. " This | |||
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"when a guy is messaging , I wish they would be upfront straight away and say they are married instead of wasting our time... Until they start declaring their undying loyalty to you, then start running. " Been a while that lol | |||
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"Well really..it depends how quickly you ask the question doesn't it?.. See.. If you don't ask the question you won't get an answer UNTIL you ask that question. Unless it's already written on their profile. " shouldnt need to ask, this is a swingers site, information like that should be openly on the profile to allow peopleto make an informed choice, not saying anything or lying to drag people into a web of lies unwittingly is wrong. | |||
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"Its interesting; the demand for openness and honesty in what is (essentially) a lifestyle choice with its roots in anonymity and secrecy from general society, which is vilified and discouraged by much of mainstream media. The demands of honesty in an environment where we are repeatedly told we are entitled to nothing. " | |||
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"I used to have it on my profile but copped abuse for it. There's some right judgemental wankers on here. So now if I get messaged I tell them in my first reply. " I get nasty messages about it too. I'd still rather hit delete and block than waste my time putting effort into messaging someone who then isn't going to want to meet when they find out. | |||
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"I think people would be very naive if they thought everyone told the truth on here and as married men get enough abuse and lectures on here it doesn't surprise me that they don't let on." I agree. As I have stated, I chat to married people on the forum all the time - most of us do - so I won't be hypocritical and condemn for being here. I just ask that a straight question asked is answered in a straight way. | |||
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"I used to have it on my profile but copped abuse for it. There's some right judgemental wankers on here. So now if I get messaged I tell them in my first reply. I get nasty messages about it too. I'd still rather hit delete and block than waste my time putting effort into messaging someone who then isn't going to want to meet when they find out. " Being as I reply to every message, and tell them I'm not single in my first (sometimes only reply) that's not an issue for me. | |||
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"I think people would be very naive if they thought everyone told the truth on here and as married men get enough abuse and lectures on here it doesn't surprise me that they don't let on. I agree. As I have stated, I chat to married people on the forum all the time - most of us do - so I won't be hypocritical and condemn for being here. I just ask that a straight question asked is answered in a straight way. " For everything Lickerty? We used to have different names when we first started (until I couldn't figure out why our first meet was calling me Susan) Although now we don't and any questions we don't want to answer we just say so, but as it is just NSA for us, we don't know or care if people are telling us their fantasy life instead of their real one. We might not believe them but I doubt if it is a rare thing on here. | |||
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"I used to have: 'I'm married, my wife knows I do this, but doesn't play' on my profile and all I got was speculative messages asking would she be there, would she change her mind if she saw their pics, would she do their make up (she doesn't do mine so why should she do theirs?), would she like to watch and so on. Hence I took it off. How it works for us is that we live very separate lives. I have this, which she knows about, if not all the details of where I am on a given night. She has a boyfriend she sees, who is a jolly nice chap. I could put all of that on my profile, but I'm thinking of changing back to Bullseye and it doesn't read right in the voice of Tony Green. " The Bullseye one is my favourite | |||
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"I very rarely bother to ask as so many will lie. Instead I take my time to get to know people and its usually pretty obvious when they're attached. Various factors give it away." yep. | |||
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"I think people would be very naive if they thought everyone told the truth on here and as married men get enough abuse and lectures on here it doesn't surprise me that they don't let on. I agree. As I have stated, I chat to married people on the forum all the time - most of us do - so I won't be hypocritical and condemn for being here. I just ask that a straight question asked is answered in a straight way. For everything Lickerty? We used to have different names when we first started (until I couldn't figure out why our first meet was calling me Susan) Although now we don't and any questions we don't want to answer we just say so, but as it is just NSA for us, we don't know or care if people are telling us their fantasy life instead of their real one. We might not believe them but I doubt if it is a rare thing on here." I'd rather know. I'm not concerned about real names but as I hope to meet one to one meets more than once then being clear on the potential traps is helpful. | |||
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"What have I missed? Nothing new. The attached should declare it. I understand people not putting it on their profile. I don't judge what brings married people here as I'm not in their relationship. (Plus, I chat to lots of married people via the forum and have met some socially and if their partner doesn't know they are on here it probably feels as bad for that person as finding out they are having sex). However, when asked I think a straight answer should be given so that the other person can make an informed choice. " Agree i always ask but had an experience where i met someone a few times before finding out he lied .If people are honest you then get the choice to meet knowing the facts. | |||
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"I think people would be very naive if they thought everyone told the truth on here and as married men get enough abuse and lectures on here it doesn't surprise me that they don't let on. I agree. As I have stated, I chat to married people on the forum all the time - most of us do - so I won't be hypocritical and condemn for being here. I just ask that a straight question asked is answered in a straight way. For everything Lickerty? We used to have different names when we first started (until I couldn't figure out why our first meet was calling me Susan) Although now we don't and any questions we don't want to answer we just say so, but as it is just NSA for us, we don't know or care if people are telling us their fantasy life instead of their real one. We might not believe them but I doubt if it is a rare thing on here. I'd rather know. I'm not concerned about real names but as I hope to meet one to one meets more than once then being clear on the potential traps is helpful. " Yeah we would rather know too, but we doubt if we have been told the truth about it everytime the question is asked. Like someone else said, it is down to us to figure out if they are telling the truth or not as they can easily say " no" when you ask them are you married. | |||
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"I'd rather people were honest about everything. Eg being straight/bi etc. Or married. Or whatever! " and u will find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow if this happened :P | |||
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"I used to have: 'I'm married, my wife knows I do this, but doesn't play' on my profile and all I got was speculative messages asking would she be there, would she change her mind if she saw their pics, would she do their make up (she doesn't do mine so why should she do theirs?), would she like to watch and so on. Hence I took it off. How it works for us is that we live very separate lives. I have this, which she knows about, if not all the details of where I am on a given night. She has a boyfriend she sees, who is a jolly nice chap. I could put all of that on my profile, but I'm thinking of changing back to Bullseye and it doesn't read right in the voice of Tony Green. The Bullseye one is my favourite " I've changed it back | |||
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"I used to have: 'I'm married, my wife knows I do this, but doesn't play' on my profile and all I got was speculative messages asking would she be there, would she change her mind if she saw their pics, would she do their make up (she doesn't do mine so why should she do theirs?), would she like to watch and so on. Hence I took it off. How it works for us is that we live very separate lives. I have this, which she knows about, if not all the details of where I am on a given night. She has a boyfriend she sees, who is a jolly nice chap. I could put all of that on my profile, but I'm thinking of changing back to Bullseye and it doesn't read right in the voice of Tony Green. The Bullseye one is my favourite I've changed it back " Yay! Enjoy your song! | |||
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